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LukasLukas wrote on August 13, 2018 on 10:30 pm:
Hello my name is Lukas I'm 17 years old will be 18 soon and I've been pretty picky as a teen. Spaghetti, rice, pizza, beans, peas, gravy, mashed potatoes, casserole, lasagna, shrimp, lobster, corn, stew, soup, mostaccioli (i would not eat that even if you paid me) and a bunch of other foods I've never actually tried but they're just terrifying like it's super hard for me to even consider taking a bite out of something I would sweat if I was forced to try spaghetti and probably vomit.

I haven't necessarily tried a lot of foods but as a kid I loved everything. I don't know why but it's super hard for me to gain the courage to even try certain foods, I've tried pizza just today for like the 4th time and every time I taste it it's just terrible all I can taste is the sauce, people think i'm so weird that I don't like these foods and I just wish I did so i'd be considered normal. I'm basically being forced to try spaghetti soon and it's actually been stressing me out like mentally and it takes a toll on me. And it's not something where it's like "oh take a bite" i stress extremely about it. As a early teen i got pure plain hamburgers, didn't like cheese lettuce tomatoes, basically didn't eat any veggies, only ate like chicken nuggets you got in the bags, french fries, bagels, and some fruits. But the pressure from society and culture on wanting to try these new foods is so tough. I don't know why I can't just be picky and not get ridiculed and called "weird". I feel like looking back 3-4 years i'm better but still it's stressful. And the fact that I have a girlfriend and their family knows i'm like this is just even more stressful lmao.

All in all it's definitely helpful to see that i'm not alone because I honestly thought I was just a freak and some anomaly in society and that everyone liked all foods, my friends always rip on me and tell me to man up but it's legitimately stressful and I still don't understand why. Thank you for taking the time to read and know that you aren't alone.
HannahHannah wrote on August 10, 2018 on 1:02 pm:
Hi everyone, I’m Hannah and I’m 20 years old. My story is a little different and people just don’t understand it. Neither do I to be honest. Up until the age of 5, I ate everything and anything, I was a chubby child and loved food, healthy and bad! My parents just remember me being the age of 5 when I began to dislike food. I had a fear of fruit and vergetables and would only eat very plain coloured foods. I have learned to like a lot now but I still haven’t been able to eat fruit since 5 years old. I try every year and it just won’t happen. Doctors say I’m still getting the vitamins I need so there’s no need to worry but it’s so hard in everyday life. I’m still quite fussy, very much a children’s menu girl. But I can’t find any help, I don’t know what to do. It’s so restricting, making my social anxiety very difficult. I’m hoping I can find some help or tips on here, and thank any help in advance x
DeAnnDeAnn from Fullerton wrote on August 8, 2018 on 3:40 pm:
Hello PEAS members and guests. I am a MFT (Marriage & Family Therapist) and I have worked with quite a few people who have issues with food. It seems to me, the most annoying thing people who have issues with food hate, are other people trying to get them to try new foods or say they dealt with it too and can "fix" them. What I have come to learn, is it's not always something to fix. If you're a picky eater, its something you deal with everyday and you might eat other foods but it's not really a decision to make, it's usually something you're fighting with inside yourself daily and you don't need or want others to "help" you. You are fine the way you are, and it's the texture or smells of food that turns you off to that food.
I think I understand the life of a picky eater and you're eating to live, not living to eat like so so many of our fellow Americans who are over eaters do everyday. Please try to take good care of yourself, that's the most important thing. Vitamins and supplements may be helpful, that's what some of my clients have tried to do to help themselves.
Like I said, I know little about being a picky eater since I'm not one, but I think I might have a little insight into what it might be like since I've worked with many in my practice. I will delve into your web site and check out more and learn more so I can be more sensitive to the picky eaters I work with and I meet. Thank you for finding this web site and I will refer my clients if they would like to learn more and find other people with similar issues.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Thanks for your wonderful words of understanding. I have the disorder and you seem to have a good grip on the issues. It is sad that during our lives we constantly run into people who want to fix it thinking it is all so simple. They think just get us to take a bite of something they love and we will have the same wonderful experience and our problems are over. I would be real interested in hearing how your doing with the people you are trying to help. Thanks for posting Bob K
RebeccaRebecca from Melbourne wrote on August 8, 2018 on 12:49 am:
Hi, my name is Rebecca.
I have struggled with ARFID/SED for a very long time. I am 19. I think I started showing symptoms when I was a toddler. I remember being able to happily eat apples and cheese.
I don't know what started my symptoms but it totally turned everything around. Like most of you guys, I am limited to what my friends often tell me is "a 12 year old's birthday party" diet. I often feel lucky that my friends recognize it as something else at all. My whole life I have been totally ridiculed and shunned and blamed for my eating habits. As a kid, I had no idea what was "wrong with me", and constantly tried to find reasons or excuses to eat the way I do. I was often punished by my parents too, some of which I don't remember at all, but I do remember a lot of nights spent alone in my room, crying, because I couldn't eat the Chow Mein my mum cooked. After many doctor visits and seeing a dietitian I took it into my own hands and started doing some digging. That's how I found out about this. Wow. It blew my mind. I always felt so out-cast and alone, but it isn't just me. This stuff is deeply psychological. Deeply. It hurts that other people don't recognize that, for me, at least. It has taken its toll on my mental health (social anxiety, OCD symptoms, feeling depressed, etc) but my most rock bottom was standing in the bathroom and feeling so disgusting and awful and alone and wanting to throw everything up in the toilet and call it a day. I didn't. It's so hard. People need to look beyond the "picky eating" part and dig a little deeper. I don't want pity from the people around me - I want so badly for some acceptance and recognition. I struggle with this a lot too. Friends will often brush off the severity of it, of how I feel especially. Hence a lot of teasing, even light-hearted, it hurts me.

I will say, I've come a very long way. I have been experimenting and trying in tiny baby steps, where-ever I can. It is very slow, but I am relieved to be taking steps in the right direction. I still have a very long way to go. The path ahead is kind of frightening. But I want this more than anything. I have already been to psychiatrists (though I recently moved so I should start searching for a new one, they helped me SO much in facing my eating).
This is just my story. I need a platform to share, especially one where people might take me seriously. Thank you for taking the time to read - and sorry if I got a little dark in there. I'm doin' alright, and it will get better.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Dear Rebecca
Glad you found us.
Bob K
SavannahSavannah from Conway wrote on August 5, 2018 on 7:42 am:
Hi! I'm Savannah, 22 years old. I've been this way my whole life. I eat more now than I did when I was younger, but not by much. People say I still eat like a kid. Chicken nuggets, cheese pizza, mac and cheese, french fries, etc. I was always singled out because of it. My parents arguing, my mom telling my dad he was "enabling me", saying he was the one who "screwed me up". Christmas dinners where my entire family would pick on me because while they ate lamb, I ate some ramen noodles. It wasn't until my sister got pregnant and had a fear of her son being as picky as me, she did some research. She was the first, and still really the only, to learn how I felt. It felt so, so good to finally have someone who atleast kind of understood me and what I've gone through. I want to try new things, but I have a fear of it. Like I'm actually afraid. I don't know. I was doing some research, and stumbled across this site. I've been reading some other stories, and it's just really nice to find other people like me, who understand what it's like.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Hello Savannah Glad you found us and you are far from alone. There thousands of people who have the same issues with food that we do. You never asked or chose to eat the way you do and you would change if all you had to do was take a bite. Your sister is very wise to look into what you have and she should know that for many our eating disorder does travel through the family gene pool. There is no reason why you can't have a great life no matter how many different things you can eat. Just ask the famous investor Warren Buffet who likes to live on candy and cola drinks. Welcome Bob K
RachelRachel from St. Clair Shores wrote on August 2, 2018 on 4:39 am:
Hello! I'm 17 years old, and I've been a picky eater for that long. For years my mom tried to force me to eat all sorts of food, and I'd sit at the dinner table for hours until she let me go to bed. I always thought it was because I was so young, that my tastebuds would develop (is that even a real thing?) and I'd start to like other foods. Unfortunately I've come to the realization that I am completely unable to try new foods. I feel as if I eat a lot; I eat chicken, pizza, mozzarella cheese sticks, bagels, toast, french fries, and a lot of junk food. When it comes to real food, it isn't much. By chicken I mean chicken nuggets, my bagels are plain, french fries with no sauce, etc. I've recently gained so much weight, but I'm extremely active so I completely blame it on my eating habits. I wish so much to be able to eat differently, and reading all of these posts of adults 50+ years old stuck in the same boat as me is terrifying. I'm scared for future relationships, health issues, etc. There is no healthy way for me to lose weight; the first step to being healthy is eating healthy. Lucky me, I decided to be picky and only like the bad foods. I want a way out of this, I don't want to have to fill my stomach up on awful (but great-tasting) foods forever. I hate that there's ways to essentially "fix" or treat anorexia, bulimia, etc., but a picky eater is just called stubborn. None of us would eat off the kids menu if we had another choice. It interferes with everything. Like I said, I'm 17 and active, so team dinners were a weekly thing for me in high school. I either avoided the dinners altogether or wouldn't eat, making up some excuse about being sick. I feel that I do get sick more often because of the unhealthy foods I eat. I KNOW it has to change, and I KNOW there has to be a way. So if you have read all of this, and you know a way out of this, please please please give me some advice. I can't live the rest of my life like this, it's unhealthy. I wish I just knew what steps I could take to fixing this, but it's not as simple as just trying a bunch of random things and eating it until I like it. I feel that will worsen my problem and cause me to hate new foods even more. This has turned into a novel, so I'll end my sob story about needing chicken nuggets 24/7 here. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Yes it can go on forever. One thing you have going for you is you don't have to hide in the shadows. Until I was in my 50s I did not know of another human being that had what we have. I'm now 71 and still getting around OK but I can say the list of things I can eat gets shorter all the time. Just so you know you should study the disorder ARFID Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. This disorder covers lots of ground and describes people who are way worse off than I am. But if you read the entire explanation you will find us also. You should get checked to see if you are on the autism spectrum. I'm pretty sure that I hang out in the Asperger's Syndrome part. Some things that might help you. Look into chaining where you take a food you like and add something you are not sure of. It has worked for some. There are lots of youtub.com videos on the subject. Some people have been successful picking a few new foods each new years and spending the next year learning to like them. If you are like me there are probably lots of foods that don't look like food to you. Many italian dishes look like barf to me. There are doctors working right now with people like us trying to find some treatment that will help us. Last thing no matter how many things you can eat there is no reason why you can't have a great life and I bet you are gifted in other ways. Howard Hughes and Waren Buffet are just a few famous people who appear to have had arfid. Now make sure you have a great life. Bob K
LisaLisa from Ormond Beach wrote on July 31, 2018 on 6:41 pm:
Hi! It sure is nice to know there are other people out there that eat like me! I'm 52 and have eaten this way my whole life. My mother said everyone tried to get me to eat but I would spit it out or sit and cry. I remember those days when I was little where you had to "sit until you ate it all". I would sit, not eat, then get ice cream later. :) I only eat about 10-15 things and it sure does get boring. I have been married 2x and after my second husband died, I've found another wonderful man. All of them were very understanding of my eating habits. I can cook anything! I just don't eat it. I can eat baked potatoes, french fries, mashed potatoes and gravy, froot loops, spaghettios, Campbell's tomato or chicken noodle soups (without the chicken) and a few other items that are also bland. The only fruits I eat are bananas, canned pears, and orange juice. I eat no meat or vegetables. I am fairly healthy and teach 4th grade. My new boyfriend has 4 kids and 2 are somewhat picky but not near as bad as me.
I hate going to restaurants because everyone always comments "Is that all you're eating?" Yes! I didn't seem to hear them ask the other people, "You're eating all that??" lol . I know which restaurants have the good fries and will demand they take them back if cold or mushy. :) . Thank you for letting me know you're all out there. Makes me feel better!
Admin Reply by: Bob
Welcome your story matches many who have checked in here.
Bob K
DonavanDonavan from Austin wrote on July 29, 2018 on 1:43 am:
It wasn't until the other day when I randomly came across an article about basically adult picky eaters. I truly always thought this was just a thing I did all on my own. I never knew there was such a population of individuals like myself out there. I guess I will start by saying I have been a picky eater ever since I was a child. I remember my mom making spaghetti for dinner and then a grilled cheese on the side for me. (I now like spaghetti so long as it is very plain with no obvious chunks of vegetables in it) Anyways, as I got older and older I never thought that my diet of only pepperoni pizza, pb and j sandwiches, frozen assortments of dishes, and ordering completely plain cheeseburgers would be a problem. There were times though I would lie about food when placed in a social eating situation. I would say I had a big breakfast or I am going out later to eat or I am just not hungry because I would never know what was being served or if I would like it. If I try something I do not like I have a tendency to gag horribly. It is very embarrassing. I cannot even eat a salad and I have tried for years to get by with it but I just can't stomach it. School was difficult too. My family was slightly impoverished when it came to money so the school district decided meals would be free for us so that's what we ate. Due to that fact, we couldn't afford to pack a sack lunch everyday for me especially with the few things I would eat so it was school food for me. I hated most of the food and granted it was school food but I couldn't eat the country fried steak, the pizza, chili, soup, meatball subs, the list goes on and on. I could always find something wrong with it. I pretty much spent lunch time giving away food and socializing. I enlisted into the Marines when I was 20 and it was very difficult to manage my eating habits there. It was 3 meals a day and you ate what they served. End of story. I would often hide my vegetables under my drinking cup. It was pretty ridiculous for a 20 year old in bootcamp to utterly refuse to eat vegetables or chicken on the bone or most soups with vegetables in them. I am 29 years old now and still cannot eat anything on a bone. The different layers of meat on them or too much to handle. I love chicken but it is so difficult for me to eat the bits that I like. My wife is often frustrated by my pickiness but does her best to understand but even when she tries her best to prepare meals for me I often will come across a texture in one single bite that will ultimately ruin the rest of the meal for me. Chicken is one of those things where I will bite into something that is just a bit more chewy or tougher than the rest of it and terrible nasty things will race through my mind and I feel sick and the piece has to come out of my mouth and the meal is over for me at that point. I have 2 kids now and my 3 year old is acting like me. She almost never eats and when she does its the kind of foods you don't want them eating for the rest of their lives. I wish there was something that could just get me over this like everyone tells me to do but it doesn't seem likely anytime soon but at least I know there is support out there.
AnnaAnna wrote on July 28, 2018 on 9:40 pm:
I am 60 years old. I was a severe picky eater since I was a baby. In the beginning I would spit up my milk, keeping enough down to nourish me. When I was old enough for solid food, I would not take it. Eventually my mother was able to find a few things I would take. Peas, fries, mashed potatoes, gravy without the thickening, among the very few things I would eat. People did not understand my problem with food and I lived constantly with the fear of being forced to eat by someone. Only once my mother tried to force me to eat something I did not like. It only caused me to dislike it all the more, even to this day. Going to someone’s house that did not know me very well was embarrassing and brought me anxiety. Kids teased me and could not believe the things I would not eat. When I was old enough for dating, men did not understand and would drop me. I used to think I would outgrow it one day but the aversion towards food would not change with age. Finally when I was 22 I was at a point in life where I had to make a major change. That change included being able to eat what was placed in front of me. With full determination, I did it. It was not easy. Much gagging, somethings took a long time to eat, other things I never did like. While I did get over many things, I have come from severe to moderate picky eater. In the last year medical tests have found that I have a paralyzed stomach which restricts my diet and I am pretty much back to the way I used to eat... minus junk foods.
kalkal from New York wrote on July 9, 2018 on 5:51 am:
I've been a picky eater since I was about three, I mainly stick to chips, pastas, bread, peanut butter, and all that good old chocolate bad foods. I get really frustrated because I feel like I'll never find a relationship with a woman because of my picky eating, I'm Wish I could be normal sometimes because it would end so many issues
KellenKellen from Chandler wrote on July 1, 2018 on 5:18 am:
Ok so food is an issue, but first I’ll tell you a little about myself. My name is Kellen and I’m 12 years old, I know this is for adults but I have a serious issue. You might be like “oh get over kid” but it’s weird my body is telling me I can’t eat food i don’t know if anybody in this world feels the same way but my parents ask me why and I tell them “it’s like I can’t I really really want to but I just can’t” if anybody knows anything pls help
Admin Reply by: Bob
Sorry I missed your post. I just found it in the spam folder. You should look into ARFID for some answers that might help you understand what you have. You and I know you really would change if you could. Problem is that many things others like to eat do not look like food to us. It is possible to expand the things you can eat but food will probably always be an issue you will have to deal with. There is no reason why you can't have a great life. Many of the people who have ARFID are very gifted people.
TeganTegan from gosport wrote on May 29, 2018 on 2:19 pm:
Hello I could spend hours writing about my issues with food. I will try and cut it down as much as I can. I am 23 years old and have been a fussy eater as long as I remember. The worst point was as a child when I ate nothing but pasta and bisto cheese sauce for five years. I now eat more but not much. Imostly pasta. I eat cheese pizza, chips, white bread, chicken, cheese and not much else. I eat junk such as crisps and sweats but when it comes to "real food" I phisically can not eat it. I can't even touch food that I don't like. Anything that goes in mouth that I am unsure of makes me gag and I can not swallow it. Even tried a few things recently and even though I like the taste I still can't swallow it. I have had to leave restaurants before because I don't like anything on the menu. I avoid going for meals with friends and Haveing dinner at other people's houses. As a result my weight has always been up and down..I have starved my self before in order to loose weight as I can't diet as I don't like most food. I have general anxiety and health anxiety and am am a self consiouse person. I worry about my health more and more each day but can't do anything about it because of my fear of food. I am a mother of 3 year old and really want to overcome my fears in order to get him eating proply...the main things my son eats is noodles and he dosnt like any meat fruit or veg. I have thought about going to the doctors but I am so embarrassed. Would they do anything anyway?...I could go on and on about food issues and food issues that happend to me when I was younger but I'm just being to the point....I am a very fussy eater and I need to change.
Admin Reply by: Bob
One thing I have learned over the years since 2003 there appears to be a very strong genetic link to our disorder. It really can be transferred from parent to child through our genes. Research continues into what is going on with us. Bob K
RachelRachel from West Chester wrote on May 24, 2018 on 4:49 pm:
Hello!
My name is Rachel, I am 22 years old. I’ve always been a very picky eater but the past 10 years I can only eat breads, cheeses, pasta and steak, I’ve had mozzeralla sticks and fries every single day for the past 7 years, can’t eat anything that has any weird textures. A lot of food smells good to me and when I try anything for example a carrot one time, I automatically throw up when I️ try to swallow it People now notice that it is an actual problem and I’m really starting to get worried about my heart and health lately. I’ve never eaten a vegetable before or any semi healthy food. Has anyone tried treatment that has been successful or tried anything that helps expand your foods?
CodyCody from Big Rapids wrote on May 21, 2018 on 6:48 pm:
My name is Cody, I have never been able to eat correctly. For some reason I can smell food and think that is smells fantastic but as soon as I try it then it's like my throat closes and I can't swallow it. I have been living off of pizza and pasta for about 20 years now. Btw I'm 27. Doesn't anyone have any advice that could help me? I hate that I can't eat anything.
Rachael KelleherRachael Kelleher from England wrote on May 20, 2018 on 10:08 pm:
Hi I'm Rachael, ever since my mum first tried me with solid foods I've been picky! She was told by the health visitor to keep trying different flavours and textures but that didn't work, so they told my mum to put the food in front of me and if I was really hungry I'd eat it, in desperation my mum tried it thinking I'd eat the food, but it didn't work.
I don't eat any fruit or vegetables, which obviously makes meals away from home difficult (there are other foods I don't like as well, that is just the major groups), going into primary school I was always made to feel bad about not eating fruit or veg and my teachers would always try to make me have it. I can't even touch the foods I don't like, even the thought of it makes me feel anxious. If I did touch food that wasn't within my safe foods I'd have to wash my hands.
When I started getting school dinners it became more difficult, there was never much option! The dinnerladies always put the foods I didn't like on my plate and when I didn't eat them, which was every week I was always asked if I was ill. One time it was 'fish and chips friday' and they didn't have any beans left so apparently they had to put peas on my plate, and I didn't touch them, a teaching assistant told me that if I didn't eat them I'd have the fish taken away, the fish was the only thing I was eating!!
As I've got older I have learned to manage anxiety more with picky eating, I cannot touch foods that I don't like though. I am more relaxed with 'contamination' now as well, but I still have to pick out all that I don't like before I eat, only then can I actually enjoy the food.
Over the years I've lost count of the amount of times I've heard people tell me to give a certain food a try or to try their meal that I don't like because they cook it a special way and it just makes me want to scream!!
My family are really good about it, my sisters new boyfriend however is determined to make me try new things.. It won't happen
Friends in the other hand have been tricky, I've had to decline invitations to meals as I would not eat anything there or I would have to spend time picking out bits from the meal, obviously it would then not be enjoyable. I also am one of those people who looks up the menu beforehand and I will ask if certain things come with the food, my close friends are really good about it as they know its not just me it's an actual problem and I can get really worked up over it.
That's a very shorterened version of the story!
ToriTori from Charlotte wrote on April 29, 2018 on 5:36 am:
I’m Tori, I’m 22, and I’ve always been this way. When I was a baby, my parents say that I would reject any baby food that had meat in it. I would eat calamari and shrimp, but that disgusts me now.

My parents like to teasingly call me a “breadatarian”. I don’t eat any type of meat, fish or vegetables. The only fruits I’ll eat are cantaloupe, strawberries, the occasional apple and blueberries (but only in waffles, bagels, muffins, etc. - never on their own). I don’t eat eggs (unless they’re baked into something), and the only cheese I consume comes in the form of mozzarella sticks, cheese pizza (with the right ratio of cheese to sauce), and grilled cheese (but only from certain places). I basically survive off of milk, Honey Nut Cheerios, saltine crackers, bagels/toast, and sweet things that are awful for me.

It’s not that I’ve tried all of these foods that I don’t eat and decided that I didn’t like them - I’ve never tried most of them. The only piece of meat that I’ve ever had in my life was a chicken nugget that my parents bribed me to eat in order to get a frosty from Wendy’s when I was little.

It’s not for my parents lack of trying. I got the attempted force-feeding, the bribing, and the “you’ll sit here until you eat this” (I would sit there and cry for an hour over having to choke down a single green bean). The doctors would tell them to not cater to me and “she’ll eat when she’s hungry”. Nothing worked.

I think it’s a mixture of aversion and something psychological. If something smells or looks gross to me (meats, veggies, etc), I’m not going to eat it. It’s like I can’t bring myself to try new things. I thought for the longest time that I was the only one until I found out that SED/ARFID existed; now, I wonder if that’s what I have.

In the past, going to new restaurants and hanging out with new friends/having sleepovers used to make me worry. In fact, I still get a little worried when I’m out with friends from college and they want to go somewhere to eat. We recently went to New York City for a class trip and twice I went to a restaurant with friends and only ended up having a soda because there was nothing there that I would eat.

I’d consider myself a pretty outgoing person. To lessen my anxiety about situations like those, I’ve decided that being up-front is the best way to go about it. I don’t mind telling people that there’s something odd about my diet. Sure, some of them don’t believe that it might be an actual eating disorder (“I don’t believe that; you’re just picky”), but the majority are at least understanding to my face.

I don’t know if it’ll ever change. The stories that I read about ARFID in the news sometimes talk of new things being added to people’s menus, but that hasn’t happened for me. It is really comforting to see everyone on here telling their own stories. It makes me feel less alone.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Hello Tori Glad you found us and you are not alone. Your story is very similar to many who have visited this guest book before you. No reason why you can't have a great life no matter how many things you can eat. Being up front has worked for me especially if you are dating someone. Make sure to get your ARFID out and in the open very early in any possible future relation ship. Bob K
Vegan BagsVegan Bags from Tokyo wrote on April 25, 2018 on 10:50 am:
Thanks for the information! It helped us a lot considering that we are vegans!
PascalePascale from Antwerp wrote on April 4, 2018 on 9:35 pm:
Since childhood I've been known as "The Breadmonster". Now I'm 30 and ironically recently have developed a potentially life-threatening and rare wheat (and gluten) allergy .... I feel angry that I can't eat my favorite food anymore, which was bread and croissant and cookies, etc. This means I'm losing weight rapidly. My BMI is 17,5. Already two dietitians, for my allergies and underweight, have refused to help me further, because of my autism-related picky eating issues. My psychiatrist tells me I do not have an eating disorder because my lack of eating is solely an autistic problem, because eating and organising it is too complicated for me. He has never heard of ARFID or Picky Eating Syndrome. I have strong feelings of aversion and disgust against potatoes, starches, legumes, soy, nuts and certain vegetables. I'm a bit confused because most picky eaters like the things I don't and vice versa. My favorite foods are all fruits, salads, certain meats and fish, sheep-yoghurt (and -chees) and hard-boiled egg. and also very picky drinking behaviour (I don't drink plain water). I so much would like to gain weight (5 to 10 kilos), but I don't know how to do that. I suffer from chronic vomiting for years, which led to gastroparesis and reflux. The food that I want to eat the most, is only luxury food, which I can't afford. I want to eat shrimp, lamb, crab, lobster, pigeon, squid, artichok and asparagus. Is this not an eating disorder? Because I have made my doctors clear that I really want to have tube feeding to remain and gain weight. And I would like most to NEVER eat anything at all (which is biologically not possible), IF I can't indulge in my favorite foods anymore. So besides the luxury foods, it's all the bread, of which I used to consume more than 1000 kcal /day.
SunnieSunnie wrote on April 4, 2018 on 12:21 pm:
I've been picky since I was a kid, until now in my teenage years.

I'd usually only eat the usualy kids' stuff like pancakes. I cant stand condiments at all. My "spaghetti" is actually just pasta, plain noodles, plain a lot of stuff. And chicken and the only flavour of pizza I like is cheese (thankfully though I got comfortable with cheese with sauce, instead of just pure cheese. So I kinda improved.)

When I'm at social events where I have to eat, I get nervous and I see food I don't eat often, but I put them on my plate because I'm embarrassed I have such restricted taste. I only ever told one person about this and I'm afraid to tell anyone else cause I'll seem weird to them.

I've been trying to eat a wider variety of food like meat and vegetables especially, but I'm so slow when I eat them and they're so hard to eat.

Yet I'm still not losing hope that someday, I'll be able to eat normally and not get embarrassed at social events because of what I eat.

So yeah, I'm so glad to know I'm not alone in this.
AshleyAshley wrote on April 1, 2018 on 5:54 am:
I’ve been a picky eater since I was little. I don’t know why I am. If anyone has suffered more with my eating habits it’s my mom. I have an older brother who will eat everything but then I came along and wouldn’t eat anything. She’s tried everything from doctors (who back then said that “she’ll eat when when she’s hungry) to trying to punishment (if you don’t finish your plate, you can’t leave) and none of it worked.

To this day, I only eat certain things like plain cheeseburgers with ketchup, fries, hot dogs, chicken (only white meat), chicken-flavored ramen, cheese pizza, and only recently added pot-roast, roast beef, pepperoni rolls, and turkey. There may me a few more things... I also seem to love sweets but only if it’s chocolate or peanut butter

I got made fun of by peers and teachers when I brought lunch to school and when I older and didn’t have the option, I would starve for the day.

Just the idea of eating new food makes me anexious. What’s worse is when my friends point it out and they try to make me eat new things. It’s like a block comes down when the phrase “here try this” is spoken. It makes anything else I put in my mouth taste like ashes and blah DX. One time, my roommate harassed me so much about trying something new (I don’t remember what it was) but it made me upset and cry (I’m pretty sure I was having a panic attack because she wouldn’t stop it and thought I was being dramatic over nothing.)

The worst part of being like this, a extremely picky eater, is that you know it’s wrong and you stop it and try something new but when it’s gross and you feel sick just trying it, and you know something is wrong with you.

When I think about how picky I am, it hurts and I get upset. I hate that I’m like this. I wanna like other food. I want to eat normal things and be adventurous but whatever causes that mental block for food comes up and it makes food repulsive and gross and anxious.