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KristinaKristina from Burlington wrote on December 22, 2015 on 9:53 pm:
I have always been a picky eater! My food palate is comparable to a child's. I have always wanted to travel out of the country, but my fear of what week I eat keeps me from fulfilling that dream. My friends are often accommodating; My boyfriend (along with those I've dated in the past) find it frustrating. I am an awesome person, just limited with my food choices.
CharlesCharles wrote on December 22, 2015 on 1:00 am:
Story 1: I took my then girlfriend for a pricey dinner one New Year's Eve. When we got there, it was a Prix Fixe menu. Not a single thing on the menu I could choke down if I wanted to. i did what any grown man would do under the circumstances. I burst into tears. Cut to: me in the kitchen with the chef saying, "Well, what DO you eat?"

Story 2: A friend was having a dinner party. I declined the invitation. She pressed it and I confessed my eating problems. She asked, "what would you be having for dinner by yourself?" I said, "a peanut butter and jelly sandwich." She insisted I come. When I got there, everyone is eating - on my plate were triangles of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches adorned with festive toothpicks.

Unfortunately, she made the sandwiches with strawberry jelly...

As you can imagine, there are many more stories.
AnouschkaAnouschka from Paramaribo, Suriname wrote on December 21, 2015 on 4:35 am:
Hi, I'm very surprised to find a website, this one, where there are stories similar or just like mine. I'm a 28 year non working woman from Suriname, a country in South America. I'll come to the why the non working part. I hope my English is good enough to write my story. I come from a country where dutch is a native language.
I always have been a picky eater, I never could figure out why and neither could my family. I'm not as lucky as some of the others have been with supporting family and perhaps friends but I'm in a better place with my food problems with myself at least.
My mother told me I was a picky eater since birth, I wasn't breastfed because I refused. I was a very healthy baby but I did needed food so they tried with milk, but I was picky even in that. I think I have a problem with certain smells and tastes. I only accepted one kind of milk and so they started me on that. I never had a health problem as a child but I never ate healthy. Like I said picky eater. I can't eat vegetables, certain meats, fish, certain spices, certain fruits and even certain junk foods. My diet when I was child consisted mostly the same everyday, chicken, rice, perhaps eggs (egg whites make me nauseous). When I discovered potatoes, I added that to my diet. Most of the foods always made me nauseous and after nausea usually the throw ups would start. As a child I was force fed a lot of times, it usually didn't help but did make me scared of eating. So as a child I started hating foods, mostly because I hated throwing up (was and is still very painful).Over the years, when I arrived in my teens, I discovered potatoes and fries that was something I could eat without throwing up so I put my foot down against my family and started to stop being force fed or even manipulated into eating something that would make me throw up. I know they mean well, cause if you don't get the nutrients you need you could end up with a lot of health problems. But after years being commented on that I'm just being picky I need to eat vegetables and other things, I stopped caring and started eating what I wanted. It mostly involved fries and since no one was supportive I usually ended up making my own fries. So naturally I was a chubby teen and a chubby young adult.
I searched for years what kind of problem I could have but couldn't find the answer to that question or people like me. Even the doctors couldn't help me so I stopped searching for answers and tried to come to terms with the limitations I had with food. It took me a couple of years but it work I could train myself to eat certain foods, to watch others eat something I would not and tried not to let others know why. I usually don't eat in restaurants or other places and if I do have to than I choose one where they have fries. When anyone why not something else I just say that it's my favorite food and they usually don't make anymore comments on my food choices. Since I don't drink alcohol my excuse works. Only my family and very close friends know about my food problems. When I turned 25 I started having health problems, more so in my feet, fluid retention. The doctors couldn't find out why, they tried everything but nothing would help. So some said perhaps I should lose some weight, maybe that would help. I was chubby but not overweight. Dieting was a big problem for me because I usually only ate potatoes but I tried and it didn't help.
For two years I had big feet, I couldn't complete my studies cause I couldn't wear work shoes in the lab (I was studying for chemical analyst) and since work shoes is the number one requirement I gave up. I thought I could take a break for a year or two and concentrate on getting better. I never did. I got worse. Till this date I have come from fluid retention to having rheumatism and other system auto-immune diseases. But the exact disease or cause they don't know yet. I'm 28 years now and I can't walk anymore. I don't know if my food problems or the reason for my health problems or not but this my story. I did found out a few years ago that I have hyperactive gagging reflex, one of the reasons of throwing up food but it doesn't explain why it happens only with certain foods and spices.
MichelleMichelle from Vancover BC wrote on December 21, 2015 on 4:18 am:
This has been truly an eye-opener... I've been ridiculed, harassed and judged for years on my selective eating. I even went to school to become a Nutrition Coach and Personal Trainer and still have these issues. I'm 24 years old and always got treated like I was a problem. Other family members birthdays got revolved around my eating habits, people ganging up on me just to try something new till I emotionally and physically got sick. All Doctors tell me is exactly what I already know.... Eat healthy this and Healthy that... Great... Anyone looking in a Nutrition book knows what they should be eating, but someone who's never tried almonds, nuts or seeds with SED might take years to even attempt to try. I'm tired of being singled out and reading all these posts make me relieved. This being said I wish there was a cure to make this all go away. I still remember wishing I had no taste buds as a child, youth and adult so I could live a better life.
Admin Reply by: Bob
While I'm one of the pickiest of the picky. For some strange reason I love lots of different nuts. Peanuts, cashews,walnuts,Pecans and almonds are a favorites. I eat then raw, smoked and roasted. I would be willing to bet you might like the raw almond. Not much taste and nothing nasty inside. Plus Almonds are suppose to be good for you. One of the few good for me foods I eat. So if you happen to like any of the other nuts I eat you might like the Almond. But I will never say on this forum. "If only you would try it I know you would love it." That just does not work with us. We are all the same and then we are all so different. Glad you found us.
KellyKelly from NYC wrote on December 12, 2015 on 7:59 pm:
I am so surprised to see that this site exists and that this many people feel the way I do. I am a 24 year old from NYC, so thankfully being vegan or vegetarian is quite common and I can always find something to eat around here. My diet is mainly eggs, buckwheat, cereal, cucumber, avocado, rice, seaweed, ice cream, hamburgers (plain with no bun, extra sauce, and MUST be well done), and a few other items. I have recently started branching out more because my very supportive boyfriend of 4 years is (slowly) but surely trying to help me eat new foods. Sometimes I feel he may be pushy, but it is only because he loves me and he wants me to be able to have a well rounded healthy diet. I can definitely understand this, as his grandma who has similar eating habits to me is having health problems at her old age because of the way she has been eating her whole life. My mother always said the reason I don't eat meat is because a childhood friend's mother showed me a video of slaughter houses and terrible conditions in them. I am not sure if this is true or not, but I am always scared to try meat, even if I sometimes feel I like chicken nuggets I can't get over the fact of eating a dead animal. I can't even touch raw fish or raw ham etc… I feel so bad about this and I hate not being able to cook for my BF the way I would like to because I can't taste the food as I make it for him and I don't know how to experiment with different recipes. I myself would love to try the new foods but once I have that piece of fish or steak in front of me I cannot physically pick up the food and put it in my mouth. I also have a thing with the texture of the food, if I don't agree with it and I still like how it tastes I won't eat it. I always tell myself today will be the day you try something new, but it rarely happens that way. I am going to a sushi dinner on Monday, so hopefully I will try something new! I want to do this not only for my boyfriend but mainly for myself. Especially when I have kids in the future I do not want to set this kind of example for them. If anyone has any tips on ways to feel better and constantly keep trying new feeds, PLEASE let me know. :) I thought I was alone in this, but it turns out there are many of us! hopefully we can all overcome any obstacles we feel are in our way. Happy Holiday's everyone, and remember to pack a little side snack for your holiday dinner 😉 I know I always do..
DarcyDarcy from Philadelphia wrote on December 10, 2015 on 3:56 pm:
After recently doing some online research, I read about Selective Eating Disorder and I believe I have SED. Like most of us here, my parents and I thought it was a childhood habit or a strange unique quirk I just never grew out of! I had never met anyone like me before and have felt so alone with it most of my life. It's incredibly healing and powerful to read everyone's stories so thank you all for sharing! We really aren't alone, and there is nothing wrong with us. For whatever reason, this is just a set back we were born with, and hopefully together we can help each other deal with it better in our own lives. I'll share a bit of my story in the hopes of adding to all of yours! I just turned 21 yesterday, and after all that time I was finally motivated to research what was going on with my extreme levels of picky eating during this past semester (I'm a junior in college) studying abroad in China. I came to China because I am studying Chinese language and culture for my future career. It was a wonderful decision for my education and personal interests, but Chinese food includes very very few of my safe foods. I am a vegetarian (used to eat bacon and pepperoni only, but eventually decided to give them up although I love the taste to become a full vegetarian as I am also grossed out by the idea of eating dead animals), and on top of that I only eat certain fruits and vegetables uncooked and without dressing, cheese pizza, fries, plain pasta with only certain kinds of sauces or butter, eggs or tofu but only prepared in particular ways, some Western breakfast foods like pancakes or cereal or oatmeal, lots of dairy products like yogurt and cheese, and some desserts. I won't eat the vast majority of menu items in your average American restaurant because like most of us I have a lot of specific preferences even for my safe foods, so at a Chinese restaurant you can forget about it. I usually use the full extent of my Chinese language capabilities to explain that I literally want noodles without soup or veggies or meat, which is very hard for Chinese waiters to wrap their heads around. Or I go the simple route and only eat a plain bowl of white rice... which for me isn't very filling or satisfying as a whole meal. The hardest part hasn't just been finding food I feel comfortable eating in China, but also finding social acceptance. Unlike some of us, I have been extremely lucky to have a family that has been incredibly supportive without being enabling in an unhealthy way of my food preferences. My friends in high school and college and current boyfriend of three years are also all very accepting - they sometimes tease or make jokes but ultimately try to understand and respect me as I am. However, in my study abroad program in China, I am very frequently in social situations with lots of other students who aren't friends of mine at Chinese restaurants where my diet is very very publicly displayed - and of course, noticed and picked apart by other students. At first I can try to cover it up as "I'm just a vegetarian," but it quickly shows that there's much more going on when everyone tries to help by pointing out lots of vegetarian dishes and realizes that I don't want to eat any of those either. People in the program have been gossiping and misunderstanding my diet a lot, and I suspect that it was one reason I wasn't able to maintain the first group of friends I was a part of during the semester. Luckily, I found a new group who were much more understanding and not at all bothered by my diet, but it was still very difficult to face all the social pressure and public conversations from strangers my age about my eating habits where I knew that they really were judging me. In reading others' stories, I have seen that one of the most common threads among us is that many are afraid to eat around other people - especially as we get older and have to maintain a more "normal" and professional appearance - and will do anything to avoid those situations. I am a very outgoing and extroverted person, so I have always tried to be relatively open about my eating habits with strangers even when it feels extremely embarrassing or difficult to be honest about. I often cope by making fun of myself in front of new acquaintances to make my diet seem more acceptable through humor and an ice-breaker topic rather than something to cover up completely. But the reality is that it's just another coping mechanism like avoiding eating with people at all, and sometimes those self-effacing strategies and attempts at humor still don't work. Because just as people can be ignorant or insensitive about race, religion, disabilities, one's body type, or other characteristics that distinguish people from each other, there will always be people who do not understand that our way of eating is not some casual choice or a lack of maturity. Trying new foods for some of us is terrifying and sometimes seems impossible - and that is a very real thing. We are all doing the best we can for our health and our lives, and our happiness is also very important within that! Never forget that you are wonderful, and so much more than what you feel comfortable eating and so much more than what anyone may choose to think of you! For me, talking to and hearing from all of you has already made such a big difference just in the past two weeks of discovering this community. So thank you! Keep sharing and keep loving yourself :)
Admin Reply by: Bob
We are so very glad we have been able to help you. We are also glad you are here with us now to share stories about your life.

Welcome
Bob K
JustinJustin wrote on December 6, 2015 on 9:24 am:
I've heard of other people with this disorder. Somebody's cousin or a friend of a friend. I've never talked with anyone else who has it though so I'm curious to join the online community. I'm 23 and I'm in my first year of grad school working for a Ph.D. in psychology. I was a bit chubby in high school and the beginning of college, but I started eating things that were in my food range, but that were healthier and I started working out pretty regularly so I now feel like I'm adequately in shape. I'm lucky to not be as extreme as some others on here, but I have similar experiences. Eating at summer camp was a nightmare. If I'm in a place where I can't get my safe foods I'll starve. I lost about 10 pounds in 8 days one time. I've always felt like I had this big secret I had to hide that no one could know about, but it was just awful because if you're around people long enough, eventually they find out. You can't really hide this. Luckily I can eat fruit, I love fruit actually, berries are one of my favorites, but they're difficult to get in the winter. I do cheese bread (no tomato sauce), some nuts, hotdogs, scrambled eggs, then most of the stuff that is more typical for people with SED. Peanut butter is my go to though, it gets me through life. A few things have happened recently that would be nice to talk about and they've made me look around for some answers. 1. I am so thankful that this is now in the DSM, it feels so much better to be able to tell people this is a real thing and that I'm not a freak or choosing to be this way. 2. This has always been a great source of shame for me, but I just wouldn't go on dinner dates or relatives/friends parents thought I was weird, nothing too awful, but now I'm in graduate school where I'm expected to go out for lunches and dinners with people and it's affecting my professional life and I'm just starting in this program. I want to try and act like an adult. 3. Reading that no one has ever really overcome this. I don't know if that's true, but it would make sense to me. I don't understand how I could fix this. Sure I could branch out a little, try some new things, be able to stomach them, but it would never be routine and I'd never be able to branch out that far. 4. I have depression and anxiety. Recently I'm wondering if food is at the core of both those issues. I'm always tired and I think if I could get the right supplements and modify my diet a little then maybe I would have more energy. 5. I visited a friend outside of Chicago a few months ago. We went out to dinner with his brother and one of his coworkers. I'm used to going out to dinners with people and explaining, I typically don't mind. My friend and his brother knew, but the coworker started asking questions, then more questions, and he started getting rude with it. At one point he pulled out his phone and started taking pictures so he could send shots to his friends of the kid who would die from heart failure by 28. He was a loser, but it still hurt a lot to be attacked like that. Felt shame at first then a lot of pent up anger. About an hour later he brought it up again and I immediately started unloading on him. Eating has never been enjoyable for me, I do it because I have to. But it'd be nice to feel comfortable in my own skin and not hate myself because of this condition
Admin Reply by: Bob
Dear Justin I do hope you join our Yahoo support group. I think we can help you feel better about yourself. While cures seem to be few it is possible to learn to tolerate new things that might help you in your professional life. That doesn't mean you will learn to love new foods. You will be able to look more normal in formal dining events. The sound of clanking dishes at a banquet tend to give me the creeps. It is also funny how many people that have what we have are gifted in other ways. So it's not all bad. Take Warren Buffet he likes to live on candy and 5 cokes a day.
EmmaEmma from Swindon England wrote on December 4, 2015 on 1:52 am:
There is probably nothing worse then when someone tells you your gonna have all these health problems or the most annoying of all is "you'll grow out of it" "taste buds change". I am 23 years old now and from a very early age maybe 3 I stopped eating vegetables, I haven't touched one since! I can't even touch foods that I don't like with my bare hands! I've always been intrigued as to why I can't but I guess there's some psychological reason behind it I just can never put my finger on exactly what happened! I think knowing your not the only one is so helpful and does not make you feel so secluded as going out to restaurants with friends, family etc can be extremely traumatic so I thank this site for existing xx
SarahSarah from Las Vegas wrote on December 3, 2015 on 8:26 pm:
Why did I not find this site ages ago?!?!?! This is SO refreshing to read all of these stories very similar to mine! I am 36 years old and I am a picky eater. Always have been. My mom had to feed me beef babyfood until I was about 3-4 years old. After that, she would add a raw egg to my Carnation instant breakfast shake in the blender so I would get protien. My dad would always force me to eat veggies/fruit when I was growing up, so I have tried many things... and there are just many things I do NOT like - at all! Like to the point of gagging or feeling like throwing up if I eat or even think about eating... namely, fruits and veggies. I at least eat one veggie: carrots and 2 fruits: apples and bananas. But I don't even fully enjoy eating those. They are the only ones barable enough for me, that I feel like I HAVE to incorporate them into my diet. I can't stand any kind of seafood. But I do love one thing - MEAT! I joke that I swear I may have been a carnivorous dinosaur in my past life lol. Most everything I order, whether it be fast food or restaurants, I usually have to special order and it is so annoying! I am very lucky that I have been with my husband since I was 16 and he is very understandable about how I am, although, he still (nicely) tries to get me to try new things now and then. He is the chef in our home and sometimes he uses the food processor to "hide" things in his cooking lol but he makes things the way he knows I will like it. However, he worries about my health. I admit, the older I am getting, I get more worried too. I especially worry about my weight. I was always a healthy weight growing up (on the skinny side as a child), but since the weight gain of having babies, I find it hard to diet to lose weight, because I simply just don't like a lot of healthy foods. I am not severely over weight, but I would love to be back down to where I was. Luckily, I had very healthy pregnancies and have two super healthy boys (ages 4 & 9) - who are not nearly as picky as me - thank God! I am so glad I found a place here where I feel people can read my story and hopefully relate to it. It is so hard when people don't understand why you don't like certain foods. I hate potlucks at work, I get anxiety when eating at new places or with new people, etc... I just wish people could understand - this is not something that I chose. It is not something that is within my control. Eating should be an enjoyable thing. If I don't like something, I am not going to eat it just because it is supposed to be "normal." I do take vitamins to help supplement things I don't get from my aversions... I guess I just wish there was more I can do. Thank you for letting me get all of this out! It tends to "eat" away at me now and then! (no pun intended lol!)
Renato GaricaRenato Garica from Brasilia, Brazil wrote on December 1, 2015 on 11:57 pm:
Firstly I need to talk that It's the first time I wrote or talk about that with someone that I even known, and I'm a little scared, also because English is not maternal language . My name is Renato, I have 19 and I live in Brasilia, capital city of Brazil and I think I'm a picky eater, but anyone psychologist said that, and I know since I was 16, when I search materials in English explain this. Before that, I just thought I was weird, mad or something like that. In my country, it's so few persons that known about it, even the psychologists never heard about the picky eaters. Some people though something like "he just don't like it" but is more than that, I'm really afraid with eating food and his situations, like eat something new or go to a dinner with friends, and I always avoid this situations, like barbecue parties. Even for don't eat anything, I feel bad with the smells; another person’s eating it and asking if I don't want to eat. I don’t like to eat out because I have an impression that are everyone observing me. In the majority of food, I feel disgusting. Every time when someone asked why I don't eat something, I answered that I’m vegetarian, but it’s not true, I don’t even eat vegetable at least. Brazilian people have the culture to eat rice and beans all the meals, and I hate it. I eat sometimes because my parents and doctors that is good for my health and I need these vitamins; so I eat as a medicine. I hate the culture feed of my country, the typical food’s in general, and seems the persons persuades you to eat these foods. I just feel better of “safe” when I visit my relatives in US once out of two years. Seems for me that here don’t have the same variety of foods, and when go the supermarket here I think that I can’t eat anything, in opposite when go the o supermarket in United States I think that I really can anything or at least a good part. It’s really good know that have another person’s like me.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Dear Renato We have several people from your great county of Brazil in our Yahoo support group. If you join our group perhaps you can meet them. You are not alone and you have lots of friends from all over the world in our support group.
Bob K
RachelRachel from England, Essex wrote on November 29, 2015 on 2:03 am:
It's nice to know I'm not the only one who eats worse than a 4 year old. I'm 19 now and at university, and I still eat worse than a baby. I eat more than 5 things but my mum always jokes that my diet resembles the colour yellow/brown: chips, crackers, chicken etc. I could literally tell you an average days food consumption: Coco pops and Ribena for breakfast; a plain ham (procest) sandwich with no butter, a strawberry or raspberry yogurt with no 'bits' in it, and again Ribena or squash for lunch; and chicken and chips with salt, and Ribena or, lemon or orange squash for dinner - Oh and a pile of salt! I also eat a lot of plain tuc biscuits (salty crackers) and then add salt to them.

I do eat some other things but that's the base of it all. When I was a baby I had acid reflux and my tonsils were too big, so I threw up about 10 to 14 times a day until I was two when I had my tonsils taken out. I don't remember this but it's probably the root of my problem.

The annoying thing with my diet, is that it's out of fear. I know its irrational and I have no exact reason for it. When I see a new food it's like my brain just says 'nope'. I think my brain overanalyse the food a bit. When I see a new food I'm usually like; that looks, smells, and feels weird, and that's before I've even tried to try it. With some CBT I made a little progress; I know love real chicken 'a.k.a' not procest; roast potatoes; I can sometimes eat a small portion of cabbage if I eat it with chicken or roast potatoes covered in salt; I tried one meat ball on it's own; I tried a bit of a strawberry but hated the texture; a bit of lettuce in between chicken, which I think I could try again in bread or chicken; I tried one pea which I spat out... Yeah when I say I've tried something it usually means I took a microscopic piece and put on my tongue or in my mouth for a few seconds.

It annoys me so much when people say 'why don't try it?' - If it were that easy for me I would have done that already. I guess I can understand, it's a hard thing to understand, I mean I don't really understand. I wish I could eat 'normally' or least healthily, but I don't know how :(

If I don't change I won't be able to do so much. I won't let my self have kids, as I know that my diet could lead them to be born with health problems, and that even if they weren't they would my role model my eating behaviour and I couldn't put them through that. I can't really go on dates cause, it would be a bit embarrassing to go to a restaurant and be like 'I'll have the chicken nuggets and chips please. Hold the peas and beans. It's gonna cause me some serious health problems, like diabetes or a heart attack.

To be honest though I think I'm afraid of most things. It doesn't really matter if I couldn't go on dates, even if I ate like and adult, cause I wouldn't even know if I liked someone. Plus apart from once when I was 7 which I don't remember, I've never even kissed anyone. I dated someone for 5 days once when I was 13/14, we held hands one time cause everyone wanted us to. We spoke less in those 5 days than we did normally, and I didn't see or talk to him for two of those days cause it was the weekend. I'm afraid to do anything, let alone anything more serious if you know what I mean. (*sigh*) I'm hopeless... I could go on and on about the things I haven't done. It's quite depressing to struggle to find a reason for wanting to live - if you've read this, I'm sorry for 1. going on for ages and 2. putting a downer on your day, unless your a psychopath and get happiness off others pain, in which case "your welcome".

P.S. If you have any advice I'd love to hear it! Hope you don't get hit by a bus 😀
Admin Reply by: Bob
Hold on. Even if you never learn to eat anything new for the rest of your life there is no reason why you can't have a very happy long life. You have a disorder you never asked to have and you would change if you could. Your brain just doesn't recognize many foods as food. Many women in our support group have had very healthy babies who in most cases turn out to be normal eaters. There is some evidence to suggest that it can travel through our genes. But you need to cheer up your only getting started at 19 years old. You are not alone there are many people that have it. Go out and have a great life. Come and discuss this with our Yahoo support group. Bob K
AmandaAmanda from Brattleboro wrote on November 27, 2015 on 8:28 pm:
My family would always get frustrated with me because I never grew out of my strange eating habits even though I would try again and again but couldn't keep from gagging.
People would always give me weird looks when everything I order is from the kids menu.I hated family gatherings because my family would give me weird looks when all I could eat is vanilla yogurt and rolls. I'm so happy this website exists and that I'm not alone! My husband has helped me so much and has me slowly adding new foods to my diet.
Lauren LeathermanLauren Leatherman from Van Wert wrote on November 27, 2015 on 6:09 pm:
Wow! This is such a cool site. I have been a life-long picky eater. A large part of my picky eating is that I am a textural eater. I've been in counselling before to try and combat my picky eating to no prevail. I was writing a psychology report about phobias and figured I would look up the word for fear of trying new foods and I found my way here. it is refreshing to know that I am not alone in being the person that only eats cranberry sauce and turkey at Thanksgiving dinner. It is also refreshing in a way to know that I could be worse. I am really happy to have found this page and it will definitely become a bookmark of mine.
DerynDeryn wrote on November 26, 2015 on 9:54 am:
I'm so glad to have found this place! Hat tip to cracked.com for publishing an article by a sufferer. I thought I was the only one, but it seems not -- and I feel fortunate that I'm not the worst off. I can usually find at least one dish at a restaurant that is edible to me, and if someone is eating scrambled eggs, soup, chili, or tuna (triggers) in my presence, I will only throw up in my mouth and not onto them. Thank you all for helping me feel like I'm not the only pea in my pod.
DaveDave from Bomaderry wrote on November 26, 2015 on 12:23 am:
Im a 24 yr old male in australia who cant eat alot, i dont go out to dinners and its been really hard on my health particularly after leaving high school because you dont reliase how much walking you do around school.
I just wanted to thank you all for making me feel less alone and abnormal for the way i eat, im trying my hardest to do better but its just nice to know im not a freak.
BrittanyBrittany wrote on November 24, 2015 on 6:21 am:
Wow. I'm almost 21 and I have been struggling my whole life with this. With thanksgiving coming up, it had me thinking. So I just googled adult picky eaters and I can't even begin to explain how happy and relieved I am that there's other people just like me. I honestly felt so alone and embarrassed. I get anxiety when it comes to social eating situations. I absolutely dread when I get older and go to my significant others thanksgiving with his family. People have always made me feel like my eating habits are an inconvenience which is why I felt so alone. I literally started crying years of joy in just knowing I'm not the only one like this. Thank you.
LeanneLeanne from Leeds wrote on November 22, 2015 on 3:18 pm:
Yes thank you for this safe place!! I've always been picky with food. I thought it was due to being in control after my parents divorced when I was 7, However my mum tells me I was picky even before that. My young nephews seem to have the issue too. Which sadistically makes me feel better, that it's more of a genetic problem rather than me being the problem.
I've always been made to feel like I'm a nuisance but I have a fear of trying new food like I think it tastes bad before I've tried it. I'm scared that I would never get rid of the taste. I know it's irrational but I can't help how I am. Because this is me, I eat fruit and veg so I can be healthy I'm just not very varied when it comes to choosing a meal. I have got better, I do think that is down to surrounding yourself with the right non judging people who'll making feel at ease rather than shamed
MaddieMaddie wrote on November 21, 2015 on 2:10 am:
Ashee, I agree with you completely when it comes to thanksgiving. If you're a macaroni person like me, you might try the fried macaroni appetizer at California pizza kitchen. It's like macaroni surrounded by the breading from fried chicken.

I've noticed quite a lot of us selective eaters commenting about a fear or embarrassment of eating with other people, which makes me think maybe these food aversions might have something to do with social anxiety. While I'm able to eat in front of people, and don't avoid social situations because of food, I know I definitely have a hard time enjoying food if everyone makes a big deal about it, even if it's a food I like. If I know I'm going to be somewhere where other people decide the food options, I tend to bring along some backups just in case there aren't any plain bread rolls. (Weddings are a nightmare with all that "fancy" catered food) I think a significant part of the food issue is that we picky people don't want to feel like outcasts over what we eat. The more attention people put on us, the more our appetite diminishes. It's like being stared at while you're trying to sleep- you just can't get comfortable. In my attempts to acquire a taste for new foods, I've found trying things when I'm completely alone has been far more successful than trying things around other people. I encourage all of you to keep trying to find new things to eat. It may be difficult, but every success is worth the effort. You may have to try foods that some normal eaters would shy away from, but it's worth it. (I was feeling particularly brave one day and discovered that my mouth accepts breaded shrimp of all things, while I still can't handle the chewy texture of ham) Travel might also help: being in a foreign environment makes your brain more willing to accept unfamiliar things of many kinds. I hope you all find new and wonderful foods to eat!
MaddieMaddie wrote on November 21, 2015 on 1:11 am:
I'm a somewhat picky eater- not to the extent of health problems, but I struggle with all fruits, all vegetables, and some meats. Most restaurants seem to feel a need to make dishes more complex than they need to be (especially when it comes to macaroni, which is constantly given hot spices). I always feel awkward at family get togethers because of my eating habits. My extended family doesn't understand the problem, and they end up making me feel even more uncomfortable by pointing out the fact that I refuse to eat some foods. They are always saying, "just try it, it's good" about things that just don't look or smell edible to me. It's extraordinarily difficult to defeat the gag reflex I often get when trying a new food, so I always resist trying new things in social situations. I have, however, successfully chewed and swallowed corn, carrot, pea, a few blueberries, and small pieces of broccoli. I've also developed an acceptance of marinara sauce (although I still don't enjoy it). I still have a hard time chewing fruits or vegetables- it's really the texture that bothers me. I have found three ways to try things that don't trigger a gagging episode for me: swallowing small things whole, adding an unfamiliar flavor to soup, and a tactic where I try something way outside my comfort zone (like a vegetable), and then eat a whole meal that is still out of my normal range of foods, but closer to what I am accustomed to (like pasta with marinara sauce). The only other thing I know of that helps is to make sure you're intensely hungry before trying something new. Even steamed vegetables start to look delicious when you're in the midst of a hunger induced headache. If you're one of the people who only eats pasta plain or with butter, I suggest you try melting just a little bit of butterkase cheese over some noodles. It's a very mild cheese, with a buttery flavor. Swiss and gouda are also good mild cheeses. If flavor is what trips you up, try learning to play any instrument with a reed. New woodwind reeds taste pretty bad, so if you can get past that to play some music, you can get past most flavor issues.
AsheeAshee from San Marcos wrote on November 12, 2015 on 7:36 pm:
I'm so happy to find an actual support group for this. I'm 22 and all my life I've been told I'm spoiled, or that I will grow out of my picky eating but it never happened. A lot of times what other people call food just doesn't look or smell edible in any way to me. I HATE eating in public or ordering food in front of people because they always give me weird looks when everything I order is from the kids menu or "plain & dry". I hate Thanksgiving, that's always just family giving me weird looks when all I can eat is mac & cheese and rolls. I'm so so so so happy this place exists, thank you for a safe place.