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JulieJulie wrote on August 18, 2017 on 7:31 pm:
Just the other day a waitress told me I ate like a 5 yr old. I ordered a burger with only cheese. I told her I did not want any lettuce, tomato, or any other vegetables on my burger. I have eaten this way my whole life, I am in my 40s. I can relate to many of the posts I've seen on this forum. I do not eat any vegetables, very little fruit...maybe an apple twice a year, no seafood. I pretty much live on red meat, chicken, bread, cheese, pb&j and fries but not potatoes of course. No condiments of any kind except tiny amount of A1 or barbecue sauce. I am fine with my diet, why is everyone else, especially that waitress, so concerned with what I eat that they feel the need to make a comment. It is others that are causing any kind of anxiety we may feel when not eating a dinner salad or ordering a meal that is considered childish. I will just never understand why everyone cares so much about what I decide to eat.
Admin Reply by: Bob
The Waitress should have kept her comments to herself.
Ken FrymireKen Frymire from Traverse City wrote on August 18, 2017 on 12:10 am:
Hi All,
Like Bob I am one of the older adult picky eaters (68). I can remember being taken to the doctor at age 6 and my mom told the doctor he only eats Peanut Butter Sandwiches and Milk. The doctor of course said he'll out grow it! NOT.
The food is about the same as many of you. Hamburg, potato, chips, milk, breads, pop, limited fruits, no veggies, chicken, turkey, and of course the grilled cheese sandwich. It has saved many a day! Surprisingly I found my very favorite meal is a buffalo burger. Tastes great and its very lean. Definitely lots of gagging in my life too.
I do on occasion in the privacy of my own house try a new food. Usually it just tastes like cardboard! Once in a while it works though. For quite a while now I've just come clean with people who I am eating with and tell them that I am an Adult Picky Eater and tell them to look it up on the internet. For a long time I just treat the situation with humor such as I never have to write down my grocery list! No one who knows me asks for a restaurant recommendation. Don't need much refrigerator or cupboard space. Don't waste time watching food shows. Have never had to go on a diet (only 10lbs over my high school football weight). All my cooking utensils fit in the drainer, and of course I am a cheap date.
My sister (15 yrs younger) had the same problems but to a much lesser degree. She has pretty much grown out of them. My daughter does not have the problem. Was married but divorced now but it wasn't the food that was the problem. Dating is definitely a headache but I tell women up front the first time we go to a restaurant about my food problems. Honesty is usually the best policy.
Not worried about getting fat since you can only stand the same food items so many times.
The big surprise for me is that I have be very healthy my whole life. Part of it I believe is because that I am very active physically and have always been that way. I still walk five miles a day and swim laps daily. I take an iron pill and get a B-12 shot quarterly. My advice is stay active in life, mix with people, and be honest with them. Find the humor in life. Don't let it get you down. There are people with so many worse burdens. If you get depressed get active and talk to someone about anything. Be well
PS, My on-line dating name was cookieman!
Admin Reply by: Bob
I just love this posting. Thanks Bob K
AshleyAshley from South Carolina wrote on August 15, 2017 on 4:47 am:
I'm 19 and still eating like a kid. I don't really recall how my whole thing started, but I started denying fruits and vegetables probably around age 4 and my parents never forced me to eat them. I remember choking on a green bean at 3 but i still occasionally ate them after that. Basically I grew up on chicken nuggets, certain french fries, macaroni and cheese, pasta, and cheese pizza. That's still mostly what I eat today. I eventually warmed up to steak and plain cheeseburgers, but now I am not a big fan of steak. I like chicken, ham, and some seafood. I can eat tomato sauce on pasta but i'm afraid to try tomatoes. I get anxious when I think about the textures of many fruits and vegetables, and can vomit at the smell of something like a banana.

Basically, I am here today for advice on desensitization. I'm in college, and I have recently started to gain weight and I want to stop it before it gets worse. I have knowingly been anemic since I was 14 (at the time it was very severe). I am concerned about future health problems and I want to start treating my issues before it is too late.
VickieVickie from Memphis wrote on August 12, 2017 on 3:50 pm:
Hi,I have always been a picky eater from a child to an adult..certain food gives me a sick feeling in my stomach.ok let's start with season the good I don't like celery,tomatoes,onion,that's wired right lol..no the dressing on a sandwich, my burger has to be plan with just lettuce or bacon an that's it...baloney sandwich plain...ok meat group I only like breakfast chops,chicken wings the small,regular real ground beef,steak,beef ribs,fish,neckbones.my green veg I like is turnip greens,green beans.I like pizza with just cheese an bacon an pepperoni an less sauce..taco salad with just ground beef an lettuce an cheese an sauce , no other stuff on my taco salad..well this is just a little about my good an why I'm picky eater.....
TaylorTaylor from Sherwood Park wrote on August 8, 2017 on 4:19 am:
Hey! Gosh I don't know how to start this.
I'm a picky eater. Always been one. And it's been a struggle. I feel like my family has always lowkey judged me for it and tease me for it. Once my aunt asked me: "how will you ever get a boyfriend when you eat like that." She said that in front of all my family and I was super embarrassed.
Oh! And today, literally like an hour ago my best friend of 8 years told me she was frustrated with me and because I don't try new things. Not necessarily food in general but food was definitely one of the factors. Then we got into a huge fight. She doesn't want to be my friend because I'm a picky eater and we have to go out to certain restaurants and eat the same things. I get that she's frustrated but she doesn't understand. I don't even understand why it's hard for me to try new foods.
I guess I'm here to maybe get an explanation and some support from fellow picky eaters like me.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Welcome and you probably need to find more understanding friends. There are 1000s of people who are just like you all over the world.
AnneAnne from NORTH POTOMAC wrote on August 4, 2017 on 9:10 pm:
Hello members! I am glad your group exists. I am a parent of a 15 yr old boy with ARFID. Just wanted to say that though treatments are limited and very much "non-guarantees", we should be proud that ARFID awareness continues in the right direction. We very much want treatments that work. I keep reminding myself that this eating disorder could be so much more complex and troubling. I'm learning to stress less for my son and accept my role as an advocate for ARFID awareness. Glad to share my recent blog:

https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/blog/time-to-talk-about-arfid
Admin Reply by: Bob
Just read your very nice blog. We have come so far from the early days in the year 2003 when I started www.pickyeatingadults.com. I spent over 50 years of my life alone with what is now called ARFID. Today while cures are far and few someone with the disorder does not have to be alone with it. You are a terrific Mom. Thank you
Bob K
MartinaMartina wrote on August 3, 2017 on 1:48 pm:
Thank goodness I'm not the only adult who's a picky eater. People seem to think that only kids are picky.

I have been picky my entire life. Even now, I don't eat at most family events because they only cook southern foods and I don't eat southern food. I also bring the same thing for lunch every day to work (turkey and cheese sandwich with pepperonis and an apple), and a few people have made comments about it. Like some other people I saw on this guest book, whenever someone wants to go to a restaurant I have never been to before, I have to look at the menu to see if there is anything I can eat or else I can't go to that restaurant. An ex-boyfriend from college used to think I was vegetarian because I would only eat fries or rice during dinner.

In the past seven years, I have been slowly trying new foods. I also have been reviewing the menus of restaurants I have been to in case what I usually eat is no longer on the menu (or in one case, the name of the item was changed). I still won't eat anything that looks slimy and I don't like anything that has an overpowering taste (no chocolate for me).
MorganMorgan from Louisville wrote on July 23, 2017 on 8:28 pm:
Hi everyone, I have been trying to come to terms with my eating issues and I thought I would share my story. I have been a picky eater since I was around four, I remember eating things as a small child that I do not eat now. I have large categories of foods that I won't eat. I don't like hamburgers, generally do not like meat and bread together. I don't eat chinese or mexican or almost any "foreign" foods. I like pizza with a limited choice of toppings. I don't eat cheese other than mozzarella, I eat plain chicken and mashed potatoes with no gravy. Basically a complicated rule system for what it is I like. I feel very sick when I try something that doesn't sit with me.
I am skinny, naturally, but the fact that I don't eat at many restaurants or many different things leads some people to believe I am anorexic. I have kids and I don't want them to have these kind of issues. My feelings are mixed though, because I wish I could just eat what I want without it affecting my life negatively. I have a wide enough list that I think I eat a pretty healthy diet. But, I hate being the weirdo. I hate being the person that has to explain all the time, that I have issues. I just want to reach a more normal equilibrium, at least. Anyways, I feel a bit better reading other people's stories, and to know that I am not alone in this.
RuthRuth from Warwickshire wrote on July 16, 2017 on 6:51 pm:
Hello, I'm 22 years old and I've always been a fussy eater. I've always been embarrassed by it, but I've been lucky to be around people that have accepted that I'm fussy after going through a long lists of foods only to find out I don't like barely any of them. They all advise me to try new things. It's embarrassing, but I learnt to think it was just who I am and I can’t help it. Over the years I have pushed myself to try new things, but it's very hard to convince myself I might like it. There has been a lot of times when I man up to try something new for then my stomach twists trying to make me bring it back up. It’s worse when I’m in a restaurant. It’s very awkward too, when you go out for a meal, and when you see a menu. I start to stress when I can’t see anything ‘safe’ that I know I like and can eat. I’ve even said to a friend once that wished I didn’t have to eat, wouldn’t have to stress and worry about food. My food tastes are like a child’s, like simple foods.
I’ve gotten to the point where I really want things to change, I want to be more open with food. I really want to travel, and there’s a trip I really want to do, kind of a dream trip, but I’m really worried about the food side of things.
Because of my fussy eating, I have gotten into bad eating habits, where I choose not to eat anything to avoid the hassle of trying to find something to eat. I feel because of it, the irregular eating is affecting my energy, motivation and my mood.
I’ve only just found out about ARFID and SED, and I’m glad I’m not alone.
I want to overcome the fear of food.
MarcyMarcy from Iowa wrote on July 13, 2017 on 1:28 am:
Hi everyone. I've enjoyed reading everyone's stories and would like to share mine too. I've also been a picky eater ever since I can remember. I eat pizza (cheese only), chicken (breaded only), and grilled cheese. I was comfortable with my food neophobia around my family and friends, it it's become a bigger problem now that I've got a big girl job (I just recently graduated from college). Today at a training for work, they provided lunch and I was the only one not eating. It was obvious, and very embarrassing when others asked why I wasn't eating. I told them "I wasn't hungry" to save the weird looks and judgement I would get if I tried to explain my food phobia and the few foods I actually do eat. Then I excused myself to the bathroom to eat the lunch I brought from home. The last thing I want is for my kids (in the future) to grow up and eat like me. Lately I've been looking into hypnosis (hypnotherapy) for help. Has anyone else tried to look into hypnosis for help? I'm not sure if it's the right route but I don't know what else to do. Please please please comment back! I'd love to hear from you guys.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Hypnosis has helped some get into a good frame of mind to try some new things. For most it has not been the easy cure many think it is. The results have been very poor.
sarahsarah wrote on July 4, 2017 on 2:30 am:
for as long as i can remember, i have been extremely picky. i remember when i was going to many friends' houses as a kid, they'd have to go grocery shopping to buy things specifically for me to eat in preparation for me to come over. it was very embarrassing but i was so scared of trying basic things. i'm 17 now and i have not made much progress in trying things, besides in these past few months i have tried many fruits and i like them a lot. fruit seems to be the only thing i can try without severe anxiety. i still get scared but i can make myself try it and i can actually focus on the taste and come to a conclusion of whether it's good or not. with everything else, i spend like 30 minutes trying to put it in my mouth but the longer i wait, the scarier it gets. i've never even tried plain bread by itself until about two months ago; i had to make my girlfriend leave the room so i could be less anxious but when i tried it, i really thought i was going to throw up. i was so terrified that my vision started going out and i nearly gagged about 5 times. when i try things i'm scared of i can't register any taste at all, my body doesn't register it to be food, but more like a threat i guess. i try so hard to eat it quickly and get it over with that i can't actually begin to like anything. i skipped a big dinner for my graduating class on the day before my high school graduation that i had previously paid over $100 for because i was so terrified that i had to sit with students i wasn't friends with and i'd be exposed for not liking anything there. i hated lunch time at school because i didn't want people to see that i brought the same things every single day. i've been taking the same lunch to school since i started kindergarten. i basically have the diet of a child and it's so so embarrassing. i always get made fun of and even the people i love the most get so impatient and angry with me for not trying or liking things. i'm always a burden in social settings because the other people involved want to go somewhere to eat that has nothing for me on the menu, so we always end up going to some place they didn't want to go to. i'm a burden on everyone and i'm so so scared that i'm going to die from this. i basically live off of pizza, macaroni, spaghetti, chicken, fries, cheerios, a few fruits, and a billion types of junk food. i get no nutrition at all and i consume so much harmful food that i am terrified i will develop severe problems in my body that i have to deal with later in my life. up until i started dating my current girlfriend, i was comfortable with the way i was but she's so concerned about me that it's been a sort of wake up call for me that i need to change. i'm trying to seek out a psychologist that specializes in treatment for eating disorders in hopes that they will treat someone with ARFID because i don't want to live like this anymore. i want to be normal. it's definitely a comfort to read all these stories because it shows i'm not alone but i really do want to change. i have been trying for months but no progress has been made other than in trying fruit. i hope that i can get better. i hope all of you can get better too or at least find a way to cope. thank you for showing me i'm not alone and not the freak i thought i was.
BowBow from Toronto wrote on July 4, 2017 on 1:35 am:
I've been a picky eater my entire life. It's ruined my relationships with family as I will never attend functions, it's given me intense and severe anxiety and I would do anything to change. At 19 years old I am so thankful that I found this website! Feels so good to know that I'm not alone with this!
SadieSadie wrote on July 2, 2017 on 1:02 am:
Ever since I can remember I've been avoiding foods. I'm embarrassed of my habits and want so hard to eat normal foods like everyone else but I'm not finding myself growing out of my pickiness. Staples like meat, rice, pasta, tomatos and other vegetables, I can't eat. Really it is easier to list what I do - basically bread, dairy, and fruits. Foods with odd texture a make me want to gag and it's so awful not ever being able to order off a menu. I'm trying to kick this in the bucket but it's such a long process. Good to know I'm not alone.
VeronicaVeronica from Las Vegas wrote on June 30, 2017 on 4:40 am:
I'm 19 years old and I have trouble eating pretty much everything. It was nice to read other people's' stories here, and it's opened my eyes to the fact that I actually do have a pretty strong complex about eating. I usually try to laugh it off and tell people to play the "Which food does Veronica like?" game. They'll start naming off a bunch of their favorite foods, 90% of which (at least) I'll say that I hate. It kind of helps knowing that they're openly expressing their disdain in an exaggerated manner than knowing that if I just say it in normal conversation or after we order food they'll look at me like I'm some kind of alien. I don't really eat when I'm invited out to restaraunts, and if the person knows I'm picky, they usually put all the stress on me for picking a place to eat. I usually say, "Well, as long as they have fries then I'm fine!" and most of the time it takes the attention off of me.
But again, it's very stressful to order, for fear of the wait-staff telling me that I can't do that, or that they're very clearly thinking that I'm a nut. I know that they won't say anything, but it still gets to me.

As for foods that I don't eat... I find that it's mostly texture that sets me off. If it's some sort of warm-liquid food, then I can't do it. Hot chocolate and soups? No way. I can't eat anything spicier than barbecue chips. Nothing that's super slimy (mac and cheese is gross to me, and that actually surprises everyone that I've told). My current diet consists of Lays chips, Cool ranch Doritos, salad (lettuce with only ranch dressing), soft pretzels, mozzarella sticks (eaten covered in ketchup), fries (ketchup if they aren't from mcdonalds, usually), bacon (with ketchup as well, unless I'm eating bacon bits), and just a bunch of other typical "spoiled kid" elementary lunchbox junk food.

I don't actually have a huge problem with drinks, but people usually find it strange that I don't like coffee, milk or orange juice. Everything that's normally served at any place is usually ok for me.

I don't want to be picky. But I also don't want to put myself into a position of trying something, not liking it, and then feeling absolutely horrible that I can't finish it. There aren't enough opportunities for me to be able to just pass the food off to someone else if I don't like it. It's very stressful.

I don't know if it's a disorder, or if that's just an excuse that we need to validate being picky (not meant to offend). I wish I could say I don't care which it is, but if it is a disorder, then there's a possibility that it's one that may never be acknowledged, and I don't want to live with that my whole life. But if it's just me making excuses then I'm upset with myself for being so stubborn. It's actually such a difficult topic to talk about too. It's exhausting, and I'm sure everyone else feels the same way too.

I'll stop talking now, because it's just turned into me rambling and just forcing out all of my problems with this situation.

Regardless, I hope everyone has a wonderful day without any food-worries.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Sounds to me like a have a classic case of ARFID Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. It is in the medical ref books.
KeithKeith from Limerick wrote on June 27, 2017 on 4:30 pm:
Eating nothing but crisps.toast. cerial. Pastries . Nuts. French fries.and sweets and I'm fed up of it but just can't eat anything else 😝
TaraTara from Groton wrote on June 25, 2017 on 11:45 pm:
I have had food issues my entire life, I am now 43. From the time I was 6 I hated food, couldn't stand the look or taste of it. My family made a huge deal out of it and it made things worse. Now as an adult I am a vegetarian and only eat a steak on my birthday. It takes me all year to mentally prepare for it. I never knew there were others like me and I'm crying as I write this. I have felt so alone my whole life b/c of my "strange" eating habits. So thankful to have found this site😁
Admin Reply by: Bob
Relax and enjoy your life and don't let your problems with food keep you from enjoying the rest of your life. There are 1000s of people just like you.
JanJan from Charlotte wrote on June 24, 2017 on 9:23 pm:
I do not eat any vegetables with the exception of corn, peas and potatoes. I do not like condiments. No ketchup, mayonaise, sauces, etc. I am 65 years old and embarrassed to go to anyone's house for dinner. I must know all ingredients and will not touch a salad or vegetable or anything with vegetables in it. I eat like a 4 year old. I am not fond of raw fruit, but will eat some canned fruits. I do like grapes. I can't put fruit in my mouth without making a face, although I do try to eat an apple once in a while. I would like to change. I am thinking about hypnosis. Would it work?
JenJen from Austin wrote on June 20, 2017 on 2:32 pm:
I am 58 and am realizing that I likely have high functioning Asperger's. Also, just learning that there is a medical term now SED- selective eating disorder for my experience. I am trying to be better at self-care and have found that many people, like me, with Hashimoto's autoimmune diseases need to go on an AIP- autoimmune protocol diet to heal and avoid inflammation that destroys health. This is proving to be extremely challenging in that it limits food choices so severely and often my "go to" staples need to be avoided. So I'm looking for support from others on this journey.
DoraDora wrote on June 19, 2017 on 7:34 pm:
Hi! I'm from Brazil and I'm so happy that I found people like me here. Yesterday I decided to write an article about my disorder, but I realized that I never had searched about this little problem that annoys me often.

I'm 25 years old and I don't even know how I started to reject food. And how I started to choose the food I eat, I don't know either. I have panic just to think in accept an invite to eat at someone's house. I like the meetings when each people brings something to eat, so I always bring something I eat. I don't use to like wedding food or something like this.

All my entire life I've been called "hard to pleasure" or heard that "it's my problem". Once I went at a psychologist that told me it was normal. But I know it's not normal. I have a disorder and I want to change. But I can't do it on my own way.

The only meat I eat is chicken breast. I don't eat any other kind of meat at all. So I like a lot of foods that envolve it. And I can't live without potato - but I hate mashed potatoes and I only tolerate when them are cooked. I love a bunch of things that some people may ask "why??", like matcha, sesame, linseed and other grains like these. I like bread, I like pizza (but only the pizza made with chicken, with no cheese), I like maccaroni (with no sauce), I like rice. I'm a big fan of chocolate and craft beer.

During my life as a picky eater I made some concessions. I learned to eat lettuce, arugula, manioc, eggs... But I never choose for these things. I just eat when they are on the table and I'm the invited.

I'm a journalist and I had problems travelling around the country because the restaurant was not always my choice. Now I'm back to college, as a master degree's student, and I never can go eat at the college restaurant with my friends because of the menu they serve.

Just to think about to eat a thing that I don't eat, I also think that I'm going to vomit. Or that I would be very depressed after eat it. And, sure, these things are not only in my mind - they truly happen. It's like to sing out of tune.

My boyfriend understands me nowadays, but It was difficult to him at the beggining of our relationship. My family will never understand - they think that I don't have any willpower. I hate family reunion, I hate Easter, I hate Christmas. I just want to know when this entire thing will going to end.
Admin Reply by: Bob
We have other people from Brazil in our support groups. You are not alone. The disorder you have was placed in medical texts like the DSM-3 in May of 2013 and it was called Avoidance/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. or ARFID for short.
JoeJoe wrote on June 18, 2017 on 1:57 am:
I'm so happy I found this website, I'm 22 and always been a picky eater. Constantly having family plan something "special" for me or having a completely separate dinner from everyone else it always sucked because I just wanted to be normal and be treated like everyone else.

I eat a lot of processed foods, french fries, chicken, pizza. No real fruits or vegetables and I find it hard to incorporate new stuff into my eating routine. I hate going out to dinner and just always getting chicken fingers still. People think it's a joke but it's anxiety and my mind always defaults to the "safe" option in my mind. I don't even consider anything else because trying something new isn't an option. And I hate that.

I think it stems from my high anxiety, I have an awful fear of heights as well and have never ridden a rollercoaster, I don't watch horror movies. So it only seems logical it manifested into my eating habits, even as a kid.

And now I have anxieties and fears that I'll die young, I read the FAQ and some of the entries here and I know it says our bodies get used to what we eat but I just still feel anxious about it. Just me being anxious in every part of my life. Honestly it sucks, I feel like such a boring person.

Won't continue any longer just explaining how this effects me. I feel like I can finally relate with people on this.
Admin Reply by: Bob
I'm as picky as it gets and I just had my 70th birthday. I will probably never learn to eat anything new at this point in my life. I was once like you and would not ride on a roller coaster. But it turns out that was one thing I can and did conquer when I was about 14 years old. Want to ride with out risk. Go to youtube and type in roller coaster and watch what pops up. You can take a virtual ride on most of the coasters in the USA and the rest of the world. Getting use to a coaster should be done small ones first and work your way up. Yes the limited things we eat can make life difficult. But it's not a reason to check out of life. We only live once and we should be and do the best we can no matter what we eat.