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JacobJacob wrote on February 9, 2016 on 3:15 am:
I feel so needy when I go over to dinner at my friends' houses. I'm still in high school (I'm 18) but SED has been dominating my life for as long as I can remember. Combined with my ADHD and bipolar I can't keep up. I often spend lunch alone and I go days without eating. Texture and smell are huge issues for me. I love plain carbs and sushi and sweets.
NicoleNicole wrote on February 8, 2016 on 9:25 pm:
Hi, I am a 16 year old girl. I have been a picky eater as long as I can remember. For me, I can eat 'a lot of things' as long as they are completely plain and not touching anything. However, a lot of things I literally can't eat. For example, a few years ago my parents forced me to eat baked beans, and I had like a panic attack. They almost called 911. I did swallow one though. After that though, they actually realized something was probably wrong and have made me stuff I will eat that is different than what the others are eating. None of my siblings have this problem. But I think it is probably hurting my health. I have not had milk for like ten years. That was something I really hated and used to pour down the drain when I was little. I play varsity sports though, and think this is really affecting my performance. I never have breakfast except maybe once a week I have a spoon of peanut butter. Also, I never eat lunch because I don't want people to see what I actually would eat. Everyday I just go to the library at lunch, where eating is not allowed, and do work. I guess that is good, but I don't eat. I wish I was normal though. That's all.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You probably need some vitamins and or supplements to make sure your body is getting what it needs. Probably should get tested by a doctor to see what you are deficient in. In case you did not know it you probably have a recently discovered eating disorder called ARFID Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. It was just added to the DSM-5 in may of 2013. You can use that information when you see your doctor. This is a real disorder and you never chose to have it. No reason you can't live a long happy life. You just need to make sure your not lacking in something your body needs. The food not touching just might be a sign of OCD. But I'm not a doctor. Get check ed and then go out and have a great life. People with ARFID are often gifted in other ways.
SherrySherry from Garvestone wrote on February 7, 2016 on 2:10 pm:
I'm 19, almost 20 and I have been a fussy eater since I was about 5/6. I also feel alone because my fiancé and her family are so welcome to trying new foods and I won't. It causes huge anxiety to me to try something new so I just give up. Texture is a big thing for me as most textures just make me gag or make me feel sick. I eat more now because my fiancé has helped me a great deal but I still have a limited diet. For example I hate cheese so Its so embarrassing constantly have to ask for a burger without cheese, pizza without cheese ect. Ive learned that I love to cook which has made me try more but I have to use passatta instead of chopped tomatoes because I hate the lumps. And if I do spaghetti bolognese I have to blitz the vegetables and sauce before I add it to the mince. I won't touch seafood. Ive gutted a fish in college and stuff but I won't eat it at all. I've gained so much weight because of what I eat. I won't eat any fruit and the only veg I eat is potatoes. It's nice to know it's not just me
NancyNancy wrote on February 4, 2016 on 1:24 am:
My 20 year old son just came across SED. It seems to be such a relief to him to know that he is not alone. He eats about 5 things. I constantly worry about him. I would like to hear from anyone that has tried hypnosis.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Dear Nancy
I Have heard from many with our disorder and Hypnosis can help relax a person and put them in a positive frame of mind to try and eat new things. But after that once the new food is in the mouth the real problem is still there and in my opinion Hypnosis is of little long term use in most cases. Yes it would be wonderful if a hypnotic suggestion could get us to try new foods and learn to like it. I believe we can add new things to what we can eat. I have heard from some people who at the start of each year they decide they are going to try a new food as many times as it takes to learn to tolerate it. Does not mean they will actually like it. Just one thing a year.
Greg DragnaGreg Dragna from Arlington wrote on February 3, 2016 on 7:43 am:
so i just found this site from my friend that sent me a video they did on the news and he labeled it "you"

im 30 years old married and we just had our first child.

I didn't think there was anyone out there worse than me but after reading a few peoples stories i see i am not the only one.

my meals consist of cheese nachos chicken nuggets chips certain candy cheese pizza scrambled eggs fries and more cheese nachos. i always have to order off of the kids menu.

it affects every part of my life it seems and it sometimes affects my marriage because i don't know about foods and i can't take my wife to that nice restaurant that she wants to go to and if i do i know i won't eat so ill just drink beer while she eats and its embarrassing. all my friends and family always try to get me to try things because they think its just in my head and I'm just "picky" but they just don't understand what its like. eating like this my whole like has taken a toll on my health also. i grew up playing basketball and was actually pretty good but i never had stamina and being a guard i should've been able to run for days instead of up and down the court 3 times hard.
about a year and a half ago i was playing at a local gym in the morning and i felt like i was dying, i got light headed my body was going numb on one half of my body and had no energy to move. by the time i made it to the emergency room the first ekg said it looked like a heart attack and the second one they said they couldn't tell anything was wrong. a hour or two went by and i kind of went back to normal. hasn't happened since that day but i always feel like the way i eat causes these things to happen to my body.

i got lucky since i work for a vitamin and supplement manufacturer so i get my vitamins very cheap. although i don't take them like i should.

has anyone else found that eating this way has caused their body to shut down?

well thanks for letting me join.
RyanRyan from Dunkirk md wrote on February 2, 2016 on 8:40 pm:
My parents tell me all the time that when I was a baby and a toddler I ate anything and everything, until one day at around 3 years old I started hating foods. Idk why, or what happened. I am 23 and only eat chicken and turkey, and very few vegetables and fruits. Texture is the biggest reason I don't like most foods. Tomatoes, onions, cucumbers, beans, etc. and my gag reflex is like a hair trigger when I try these things. Flavor is a not that important, though. I don't eat red meat just because the look of it turns me off, just the blood of the raw meat. I don't eat any seafood what so ever, and I'm not sure if it's because of the smell or if the few times I've tried crab or certain fish that I didn't like the taste. I hope to start trying different types of fish in the future.
I came across this site while looking for a diet plan for picky eaters, and now I'm focused on researching the psychology behind picky eating. I don't have OCD, which I've read is common in picky eaters, however I have rather severe anxiety. Which I feel prevents me from trying new foods. I can say that being a picky eater and losing weight is extremely difficult because nearly every meal plan out there has a ton of meals that I don't like. I also hate that I only like chicken and turkey because I end up repeating meals multiple days a week and it gets very boring.
I'm glad that I'm not the only one out there, because I have never met anyone as picky as me or even close to as picky as I am.
My dad is somewhat picky, he doesn't eat red meat (but did in the past), and I suppose that is a choice he made. He does eat seafood but not everything.
Hopefully in the future I can expand on the things I eat, but that probably won't come until I get my anxiety under control.
AubreyAubrey from Allentown, PA wrote on February 1, 2016 on 4:36 am:
I had no idea there so many others going through the same thing. I feel so much better about myself I could cry right now.

I am 22 years old and am a very picky eater. My thing is mainly texture. My mom and husband will eat anything. My dad was picky with some things like salads but just like a normal level. My brother used to be as bad as me but with his relationship with his girlfriend getting more serious she is getting him to try more stuff and now he rags on me to try stuff. I feel isolated, especially since I just started a new job as an auditor. With this job we are out at clients alot so about 70% of the time we go out to eat and I dread it especially when I work with a new person and have to explain it all over again.

I mainly eat bugers but just cheese and ketchup, hot dogs the same but will add chilli sauce if it is from one of two locations. I love french fries, pasta with alfredo sauce (if the recipe is good) and tomato sauce but I have chucks of tomatoes. Mac and cheese is a big meal, pb&j is huge along with chicken as long as it is breaded and baked or fried. I only drink water apple juice chocolate and plain milk, and hot chocolate. Ill eat broccoli if it is mixed with mac and cheese (parents trick) but I can eat green beans without anythiny with it. And I love really buttery corn. Oh and bread is my best friend, white only I do not like wheat or anything else but white. Butter is amazing and I do like a lot of things you can make with bread.

I am sure there are pickier eaters but I still feel so isolated because I basically need to make sure I check menus for places we are going for food when at a client or just request we go somewhere with normal childrens food items. I am an outcast in that sense because everyone else in my office loves all kinds of food...

It feels good to vent somehwere I dont have to worry about being judged, thank you for this site!!!
CurtCurt wrote on January 31, 2016 on 4:22 pm:
I'm an adult picky eater (25), nobody understand me...
I tried different food, but sometimes there's food I'm sure I won't like it. For example, fishes, the smell is already too bad for me. I wanna throw up when I smell fish. I already taste fish, but it's too disgusting for me.

I eat meals, not every meals, a lot of vegetables and fruits, and my favorite food are the candies/biscuits.

I can easily recognize ingredients.

Well that's a good summary.
My favorite foods are the fast food... Burger Kings, pizzas, etc.
I'd like to change, to fit the "social norms", but I can't.

Well I think it's a good summary.
JamesJames wrote on January 30, 2016 on 6:43 am:
I came across a random ABC news video while watching YouTube. I started looking into things and wound up here and on a Facebook page. I am beyond thrilled to know that I'm not alone. I cannot express how relieved I feel finding others in the same boat. My picky eating started when I was 2 or 3. I don't think I need to highlight every detail of what I experienced growing up and into my adult years (almost 30 now) as I'm sure we've all had a similar experience. Life has been lonely, relationships have been hard to maintain, and I've grown used to eating alone. There is so much I want to express... sigh... for now I'm going to sleep knowing that I've finally found others. I could cry right now.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Go ahead and Cry. We all know just how you feel. Then when you get up in the morning start a new chapter in your life. Armed with the knowledge you are not alone and you can have a great life in spite of your eating issues. Your a great and wonderful person.
AndrewAndrew wrote on January 29, 2016 on 7:50 pm:
I am so glad to have found this site. I was researching picky eating and came across an ABC News article from 2010 and in the article was a link to this website. I have been a picky eater since I was about 3 or 4. From ages 1-4 I suffered epilepsy, which I attribute to my picky eating. I know that may sound crazy but I was on very strong medications for anyone, let alone a young child, that I think altered my brain enough to make me such a picky eater (my hypothesis on why I think I'm a picky eater). I only eat peanut butter sandwiches (Skippy is the only brand I'll eat) and cheese sandwiches (only american cheese) on white bread or kaiser rolls. I also sometimes eat grilled cheeses (again, white bread and american cheese) or chicken nuggets and fries (from only a few places). This diet has taken it's toll on me in the few short months I have been away at school, and has built up my anxiety. I am glad to see that I am not alone and hope everyone finds comfort in knowing they too are not alone.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Hang in there. Their is no reason you can't have a great life. Just in case you didn't know you probably have ARFID short for AvoidantRestrictive Food Intake Disorder. Added to the DSM in May of 2013. Many of us who are in our support group participated with Duke University Medical Center who did the study. I think you may be onto something about your brain being altered and you now have a skewed perception mechanizum. I lived with ARFID until I was in my 50s before I found out there are others with it. Lots of others all over the world rich and poor countries. At least you now know you are not crazy and there are many others who view different foods just as you do.
AlejandraAlejandra wrote on January 18, 2016 on 3:58 am:
I have been a picky eater since I was 4. My parents can pinpoint the moment I stopped eating most foods. I can't remember ever being anything other than picky. When I was growing up, most people thought I was anorexic because of how skinny I was, but I was too young to avoid foods for the sake of being skinny. I remember one time my dad tried to get me to eat broccoli. I sat with it in my mouth for over an hour, unable to swallow it down. My challenges with food only got worse with age. I only eat chicken breast, I cannot stand any vegetable, I like strawberries but dislike strawberry flavored foods... The list just goes on and on. My family has always teased me about my eating habits, which I hated. Most of my parents friends still believe I only eat chicken nuggets (white meat only) and fries. When people say they are picky eaters, my first reaction is to say "not as picky as me." Most of the time I'm right. I avoid any food related gathering. I remember a Christmas when everyone was enjoying the feast while I ate buttered toast. I would give anything to be able to enjoy food as much as other people do.
Admin Reply by: Bob
We have many people in our support groups that are just as picky and in some cases even picker. But I would say you seem to be on the extreme side of the disorder. By the way this is not your fault and as you know you never chose to be the way you are. This is a real disorder that has been recognized by the medical community.
JennyJenny from Fincastle wrote on January 17, 2016 on 11:08 pm:
I have felt alone in this food battle my entire life. It's still hard to believe I'm not alone. The anxiety and stress related to this problem is never ending. I wish I could not worry about what food is going to be served at social occasions. Why can't I try new foods? It is so extremely embarrassing to live like this constantly making up excuses as to why I won't eat. Knowing I'm not alone gives me hope that there will be help for us someday. I would love to just be able to understand the why?
WillWill from Andalusia wrote on January 15, 2016 on 2:36 pm:
Found this link on Facebook and it was awesome to see after so long there is a group that understands and supports people like me. While I may not have a severe form of this disorder, I can definitely relate. My biggest issue with food is texture. I can't seem to eat any raw vegetables and only a few cooked ones. I can only eat certain fruits. I love the smell of coffee, but the taste is just overwhelmingly bitter. I have often wondered if it has to do with my tongue geography. Everyone says my tongue has the weirdest look and texture anyone has ever seen. Great to know y'all are here.
RachaelRachael wrote on January 15, 2016 on 3:00 am:
My names rachael and I have never thought that there were other people that go through simular things. I've been a picky eater sense age 7. I don't eat meat, vegetables, and very little fruit. I get such anxiety even thinking about trying a new food. When I was little going to girl scout trips I always has to take my own food. It was so embarassing. I was never able to go on long trips for the fact that there would be no food I could eat. I am currently 23 years old and eat the same way. Breakfast I eat toast with peanut butter or children's cereal. For lunch I eat pretzles and usually a granola bar and unhealthy things from the vending machine at work. I normally get teased for.how I eat and it's so hard to explain the way I feel about food. I try and just laugh it off. For dinner I eat either grilled cheese, white cheddar Mac and cheese, chips, crackers, or popcorn. In 1st grade my teacher wanted my parents to take me to the doc because she was concerned about the lunches I brought to school..I was completely healthy. Being 23 now I am still decently healthy for the way I eat. I am slightly overweight, and suffer from low blood sugar a lot but other than that I'm healthy. I have tried trying new foods but I gag. The texture, smells, everything. I don't know if writing my story on here is going to help much. But I'm so glad there are others who go through this. I really hope one day my eating habits change.
Steve FeezorSteve Feezor from Valparaiso wrote on January 14, 2016 on 8:26 pm:
I am so thankful to find others like me. Up until 2 years ago I thought that I was the only person like this. 2 years ago I saw an episode on 20/20 and a woman that only ate fries and I cried to find out that I was not alone. I always hated to try to explain to people that I physically can not eat most food. They usually never believed me or just gave me a funny look. I always avoided family dinners, church, dinners, company dinners, etc... I feel like I have become anti-social but I am not. I am 60 years old but at least I have found others like me. Thank you. Embarrassing to say I am fighting back the tears. Thank you.
Admin Reply by: Bob
FYI I just sent a note to Amber about your finding out you are not alone during her appearance on 20/20. The only reason she did the show was so others could find out and stop suffering alone with our disorder.
Amber is also featured on the front page of this website doing a greeting to everyone.
PattyPatty from Fishers wrote on January 14, 2016 on 3:17 pm:
I am a very picky eater. Ever since I can remember. I always thought it was weird but there was nothing I could do about it. Like many of you. I get really nervous when faced with new foods. Don't get me wrong I think different foods smell wonderful and I always think if I didn't have what I have I would love to try them...but I just can't! People find it so weird and often times at social gatherings I really can never eat anything. Everyone will always ask, "would you like something to eat?", and I always reply that I am not hungry or not feeling well to avoid eating instead of explaining whatever it is I have. You would think by looking at me I would have no aversion to foods lol but I love bread and that is my downfall lol.
So, some of my eating habits...I don't eat yellow foods. Nothing mixes, everything is plain. Plain hamburger, plain, plain spaghetti, no sauces of any kinds, plain potatoes, I only drink water, only vanilla ice cream, plain chips. My shopping list is very limited.
I remember growing up that my mom had to make me a separate supper supper when it was made.
I now have 2 children. My daughter is perfectly fine with food, but my son is just like me. I don't want him to be because I don't want him to go through what I go through. I want him to experience all the world has to offer with food. I don't want him to be an outcast at social gatherings. I usually have to make two different meals at supper time. One for my daughter and boyfriend and one for me and my son. I get scared that he isn't getting the nutrition his body needs. I hope it is just a phase for him, but from the looks of it, I am afraid it is not.

People just do not understand what I go through. They always say you can just try foods! It's hard to explain that no I can't! I will immediately start gagging, vomitting, or have some other physical reaction.

It's nice to find a community where I am not weird.
Admin Reply by: Bob
We have heard of lots of people with our disorder that have children that eat normal and some that eat just like them. In your case it would appear one of your children has gotten it through the genes.
Bob K
MaddieMaddie wrote on January 12, 2016 on 4:30 am:
I've been trying to add new foods to the list of what I can comfortably eat. I seem to reject some foods based on sight or smell alone. For example, I enjoy some strawberry flavored things, but actual strawberries have such an overpowering scent that I can't really get close enough to try one. As far as what I have successfully tried goes, it's odd. I've tried pasta with marinara sauce multiple times, since I like pasta to begin with, but it never seems to grow on me. On the other hand, I tried fried calamari, which is far from my normal comfort zone, and it was fine. Why on earth would my mouth consistently reject things like peas and carrots (which I used to eat when I was a toddler), but then be totally okay with squid meat?!? I'm convinced that if I went to try eating a scorpion and a normal salad, the taste part of my brain would gag at the salad and happily accept the scorpion. If any of you want to expand your food horizons, maybe you should try something that normal people tend to view as unappetizing.
MeghanMeghan from Ann Arbor MI wrote on January 7, 2016 on 2:54 am:
I have to say, it is such a relief to know I'm not crazy! My parents and my boyfriend are the only ones who don't think I'm a complete nutcase. I've tried to try vegetables in the past, but I just gag on them. The smells, tastes, textures, and colors are just so unappealing. And it can be so embarrassing, especially when you meet new people. My closest friends are some of the most patient people. They put up with me wanting to just go get pizza-again. I don't like to try new things. I WANT to try them, but i am always disappointed. Because my boyfriend and I are in such a good place (and thinking about babies!), I'm worried about my selfish eating habits. What if eating this way during a pregnancy can cause serious issues for a child? I wouldn't be able to forgive myself. In the meantime, I'm glad I found this website. It's such a comfort!
Admin Reply by: Bob
We have heard from lots of women who have had very healthy children inspite of the way they eat. The baby will get what it needs. On caution is that we believe that what we have can be transmited through the genes. We have lots of examples of children eating normal with no problems and then we also have lots examples of children who appear to have it from birth just as their parent did. As Marla if you join our group. She has two children and one eats everything and the other is worse than she is. Hope this helps you. If your thinking of marrage your prospective spouse should have any ideas that he can change you.
SarahSarah from Kansas City wrote on January 5, 2016 on 8:19 pm:
It is a great relief to find that I am not alone. It was luck that I found this site that does not judge me for something I cannot control. A friend on Facebook happened to post a link about picky eating being a disorder, it seemed to be my calling. As I read it, I finally discovered the name of what has plagued me ever since I could remember: Selective Eating Disorder. It is disappointing to know that not much is known about it, yet there is still research going on. I have seen at least four different therapists who have tried to help me, but to no avail. Gatherings with friends or family create extreme anxiety due to food being a main source of social functions. I consistently go out to restaurants having checked the menu online to make sure they serve something for me. I have told a select few of my close friends about it (each resulting in tears for me) with a sort of judgmental response. I have always felt ashamed and embarrassed by my lack of variety. As a 20 year old, I love being in college in a different state meeting new people; however, next semester all of my friends are going abroad to Europe leaving me behind. I would be lying if I said that food was not the main reason I won't be going abroad. It is because of the unfamiliarity of cuisine. I hate feeling left out and feeling like a child who is too selfish and stubborn to just taste/try something. My diet is limited to some fruits, chicken, peanut butter, bread, french fries, waffles, cheese pizza (preferably without sauce), and a plain burger. I will admit to having tried a few things in the past few years including eggs and salads, but have not been consistently part of my eating habits yet. And trying those things was very stressful. Aversion of food is my main struggle in life that makes me feel guilty for maintaining. I wish I knew how to cook and prepare something. I wish I was able to expand my habits and see what I am missing out on. And I especially wish I did not avoid spending time with friends or family because of this phobia. I am happy to find a community that accepts me and can help me. Thank you very much.
ArielAriel wrote on January 5, 2016 on 6:24 pm:
I've struggled with picky eating my whole life. My doctor said I would grow out of it but I'm now 24 and I never grew out of it. I've had people be super rude to me and tell me that I should just get over it (if only it were that simple). I've also had people be very understanding and helpful. I've slowly but surely added certain things into my diet but it's still hard to deal with. I'm seeing a therapist to try and help me. I'm just glad to know I'm not alone and that there are other people out there just like me.