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MarylandGalMarylandGal wrote on April 3, 2016 on 3:33 pm:
I am 24 years old, and i feel my picky eating has gotten so much worse. I know this is not what parents of picky eaters want to hear (hah) but here goes.
When I was younger, in K-12, I would have my mom pack me a pb&j every single day for lunch, and I'd eat one for breakfast. It would have to be cut into 9 pieces. I wouldn't go out to open-lunch in high school with my friends because I did not want to eat anything different. I have also always had to drink fruit juice with every meal. To this day, I refuse to eat if I don't have a juice to drink with it. Drinking water with food disgusts me.
I tried to eat more normal in college, but ended up gaining a lot of weight and I felt I wasnt taking enough time to savor my food and was eating stuff I didnt really enjoy. I did decide in college though that I wanted to quit eating meat and I decided to start liking vegetables (so that's good news - my tastes did change to like "healthier" foods!) After college, I lost all the weight I had put on, but my habits got weird again...
But here's my current issue. I used to eat breakfast lunch and dinner, but now, since I am sitting at work all day and not as hungry, I eat only ONCE A DAY- dinner after work. I've become obsessed with eating one single thing again, but instead of pb&j, it is now a vegan burrito bowl every single day. I feel that it is healthy because it is beans and vegetables. And I eat multiple servings of guacamole with it, so I am getting plenty of calories So my first problem is eating once a day. Second is eating ONLY this burrito bowl every day. But the third and worst problem is, I don't ever want to eat it around other people.
Why? Because I like each thing in the bowl separated. So like, I mush all the guacamole to one corner, and separate out the corn, and I quite literally pick at my food, like eating each pepper one by one. I also like to sprinkle oregano and salt on it. And I eat SO SLOWLY. I want to make sure I enjoy each bite so I take upwards of 2 HOURS for me to finish. It's embarrassing, and it controls my life, but I don't WANT to eat anything else. Sometimes once a week I force myself to try to eat something different, but I actually feel upset when I don't eat this same thing.
It's an addiction, really it seems. Is this just picky eating? Is this worse? I honestly think this is some form of OCD or "disordered eating" since I have to have the same thing all the time and eat it so particularly. I think about food all the time and worry about my future. I think about trying to "get help" but then I just think, if I wanted to change, I could change. I enjoy eating this. I don't enjoy the embarrassment that I feel about how I eat. I feel like it prevents me from hanging out with my friends, and certainly from dating! I just think, who would ever want to date someone with these eating hangups?! They want to go get pizza or ice cream with their girlfriends. How could I ever have kids when I eat this way? "Mommy's taking two and a half hours to eat dinner again..." Most people enjoy food. Normal peoples' lives revolve around food in a GOOD way. And then there's me.
JamesJames from Edmonton wrote on April 3, 2016 on 12:26 am:
Wow. This is incredible. I am not the only person who can not eat entire food groups. I am 54 years old and I do NOT eat any vegetables except for fried or mashed potatoes. I eat no fruit at all but I am ok with most fruit flavours [except peach] and juices [again, except peach]. I was like this since I was a baby. When my parents started me on solid food, the only baby food I would eat was squash. [I hate squash]. They took me to the doctor who suggested starving me for a while, figuring that if I starved long enough that I would eat anything. 2 days of no food, for a baby, is huge. but it didn't work and it must have been pure hell for my parents. Keep in mind that this was back in 1962 when it was more acceptable to use "extreme measures" to control children. Nothing worked. I grew up on french fries, peanut butter sandwiches, milk and Liptons chicken noodle soup. I was ok with candies, without any kind of nuts or fruit fillings. I got a little better as an adult. I added eggs, but only scrambled and omelettes. I am great with most cheeses. I am good with fried chicken and hamburgers. I am ok with some deli meats. Steak is interesting, because the first bite is great but by the time I get half way through I can't stand it. English style fried fish is good. I have made peace with my eating disorder but the social aspects are still a nightmare.
MarissaMarissa from Berwyn wrote on April 1, 2016 on 10:39 pm:
I'm 22 years old and have always been an incredibly picky eater. My diet has always consisted of sweets, pizza, pasta and other assorted carbs. I have just started eating chicken but still get a minor gag reflex when I eat it or other healthier "normal" foods. When I was younger, my mom used to make me stay at the dinner table until I finished a predetermined amount of the food I didn't like, or until it got too late at night. I always came up with creative waus to get rid of the food without actually eating or tasting it.
It's so nice to know and see so many other adults understand the struggle and that I'm not alone. I recently have become very determined to change my diet, but know it will take a lot of work mentally, physically, and all with the help of others.
SabrinaSabrina from Virginia Beach wrote on April 1, 2016 on 4:49 am:
I can't believe I haven't looked before now to see if there were groups of people out there who suffer with picky eating! I think I probably qualify as moderately severe pickyness. There are actually quite a few foods I eat, so I'm usually ok going out to restaurants to eat. But if someone cooks for me, it always makes me nervous. Are they going to put mushrooms or crab or something else I don't like, and I'll have to figure out how to get it down? The worst is when people cook specifically FOR you. Like, once, a friend got me a black forrest cake for my birthday. I love cake, but I don't like fruits mixed with anything! But I had to choke some down :( I've been a picky eater since I was little, both to taste and texture (weird texture is what really makes me want to retch), but my parents forced me to eat everything I didn't like - not just a "taste" but a plate full of gross squash and chicken legs. It was a very negative experience. Of course, the things I did like were sweets and breads and pastas, and I wasn't allowed to have those. Surprisingly enough, this has completely affected my eating habits today! I'm overweight and was diagnosed a few years ago with insulin-resistant PCOS, which means that carbs are practically poison for me; but eating "healthy" is miserable!!! Anyway, I look forward to reading everyone's stories on here...
HannahHannah from Greenville wrote on March 19, 2016 on 1:19 am:
I have had this problem since I was a young child I'm 19 years old and my food choice is even more limited now I eat a select few things which are all unhealthy like pizza, chicken tenders, fries,etc. I will eat fruit and salad but not a lot of vegetables and have struggled with weight my whole life. I'm very anti social/introverted. I'm not sure if it just goes along with it or not. But my family always gave me so much hell for it as a child trying to force me to try things and they didn't understand it literally would make me gag/throw up getting near the food. At any restaurant I always get chicken tenders which is why I avoid going out to eat with people because it seems childish to order it. I'm just glad I'm not the only one!
JulieJulie wrote on March 15, 2016 on 4:00 am:
I have joined the group on Yahoo & Facebook at various times. I'm in my mid 50's and have been a picky eater since childhood. Thanks to this group and the support I've overcome the shame. My family supports me more. Sometimes it's still a problem, such as offhand comments but for the most part I feel accepted now. I don't have Yahoo anymore, but sent a request for the Facebook group. Thank you PEAS!
Admin Reply by: Bob
You are welcome and you should enjoy the Facebook group. Glad we have helped you. No reason why a person with our disorder can't have a great life. Just ask Warren Buffet how his life has been.
AnnaAnna wrote on March 11, 2016 on 5:34 am:
Just wanted to say thank you! I have lived my entire life eating the same handful of select foods. I struggled for years with anxiety and depression ( brought by anti social tendencies because of how I eat ) and dealing with Anorexia behaviors because I felt overweight but just excersizing wasn't keeping the weight I gained from my limited food choice down so I figured it was best to live off of nothing until I gained control of weight and then eat again and repeat the process.
I remember praying to God that my kids would eat well, that they wouldn't cringe at the invitation to dinner, that they wouldn't get physically sick in front of a group of people because of the food smells and trying so hard to swallow something just to be polite and not seem rude. I always felt alone with my problem. I would try so hard to eat things by forcing myself to eat them only to puke before sitting down at the dinner table.
I hope research can help those of us with this for it truly is not a choice. I would not choose this for myself, I would not choose this for my family to deal with.
Thank you for the work those involved in the website and groups who have strived to make this known and heard of. Make people aware that it is not a case of just picky eating but something more and that no one is alone in this.
CharlotteCharlotte wrote on March 8, 2016 on 11:51 pm:
Hi, I have always been a picky eater. It's probably best to say what I do eat. I eat most sweets, cakes, crisps, cookies etc.. I do not struggle with snacks at all. I like and try most fruit. The only sandwiches I eat are plain cheese. When it comes to meals- I am a burden. I eat fries on their own, breaded boneless chicken, fish fingers, baked beans, jacket potato with cheese and beans, garlic bread, spaghetti with only parmesan and olive oil, beans on toast. I usually decline going out to eat with people unless I know for absolutely sure there is something I would eat. When I was younger, my parents would force food on me and I would have such a problem with the texture and taste of things. I would hide food in my pockets and cry at almost every meal time. My mother was not a very good cook so my theory is that at a young age it was programmed into my head that everything tasted bad except from the things that I was already accustomed to. My Dad finds it especially frustrating, even now. How many arguments we have gotten into because I don't like curry! I believe that I am becoming a little better, especially when under pressure from friends for example, I ate pizza for the first time at a friends house and ate parma ham with asparagus at a dinner party. I really want to start eating more foods before I start university as I know it will become a big problem there, for my social life. I am really trying to push myself.
EmilyEmily wrote on March 6, 2016 on 8:41 pm:
I'm 23 years old and I've been struggling with food my whole life. I don't know what it is, but I'm extremely picky and probably have a variety of 5 food items that I eat.. pizza (cheese), chicken (boneless only), potatoes (french fries, mashed), and dairy products. My appetite has never changed since I was able to eat. It's affected my life in so many ways, and I'm beginning to think it's more than just being a "picky eater" because I cannot bring myself to try anything new. I get anxiety thinking about the look of it, taste, texture of it in my mouth.. and when it's in my mouth, I just gag because my mind is telling me it's disgusting and I can't digest it. I know I need to eat more, because I've been feeling extremely tired lately and I have a huge loss of energy - I can sleep for 12 hours, wake up for half an hour and go back to sleep for another couple hours. No one around me really understands and thinks it's me being "lazy" when I'm just having a major issue eating the foods that I need to give me energy. The last thing I want is to have kids one day and follow my footsteps in the way I eat because it has prevented me from going to a lot of social outings. It's not a matter of availability of food in the house either, because I can go grocery shopping with an unlimited budget and in the end I only pick out 2 things for myself because NOTHING else appeals to me. It's never been a weight thing either, because I actually eat a good amount of candy/baked goods. I feel at this point like I'm stuck and I don't know what the first step I would have to take is to become a healthier eater because I've been on this same path for so long and I'm hoping someone here can give me some advice on - either vitamins you can take, programs to attend or even meals that you had to cook for your kids to hide healthy stuff in it. I'm willing to at least start with anything after going through this for as long as I can remember.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You are just like the people in our support groups. One on Yahoo and the other on Facebook. It would help you a lot to come and join one or both groups. I hang out mostly on Yahoo. We have lots of advice that should help you cope with your condition that you never asked to have. While it can create many social problems there is no reason why you can't live a happy healthy long life. Hope to see your email address pop up as wanting to join. Or see you on Facebook. We really can help you.
Bob K
HannahHannah from College Park wrote on March 6, 2016 on 6:03 am:
It's so nice to know there are other people like me out there. People tell me sometimes that they're picky too, because they don't like sausage on their pizza... and I don't even eat pizza. I feel like a worst-case scenario sometimes.
I think I have taste/texture/temperature issues and I've been sticking to mostly plain carbs since I was little (bread, noodles, potatoes). No meat besides maybe chicken nuggets when I feel like I can handle the protein. No sauces. And while I do eat some fruits and vegetables it's not enough. I know my diet is hurting my health but trying to eat healthier seems impossible; even the Pinterest articles with "healthy foods for picky eaters" mostly list things I won't touch. I've recruited the help of one of my friends who LOVES cooking to help me try new things so hopefully soon that should yield some results. Anyway I'm glad I found this page; it's seriously nice to know that even at 21 I'm not the only one who hasn't just "grown out of it".
RachaelRachael wrote on March 4, 2016 on 5:03 am:
I've wrote in here before but for some reason I felt the need to do it again. I am so disgusted with myself recently. I am gaining weight like no other because the way I eat. I've eaten this way sense I was 7 years old. I get made fun of at work, I can't go out to dinners unless they serve breakfast and Noone understands. They all tell me Oh just jump right in and try new foods. It gives me such anxiety. Tonight I decided that I'm done eating fast food.. which is just French fries. I felt like I was having a heart attack. Mind you im 23. Idk what to do.. I want to see someone to talk about my eating issues but the apointments are like 200 dollars a session. I can't just jump Ian and do it. I can't seem to find any tips on how to even start. I'm so scared I'm going to die within the next 2 years. I honestly have no idea what to dom :/
Admin Reply by: Bob
You should join one of our support groups on Yahoo or Facebook. While we do not have any easy cures. We can help you feel much better about who you are and what your eating disorder is all about. Plus just imagine meeting a large group of people who will all understand just how you feel about food. Both support groups are really wonderful and I urge you to join us.
Darcie marie hairDarcie marie hair from Graham wrote on March 2, 2016 on 3:51 pm:
My name is Darcie I suffered from eating certain food like chicken plain hamburgers fries chips and soft drinks .I would to change for my babies
KellyKelly from Milwaukee wrote on February 27, 2016 on 6:24 am:
I've struggled for as long as I can remember with being so picky in the food I eat. My family has always thought it was strange that I have a small variety of food choices. I'll eat a perfectly cooked filet. I love white bread and basic cheese: cheddar, American and my favorite nacho cheese. PB & J, simply the best. Certain "junk" foods I eat because I can just tolerate it. I've been forced to eat things such as, cherry tomatoes, lettuce and cucumbers just because people think it's funny to see what happens.. Ends in me gagging and throwing it up. I can't stand the smell of dressings, seafood related, or any veggies. I get picked on a lot from my in-laws. Luckily my family has backed off with the jokes after seeing what happens when I try to eat "new" foods. I've been diagnosed with ADHD, dyslexia, and seizures-- with no known triggers. I'm interested to see ANY feed back people have with luck they've had. Multiple doctors have told me it's a phase, but at 27-- it's no longer a "phase".
Brian McDermottBrian McDermott from Scarsdale wrote on February 26, 2016 on 9:43 pm:
Hello everyone. I'm blown away by finding this site! I'm on the verge of tears. I suffered from SED from about the age of 3. My diet consisted of french fries, pancakes, white bread, cheese puffs, cake and bacon. I had no problems with bevereages. But I gagged and froze when exposed to other foods. Like everyone here, it had an enormous impact on my social life. At around the age of 16 I sought help with hypnotherapy. It took several years to find someone I was comfortable with, but I looked on and off and found someone. I started very slowly but gradually introduced new foods like pizza and white fish. I learned to do self hypnosis and eventually didn't need the therapy to continue expanding my diet. I now eat almost anything (except a few things that even gross me out just trying to type their names). By the time I had children (im 50 now) I was a "normal" even adventurous eater. Turns out both of my children have SED to some degree. They never knew me as I was and yet they are like me. I never imagined others could be like me. If my experience can be helpful to any of you please let me know.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Thanks for your message of hope. Many have tried hypnosis with litte to no success. So your story will give many a new determination to change. Or at least try. Thanks
UlrikUlrik from Copenhagen wrote on February 24, 2016 on 9:46 pm:
Nice to find others like me. Since I was 2-3 years I have eaten nothing but bread. I drink mostly anything, as long as it is not too thick. I am 41 and have a good job and keep in shape.
I do eat most candy and crisps, but not cake with cream or other too greasy stuff. I the same amount of candy as any average person.

When I was around 32, I taught myself to eat French fries. I only eat that rarely, since it is unhealthy :)
I would love to solve it, but really do not know how.
I have a young daughter of 16 months and another child coming this August and do not want to pass my habits.
Great to find this place :)
Admin Reply by: Bob
Glad you found us. We are here for you. Join our Yahoo group or Facebook group. Did you know Warren Buffet lives on Candy and Coke a Cola.
BrittanyBrittany wrote on February 18, 2016 on 8:36 pm:
How does this happen? I've been feeling really down about this lately. I'm 23 and feel like this will never end! I literally eat french fries, bacon, eggs, and Parmesan cheese pasta. Anything else is junk food (chips, chocolates) I don't eat any vegetables. I like apples and grapes but have to force myself to eat them. I've recently been gaining a lot of weight due to this problem. I want to be healthy again and can't get back to that place because of my diet. I want to be happy in my life again. Work is difficult being they all love food and look at like I'm crazy. My fiancé excepts me but it affects our relationship. I can't seem to figure out how to cope with this. Is there help out there?
Admin Reply by: Bob
No miracle cures are known. We can help you cope with consequences of being a picky eater in our support groups.
JodiJodi from King, NC wrote on February 17, 2016 on 7:46 pm:
Thank God I found others like me....I am what you all have feared. My eating habits now have me with high cholesterol and pre diabetic....I don't know how to change, don't know what could help...I also have premature peripheral artery disease at age 40....if I don't change I will look the possibility of having my legs amputated down the road due to my circulation problems I already have, with impending diabetes, causing more circulation problems. I am so glad I am not alone in this battle.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Just curious does Diabetes run in your family? I suppose your picky eating could make things worse. Try to get some help from a dietitian who can work with what you do eat. They can help you understand what are the bad things in your diet. For example popcorn is rich in fiber and has many benefits. Getting on daily insulin shots could also help make a difference. The condition can be managed with proper care and medical knowledge.
JoshJosh from London wrote on February 17, 2016 on 11:22 am:
As a 19 year old, it's so reassuring that there are other and even elder adults with similar stories as mine; I never thought I'd be able to live past 20. For as long as I can remember, family and friends just say that it is a phase I will grow out of, yet here I am still only eating a plate of chips and maybe some slices of bread for "dinner". It's horrible to be left out of conversations about how good something tastes when I have no clue what anyone is going on about. I have tried more foods later in life as I've learnt to be more strict with myself after dealing with a bout of Depression because of a relationship ending, but they've been things like Fried Chicken and Pizza, fast food etc. And now that is becoming a problem because when I eat these foods, I feel normal and feel like I finally fit in so I continuously eat them and I'm putting on a bit of weight - I do go to the gym to counter-act this, but now that my diet only really consists of fatty or plain "why-is-he-only-eating-that?" foods, it makes everyday a real struggle. It's definitely the texture of foods that make me feel anxious, I remember going through a stage of trying various things like a banana and it just made me gag and wretch. I hate it and I hate when someone asks me "How can I NOT like *insert blank*?!" ...I just don't know.
Carole AnneCarole Anne from UK wrote on February 15, 2016 on 7:58 am:
How marvellous to find this site. How strange to feel so much better knowing so many are like me and that in some ways I am more fortunate with the variety of food I can eat. Here's hoping in time more medical experts will acknowledge it and seek to help. My whole life(I'm 51) I have cringed with embarrassment and to be fair annoyance at others intense interest in me around the dinner table, the keenness for my colleagues to revel in telling new team members "Oh she's very strange she only eats...." instead of quietly letting me use coping techniques to get through the meal time without being a spectacle, Carole Anne the freak. I think I now have the confidence to refer to myself as having a selective eating disorder and perhaps even mention it to doctors if they were to mention a diet related issue. Thank you
VianneVianne from Hansville wrote on February 9, 2016 on 7:06 pm:
Hello! I'm a Picky-Eating Adult! I've been picky since I was two years old. I have expanded my repertoire from the PB&J of that time, but I still cut out several things most adults consider staples of flavor. Right now, I eat milk, cheese, and ice cream but not yogurt; broccoli, cauliflower, green beans, spinach, black olives, lettuce, and artichoke leaves but not other veggies; rice, potatoes, pasta, and white bread but only with butter; beef, bacon, and chicken but not chicken I can see (must be shredded and breaded); and finally apples and bananas (no berries or plum/peach/apricot/nectarine).

I have struggled socially with this all my life. I just relayed to my loving boyfriend what parties used to mean to me: parents and kids all wondering why I wouldn't eat, thinking I was insulting their cooking, shaming me for being afraid. Food is very, very close to my emotional core.

I am currently suffering from (and have been ignoring for years) IBS, and unfortunately that means I need to find out which of my precious few foods is the trigger I need to avoid now. It is torturing me to think that I will need to eliminate more, or worse, be forced to scrap my OK list completely and eat foods I don't like just to survive.