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TeganTegan from gosport wrote on May 29, 2018 on 2:19 pm:
Hello I could spend hours writing about my issues with food. I will try and cut it down as much as I can. I am 23 years old and have been a fussy eater as long as I remember. The worst point was as a child when I ate nothing but pasta and bisto cheese sauce for five years. I now eat more but not much. Imostly pasta. I eat cheese pizza, chips, white bread, chicken, cheese and not much else. I eat junk such as crisps and sweats but when it comes to "real food" I phisically can not eat it. I can't even touch food that I don't like. Anything that goes in mouth that I am unsure of makes me gag and I can not swallow it. Even tried a few things recently and even though I like the taste I still can't swallow it. I have had to leave restaurants before because I don't like anything on the menu. I avoid going for meals with friends and Haveing dinner at other people's houses. As a result my weight has always been up and down..I have starved my self before in order to loose weight as I can't diet as I don't like most food. I have general anxiety and health anxiety and am am a self consiouse person. I worry about my health more and more each day but can't do anything about it because of my fear of food. I am a mother of 3 year old and really want to overcome my fears in order to get him eating proply...the main things my son eats is noodles and he dosnt like any meat fruit or veg. I have thought about going to the doctors but I am so embarrassed. Would they do anything anyway?...I could go on and on about food issues and food issues that happend to me when I was younger but I'm just being to the point....I am a very fussy eater and I need to change.
Admin Reply by: Bob
One thing I have learned over the years since 2003 there appears to be a very strong genetic link to our disorder. It really can be transferred from parent to child through our genes. Research continues into what is going on with us. Bob K
RachelRachel from West Chester wrote on May 24, 2018 on 4:49 pm:
Hello!
My name is Rachel, I am 22 years old. I’ve always been a very picky eater but the past 10 years I can only eat breads, cheeses, pasta and steak, I’ve had mozzeralla sticks and fries every single day for the past 7 years, can’t eat anything that has any weird textures. A lot of food smells good to me and when I try anything for example a carrot one time, I automatically throw up when I️ try to swallow it People now notice that it is an actual problem and I’m really starting to get worried about my heart and health lately. I’ve never eaten a vegetable before or any semi healthy food. Has anyone tried treatment that has been successful or tried anything that helps expand your foods?
CodyCody from Big Rapids wrote on May 21, 2018 on 6:48 pm:
My name is Cody, I have never been able to eat correctly. For some reason I can smell food and think that is smells fantastic but as soon as I try it then it's like my throat closes and I can't swallow it. I have been living off of pizza and pasta for about 20 years now. Btw I'm 27. Doesn't anyone have any advice that could help me? I hate that I can't eat anything.
Rachael KelleherRachael Kelleher from England wrote on May 20, 2018 on 10:08 pm:
Hi I'm Rachael, ever since my mum first tried me with solid foods I've been picky! She was told by the health visitor to keep trying different flavours and textures but that didn't work, so they told my mum to put the food in front of me and if I was really hungry I'd eat it, in desperation my mum tried it thinking I'd eat the food, but it didn't work.
I don't eat any fruit or vegetables, which obviously makes meals away from home difficult (there are other foods I don't like as well, that is just the major groups), going into primary school I was always made to feel bad about not eating fruit or veg and my teachers would always try to make me have it. I can't even touch the foods I don't like, even the thought of it makes me feel anxious. If I did touch food that wasn't within my safe foods I'd have to wash my hands.
When I started getting school dinners it became more difficult, there was never much option! The dinnerladies always put the foods I didn't like on my plate and when I didn't eat them, which was every week I was always asked if I was ill. One time it was 'fish and chips friday' and they didn't have any beans left so apparently they had to put peas on my plate, and I didn't touch them, a teaching assistant told me that if I didn't eat them I'd have the fish taken away, the fish was the only thing I was eating!!
As I've got older I have learned to manage anxiety more with picky eating, I cannot touch foods that I don't like though. I am more relaxed with 'contamination' now as well, but I still have to pick out all that I don't like before I eat, only then can I actually enjoy the food.
Over the years I've lost count of the amount of times I've heard people tell me to give a certain food a try or to try their meal that I don't like because they cook it a special way and it just makes me want to scream!!
My family are really good about it, my sisters new boyfriend however is determined to make me try new things.. It won't happen
Friends in the other hand have been tricky, I've had to decline invitations to meals as I would not eat anything there or I would have to spend time picking out bits from the meal, obviously it would then not be enjoyable. I also am one of those people who looks up the menu beforehand and I will ask if certain things come with the food, my close friends are really good about it as they know its not just me it's an actual problem and I can get really worked up over it.
That's a very shorterened version of the story!
ToriTori from Charlotte wrote on April 29, 2018 on 5:36 am:
I’m Tori, I’m 22, and I’ve always been this way. When I was a baby, my parents say that I would reject any baby food that had meat in it. I would eat calamari and shrimp, but that disgusts me now.

My parents like to teasingly call me a “breadatarian”. I don’t eat any type of meat, fish or vegetables. The only fruits I’ll eat are cantaloupe, strawberries, the occasional apple and blueberries (but only in waffles, bagels, muffins, etc. - never on their own). I don’t eat eggs (unless they’re baked into something), and the only cheese I consume comes in the form of mozzarella sticks, cheese pizza (with the right ratio of cheese to sauce), and grilled cheese (but only from certain places). I basically survive off of milk, Honey Nut Cheerios, saltine crackers, bagels/toast, and sweet things that are awful for me.

It’s not that I’ve tried all of these foods that I don’t eat and decided that I didn’t like them - I’ve never tried most of them. The only piece of meat that I’ve ever had in my life was a chicken nugget that my parents bribed me to eat in order to get a frosty from Wendy’s when I was little.

It’s not for my parents lack of trying. I got the attempted force-feeding, the bribing, and the “you’ll sit here until you eat this” (I would sit there and cry for an hour over having to choke down a single green bean). The doctors would tell them to not cater to me and “she’ll eat when she’s hungry”. Nothing worked.

I think it’s a mixture of aversion and something psychological. If something smells or looks gross to me (meats, veggies, etc), I’m not going to eat it. It’s like I can’t bring myself to try new things. I thought for the longest time that I was the only one until I found out that SED/ARFID existed; now, I wonder if that’s what I have.

In the past, going to new restaurants and hanging out with new friends/having sleepovers used to make me worry. In fact, I still get a little worried when I’m out with friends from college and they want to go somewhere to eat. We recently went to New York City for a class trip and twice I went to a restaurant with friends and only ended up having a soda because there was nothing there that I would eat.

I’d consider myself a pretty outgoing person. To lessen my anxiety about situations like those, I’ve decided that being up-front is the best way to go about it. I don’t mind telling people that there’s something odd about my diet. Sure, some of them don’t believe that it might be an actual eating disorder (“I don’t believe that; you’re just picky”), but the majority are at least understanding to my face.

I don’t know if it’ll ever change. The stories that I read about ARFID in the news sometimes talk of new things being added to people’s menus, but that hasn’t happened for me. It is really comforting to see everyone on here telling their own stories. It makes me feel less alone.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Hello Tori Glad you found us and you are not alone. Your story is very similar to many who have visited this guest book before you. No reason why you can't have a great life no matter how many things you can eat. Being up front has worked for me especially if you are dating someone. Make sure to get your ARFID out and in the open very early in any possible future relation ship. Bob K
Vegan BagsVegan Bags from Tokyo wrote on April 25, 2018 on 10:50 am:
Thanks for the information! It helped us a lot considering that we are vegans!
PascalePascale from Antwerp wrote on April 4, 2018 on 9:35 pm:
Since childhood I've been known as "The Breadmonster". Now I'm 30 and ironically recently have developed a potentially life-threatening and rare wheat (and gluten) allergy .... I feel angry that I can't eat my favorite food anymore, which was bread and croissant and cookies, etc. This means I'm losing weight rapidly. My BMI is 17,5. Already two dietitians, for my allergies and underweight, have refused to help me further, because of my autism-related picky eating issues. My psychiatrist tells me I do not have an eating disorder because my lack of eating is solely an autistic problem, because eating and organising it is too complicated for me. He has never heard of ARFID or Picky Eating Syndrome. I have strong feelings of aversion and disgust against potatoes, starches, legumes, soy, nuts and certain vegetables. I'm a bit confused because most picky eaters like the things I don't and vice versa. My favorite foods are all fruits, salads, certain meats and fish, sheep-yoghurt (and -chees) and hard-boiled egg. and also very picky drinking behaviour (I don't drink plain water). I so much would like to gain weight (5 to 10 kilos), but I don't know how to do that. I suffer from chronic vomiting for years, which led to gastroparesis and reflux. The food that I want to eat the most, is only luxury food, which I can't afford. I want to eat shrimp, lamb, crab, lobster, pigeon, squid, artichok and asparagus. Is this not an eating disorder? Because I have made my doctors clear that I really want to have tube feeding to remain and gain weight. And I would like most to NEVER eat anything at all (which is biologically not possible), IF I can't indulge in my favorite foods anymore. So besides the luxury foods, it's all the bread, of which I used to consume more than 1000 kcal /day.
SunnieSunnie wrote on April 4, 2018 on 12:21 pm:
I've been picky since I was a kid, until now in my teenage years.

I'd usually only eat the usualy kids' stuff like pancakes. I cant stand condiments at all. My "spaghetti" is actually just pasta, plain noodles, plain a lot of stuff. And chicken and the only flavour of pizza I like is cheese (thankfully though I got comfortable with cheese with sauce, instead of just pure cheese. So I kinda improved.)

When I'm at social events where I have to eat, I get nervous and I see food I don't eat often, but I put them on my plate because I'm embarrassed I have such restricted taste. I only ever told one person about this and I'm afraid to tell anyone else cause I'll seem weird to them.

I've been trying to eat a wider variety of food like meat and vegetables especially, but I'm so slow when I eat them and they're so hard to eat.

Yet I'm still not losing hope that someday, I'll be able to eat normally and not get embarrassed at social events because of what I eat.

So yeah, I'm so glad to know I'm not alone in this.
AshleyAshley wrote on April 1, 2018 on 5:54 am:
I’ve been a picky eater since I was little. I don’t know why I am. If anyone has suffered more with my eating habits it’s my mom. I have an older brother who will eat everything but then I came along and wouldn’t eat anything. She’s tried everything from doctors (who back then said that “she’ll eat when when she’s hungry) to trying to punishment (if you don’t finish your plate, you can’t leave) and none of it worked.

To this day, I only eat certain things like plain cheeseburgers with ketchup, fries, hot dogs, chicken (only white meat), chicken-flavored ramen, cheese pizza, and only recently added pot-roast, roast beef, pepperoni rolls, and turkey. There may me a few more things... I also seem to love sweets but only if it’s chocolate or peanut butter

I got made fun of by peers and teachers when I brought lunch to school and when I older and didn’t have the option, I would starve for the day.

Just the idea of eating new food makes me anexious. What’s worse is when my friends point it out and they try to make me eat new things. It’s like a block comes down when the phrase “here try this” is spoken. It makes anything else I put in my mouth taste like ashes and blah DX. One time, my roommate harassed me so much about trying something new (I don’t remember what it was) but it made me upset and cry (I’m pretty sure I was having a panic attack because she wouldn’t stop it and thought I was being dramatic over nothing.)

The worst part of being like this, a extremely picky eater, is that you know it’s wrong and you stop it and try something new but when it’s gross and you feel sick just trying it, and you know something is wrong with you.

When I think about how picky I am, it hurts and I get upset. I hate that I’m like this. I wanna like other food. I want to eat normal things and be adventurous but whatever causes that mental block for food comes up and it makes food repulsive and gross and anxious.
LaurenLauren from Houston Texas wrote on March 27, 2018 on 8:16 pm:
I am almost 27 years old. I am a horribly picky eater. When I try new foods I either physically can’t eat it or I get so anxious about it that I freak myself out and just leave it on my plate. My picky eating causes me a lot of social anxiety. I find myself not wanting to go out or do things because I’m so afraid of food situations. I went to a party hosted by a lady I work with last year and I tried to just pass off that I’d already eaten but she was offended. Then this year she is hosting a party and came over to me and pointed out that she can make me something special. I hate it when people notice I don’t eat and go out of their way for me. I wish I could fix myself. I have prayed for years and tried to just accept it but it is just so hard. I’ve tried going on dates and planning it out strategically so I know where we are going will have something that I can eat but after a few dates they start to notice and it always ends. Can anyone give me some advice? How do I meet people that are like me? How do I explain to people that I’m a picky eater and I don’t want them to draw attention to it.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Trying to hide your eating from a date you are really interested in will almost always end in failure. Lots of people have hidden issues and your best solution is being totally up front with a person you are interested in from the very beginning. Revealing a big secret after a relationship has gotten serious will almost always cause it to fail. There is no reason you can't have a great life. Embrace who you are and let people know about your disorder and see if things don't get better for you. This advice is not for young children or teenagers. In their case other children can be very cruel. Good luck and now try to be upfront with your issues. You never asked or chose to eat the way you do. You would change if you could Bob K
KevinKevin wrote on March 26, 2018 on 7:05 am:
I have been labeled a picky eater by my friends and family for as long as I can remember. I was always told that I would grow out of it. But I am 18 years old now and I still haven't "grown out of it." As I get older I'm experiencing more social challenges associated with food. I get made fun of a lot by my family and church leaders and friends. They think they're being funny but they don't understand the adversity I'm dealing with. It's embarrassing. I want to like foods but I just can't. I recently had an experience while celebrating my younger sister's birthday that really got to me. I don't like Mexican but that's where we went to go get for dinner. On the menu was a whole bunch of stuff that made me gag thinking about it. There was a small section called "north of the border". There was mac and cheese, grilled cheese sandwich, and chicken strips. I opted for the chicken strips. Ordering them out loud was hard for me because I was embarrassed. I was the only one not getting Mexican besides my three year old niece. But that wasn't the worst of it. When the server came with the food, she came back with the mac and cheese my niece ordered and my chicken strips. The lady thought that both were for my niece. My older sister quickly corrected her and said that her daughter only got the mac and cheese. So the server asked if it was my sister's boyfriend's 11 year old brother's food. He said no. Then I raised my hand and said that it was mine. And everyone laughed and even pointed at me. It was embarrassing. I quickly lost my appetite and sat there with anxiety building up. My own parents laughed. The only person that didn't laugh at me was my girlfriend whom I recently talked to about ARFID, something I've recently heard about and started looking into.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Wow what a bad experience. You appear to have ARFID and I would suggest that you make all your loved ones aware of it and if I were you I would never get trapped into a dinner like the one you just went to. There is no reason you can't have a happy life no matter what you can or can't eat. Ask your folks what they would do if they found themselves stuck in a restaurant that only served baby poop.
CodyCody from Cedar Rapids wrote on March 22, 2018 on 1:06 am:
Hi there! 32 year old female who has always been told I have the taste buds of a four year old. I have EoE and am currently hoping to lose weight through diet and exercise. But it's hard when I like so few foods!
KatieKatie from Seattle wrote on March 20, 2018 on 4:03 am:
After a not so wonderful encounter with broccoli last night, I have been feeling all kinda of weird today in reflecting on my dinner last night. My boyfriend attempted to cook me my second meal with a vegetable (I hate vegetables, and have since I can remember). The first meal he made we had Brussel sprouts, that was ok and pretty tasty actually. I pretended not to feel the slight unfavorable texture between my teeth and was able to eat quite a few. WIN! Broccoli on the other had was not so good. I could hardly take a bite and the ones I did had me almost gagging... I have had severe texture issues with food forever. Last night I felt awful at my inability to eat a flipping bite of BROCCOLI!! I was embarrassed and it didn't help that my boyfriend got frustrated with me in difficulties with eating food, foods, most foods.

I am grateful for his effort in trying to expand my palette but this is something I have been dealing with for decades now and if any change is going to happen its not going to happen with one meal... and it definitely won't change with lack of patience.

If I didn't have to eat every day, I wouldn't. If I could just have a juice or take a pill to suffice I would. But theres no magic drink or pill to replace the value of food. So instead.... I eat the handful of things I actually like and I cycle through them until I get bored. The tough days are when none of your 5 go to meals sound good. then enters pizza or any other junk food.

Most meals for me consist of any combination of the following: chicken, turkey, salmon, eggs, beans, rice, bacon, popcorn, chips, ice cream, turkey sandwiches, PB&J... I don't mind the flavor of onions or tomatoes but hate the texture of them. I gag eating lettuce so mostly all salads are out (I don't know why Brussel spouts don't affect me the same as most other leafy greens, hmm) I will say I have found a mixed greens smoothie with peanut butter thats pretty good (no leaf texture!), I like potatoes and yams only if they are roasted with not a lot of mushy potato, and crunchy outside or skins or bacon bits and cheese on top to mask the texture of smashed potato, and I hate mashed potatoes or anything that texture. Yogurt I can only eat with granola and fruit, not by itself. Any foods the texture of yogurt, pudding, or mashed potatoes are pretty much a no go. I HATE most vegetables, especially: carrots, celery, green beans, peas, cauliflower, squash. I love fruit but not melons. I like avocados but only on a sandwich as a spread, cannot eat plain.
PLUS, I'm also gluten free and mostly dairy free (all but cheese, can't give it up but I'm picky about what types as some don't hurt as much)

I will say that since being a kid I have expanded the foods I eat. My options are still limited though and eating with these "issues" is difficult and mentally exhausting. It can be so embarrassing and often times people just think I'm acting like a picky 5 year old. I just wish people were more understanding of how difficult it is for me just to eat a meal. I wish I just liked food, and could eat anything anywhere, try new things, new flavors and actually enjoy rather than feel sick or scared or nauseous.

Thankful for finding this group. I just stumbled upon this page while doing some reattach about why I'm so picky after last nights mini meltdown. Hope to learn more and find some others to relate to. Thanks for reading..
JackieJackie wrote on March 15, 2018 on 8:00 pm:
I believe my picky eating is more mental. The only meat I eat is bacon or pork roll (I wont even do ham because of how it gets in my mouth.) I'll eat corn , watermellon, and cantelope. Those are pretty much the only healthy things I eat. The rest of my stuff is processed. My schedule is part time work and full time school so I am constantly on the go and typically just stop at a fast food place to grab some lunch. I noticed I have gained a lot of weight since high school (I've been in college for 5 years) and I want to go back to the way I was but I do not have time to be that active. I just want to be comfortable in my own skin.
Admin Reply by: Bob
There are many of us who only eat bacon. The kind that is crispy and well cooked making it easy to chew and swallow. Bob K
DeanneDeanne from Toronto wrote on March 12, 2018 on 1:00 pm:
My name is Deanne, I'm 26 and being picky has pretty much plagued me my entire life. Even as a baby my mom claimed I was impossible to feed and only liked a few flavours of baby food. I've never had red meat in my life. No steak, no burgers. The smell of bacon makes me sick so I won't touch it. I won't eat chicken unless it's breaded like strips or nuggets. I don't like vegetables, only eats apples and bananas for fruits. I don't eat pasta or any ethnic foods. I love dairy but I'm lactose intolerant so I carry around Lactase with me. I want to enjoy foods but I'm such a visual person and so many foods absolutely look repulsive to me. Even sometimes something that I don't mind, I can't deal with the texture. If people try and get me to try new foods I get sever anxiety attacks. No one quite understands the struggle because they don't know other picky eaters. I can never go to any nice restaurants unless they have chicken strips or plain cheese pizza. I have a strong sweet tooth and I love chocolate and some candy and chips. My diet consists of vanilla protein shakes and supplements because all the foods I do like are considered "junk food" or "kid food".
Elizabeth ZiehenElizabeth Ziehen from Green Bay wrote on March 11, 2018 on 8:50 pm:
Hello, my name is Eliza. I have struggled with picky eating ever since I was a young kid. Currently, I my diet can be described as basically bread and dairy products. I really hate being this way, because I always feel bloated or slow because of my poor diet. I also have a severe iron deficiency because of this. I really want to try more foods, but I have to take baby steps in order to try something. My dad doesn't understand that I can't just go out an eat a tuna sandwich, and he keeps pushing me to eat more things. Peer pressure isn't good for me, and it just makes me want to stay in my comfort zone. I wish more people would understand.
Julie LairdJulie Laird from Leicestershire wrote on February 27, 2018 on 3:17 pm:
Hi, I have only just come across this site and have only read half a dozen entries so far - wow, I'm not the only who has food issues. Mine isn't so much as I don't like the taste, my problem is that I just can't try anything new. I don't eat any vegetables apart from Potatoes and Peas, salad is a No Go area, and fruit is a Banana inside a chocolate and banana cake. Meat is ok as long as there is no fat on it (apart from Lamb and Game - there's no way I would try them). I absolutely adore Bread and Milk and could quite happily live on a crusty ham cob with a glass of milk. My husband is the complete opposite to me, the weirder the food the better, there is nothing he will not try and often gets frustrated with me if he wants to go to a restaurant and I refuse as there is absolutely nothing on the menu that I would be willing to try. I would love to be able to overcome this fear of trying new foods. I'm going to spend some time reading through the site to see if anybody has any ideas for me to try. Thanks for taking the time to read this. Julie
Susan CottenSusan Cotten from Birmingham wrote on February 22, 2018 on 3:10 am:
Hi, I'm 63 yrs old and haven't had any fruit or vegetables (or casseroles, or soups, etc etc) since the early 1970's. Until recently I was very active and according to blood work, very healthy. About 8 months ago, I began having serious gastrointestinal
issues that left me mostly homebound. I'm much better now but I believe my nutritional deficits have contributed to my condition. I'd like to find help. Thanks!
LindseyLindsey from Lancaster wrote on February 7, 2018 on 4:05 am:
Hello,
My name is Lindsey I am currently 26 and I have never had a salad. The only thing green I can eat is sweet peas. So with the peas I can also eat raw short carrots, corn, bananas, strawberries and that is it for fruits and veggies. Tuna is the only fish I eat. I have to have my rice plain white my chicken has to be well done. No bones, no red, no fat, not gristle on my meat. I have had my issues my whole life. Buttered noodles, pizza, and junk food keep me alive. When a food I can’t eat come near me I have a panic attack. I can usually hold my anxiety back and keep it inside. Although I have had to leave reastraunts because I have went into panic attacks before. If Lettuce, onions, any type of nut, or anything that gets accidentally put in my food I have to pay just for the receipt. I get made fun of, told I do it for attention, people have used it against when they have been upset. I want help!! I dream of eating salads and those little red tomatoes everyone eats in one bite. I just want to be normal.
Admin Reply by: Bob
It's not your fault and you probably have our disorder called ARFID. You never asked to be the way you are. No reason you can't have a great life no matter how many things you can eat.
Bob K
JulieJulie wrote on February 5, 2018 on 7:49 pm:
I've recently cut out some foods that aggravated stomach distress, I'm feeling better and also receptive to trying new foods, because the foods I did eat, I can't anymore. As there are few foods I will eat, I've had to find others and it's easier this time, something seems to have shifted in my perception. I've suffered stomach ailments since childhood, this is hopeful news. According to a preliminary online survey by researchers at the Duke University Center for Eating Disorders, extremely picky eating may be more common in adults than you think. Theories are often associated with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder or autism. Research indicates Selective eaters may experience food differently than other people: they tend to reject food because of look or smell, YES- rather than taste, and they often have had early negative associations with food, like stomach problems or acid reflux in infancy, reported by LiveScience