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JacobJacob from Cullman wrote on June 16, 2017 on 5:21 am:
I am 27 years old. Happily married with a kid on the way. I have been a very picky eater since I was 3 years old. All i eat is spaghetti. Pizza. Fries and macaroni. Those are the 4 main foods. I can tolerate hot dogs

And I can eat most junk food. Such as chips etc. I like all of those.

However I cannot eat any vegetables or meat besides hot dogs. All meat makes me want to throw up and gag. I also do not eat any fruit besides apples.

My parents took me to a therapist when I was younger and all they said was "he is very stubborn".

I am still very healthy and am not overweight however I notice as I get older I am starting to gain more. Also since I have a kid on the way I don't want them to copy me.

My biggest thing is I do not want to die young because I know the things I eat are just about the worst possible things I can eat. Especially since there is zero meat or vegetables.

I do not believe in things like hypnosis etc. and do understand the only way I probably will be able to change is sheer willpower. However that has been an utter failure for 27 years. I am curious to see if others had the same diet as me and if they had any tips.

I've tried incorporating new foods but it doesn't go well. I tried eating salad forever but I can't eat cold food. It's gross to me. Basically anything with a different texture than the 4 main things I eat. I can never get myself to take more than a bite or 2.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You will probably live a long happy life. i just had my 70th birthday and I'm still happy and enjoying life. Change is hard and only a handful of people have ever made it. I'm actually way picker than you. The main thing is to not over eat and watch your calories. You will be fine.
MeganMegan from Redlands wrote on June 11, 2017 on 11:30 pm:
I have dealt with selective eating my whole life. People saying I have "eats like a kid disorder" or I'm "a picky eater and should just get over it already" has always stung really bad. I have tried to try new foods but I somehow vomit every time or gag. I wish I could understand it but I know I may never understand why I can't eat like a "normal" person. Some people have told me "you should be hypnotized or get therapy". It's not that simple. I'm so glad to find others like me. The pure embarrassment of what I can and cannot eat and having to explain myself has caused me to have suicidal thoughts. I would never wish this horrible disorder upon anyone else ever!
Admin Reply by: Bob
I have found that Hypnosis is of little or no value to people like us. Lots of things going on and most of it is out of our control. Think of it this way there really are many other things a person can have to deal with which are way worse than our disorder. You have ARFID a medically recognized eating disorder and you never chose or asked to have it. Find out all you can than own it and move on with a great life. Hiding in the shadows is not the way. Get out and enjoy your life. True friends will not care one bit.
Jaime JoyceJaime Joyce from Little Elm wrote on June 8, 2017 on 2:40 pm:
Hi there! Ever since I can remember I have always had "food issues". Dreading potlucks because I was sure that unless my poor family brought something, or if someone brought KFC, I would have nothing on my plate, and if my food touched I would have to hide my frustration and disgust. Having to research new restaurants menus before making a visit if possible, and being asked by my father while being dragged through the produce section if I liked this food or that. Not even wanting to touch or smell fruits or vegetables and explaining my "aversion" to certain foods. It wasn't until my husband saw an article on picky vs. selective eating and asking me if I thought this described me, it was like the room was suddenly brighter. All those times I had to refuse and explain my eating habits actually had meaning and I wasn't crazy. Luckily I have very supportive family, friends and coworkers. I'm very open with my disorder and use it as a teachable moment. Some have actually felt that it pertains to them, which is amazing. If I can keep another person from experiencing what I experienced growing up, I take that as a win.
JulieJulie wrote on June 4, 2017 on 3:29 pm:
Hello everyone. 50+ years of this condition, along with weight loss and nutritional deficiencies which are important because that is why my family and friends couldn't understand what I was eating, why they could not understand. The DSM-5 was the key for me, and for my family too. Because of this group, I've felt stronger in my answers to questions, I have learned more about this condition, I'm more comfortable discussing it. It does get better. Thank you!
Just try itJust try it wrote on June 4, 2017 on 11:27 am:
Thanks for posting my rant.

Rest of posting is banned from this person.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Dear poster

Some of the people in our support group just might like to have a discussion with you. But you will need to clean up your act. Nothing with this much vulgar language will get posted. You must have some serious mental problems. You are banned
Bob K
KailKail from Miami wrote on June 2, 2017 on 4:10 pm:
Hi guys! I've suffered all my life with SED. I can only eat crunchy foods. With an exception of ice cream( I have to put sprinkles or chocolate chips so i can chew it) I love cheese but it has to be on a cracker. I love chips, fried food, cereal but as soon as it gets soggy no thanks. I don't eat red meat or seafood due to texture. I don't eat vegatables either. :(

Ps I'm 21 Female
Just try itJust try it wrote on June 1, 2017 on 5:06 pm:
Just fxxking try new food you pathetic excuses for functioning adults. If you're over the age of 21 and can't eat a god damn salad or gags if somebody puts onion in your fxxking sandwich then you deserve the daily ridicule. It's food, it won't kill you. Put it in your mouth and eat it. You don't have a "medical condition" - you're just a big, fat, fussy baby.
Admin Reply by: Bob
I'm going to post your terrible rant. When did you get your medical Degree. Seems like you know we are all faking our struggles with food every day. So that others can respond here is the brilliant posters contact email.

notamedicalcondition@live.com

So sad you don't have something better to do. Perhaps you should go to the support pages for people who are colored blind next.
RobinRobin from Highland Park wrote on May 29, 2017 on 6:58 pm:
I never realized there was anyone else that was going thru this except me. I was relived to know there was an actual site where I could express how I feel. I felt no one could understand what I've been going thru all my life. The embarrassment is the worse. Feeling I have to tell people I already ate, so I don't have to explain why I won't eat at other peoples homes. It's so hard.
KaitlinKaitlin from LaCrosse wrote on May 22, 2017 on 2:37 am:
I'm so glad to have found this site! It's sort of refreshing knowing it's not just me! It's a very frustrating problem that I've had my whole life and there's no real reason for it that I consciously know of. I know I need to work on it, but I can't force myself to do so. I've been teased and it's quite embarrassing. I agree with so many people on here!!
BrooklynneBrooklynne from Calgary wrote on May 21, 2017 on 5:00 am:
Hi there,

I am so thankful i have found this page. I have been a picky eater since i was born. My mom has always told me she had a hard time feeding me as a baby because there was only some purees i would eat. This has carried with me all my life. I don't eat vegetables fruits seafoods ect. There so many other foods i don't eat with makes it very limited for me to go for dinners with new guys, new friends or for work meetings, it makes me so insecure because i have tried to try new foods on my own but no one understands my struggles. Reading other peoples stories on here makes me feel 10x better and that i am not alone. My diet hasnt affected me much in the past as i have always played sports. Now i am not very active and it's starting to affect me as all i eat is junk food all day every day, If any one has any tips for me to even just incorperate some sort of vegtable into my life it would be appreciated. It's weird as the reasons i dont eat usually are due to fear and texture. I cannot eat grapes ever as i tried them once and the skin and the juices made me puke. I am really hoping to turn this around at some point in my life and am here for anyone to talk to as wel
Admin Reply by: Bob
The only vegetables I eat are baby carrots cold and raw or Celery cold with some salt. The white part of the celery is pretty tasty. I'm at least as picky as you are so you might like my only choices. You never asked or wanted to eat the way you do. It just happens to some of us. No reason why you can't have a great life. It gets easier as you get older. Young people can be very cruel at times.
Bob K
JuneJune wrote on May 19, 2017 on 3:07 pm:
Hi, I stumbled upon your group page when I was googling about picky eaters.

My boyfriend is one, and today his workmate deliberately put tomatoes and onions into the staff meal when my bf had said he didn't like them. My bf got upset, he said he was tired of people trying to feed him things he didn't like, and that he doesn't get what's so wrong about it that others have to 'right' it. I was once guilty of that (somewhat given up now), but like Joyce's husband, I'd give in to the pickiness but do not comprehend it. But his complaint today just tugged at my heart. I had to find out more about this. And my initial search directed me here.

After reading your stories I think I do understand this a little better now. My bf went through similar histories, being force-fed as a child and getting a beating when he didn't eat or when he threw up. Cucumber is one of his kryptonite and he could smell it from a mile away and that would send him running the opposite direction (okay, exagerated, but once he walked away from me because I was snacking on cucumber and the smell put him off) When we went to house parties it was only to close friends who knew and would accomodate his strict diet; if it were someone not too close or new, he would hesitate, or just eat bread.

We do make fun of him and his eating habits, but I never knew it was so serious. There were times when I wonder if our relationship will ever work out in the long run, because we currently make our own meals separately despite living together. But that's not what a family meal looks like to me, or I feel sad that I cannot share food that I love with the person I love.

We've been together for 2.5 years and he is the sweetest person ever. I feel ashamed that I've been hurting him for so long, when I should be the one on his side.

Sorry for the long entry, I just thought I'd tell my side of the story.

I really want to thank you to have made this page. I will still look around for more information, but you have given me an initial insight on how to better support my loved one.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You should assume he will never change. Nothing you can do will change him. If you accept him the way he is and continue to be supportive he will worship the ground you walk on for the rest of your and his life. There are many things in life that are way more important than what you can eat.
Bob K
ChristianChristian from Brazil wrote on May 17, 2017 on 10:10 pm:
Hi, my name is Christian. I literally cried while I read the stories here. I'm Brazilian and we have a culture that revolves heavily on eating. My earliest memories are of being forced to eat and embarassing myself and my fater in front of a family table. I've never been able to eat anything with onions and most meat textures make me gag. I always thought I was a freak but reading the texts here made me feel really happy because I don't feel so weird any more. It's very hard for me to keep an adequate weigh and now I know why. I feel like I can accept now this is just the way I am and try to make the best of it. I'll surely try to overcome my difficulties but hey, I'm already 25yo, I guess I can be happy eating things my way and being happy with it (if I like the food I can eat lots of it). Thanks you VERY MUCH for sharing your stories. You all made me feel like a normal person again. (Also if you want to be penpals or share stories my email is c.cavalcanti@live.com. I'd really like it)
Admin Reply by: Bob
Welcome Christian we have others from Brazil in our support groups. Perhaps one of them will reach out to you. Welcome you are not the only one.
VictoriaVictoria from Birmingham wrote on May 11, 2017 on 5:36 pm:
Hi I'm Victoria, I'm 20 years old and I've been a picky eater since I was about 5. My diet consists of chicken nuggets and chips, white bread and basically any junk food. I've had the urge to start eating 'normally' for years but I'm so afraid to even put the food in my mouth. I know it won't kill me but i can't physically make myself eat it. I'm Embarrassed by my eating habits being unable to go for meals with family and friends and it's really taking a roll on my relationships. I've bought ready meals before with the intention of eating them but I simply can't do it.i don't want to continue my life like this but I don't know how to overcome it.
LeanneLeanne from Aberdeen wrote on May 10, 2017 on 10:18 pm:
Hi I'm leanne I have been a fussy eater as long as I can remember I suffer from anxiety especially with feeling ill. I want to try new foods I love cooking and the smell of food but I just have a fear of trying food. I have tried visiting my doctor and basically the problem just got ignored. I want to loose weight but it's hard when all you eat is chips and cheese, cheese sandwiches,garlic bread etc which is all carbs! Any suggestions would be great I'm only 21 and don't want to get health problems due to my diet.
DanDan from Detroit wrote on May 10, 2017 on 1:47 am:
Hey everyone I'm Dan, and I would definitely consider myself a "picky" eater. Although I too hate the word picky. I'm 20 and all my life have been very selective about the foods I eat. Appearance and smell are the biggest factors for me, but I've always had people belittle be for not trying food because of this. The thing i can never explain to people is just how bad of an experience eating something I hate is, no one understands.
My diet mostly consists of Pepperoni pizza, some fruits (apples, oranges, raspberries, bananas) Simple cooked meats (Steak/Beef, pork/Ribs Chicken) And bread. No sauces, gravy, or dressings. I might get sick from looking at ranch, if I smell it I'm done for. Even like ketchup I've had it before and liked it but I can't bring myself to eat it again. The only exceptions is BBQ and Italian.
I am fortunate in the sense that I like just enough variety that I get most the nutrients I need, but have always been under wight. Everything I eat is pretty bland. Sauces are my biggest downfall. My safe food is pizza. only can eat pepperoni on it. When I was a kid though I would only eat cheese even though I already knew I liked pepperoni pizza better. Sometimes even if I know I like something it just freaks me out too much to eat it. As I've gotten better over the years I would still say I have a child's type diet. As a kid, everyone I knew, knew I was like this and while they liked to make some rude comments they would typically help me find something I liked , except for one person that forced me to eat food I desperately hated, I was either crying or just refused which usually came with a beating. As an Adult now I'm not really embarrassed, I can easily tell someone to off if they have a problem with the foods I like.
SamiSami from Waterford wrote on May 8, 2017 on 12:55 am:
Hey everyone. I have been a life time picky eater. I don't eat any fruits or vegetables. I have a carb loaded diet. This doesn't help when I want to loose weight. I just want to be able to eat a salad and try new things that look so good but I'm to afraid to try them. I know the worst that can happen is that I won't like it and I'll spit it out, but I don't know. It would help a lot in my exercising to also eat rigt
MeganMegan from Durban, South Africa wrote on May 6, 2017 on 10:27 am:
Hi. My name is Megan, 20, and I have struggled with my selective eating disorder my whole life. In the last few years it has started to effect my health. I'm struggling bcause no one understands and I feel very alone in this. I don't know what to do anymore.
JulieJulie from Tampa wrote on May 5, 2017 on 2:42 pm:
Hi everyone. My name's Julie. I'm not only picky, but I'm also a vegetarian which makes things even harder for me. My friends always give me a hard time as I really only eat a handful of vegetables and watermelon. I also eat things like pizza, pasta, and toast (with butter only), but sometimes it feels like it's not enough. Frankly, I think I'm doing a great job by eating corn and tomatoes, but that never seems to be good enough for people. Thanks for letting me vent! -Julie
Admin Reply by: Bob
Hello Julie. It might be a good idea to consult your doctor for tests to make sure you are not deficient in any thing. If you are perhaps you can take some supplements to make up the difference. If you aren't deficient you can get your friends off your back.
Bob K
KyleKyle wrote on May 3, 2017 on 5:57 am:
Hello, everyone. My name is Kyle and I have been a picky eater for as long as I can remember. When I was an infant and toddler, my parents told me I ate normal foods like sloppy joe's, hotdogs, etc. The only food at that time I really didn't eat was peanuts. (I am allergic to all nuts but at the time we didn't know.) When I was around 4-5 years old, my parents started forcing me to eat peanuts.

When I was 6 or 7 years old, I went to a friends house in the neighborhood and his mom had made cupcakes with ground walnuts inside. I ate one, and as a result, started to go into anaphylactic shock. I think that this experience has served as my 'tipping' point with food. After that, my food habits have been terrible.

I am now 18, turning 19. I like only very specific foods. For example, cheese pizza, plain chicken tenders, pasta with only non-meat sauce, plain grilled cheese, etc. I eat more food than that, but are limited like those.

I can't go to any restaurants unless they serve pizza or chicken tenders as I don't feel comfortable with anything else as they usually change it too much like pasta.

No one knows about my habits except my immediate family. I keep this very hidden and I never attend anything that will requires me eating at restaurants. Not even my best friend, whom I trust knows. I feel so embarrassed by this my whole life and whenever I have to go out to restaurants or eat dinner somewhere other than my house, I get massive anxiety attacks.

I have turned down relationships and have never been in one solely because of my eating habits.

Fortunately, I can get some good foods into my body. I like plain tacos with certain meat and spices, and I like a plain chicken breast. Those are the only two meats I eat, and they have to be in an exact way. I also eat a fair amount of vegetables and fruits. The main part about my diet however, consists of carbohydrates.

This has been my story, glad to know there are other people like me.
Admin Reply by: Bob
No need to hide it any more. There are 1000s just like you and the name of your disorder is ARFID and its in the medical reference books since May of 2013. You never asked to have it you just do and your doing the best you can. Bob K
CassieCassie from Toledo wrote on April 28, 2017 on 2:16 pm:
Hi my name is Cassie. I just turned 33 and I have been "picky" for most my life. I hate the word "picky" by the way. This is not how I chose to be. When I was younger my parents would force me to eat things I didn't like. I would gag and cry the whole time. I would like to try new foods but my head says I don't like it. Sometimes the smell or look of things turns me away. Things I like to eat are chicken in a few forms, potatoes usually mixed with corn, mac & cheese, or gravy also in fry, tot, or hashbrown form, pizza either cheese, pepperoni, or all meat, cheeseburgers with only cheese and ketchup on it sometimes bacon if anything else touches any part of it I can't eat it, most meats, peanut butter sandwiches but no jelly. I like some chocolate but I don't eat too much and hate white chocolate. I can't eat fruits or vegetables though I like some juice and tomato sauces. There is something about most spaghetti sauces I do not like. I don't care for eggs but I can eat them on toast scrambled. I can't do mustard or mayonnaise. And if pickles come any where near my plate I can't eat the food. I don't like mexican, Chinese, or any other foreign food. I can't eat fish. And if food taste like a food I don't like I can't eat it. So many times have I wished I wasn't like this. People, including friends and family, make jokes about my "pickiness" and I have to try to act like it doesn't upset me but it kills me inside. I don't like going over people's houses for dinner for fear of them making nothing I will eat. And trying new places to eat is hard because of the same reason and sometimes my usuals are not made the way I can handle. Last night my neighbors were over and they and my some of my family had enchiladas and I had to run to grab a pizza for myself. It is embarrassing some times.