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JasonJason from Berlin wrote on January 26, 2021 on 6:14 am:
Hi everyone! My name is Jason and I am 27 years old. I have been a picky eater for as long as I can remember. The issue I believe that I have is that I am super sensitive to the textures of different foods. Because of this, I can't remember a time when I have eaten a fruit or vegetable(unless you count potatoes!). Unfortunately, nobody ever seemed to understand this and just thought I was doing this on purpose. Thankfully my wife understands, but she finds it hard to help me.

In the last 10 years this has really affected my enjoyment of life. My wife and I love traveling, but I can never truly enjoy a trip because I am always looking for my safe foods when we stop to eat somewhere. It also made things awkward when I first had dinner with my wife's family when we were dating. Thankfully they have accepted me and have adjusted meals to my eating habits (best in-laws ever!). I have also gotten active in OCR sports and running again, but not having the fuel for competing really holds me back in my potential.

I just feel like I am in a race against the clock. My health has been extremely great all these years, but I feel like time is running out and something is going to catch up to me sooner rather than later.
Admin Reply by: Bob
I'm sending you an invite to our new support group pages. I always travel with something I can eat if I'm unable to find anything at our destination. My wife is very understanding and I worship the ground she walks on most of the time. No reason you can't have a long wonderful life. I'm 73 and still ticking.
NicoleNicole from Edmonton wrote on January 16, 2021 on 7:32 am:
I have the absolute worst eating habits and always have. My mom had to make me separate dinners from as young as I could remember and it would consist of the same plain items. I’m now 23, and have had boyfriends and dates describe my eating as “a 7 year olds birthday party menu without the condiments” and I can’t disagree. I want to try new food so bad, but it will not go down. This makes it hard to date and go to family dinners and pray there’s something I’ll eat without being rude. So, it’s time we figure this out.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Start by looking for information about ARFID Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder which was added to the DSM in May of 2013. It covers a wide range and if your eating causes you social embarrassment then you probably have it. We have an active support group at another site and I will send you a direct invite.
Abigail LeeAbigail Lee wrote on January 13, 2021 on 3:53 pm:
Hi, I’m 24 and have been a picky eater my whole life. I think the biggest effect it has on me in how anxious I get in situations where there’s going to be food. Sometimes, I just have to not eat and make up an excuse as to why. I get embarrassed ordering meals with loads of the components removed and get my fiancé to do it for me.

The breaking point for me though was looking through menus for my Wedding breakfast and seeing that I couldn’t have ANY of the meals. I don’t want to have to stress about my meal at my own wedding and I really really want to improve and get better.

Luckily, my fiancé is super supportive but I feel so guilty for the plain meals we have and he has to jazz up with some extra ingredients that he can cook separate from my meal. I don’t want the same to happen with our wedding and I just want to feel normal for once.
Admin Reply by: Bob
One of the biggest days in your life should be full of Joy and happiness. It should be a day where you can enjoy every meal without stress or hearing comments from others. No reason why you can't have the exact breakfast you desire on your wedding day. I would also suggest that your fiancé should understand that it is highly likely that your food issues will not improve and he should not think you can be fixed. It's only food and life can throw real problems your way that are way worse. I have been making contact with 1000s of people with the same disorder over the last 20 years and there have not been many treatment success stories. No reason you can't have a long happy life. Make sure you get foods you like at your wedding because it's your day.
Bob K
DeejDeej from Cleveland Ohio wrote on January 13, 2021 on 1:44 am:
My ex wife was very understanding of my picky diet, and she loved me enough to make meals for me along with meals for her for almost 30 yrs. We divorced 12 years ago and I've lived alone since, which makes eating my very limited menu much easier, especially during quarantine when there's no socializing. There are two ladies I'd love to date, and we flirt with each other all the time, but when I look at their FB or IG, they go out with friends to such fancy places and eat Asian, German, Italian, Polynesian... most of which dishes I never even heard of, and gags me just looking at the photos. I've never eaten ANY kind of seafood ever, I gag watching someone eat ribs or KFC with the bones in for example. Pretty sure a fun lady would love to go to an expensive seafood place, and I've checked the menus online and they don't have a single thing on the menu I could even think of ordering other than icewater. I don't even drink alcohol except for a couple beers @ year. It looks like I'll never be able to date, and I will probably die alone, and probably because how long can you live on potato chips, chocolate bars, burgers, bacon, and potatoes. I'm in my late 60s, and right before the pandemic, my doc told me I'm pre-diabetic. Well, EVERYthing I eat is what a diabetic should NOT eat. It's all very VERY depressing. Very.
Admin Reply by: Bob
All I can tell you is the two ladies your flirting with might not be right for you. Here is what I did over twenty years ago after two divorces and losing a girl friend of 7 years. I decided if I ever dated anyone new I would explain to them my food issues before the first date. I also told I would probably never get any better. Well then I met my current wife and after I told her my issues we started dating and we have been married for over 20 years. I'm now 73 and have diabetes which I control using Tresiba and Trulicity. My biggest issue is my kidneys which are down to 29% and dropping slowly. If you are the type of man who would worship the ground your best gal walks on then being up front will reduce your tension and perhaps romance can happen for you. Not to mention as we age our chances and odds get better because we men die sooner than the beautiful women. Sending you a direct invite to our new support group that we moved too last year. Being up front is the only way to go. Just think their are so many other things a person can have that are way worse. You just happen to ARFID. Bob K
VLVL from Bronx wrote on January 12, 2021 on 8:24 pm:
I am in my mid-20s and have the diet best described as a very picky 5 year old. Its always been a bane of my existence, effects relationships, family, friends, etc. Its starting to take a toll on my health with weight gain, ridiculously high triglycerides and I really need more guidance and help.
Admin Reply by: Bob
We have moved the group to groups.io and I will send you a direct invite for the new site. I have always referred to having a 4 year old's dream diet. and I'm only 73. The good news is I made to 73 inspite of all the issues.
AshtonAshton from Nashville wrote on January 12, 2021 on 7:33 am:
I have always been a picky eater. My boyfriend hates it because he is usually forced to go to the places that I can actually eat at. He is tired of having such a restricted diet. He thinks I am stubborn and "need to get over myself" and I "shouldn't be so picky since I was so poor growing up. I should want to eat everything I can". It's very frustrating being like this. I try to venture out and try new things but I will literally puke when I force something I dont like down. My diet consists of some soup, chicken, fries, crab meat, avocados, coffee and dr. Pepper. Everything else makes me sick. It is so frustrating.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Sending you a direct invite to our new support group site. Your boyfriend needs to understand you never asked to have your problems with many types of food. He should assume you will never change and he must accept you the way you are. He is probably lucky to have you in his life and should not let food choices come between you.
AndreaAndrea from Hendersonville wrote on December 26, 2020 on 9:04 pm:
Hello. I am 48 years old and have been a picky eater for at least 46 years. I will not eat any fruit or vegetables, and the other foods I will eat are extremely limited. All my life my parents, friends and other relatives were always concerned about my eating habits. It had just been in the last few years that I myself have become concerned. As a child, teenager and young adult I was always extremely thin. Now that I am older, have had a hysterectomy and am totally in control of what I eat, I now struggle with my weight (mostly due to my carb and sugar intake). I became very physically active about 5 years ago, and have tried countless times to change my eating habits or “try” new things, but I am so hyper-sensitive that I usually can’t force undesirable foods down before gagging. I want to be healthy and I want to change, but can’t seem to do it on my own.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Sending you a direct invite to our support group. Glad you found us.
Bob K
HaylieHaylie wrote on November 3, 2020 on 3:17 am:
Hey, so I just turned 19, and I’ve been an extremely picky eater my entire life, it actually almost seems like the older I get the pickier I get somehow? I’m very glad to have discovered there are others out there like me! up until now I had no idea there was anyone else who experiences the struggle I have with food on a daily basis. I sometimes end up unintentionally starving myself simply because I’m tired of eating the small list of things I do like & eating feels more like work than anything. I would love more than anything to figure out how to get my pickiness to stop taking a toll on my mental and physical health the way it seems to, but it’s not very easy.
hassanhassan from tehran wrote on October 28, 2020 on 9:36 pm:
Hello, I am Hassan.
I do not believe that there are people like me.

I went to a restaurant about four years ago and told the waiter that I wanted a hamburger without side effects and she did not believe.

And I had never found anyone like me.

thanks.
Admin Reply by: Bob
We number in the thousands all over the world.
Katharine JenkinsKatharine Jenkins from Florala wrote on October 27, 2020 on 3:06 am:
Wow I never knew there were people like me. texture is my big issue i love french fries i think i could live on them. i’m such a picky eater with bad eating habits my toddler sits next to his dad at mealtime to hopefully avoid teaching him my poor eating habits
MarkMark from Beirut wrote on October 25, 2020 on 10:11 pm:
Hi I'm 32 years old i suffer from this desorder, I felt embarassed every time I eat with somoene. I hope this site will help me find a treatment.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Sending you a direct invite to our new support group.io
Hannah wardHannah ward from London wrote on October 23, 2020 on 2:24 pm:
Hello,

I am a Psychology student at Brunel University London. I am trying to contact the moderators/owners of this forum to inquire about advertising my dissertation project on the forum.

Thank you on advance,
Hannah
Susan H FryeSusan H Frye from Greensboro wrote on October 20, 2020 on 12:37 am:
I am 56 now and have been a picky eater my entire life. I have been heavier at times but now my doc has me on a calorie count diet for weight gain. I realized how bad my pickiness is as I've tried to plan things to eat. So many times I've skipped eating because I didn't have what I've wanted to eat.
SusanSusan from Greensboro wrote on October 20, 2020 on 12:33 am:
I am now 56 and have been a picky eater my whole life. It has gotten worse over the last year. My doc now has me on a calorie count to gain weight. I realized how much this impacts me now when I was trying to plan for foods to eat. I do have a sensitive palate but textures and smells can also be problems.
beth cookbeth cook from Canonsburg wrote on October 7, 2020 on 3:38 am:
I am hoping someone can help me answer a question. When I was 2 my Mom said I had my chin in my hand and turned my head to tell her to "Look at the Birdies" Somehow my hand slipped from under my chin and I bit my tongue. My parents took me to the Emergency Room. The Doctors said I almost bit my tongue off. They said I would always have trouble speaking, but that isn't true. (Thank God.) My Mom said I was always eating everything, never afraid or disgusted to try basically everything. After I bit my tongue, I wouldn't eat anything different. Very limited selection. VERY. And to this day my food choices probably can be counted on 1 hand. Maybe 1 1/2. Thank God I will eat chicken and a hamburger, although has to be EXACTLY right.
My question is, could I have bit my taste buds off, or disturbed them to affect me like this. I wouldn't think so if my Mom hadn't said I ate every new thing in sight. Then injury and BAM never to eat normally again. I am 54 now, and somehow am healthy. A little overweight and slight blood pressure elevation.
I would really like to know if this is why. I saw a story on Inside Edition and thi website was mentioned. I will eagerly be awaiting an answer if someone has knowledge of or possibly have an experience like mine? I am a big vitamin taker, not sure if this has attributed to my basic good health. Also, I am adopted and have no familial knowledge of eating habits or health. Thank you in advance.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Not sure if almost biting your tongue off could make you a life long picky eater. Most of the adult picky eaters are super tasters and have too many taste buds. But each case is different. I'm also not a doctor so my opinions are those of someone who has the disorder and have dealt with it for over 70 years. I also know lots of us had our disorder start around 2 years old. In my case it started at birth. Lots of people have got the disorder through their genes. I wonder how long did it take for your tongue to heal?
ReeRee from Uk wrote on October 3, 2020 on 8:31 pm:
Hi im Ree and in my 40s, and I'm such a fussy eater, i cant eat fish, chicken, meat or vegetables, hardly any fruits i just feel like if i try it i will be sick, i stick with pasta, potatoes and pizza etc i really want to eat anything but frightened to how can i over come this
AbiAbi wrote on September 30, 2020 on 7:51 pm:
It’s only been really recently I’ve realised how much eating has impacted my whole life. I didn’t realise how much shame And pressure could be put around something Without you realising it, it feels like I’m slowly suffocating. I thought having a diagnosis was finally going to give me what I needed to get the help I need but I feel like I’ve been given a life sentence. I wanted so bad for years for people to hear my screams and please for help and now I finally have an answer I just feel so empty. The realisation that there will never be a “normal” for me again has been a lot to come to terms with but I guess we all have to start somewhere.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Cheer up. When you think about it there are so many other things you could have which are way worse then your struggles with food. There is no reason you can't lead a long happy healthy life. You are probably gifted in other ways and the things in your life you do have control of you do very well. Yes the social aspects can cause you lots of grief and stress. Almost like having a secret identity you hide at all costs. I have lived 70 plus years with it since birth and I have children, grand children and recently the first great grand child. I have been living happy with my 3rd wife for over 20 years. I ran a very successful small business for 35 years that employed over 30 people. I also served our great country in the US Navy. Yes the food issues were a big problem for me in the service. I'm sending you a direct invite to our new support group and you are welcome to post there and get some more feedback from others who know exactly what you have and how it can make your life miserable at times. But they have learned to cope and find ways to be happy. Bob K
MaryKateMaryKate from Allentown wrote on September 28, 2020 on 1:49 pm:
Hi I’m MaryKate I’m 23 years old and I have had issues with my eating since before I could talk. I don’t remember a time in my life when I didn’t gag or throw up at food. My entire life doctors refused to help me because I’ve never been over/underweight but I’m uncomfortably skinny for my age. 5’2 weight fluctuates between 95-115. I mainly eat pizza, fries, chicken nuggets, and snack foods. I’ve never had a vegetable in my life. Texture, smell, and even the look of curtain food will make me gag. And I will gag or vomit at almost everything new I try, even if I enjoy the food. I’ve been seeking help because I feel like I cannot start my life until I can physically eat. I don’t have any bodies issues and I desperately want to force myself to try new things or eat but it is impossible to do so. I’d like to communicate with this support group because I have never met anyone like me before and it is hard to live like this, especially when you feel isolated or abnormal.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You are no longer alone. I'm sending you a direct invite to our groups.io support group. We also have a facebook group listed on the main page for our website www.pickyeatingadults.com. So glad you found us and there is no reason you can't have a long and happy life even if you never eat any thing new.
Bob K
Margaret CollinMargaret Collin from Bristol wrote on September 23, 2020 on 3:10 pm:
Hello,

I am 29 going on 30 in 4months, and I have been a picky eater for as long as I can remember. Textures are a big thing for me, I won't eat many, many foods because of this. I won't try new foods for fear the texture will be displeasing and I have an anxiety about not liking food people give me. My diet is basically just carbs and sweets. I'm 5ft2in and weigh almost 200lbs. I've spoken to a therapist about my eating, and we are going to try EMDR therapy to see if a childhood trauma caused my picky eating. I've always thought I was alone with this, or at the few least one of a small group, but it seems this is bigger than I thought. It is awesome to have found this support group. To know that, I am not alone with this.
Admin Reply by: Bob
I just looked up what EMDR therapy is. I would bet that you will probably be wasting your time and money especially if you have had issues with food for most of your life. Therapists always like to blame our eating issues on a traumatic choking incident when we were very young. I would really like to hear if the EMDR therapy helps you in any way. I'm going on 20 years of tracking our disorder ARFID as listed in the 2013 DMM manual. I would bet that over 50% of the people with ARFID got it through their genes. I'm sending you a direct invite to our active support group that would love to hear about the EMDR treatments. Bob K
Annie WagnerAnnie Wagner from Chicago wrote on September 21, 2020 on 5:01 pm:
I had aspurgers growing up, a disease on the autism specturm. With that I had hypersensitivity to certian textures. Stuff like mashed potoats, stew, soups, pastas make me gag. I've been doing that ever since I was a kid. I'm trying to over come it. It has gotten a little better. But I can't try new foods in front of people. It hurts me all the time and I feel bad. Seeing this support group is actually really heartwarming to know that there are people out there who struggle with the same issue.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Hello Annie I'm sending you a direct invite to our new support group home. Glad you found us. We are here for you
Bob K