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BrianBrian from Fairfax wrote on February 11, 2017 on 5:47 am:
I am glad to see that I am not the only person with this issue. I eat about 5 different things and at 60 I deal with it. The issue that I have now is that I start a new job and do know how to handle the 1st day lunch with the boss. I have gotten to the point where I do not really care what other people think, but I am scared to death about this one. Any thoughts or advice? Thanks
Admin Reply by: Bob
Tell the truth that you have an eating disorder called ARFID Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. A medically recognized disorder since may of 2013. Explain how it limits the foods you can eat. Or you can say you have some lower GI distress on the day of the luncheon. Method two would only kick the can down the street. Sooner or later if your new job has lots of meetings planned around restaurant meals you will have to tell them. If it were me I would just tell the truth and be done with it. As I got older it has been way easier to get it out in the open and eliminate a life of constant stress hiding the big secret. What you have is no different than someone who is color blind. Bob K
anneliseannelise from fillmore wrote on February 5, 2017 on 7:03 am:
I am so blessed I have found this website because I thought I was the only one in the world. Hi there. My name is Annelise. I am 19 years old and I am pretty sure I have SED/ARFID. When I was younger, I would eat many different foods including vegetables (I know!!) But since I turned four, my eating started to change. My family (mostly my mom, my aunt, and my grandma) would bully me about my eating. They would say, "don't you know how to eat?" or "you're just being stubborn", or they would even bribe me to eat certain food. What they didn't understand was I can't physically eat food that I don't like. I will throw up. I will gag. I didn't tell anyone about my eating problem until two years ago. I told my boyfriend before anyone, and at first, he was a little confused but he was also open minded about it. My eating has prevented me from going to social events, from going to sleepovers, from birthday parties, christmas parties, etc. It even prevented me from dating my boyfriend at first because he wanted to take me out on a date and God forbid, he would take me somewhere to eat. I eventually told my three friends at the time and they understood and respected me. Since then though, I have also developed a binge eating disorder. My diet currently consists of chicken strips/nuggets (but only from fast food places or restaurants), french fries, pizza (only pepperoni and rarely just cheese), plain hamburgers, ketchup, carbs such as bread and crackers but absolutely NO PASTA, and two fruits (strawberries and apples). Anything else will make me throw up. Even the sight or smell. I'm having a problem because my binge eating is taking over my life. I have gained fifty pounds in two years and I am on the verge of becoming a type two diabetic. I am addicted to food, no doubt about it. I am struggling because if I didn't have selective eating disorder, I would binge eat vegetables and fruits and other healthy things. But since I do have that eating disorder, I only binge eat fast food. I came here for support. My boyfriend is becoming very frustrated with my food addiction to the point where he is telling me to "just get over it", but we all know, it ain't that simple. I need support and love and I am glad I have found this website. Thanks guys. Hope to be hearing from you soon.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Dear Annelise
Glad you found our website. I recommend you join one of our support groups one on facebook and the other on Yahoo. Both have links on our first page. It does sound like you need to find some professional help with your binge eating. Medical professionals have had treatments for it for many years. Our eating disorder is very difficult to treat. Please be the best you can be.
Bob K
TeganTegan wrote on February 4, 2017 on 7:24 pm:
Hi, I recently posted my story about my picky eating and am thankful that I got a reply, and it's reassuring to know I'm not alone, I'm just wondering if anyone has been to the doctor? I also have anxiety and wish to go to sort out my health and as I said before..I need to sort it because my son is becoming very fussy..worse than me in fact (which is hard). But I'm anxious and embarrassed to tell a stranger that i most likely have an eating disorder..so I'm wondering, what do I say to them and what help will they give me?
Admin Reply by: Bob
Your son may have got your disorder through his genes. We have heard of it running through generations in the same family. It use to be before the medical community noticed our disorder we all hid it from most everyone we know including our doctors. Not anymore it has a name and it's official ARFID Avoidant/Restrictive food intake disorder. It might be a good idea to get some tests to see if you are deficient in anything. If you are then you need to find some supplements or identify foods you can eat that will help fix the deficiency. Your doctor is there to listen and help you be the best you can be. If you do not get any real help from your current doctor than I would look for a doctor who is interested in helping you. It could even be a teaching moment for your doctor when you educate him about ARFID. He may have had other patients with it and he didn't even know it. Bob K
JenniferJennifer from Rome wrote on February 2, 2017 on 2:08 am:
I have always had anxiety about trying new foods. Others make fun of me for it. I just can't always make myself "just take one bite". It makes me so anxious that I leave the situation/room. I just don't want to taste something unpleasant. I thought I was alone in this aspect. I am almost in tears to learn there are others.
CassieCassie from Phoenix wrote on February 1, 2017 on 5:27 am:
Hi everyone! My name is Cassie and I will be 21 in March. I have been a picky eater my whole life. My mom even said I was picky with baby food. Texture and smells are what get to me the most. I used to get anxiety going to a friend's house as a kid, but all my friends just told their parents I was a picky eater and it was hardly ever an issue. About a year and a half ago, I entered a serious relationship in college. It was at that time that I realized something was different about me. While my family poked fun at my eating habits, they were always accommodating. Rarely did I feel weird until I was older. My boyfriend likes all sorts of things that I can't even imagine eating, like sushi. There's still plenty of places we can eat, but he feels limited by me and he worries I will hold our children back as well. My anxiety over my eating habits has gotten much worse. I've become obsessed with trying to figure out why I'm like this. I found articles about adult picky eating and mentioned it to my parents. Turned out, my grandmother came across it and my parents were already looking into it. They never mentioned because knowing wouldn't exactly fix the problem. Since being with my boyfriend I have tried new foods that are similar to things already in my pallet but I have not really added anything new to my diet. Honestly, I'm tired of living this way. It's becoming exhausting.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Dear Cassie The bad news is you will probably always have lots of issues with not being able to eat lots of different food types. If your boyfriend is not able to accept you as you are today I would advise you probably should never consider marriage with him. You can have a great life no matter how many things you can eat. If you decide to have children someday you should also consider their is a small chance you could pass your eating issues on to them through your genes. Your parents sound like wonderful people who have done all they can to help you.
MayaMaya wrote on January 31, 2017 on 6:19 pm:
Hello, my name is Maya, and I'm 16. I am very happy that I found this website. Ever since I was little, I've had problems with food. Now I can not eat any fruits, vegetables, or most meat except for beef and chicken. I am healthy at the moment, but I worry that I will have health problems in the future. My parents have not been supportive of this at all. My mom and especially my dad have always made fun of me and compared me to a toddler when I picked at my food or refused to eat. When I discovered that I have a real condition and told my parents, they laughed. They think I just need to grow up. My mom asked me "Are you proud of yourself for having a disorder?". My family is Lebanese, and I can hardly even look at most Arabic food. I have a lot of trouble at formal dinners. I know most people I know will probably react the way my parents did if I tell them about this, so that is why I'm so glad I found this site. If anyone has advice for expanding my diet or dealing with my relatives, I'd really appreciate it.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Dear Maya You should have your parents look up ARFID Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder in the DSM-3 from 2013. The way you describe your eating it sounds like you very well could have it. The disorder can take many forms. You and I know that you never asked to be the way you are and you would change if you could. Going to family social events can be extremely troubling for those of us with ARFID. It is very hard for someone who does eat a wide variety of foods to understand what our world is like. There is no reason why you can't have a great long healthy life. You might want to also discuss this with your doctor. You can also join our Yahoo or Facebook support groups. Bob K
AzariaAzaria from Lubbock wrote on January 31, 2017 on 3:27 am:
Wow I cannot believe I found a group of people who are just like me! But please, I would like a confirmation about if I really do have this. I know my food selection is pretty big. I'm about to turn 19 and I am fortunate that my family always joked about how I ate. Want to go to a party? We'll just stop and grab some McDonald's! My only grievances are with a future husband and how that would affect him, and how every time me and my friends go someplace, they always have to ask if it's okay. I want to just have a sign saying "Go Anywhere You Want. If I Don't Eat Anything I Can Get a Drink!"
What I eat consists of: Fries, Chicken Nuggets, Chicken Tenders, Mac & Cheese, Pizza, Chips, Waffles, Pancakes, Toast, Apples, Cutie Oranges, Corn or Frozen Flakes cereal (no milk), Grilled Cheese, Peanut Butter, Popcorn, and Ramen Noodles (I'm kind of leaning off of that). I do like a lot of a variety of chips, and cookies, cokes, but only the originals.
Within the past 5 years I've tried and liked a lot: Granola Bars (Chocolate Chip kind), Plain and Dry Hamburgers and Plain and Dry Cheeseburgers, Plain Chicken Fried Steak, Calamari (tastes like chicken nuggets), and Vanilla Bean Frappe from Starbucks.
I don't like trying new foods, but I have been SLOWLY trying to taste more things. Like I retried grapes but I can only force myself to eat a few slowly. I also retried hot dogs and I'll only eat those if there is absolutely nothing else.
I eat the same meals every single day. I do go through phrases of which of the foods I feel like eating for dinner and lunch in a period of 6 months or so. When I was younger my pickiest phase was with the frozen Tortinos pizza. One time I would only eat the cheese, then I would eat everything but the cheese, and finally now I'll eat the whole thing. But now it is looking wierd out the oven and the cheese and sauce taste funny.
It's strange. I watch food network channels and will think something may look good. I could never imagine actually eating it though. I now think of how God can help the blind to see and the deaf to hear, and I am really REALLY hoping he can help us all be normal food eating people!
Admin Reply by: Bob
It appears to me that you have it. While you eat many more things than me. We have many of same traits. Go watch this video and you will be very surprised.
Bob K

https://youtu.be/GKz2S-9mnLg
AlexisAlexis wrote on January 29, 2017 on 2:52 am:
Hello everyone, I'm not quite an adult yet, but I'll be 18 this summer! However, I am concerned that the severity of my picky eating will persist for the rest of my life. It never fails to kill me a little inside whenever I eat out with family and the menu is essentially a half dozen blank pages. Every once in a while I'll have a few seconds of clarity where I truly believe I can eat anything, but then that feeling disappears just as fast. I am also worried that I have stunted my growth and will have a plethora of health issues within the next 10 years. My joints already crack and pop horribly if I sit still for half an hour. If any adult picky eaters have any advice on how I can assuage my fears of the future, I would greatly appreciate it.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You need to get checked by a medical professional to see if you are deficient in any vitamins or minerals. Do not be afraid to discuss this with your doctor. He is there to help you. Mention that you feel you may have ARFID Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. Assuming you can take pills and or drink medicine you should be able to cover what you are missing. You never asked to have this disorder but you can still live a long happy healthy life. I will be turning 70 this year and I'm just about the pickiest of the picky Good luck
Bob K
DebbieDebbie from Kingsport wrote on January 23, 2017 on 6:42 pm:
Wow, I honestly thought I was the only "grown up" picky eater!!! lol. I was a picky eater as a child, but the older I get the pickier I get! My list of foods I will eat is small & most of them I have to be the one cooking it or when I eat at my parents. My children are in no way picky & neither is my husband. I cook all kinds of different foods but I don't eat it. I never had a bad experience with food, was never worried about weight & I've never been embarrassed about being picky. Everyone knows if we are invited to dinner that I won't be eating. I tell them ahead of time, I am not trying to be rude, I just don't like food. It doesn't embarrass me, they've been warned & they understand. Thank God none of my children deal with the picky eating!!! I don't like a lot of food smells & Mayo is one of the most disgusting things ever made! I can cook with anything but I just can't stand the thought of eating it! I went for years not trying new foods because if it tasted horrible or had a weird texture I was sure to get sick! Lately I've forced myself to try a small bite of something here or there. I'm very proud of myself for doing that though even if I think something tastes ok I just can't incorporate it into something I'll eat. make sense? Idk why but I'll never try it again after that one time. Oh & I did try the "forcing" myself to eat something every day for 21 days because you supposedly acquire a taste for it, that is so not true! I honestly just don't like food, I eat because I have to. I wish I didn't feel this way but I do. Ok I've written a book! It's nice to know I'm not alone in this!!!
Admin Reply by: Bob
You really do have lots of company. Thanks for your guest book entry.
DebDeb from Beaver Dam wrote on January 22, 2017 on 4:30 pm:
I am 58 years old and can't believe I just found this website! I knew I wasn't the only one out there, but to hear so many similar stories makes me feel better.
I have been a picky eater since I was a little girl. I used to pick out the veggies in stew and eat them only. I ate plain hamburgers until I was 9. Then stopped because of the texture. I stopped eating bread at that time too. From then on I don't eat any meat, unless it is very crispy bacon. I eat some veggies; mostly potatoes, peas, corn and baked beans. I will eat more raw veggies than cooked, and I like a lot of fruit. I will eat crackers or dry bread with catsup on it. But I HATE meat. Especially the look and texture of it. Lots of food smells good, but I would never eat it because of texture or taste. I love salad bars; but I only put certain things on my salad. I love buffets as you have more choice. I hate weddings and events that serve dinners "by plate" so you can't choose. Most think you are vegetarian so make you a vegetarian dish instead. Yuck. I eat mostly crispy foods, but there are exceptions of course, as in cooked veggies. I eat mashed potatoes (no gravy) but would never think of eating scalloped potatoes or a casserole of any type. The only dairy I eat is cheese (orange color only), and a tablespoon of milk on my crispy cereal, and ice cream. Things can't be soggy or mix with each other. I try to eat peanut butter and cheese as my protein. I love ice cream and lots of snacks, of course, so I eat many carbs. Since I don't like to deny myself the foods I DO like, diets don't work and I hate to exercise (my fault). Thus, when I was little I was thin. Now I weigh over 300 lbs. I am probably a stroke or a heart attack waiting to happen let alone I am sick of going up a size in clothes every year. I don't know what to do. Any ideas?
BrendaBrenda from Grand Rapifs wrote on January 20, 2017 on 1:47 pm:
Hi, I'm Brenda and I am a picky eater. There are certain foods I refuse to even be in the same room with, I.e. onions. Will not look at one to save my butt. But I have struggled as well with limited foods that I will eat. Thought I was just wired. It's so nice to know that I am not alone.
Donald F JonesDonald F Jones from Ohio wrote on January 17, 2017 on 11:56 pm:
My name is Don, and I'm 65 yrs old. I've been a picky eater forever. It caused a lot of family turmoil growing up, but as you all know, that doesn't really help at all.
I grew up on french fries, potato chips, hotdogs, plain mustard sandwiches on whilte bread, and grilled cheese sandwiches. Maybe a little balonie, very lightly spread smooth peanut butter sandwiches. Chunky peanut butter makes me vomit.
It caused stress in school... in high school my lunch EVERY day for 4 yrs was 3 dinner rolls and a pint of chocolate milk.
On the 3-day field trip to Washington DC, I faked being sick around most mealtimes. My friends said I ate like a bird, so one of my nicknames for a while was The Bird.
My wife was the complete opposite of me - the horrible quote I remember most at a restaurant or party or buffet was, "Oh I wonder what this is?" and she'd put it in her mouth! I couldn't even imagine ever doing that even if you paid me..
As an adult, standard routine for most parties or events is to try to eat something before, and then fake stomach issues.
I do eat more foods now, thanks in part to the wife. She was a waitress at a pizza shop when we met, and for weeks I would drive to a nearby town and buy a small pizza and then sit alone in my car in a parking lot and try to force myself to eat it so I could actually be able to eat in her restaurant to try to get to know her.
I eat a few more things now... I tried scrambled eggs at around 50 yrs old because I loved the smell, and now breakfast is the only meal I really love, with bacon or sausage, and almost any kind of potatoes. I love potatoes in almost any variety. Only plain pancakes. No eggs other than scrambled, and when I make them at home, I make them well-done. No cereal of any kind other than Kellogg Corn Flakes.
Today it would be easier to list what I DON'T eat. I've never had as much as a bite of anything that lives in an ocean river or lake. I don't eat Italian food, other than pepperoni pizza. I've never had spaghetti or lasagna or a tomato, never been to Olive Garden or to a seafood restaurant (unless it has a steak or burger on the menu).. I've never eaten Chinese, Japanese, Greek, Mexican, or Middle Eastern food. I guess almost no ethnic food of any kind. I eat no soups except Campbell chicken noodle. I eat no vegetables except plain canned corn. I eat no fruit except applesauce and canned diced peaches. I eat no meat other than a few simple beef items and even less simple pork items. I need any meat very well done or burnt. I can't even look at ANYthing with a bone in it. I've never had fried chicken, because of the bones, but I like chicken nuggets or chicken strips in a restaurant. I wont go to Applebee's anymore because every dish has mixed veggies included. I can force down a plain mostly lettuce salad. The very thought of mushrooms makes me physically ill, and a lot of places use them liberally on beef dishes, burgers & sandwiches, etc. and I know who they are and I avoid them. I've never had a slice of any kind of pie, yogurt, or icecream other than vanilla & chocolate. I eat very little candy other than Reeses. My lunch on construction job every day is a Coke and a small bag of potato chips.
I've only tried wine a couple times and hated it. I drink milk, lemonade, Coke/Sprite/7Up, two flavors of Gatorade. And I enjoy black coffee in the morning... I tried tea once and it almost made me puke. That was a tough one after I married into an Irish family...they never understood. I can get one or two weak beers down if with friends, but I don't really like the taste or the feeling afterward.
I have recently been dignosed with mild hypertension (high bloodpressure) and I've been told I'm pre-diabetic, but Idk if there's anything I can do about it. Doc wants me to see a nutritionist (he doesnt know about this disorder). Yeah right, that aint gonna happen.
I've been divorced for almost 10 yrs now, and I've thought about dating, but the food situation 100% scares me off. There's a gorgeous lady or two I'd love to ask out, but they're both food lovers and I know they'd think I was a freak if I tried to order a plain burger in a gormet restaurant....burgers arent even on the menues in those places. Eating crap is accepted when you're a teen and it's easier then, but people my age expect to go to upscale restaurants with fancy foods I've never even heard of, eat sushi and seafood, drink fine wines, try exotic new foods. Even the thought of taking a trip to Europe is too scary for me ONLY because I'd be confronted with so many strange local & ethnic foods & drinks. I'd LOVE to see Europe, but no way could I handle the food situation, even if I traveled alone.
So, I've pretty much had to come to grips with the fact that I will probably spend the rest of my life alone.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Thanks for putting a nice entry into our guest book. I would bet there are women out in the world who would want to date you. Just be up front with them and let your good qualities carry you to the goal line.
LaceyLacey from Rochford wrote on January 17, 2017 on 4:15 pm:
I'm 21 now, and since leaving secondary school I've been putting on a lot of weight from this diet I have. I used to be very active and strong but I've lost that and this diet I've had since I was a child doesn't help.

So my mum tells me I was really sick from food once and after that I was afraid to eat anything, she had luck and found that I would eat chocolate spread sandwiches. From there I eat chips, chicken nuggets and that's pretty much it as a kid.

Now I can eat chicken nuggets, chips, cheese pizza, pasta with sauce (before I could only eat it plain) I know my diet isn't as bad as some peoples but I want it to stop, I want the gag reflex to stop, I want to eat better and feel better.

I want to go to a restaurant with family and friends and not order form the kids menu....
Olivia HunterOlivia Hunter from Waterloo wrote on January 17, 2017 on 3:11 am:
Hey there follow picky eaters,
I have told my family day in and day out since I was about 10 that I believed something was wrong with how I looked at food I am nearly 22 now and I have all my life other than the first few years of infant years been a picky eater. I will say though after finding my fiance and his family I have been able to expand the foods I like a bit more, not much but its better than nothing, I think the main keys to eating something new is to explain to your family that yes the food you see may smell and look good but because of this disorder you physically can not eat it and if or when they understand and give you the time to try something on your own it helps a lot. I have learned that with out the pressure of others that I don't get anxiety when looking at new foods or start to feel ill at all, and sometimes I can even get myself to try the new food. Because when Im pressured into doing so I have panic attacks, though minor still painful, and I start to feel a very real nausea. I hope my story helps some of you to maybe expanding your foods, believe me when I say that is wont be much but even one new food a year is a win to me!
GeorgiaGeorgia from Bournemouth, England wrote on January 15, 2017 on 8:08 pm:
Hi, I'm Georgia and I'm 23 years old. I found this website after having my mum and stepdad have a go at me for not eating lamb and mash potato. I don't know when I started being a picky eater but from my childhood I remember being forced to eat a raw carrot every Sunday, so much to the fact that it made me gag and I tried to hid it! I've had so many arguments with my parents because I don't like certain foods.
I don't eat vegetables, I've tried so many different types but I just really don't like the taste. I go through stages of liking potatos and not liking them, if mash potatoes are lumpy then I won't eat it.
I feel like I've gotten better over the years (I never used to eat fish and now fish cakes are some of my favourites)
It's getting me really down cause I feel like no one understands, people just think that I'm being a pain. I wish there was a way to change my eating habits
KellyKelly wrote on January 15, 2017 on 7:07 am:
Hi, I'm Kelly. I'm 20 years old and from New York. Being in a relationship with someone who literally eats everything and has a family that is exactly the same, seeing these entries is nice knowing I'm not alone. I've been a picky eater since I can remember. I eat almost no dairy. I don't eat any type of cheese other than mozzarella and only if it's in a Mozerrella stick, lasagna, or pizza. If there's too much cheese on the pasta, I remove it. I used to eat pizza without the cheese also. When I have the mozzarella sticks, I can only eat them with ketchup(maybe to lessen the taste of the cheese?) I don't drink milk and I don't eat yogurt and I can only have butter if it's fully melted. I don't like most veggies although I do love broccoli peas and corn. Carrots can only be eaten raw and baby styled and broccoli can only be eaten steamed for me. I literally don't eat any fish or seafood any any kind. No calms sushi, salmon, crab, etc. If if comes from the ocean I won't eat it. I eat a lot of chicken, but I have to basically drown in it ketchup in order to eat it, even if it's seasoned! Recently I've been getting grossed out by chicken from seeing fat or a vein and occasionally gag and cannot finish it if I think about it. With beef, I again drown in ketchup to minimize taste, and I usually pick the steak apart so that I'm not getting any fat in the piece. I do enjoy hot dogs with, you guessed it, ketchup. I can't eat anything spicy (ketchup is spicy to me to put my sensitivity to spice in perspective). I do enjoy most fruits except I really can't stand pears or mangos. My diet basically consists of what my 5 year old cousin eats. I hate going to dinner parties for holidays at other people's housrs because I can mostly only eat the chips, without dip, and maybe a small side dish. It doesn't help that every time I eat some type of weird food combination, like the ones I've mentioned, or say that I don't like cheese, apple pie, or any other generic American food, my boy friends family calls me a communist. I've been trying very hard to over come my dislike for dairy. When my boyfriend makes his homemade nachos with cheddar cheese, I'll try a very little bit but usually end up gagging and having to drink a full glass of water to wash it down. Hopefully, with my persistence, Ill get better. Being a picky eater sucks.
Keyauna LoutKeyauna Lout from Aberdeen wrote on January 15, 2017 on 12:42 am:
Hi I've always been having struggle with liking foods. My family would always want me to eat and whenever they'd have me try it I'd either just swallow it or spit it out to get it over with. I want to try to eat like everyone else but I just can't stand the texture or the look of some foods
MaryMary wrote on January 13, 2017 on 12:50 am:
Hi, I'm Mary. I'm 18 years old and I've been a picky eater as long as I can remember. My diet mainly only consists of pizza, plain chicken (chicken nuggets mainly, chicken breast occasionally, if it's not on a bone), cereal, pb&j sandwiches, and chicken noodle soup (without the chicken and there has to be saltine crackers in it). I don't remember when it started but I don't ever remember a time when I was able to eat most and all foods; I never thought about it much when I was younger but as I grew older it became a ever growing fear. Any situation in which I felt I was going to be offered food I would avoid at all cost. I would tell people I already ate, or that I wasn't hungry, just to avoid being offered any sort of food because I was so afraid. I thought I was alone and I didn't know how to deal with it, and then I came across an internet article about ARFID. I was in tears reading about it because it finally felt like I understood that it wasn't just me. I don't want to diagnose myself with anything, but just knowing there is something out there like my situation, and people out there understand my struggle brings some sort of relief to my everyday struggle with food.
TeganTegan wrote on January 12, 2017 on 10:58 pm:
Hi my name is tegan. I am 22 and a mum of my 2 year old son. I have been a picky eater my whole life. I have a fear of trying new foods resulting me eating only a few foods. I eat junk food, white pasta, white bread, cheese, chicken, certain types of bacon, sausages and potatoes and that's about it...so basicly I eat white food. It has always been an embarrassing struggle for me..my family has had to leave restaurants before because I've not liked anything on the menu. Many peaple have seen me cry over being asked to simpley try food, I feel so pathetic. Many of my relationships have been ruined because I cant do simple things like go out for food with them. No one understands and just thinks I'm pathetic and say " just eat it, it won't kill you" but they don't understand which I do because even I wonder why food is so difficult for me. I really want to change but I can't even bring my self to touch food I don't want to eat..I haven't tried most foods.and the odd time I have as soon as it touches my mouth i gag and feel ill. My parents tried to make me eat when I was little..I remember having to sit at the table until I ate it which I didn't. So I would be sat at the table until bed time. Eventually they gave in and I ate nothing but either plain pasta or pasta with cheese sauce on for five years. Now I eat a few different things but as I said..not many food types. It's is a big concern for me now because I've been feeling ill for a few years, I am dizzy almost all the time, I am tired and I get chest pains..I keep going to the doctors but they never find out what's wrong with me. I've come to the ovious conclusion that it is my terrible diet..but I am way to embarrassed to tell the doctors..and anyway all they would do is tell me to just try new food...another reason is ovisosly because I really don't want my son to be as fussy as I am, I give him stuff I don't eat and now he's starting to become a very fussy eater and I really want to change for my health and for my son. I've only learnt tonight that this is a disorder because like most people I've resorted to typing it in on Google.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Yes you do have a disorder called ARFID. You would be wise to let your doctor know about it and then they can check you to see if you are deficient in anything because of the diet. Once you know what your deficient in you can find some vitamins or supplements to cure the deficiency. You should also know that in many cases this disorder runs through the genes. Your doctor is there to help you and now you can refer him to ARFID so he will know you really do have a disorder. Thanks for your great guest book entry.
SophSoph wrote on January 12, 2017 on 2:18 am:
Hi, I'm Sophie, I'm 18 years old, and I've always been a "picky eater." It's a struggle but I'm used to it. I'd have to say that the worst part for me is definitely the embarrassment of it, e.g. eating in restaurants. My daily diet consists of some sort of bread-type food (such as plain croissants or dry toast - no butter) for breakfast, light snacks such as crisps or a bread roll to last me through lunch time, and then some variance of chicken nuggets and chips for dinner (no sauce). I'm also heavily addicted to chocolate and sugary sweets. When I was younger I apparently used to eat an array of different fruits and vegetables, however I can't ever remember putting a vegetable in my mouth so I must've been very young at the time. I eat the occasional apple (Pink Ladies only), but other than that I have no fruit or vegetable intake at all. Part of my struggle is the fact that I don't even eat regular "picky eater" foods such as pizza or burgers. The thought of pizza revolts me (the idea of lots of foods mushed together makes me feel sick) and I don't like any of the ingredients in pizza anyway so have never wanted to try it. I'm fine to eat chicken burgers (with or without coating) but it must come completely plain with no sauce or salad touching it whatsoever. I've never tried a beef burger though. I used to eat bacon but have gone off the taste over the last few years - I would still eat it but just not out of choice particularly. I've never wanted to try pasta either, or anything like that. I often find that certain smells set me off; for example, on Christmas Day I can't stand being forced to eat at a large table where a variety of different foods are constantly being passed about - I won't even touch the bowls/plates. The smell so much as makes me feel sick whilst I'm eating, not to mention the fact that I can't look at foods that I don't like whilst eating my own food. Simply watching someone opposite me putting spoonfuls of something I think looks "gross" whilst I'm also eating puts me off my food. I have tried multiple things to "cure" this disorder, my most recent being a trip to a doctor about 5 years ago (if not longer ago) which didn't help at all. She tried to encourage me to try a mix of bland as well as more bold foods such as green beans, curry, carrots and pasta. She also encouraged me to keep a daily diary of my food intake. I kept the diary up for about 2 weeks but never once tried a new food. This resulted in her making me feel embarrassed and guilty more than anything else. As I was fairly young at the time, my mum had come in the doctors room with me, and all I remember is sitting there looking at my mum with tears in my eyes because I didn't know what else I could possibly say other than "I couldn't make myself try it." The doctor (of a different ethnic background) insinuated that I was just being fussy and that I was being childish about the matter. Needless to say I've never considered seeing a specialist of any sort again. My mother is also suffers from picky eating, however over time her diet has become wider. As a child, she was similar to myself with the foods she ate (bland, basic "kids food") however she has ketchup on absolutely everything - for every meal. I can't stand ketchup or any sauce for that matter - not that I've ever tried any. My grandfather (my mum's father) was a picky eater when he was younger too. His diet would consist of mainly dairy products or plain meat. He has got much better with time though. The thing that always strikes my friends is that I am of healthy weight and body size (quite slim and tall for a girl) considering the amount of trash that I eat. Almost everything I eat is considered unhealthy, so I dread to think the impact it will one day have on my body. To give an idea, I probably consume over 5 times more chocolate than I should in a week, and regularly have fast food. Even with fast food and restaurants I am limited to only places which do some equivalent of chicken nuggets. One good thing about me is that I only tend to drink still/mineral/tap water. I can't stand fizzy drinks (soda), nor tea or coffee. I would drink chocolate milkshakes or hot chocolate but no other drinks such as smoothies, other flavors of milkshakes or slushies. Having just turned 18 (the legal drinking age in my country) I've been out maybe once or twice and tried spirits such as vodka - which surprisingly I was able to tolerate. Yet, I think what partly helped was not being able to see what I was drinking due to the dark atmosphere in the club, and the fact that most of the drinks I had were shots so they were over quickly. Is it normal to be a picky drinker as well as a picky eater or is that just me? I'm lucky to have a supportive family however at times I don't feel like my friends or boyfriend understand what it's like for me. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now and luckily he's picky too - just not as picky. In fact, I make him look like he eats normally! He eats anything plain-ish such as pizza, chicken, steak, burgers, chips, etc, but is much more open to trying new foods - something I can't bring myself to do! This is particularly frustrating as he doesn't understand how hard it is for me to try to convince myself to physically put something new in my mouth. The other day, for example, he took me out for a lovely meal at a restaurant I knew I liked, and he was trying to encourage me to try a tiny piece of his steak as he thought I'd like it. I was feeling really motivated to try it but as soon as I looked at it I knew I wouldn't be able to do it. Immediately he said "I knew you wouldn't try it really" and was disappointed, which in turn made me feel so embarrassed. My last thing; I'm hoping to start university in September which means moving away from home into shared accommodation in a new place. Although I will have my own bedroom, I will have to use a shared kitchen (consisting of around 9 other people my age) and I'm absolutely terrified about the food situation. To make matters worse, I currently can't even cook my own food - my mum cooks almost everything I eat. I've seen other people I know go off to university and sit down at meal times with their flat mates, however this is a real problem for me as I know that 99.9% of the time I will not eat what others will. I would do anything to change how I am with food in time for moving away from home but I am even more scared of trying new methods of "getting over it."
Admin Reply by: Bob
Thank you for a great addition to our guest book. Your entry is very interesting because you are part of three generations all picky to some degree. It really does appear that for many of us we got our disorder through our genes. Bob K