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CBCB from Dallas wrote on October 29, 2018 on 7:13 pm:
Hey there, I am a 31 year old female, and I'm happily married to my husband. We don't have any kids just so you know. I have been a picky eater for all of my life, and texture is a HUGE thing for me. Also, I won't try many foods based on sight alone because the texture looks wrong. It's so stressful especially when I went abroad for my senior year in college to Spain. As you know, Spain is a foodie kind of country where they want you to eat eat eat and eat more! It's always stressful going to peoples' houses for dinner if I don't know what they're serving. My family has always picked on me about it. I ate baby food as a side until I was like 10; my favorite was the plum formula. My uncle thought it was SO funny to joke and say I was eating ketchup because it was similar in color and texture. How does a kid respond to that? Also, even now, when my family jokes about it, they get a bit miffed when I get defensive and say I don't like those jokes. I try not to be oversensitive, but it's a touchy thing for me. How do you respond? Maybe with some self-awareness? My dad also tells me to eat fruit and veggies, and I keep telling him telling me is never going to work because of how this picky eating works.

Also, I didn't come to know texture was a major player until a few years ago. I'm hypersensitive to texture, and while it would serve you if you found a bone among fish or chicken you were eating (which I have), it's not great when it's severely limiting. Anyone feel this way too? I feel like a child going to restaurants, and if I have a specific request, I'll just tell the server I'm picky as a disclaimer because they act so shocked when I don't want many common things and question me. Yes, Sharon, I'm VERY sure I don't want onions or lettuce on my burger! Lol! I don't want to have to explain myself when I'm trying to relax and eat. So, I'll just say, "just so you know, I'm picky." I find some self-awareness helps people understand where you're coming from at least a tiny bit more. Instead of hiding it, I'm now making it a disclaimer, and if someone has an issue with it, tough tacos, I can't change it. There's freedom in letting go. It still doesn't mean being a picky eater is very stressful.

Another question, are there some of you who are picky eaters, and you have digestive issues with bloating, constipation and belly pain? I know much of mine stems from my poor diet, but how do I mitigate it better while being realistic?
Admin Reply by: Bob
Would they make jokes if you had Anorexia or bulimia. Would they make fun of you if you were color blind? You were born with a very challenging eating disorder that you never asked to have. It causes you constant stress in your life and they make jokes about. Well they do that cause they think all you have to do is open your month take a bite and you will love the foods they all like. You and I know that is not the case. You have a real disorder called ARFID Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. It can be found in the DSM. Or just google ARFID and you will find more articles then you have time to read. It really is a horrible experience being trapped at someone's house for a family meal you just can't eat. The stress can be incredible. Get your facts about ARFID together and start a new policy that you will not tolerate loved ones who like to tease you about a real disorder you have and never asked for. Get a grip and you can have a wonderful life no matter how many different things you can eat. Bob K
BrittannyBrittanny wrote on October 29, 2018 on 3:47 pm:
I’m a therapist and find myself needing to understand more about this topic so that I can help others who are going through this experience without judgment and in an effective manner. I appreciate how open everyone on here has been with their stories and am grateful for the insight.
Admin Reply by: Bob
So happy you are trying to understand us. Bob K
EricaErica from CHASKA wrote on October 29, 2018 on 2:09 am:
Hello all! I am happy to find that I as an adult picky eater, I am not alone. Textures and appearance of foods are such a big deal where food is concerned.
GingerGinger from Haverhill wrote on October 24, 2018 on 7:07 am:
I never thought I would hear of anyone else being a picky eater other than myself. I dont like anything or anything healthy & I really wish I did because like in another persons story I read food smells delicious but once I see it I run the other way. I dont know why I dont like a lot of foods but theres one thing I do know...I cant do anything that is spicy because I use to get Tabasco sauce poured down my throat everytime I got caught sucking my thumb. I feel bad for my kids because I wont cook what I dont like to eat so they end up being just as picky as I am. Not to mention I HATE cooking probably because I HATE food. I am 40 years old & still cant grow out of this picky eater stage, will I ever? My doctors tell me I need to start eating healthier & I laugh & say yeah I'll get right on that. Listen I cant even drink regular water because it doesnt have taste & I feel like I'm drowning when I do have to drink it. So they tell me to drink that seltzer water & I look at them like they're crazy because that crap is worse than water & its flavored, go figure.
MadisonMadison from Victorville wrote on October 23, 2018 on 7:38 pm:
So I have a question for ANYONE who can answer me. First, here’s alittle back story: When I was little I was super picky, chicken nuggets, French fries, dr. Pepper, and pizza without the sauce. We would go out to eat all the time, it almost became a routine in our family, it wasn’t because of a lack of cooking and my mother’s food was never bad, in fact, no matter what she cooks, it smells soooo good to me, until it’s on my plate right in front of me. That’s when I feel like there’s a war going on between my stomach and mind. Fast forwarding a couple of years, I still haven’t touched any kinds of peppers, most vegetables, most fruits even simple and sweet ones like apples, and straw berries, even watermelon.(I used to like watermelon I have no idea what happened to that). When I was 18 I ended up getting pregnant with my daughter and I think the most excited I was about it was the “pregnancy cravings” nope.... I craved the only foods I would eat as a child (chicken strips) which of course I would still pick at because of the weird rubber like ligaments you sometimes get, ya know, they’re not all perfect I guess. But ONE DAY I started craving chow mein from Panda Express and anyone who knows me, knows that I have had this passion to hate chow mein and for no good reason at all, I felt like being pregnant may have cured my picky eating habits. Wrong again, although I can still somewhat eat (anything in general) chow mein, I haven’t ventured far, if not at all, in the food department. So now my question(s) is: Are there any picky eaters out there who have gotten worse over the years? And if so, how bad have they gotten?

I’d also like to add that just recently any thought of any type of food even when I’m hungry makes me sick, and I can only eat a couple of bites every couple of hours. Does anyone know of anything similar happening? And if you do could you please help me figure this out? I know there’s something wrong with my body but I have been so alone when it comes to eating I’m alittle scared to speak up to someone about it):
Admin Reply by: Bob
I’d also like to add that just recently any thought of any type of food even when I’m hungry makes me sick, and I can only eat a couple of bites every couple of hours.

This is cause for concern. I have not heard of this happening to those of us who are picky unless there is something wrong with your stomach or intestinal tract. You should get it checked out by a doctor as soon as possible. Something is going way wrong. Please get checked soon. This goes beyond your picky eating.
Bob K
MadisonMadison from Victorville wrote on October 23, 2018 on 7:16 pm:
For 20 years I wondered, why my eating habits are the way they are. For years my parents tried the whole “of you don’t eat it now you’ll eat it later.” And I never did. Just the sight and smell of meatloaf would send me to my room in tears, onions, chili, some fruits and most vegetables, anything. But never once did I think (eating disorder) for 20 years I was just told I’m weird for my very small list of what I call “Edible Foods”. Even some of my family members would just classify me as a drama queen when in all reality, who wants to only eat about 10 Different foods? Your whole life?! I sure as hell didnt until I found this website as a way to not only educate myself about my body but comfort me in the fact that I know 100% I and tons of other people are not alone.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Glad you found the website and you are far from alone.
Bob K
LaShonLaShon from Chicago wrote on October 21, 2018 on 8:23 am:
Wow! I've never thought about the way that I eat as being a disorder. I also never knew there were so many other picky eaters out there. While there are many foods that I do eat, there are so many more that I don't. Let me give you all an idea: I absolutely can't stand most condiments. I do not like ketchup, mustard, mayo, miracle whip, nor salad dressings. There's even some stuff called sandwich spread, yuck! Therefore I do not eat things like potato salad, tuna fish, pasta salads, and what I call regular vegetable salads that everyone else likes. There is too much going on in a salad. I do like barbecue sauce and hotsauce, but only on certain foods. I eat my hamburgers with cheese only; just meat, bread and cheese only, nothing else on it. Hotdogs consist of the hotdog and the bun only, nothing else. I do not like for certain foods to touch; that is so gross to me. Some foods go together, so I will eat fried chicken and french fries on the same plate or fried chicken with mac 'n cheese on the same plate, but spaghetti and meatloaf definitely does not go on the same plate. I don't like onions nor bell peppers, I pick them out as long as I can see them. I do like some vegetables like green beans, corn, broccoli, cauliflower, cucumbers, and carrots (I do not like cooked carrots, but I love them raw.) I will eat cooked carrots if they are cut really small and in a soup or stew, that way there are other foods along with the broth to take over the taste. Don't care for tomatoes neither. Because I don't like for my food to touch, I'm usually sitting at the table on holidays with multiple plates/bowls around me with a little bit of what I like in each one, or I'll put two items that I like on a plate, make sure they don't touch, eat, and then wash the plate really good to make sure there are no traces of what I just ate so that I can add another one or two items to my plate. I can go on, but I think you all get it. What I really feel bad about is that my 16 year old son is probably worse than I am! When he was much younger, I tried my best to not let him see me eating the way that I do, but he is still a picky eater. I've never made him eat anything that he doesn't want to because I know how I am.
Admin Reply by: Bob
FYI over the years we have seen many examples that indicate your picky eating could be transferred through your genes. I would bet you knew he was going to be picky when he was so young he could not be making any conscious decisions about what foods he liked.
CaseyCasey from Suprise wrote on October 15, 2018 on 5:18 pm:
My nephew is an extremely picky eater, he's active in sports but is starting to develop a gut, similar to a pregnant female but it has traces of cellulite. He's 14 years of age and I'm concerned that his picky eating is already causing problems for him. His diet consists of, well done french fries, cheez its, nature valley bars, chips, coke cola, candy, cookies, he drinks milk and water. I'm worried that he's not getting the nutrients to not only grow but to contuine with sports and with stand injury mind you he plays no contact sports and avoids most physical activity. If he isn't running he's sitting at home watching his cell phone. Is there anything to be done or is he in for a life of being over weight and having limited friendships?
Admin Reply by: Bob
For many of us Social isolation is a big problem. We tend to avoid many types of social gatherings because of the food. Many of us also get very depressed because of it. He is going to have many challenges as he grows. Having a supportive famiily is helpful. No easy answers or magic bullets. Doctors are currently working on ways to treat people with ARFID and because your nephew is so young they may be able to help him. Therapy is probably going to long and expensive. Good luck
Trenton ZickefooseTrenton Zickefoose from Niles wrote on October 13, 2018 on 4:02 am:
If someone could email me for some tips and help that would be great!!!! I am one of the pickiest eaters and i hate it!!! I wish i could change it so bad!! Eveyday i either eat hot dogs. french fries, pizza , pancakes, cerals, or mac n cheese and that is it!! I suffer from high blood pressure already and i really need to lose weight and better diet but i just cant change how i eat because i dont like anything!!! The inly good things i eat are corn and bananas !! Those are the only healthy foods that i like!! Someone please give me advice
Admin Reply by: Bob
I wish there was a magic bullet that would cure you of your picky eating. I can tell you that I would bet you are gifted in other ways and a really great person to know. But like many of us myself included people have not always been so nice to us starting in childhood and then getting to adulthood new social problems start to show up. You can google ARFID and get some treatment ideas. I would caution you that many of the so called experts don't really understand us when they come up with treatments that will make us better. It has been my experience that as long as you live eating a wide variety of foods will probably never happen for you. You can expand your food choices some but even then you will have special issues with the new things. One thing you can do is become more familiar with what you have and learn how to defend yourself and become confident you are doing the best you can. I have found life was much better when the people around me where I worked were all told about my disorder. Funny thing when I told them there were some who came up to me and indicated they have a relative that is just like me with food. Many people struggle with food issues. You would change if you could. You never asked to be the way you are. While our problems with food make our lives miserable at times. There are so many other things we could have that are way worse than our picky eating. I'm on my third spouse of over 20 years and she has stuck because I told her from day one just what she could expect from me when it comes to food. She has her faults that I accept and we are happy after all these years. Now go out and have a great life no matter what you can eat. Bob K
LesaLesa from Battle Creek MIchaign wrote on October 11, 2018 on 10:48 pm:
hello,
My name is Lesa said Lisa. I have a son that has been battling this issue since he was a toddler. Everyone said he would grow out of it and not to worry about it. He is not 26 years old and is still having issues with this. I have been researching this and found this site and will share it with him. I hope to find answers for him.
My question is how do all of you face this and have any of you gone to doctors or searched out other forms of help. I am trying to help him and he is having a hard time with family and friends and now his gf always saying he needs to eat. He has 2 little kids now as well and so he wants to set a good example for them too. Please if there is any good solutions to this or if anyone has overcome this I would love to hear from you. Thank you so much.
Lesa
MelanieMelanie from Saint louis wrote on October 11, 2018 on 11:46 am:
I am an adult picky eater. Saying that isn't easy for me, the judgement and criticism I've faced throughout my life will never go away. Going on dates always made my anxiety so much worse. My diet pretty much consists of cheese pizza, mac n cheese, mozzeralla sticks, garlic cheese bread, French fries and sweets. I hate the way I eat, I have always hated myself for not being able to change. I've lost friendships and relationships because of my eating. My family and current boyfriend cant understand how much I wish I could change, they insist that it's just my choice. I've seen therapists and doctors and they also look at me like I am crazy, I dont know what to do or where to go from here.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You never asked to be the way you are and you would change if you could. You live in an alien world that is full of people who eat things that look like dog poop and vomit to you. ARFID is the clinical name for what you have and it was just added to the medical texts in 2013. So when you deal with doctors give them that name. ARFID can manifest itself in many ways and some people have problems maintaining body weight while others like you and me just can't tolerate a really wide variety of foods. Texture can also be important. Medical experts are trying to find a therapy that will help. I'm 71 and had it since birth. I was a baby that was going to fail to thrive but somehow I didn't die. I was just blessed with our food issues as a child and now an adult. When you think about it there are many things a person can have that are way worse. There is no reason why you can't have a great long life. Go out an be the best you can be. Bob K
HollyHolly wrote on October 10, 2018 on 3:23 am:
This site is so relieving! As a toddler my mom told me I only ate pretzels, hotdogs and milk. I developed AN and BN by the time I was a teen. It’s been decades but I’m still really picky. I have yogurt every morning but it has to be a specific one. I drink a sugar free cappuccino mix has to be a specific brand made a certain way with extra sweetener in my special glass cup. I eat raw baby carrots, watermelon and a black bean burger on a plate with ketchup. Sometimes tortilla chips are okay but lately they’re not. Sometimes chicken is okay but the texture gets to me lately. I tried ground turkey and only ate that for a while but now it makes me sick. Sometimes hummus with beets is okay but not now. Basically that’s it. I don’t vary too much. I don’t go out but I like Chipotle salad when I can. I don’t eat dairy or bread or grains, and very little fat. I eat 4 multivitamin gummies per day. I hate being like this but it doesn’t feel changeable after all these years.
MarieMarie wrote on October 8, 2018 on 4:31 pm:
I'm currently in college and I despise eating in the dorm cafeterias because all of the food there is "composed"; as in it's got too many ingredients for me. My diet is generally restricted to poultry, cheese and some starches if they're plain enough (white bread/rice, french fries, etc.) I pretty much only eat sliced deli meat straight out of the bag or baked chicken. I know this is because I am autistic but it still is upsetting because I avoid social events and restaurants. Sometimes I even avoid eating straight up because I don't like how it makes my body feel. Thank you so much for having this site up; I feel very supported by it.
MiaMia wrote on October 7, 2018 on 5:35 am:
I'm a Senior in HighSchool and I really am a picky eater. My safe foods are pizza, chicken parm, pasta, plain lo mein, mozzarella sticks, peanutbutter and milk. It's a longer list than most of what I've read, but I hate salad with a burning passion. I have a boyfriend of two years who hates the fact that I can't eat any food, especially mexican food (he loves it). He always comments about how he can't take me anywhere, but even when he says that he still cares enough to not push me on it and support me. I really feel like I hate food now since I've been hiding it for so long, but a girls gotta eat, right? I really wanna change since I wanna move away for college so if any of you guys know a good psychologist out there, hit me up on my e-mail. I've been trying myself to change like holding certain food textures in my mouth for a period of time, but I just started that. I really want help, so if anyone has anything, please?
Admin Reply by: Bob
You eat enough variety to go to college or do whatever you want too. Don't let your eating issues hold you back. The man in your life should assume you are never going to change and that is just fine with him. You can continue to try new things but it could be harder than you think. Doctors are still trying to figure us out.
ClareClare from Jenkintown wrote on October 4, 2018 on 5:42 pm:
I've been a pretty picky eater most of my life, since about the age of 5. The things I absolutely cannot eat are cheese, eggs, beans, seafood, mexican food, chinese food and all of the "new" and/or "health" foods that seem to have popped up out of nowhere. I pretty much live on chicken, pasta, potatoes and plain salad. My family, friends and coworkers always comment on my eating habits like I just walked in from outer space, "how could you not like cheese"? is a constant question I am asked. Easy it tastes and smells really bad to me is my go to response. A lot of my dislikes are because of two things, smell and texture, those just really bother me. I hate being so limited when I go out to eat or try to diet. Most of the foods that are recommended for dieting are things I would NEVER eat in a million years. I'm so glad I found this website. It will be nice to get support from others in the same boat as me.
HannahHannah from Rochester Hills wrote on September 30, 2018 on 8:50 pm:
Hi there, I want to become a better eater and I'm not really sure when to begin. When I was a baby I used to eat all sorts of things but later in life I stopped eating a lot of different things. All I really eat now is, pasta (and only cream sauses), mac and cheese, grilled cheese, modzerella stixs, french fries (never with ketchup), and sometimes salads (but very plain salad). I feel like I'm locked in a box and I can't get out. I want to get better but I don't know how to. I don't eat meat and most things just gross me out by looking at them. I feel like I can't eat very many places and I'm always embrassed to go out with my boyfriends family. Everytime I think about trying to be a better eater I almost cry. I'm scared and I don't want it to ruin my relationship and I feel like I'm very alone and don't really know what to do.
Kieran PattersonKieran Patterson from Brandon, UK wrote on September 27, 2018 on 5:25 pm:
Hi there! So glad to finally find something like this with people I. An relate too! But I do definitely need some help.. see I don't tend to eat a lot as my diet mainly consists of cereal( milk for moisture but not for taste🤢) toast or plain ham sandwiches which I cannot have butter in the bread if it's not toasted, crisps, biscuits, cakes but nothing jam or doughnut based, won't eat seafood, most fruits and vegetables, literally ANY sauce! I can have BBQ sauce if it's cooked fresh on the meat but no dipping or sauce on my bread, just chewing or tasting anything like that is instant gag/puke and I've seen some pretty nasty things! (Not squeamish)
I can eat cheese on very limited foods but never just out of s packet like my eating habits put a massive strain on my relationship which is now over, I literally never go out with any of my mates cause I don't want to be the one to go to prezzos and order a pepperoni pizza and it's genuinely starting to affect my health now. Having been working in months because I'm just too tired and unmotivated due to just lack of eating properly, I could use some serious advice or some form of therapy to help me overcome this like sensory malfunction so I can enjoy different foods! Sorry for the rant hope to hear from someone😅
Cody CraigCody Craig from Greensburg wrote on September 26, 2018 on 5:33 am:
I started my night watching "My Drunk Kitchen" a popular cooking show on Youtube by Hannah Hart. I don't know how I got here, but I'm glad I did. I can't believe I'm not the only one with problem like this. I've always had 'picky' friends but nothing in comparison to me. My doctors and parents never really offered any help and I thought this was just normal. But I need to gain 60 lbs, which is more than half of what I weigh to be 'healthy'. Hopefully this site may offer some tips and I can begin to better myself. I'd hope to start changing this while I'm 18 and not 98. And I read another comment saying something about only eating the rolls at a restaurant, and I can totally relate! And I'm glad to see there is a drastic age gap between us and this affects people of all ages.
Good Luck to any of you!
Admin Reply by: Bob
No reason you can't have a long happy healthy life. Think Bacon.
Bob K
JoshJosh from Belton wrote on September 16, 2018 on 8:43 pm:
Only recently found out that this is actually a disorder. I’m trying to get figure out how to get better. Cause I can’t diet how I would want to cause I can’t stand any fruit or vegetables. If something smells or looks funny I stay clear of it. I’m always afraid everything I try that I’m not gonna like it and that it’s gonna make me gag.
It’s to the point it’s putting a strain on my relationship because my gf is worried that when she cooks me meals I won’t eat them
Admin Reply by: Bob
You should ask your girlfriend can she accept you the way you are now and assume you will never change much. If she thinks that her love for you will be enough to make you change there are warning signs ahead for you and your relationship. While it is possible to make some improvements for most people this condition is life long. However there is no reason you can't have a great happy long life. It's only food think of all the things a person could have which are way worse. Have a very frank discussion with your current girlfriend. Good luck
Bob K
MitchellMitchell from Akron, PA wrote on September 12, 2018 on 6:48 am:
No words... the one question I've had all my life has finally been answered... Landed here tonight after reading a comment on a YouTube video on multivitamins. For years I read stories of adults with "eating disorders" but none of them came close... I legitimately wondered if I said alone. Even my dietician growing up was baffled that my blood test came back relatively normal. I have gotten sightly better over the years, now drinking smoothies and eating vitamins, but growing up I lived on snack crackers, bread and tons of dairy. I am a fairly normal guy so no one ever believes me when I tell them. I was picked on for it hard in high school and it still effects me socially to this day. I am SO GLAD I found this group.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You are not the only one. We are finally out of the shadows. So glad you could join our group. We have a Yahoo and Facebook group. Welcome