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StevenSteven from Tampa wrote on January 24, 2018 on 3:26 am:
I am 32 years old and have had severe issues with my weight and my diet planning.

Since age 2, I have had problems with food. It got worse over time. My diet was very restrictive and refused to even try anything new. As time went on, I only limited myself to Peanut Butter & Jelly, Bacon Cheeseburgers, Pizza, Grilled Cheese sandwiches, and Bananas. Very little of anything else. I used to love hot dogs when I was little, now I don’t touch them.

I absolutely HATE Chicken!!! The texture, and especially the taste makes me lose my appetite and want to gag!

As I got older, my tastes changed very little. I eat salads. That’s about it in the changing of taste. I still don’t want to try anything new. The problem is, the foods that I will eat are unhealthy.

I’ve tried many diets, weight loss programs, Weight Watchers, diet supplements. Most of them failed. I did lose weight twice, only for all of the weight to come back. I am currently the heaviest I’ve ever been and still gaining. I have seen a nutritionist, but not very optimistic about it.

I have a high functioning autism, and after researching, I found out about Selective Eating Disorder. That is the PERFECT description of what I am going through. I am so glad I have stumbled on this page and what a relief it is to not be alone. Thank you very much for reading and understanding.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You are not alone. Many normal eating adults have the exact same problem with their weight. My wife has had the same weight problems and it only seems to get worse. Keeping weight off is an ongoing battle for me as well. Glad you found us. We all care. Bob K
DebraDebra from Brisbane Australia wrote on January 21, 2018 on 12:51 pm:
Hello everyone. I am 61 year old female & have been a picky eater all my life, much worse when I was young. I ate a Devon sandwich every school day for 13 years. People don’t believe me when I say that. I was amazed to find this website. I have met a couple of people in my life who are like me. My nephew is also the same way.

I have tried hypnosis without luck. I hate going out as all I eat are steak & chips. I have been ridiculed by many wait staff over my choice of food (hold the veges, sauce, salad, everything!) very embarrassing.

I am overweight & have struggled all my life due to my diet. My body is used to it. I have run many 10kms races & a half marathon without issue.

To those mentioning family, I have had 2 healthy kids neither of whom are picky.

I do not like rice or pasta or pizza, nothing slimey like avos, fruit has to be rock hard. Potatoes, bread are my staples. It is definitely a texture issue for me. I do not eat seafood.

Thanks for listening.

I do not eat salads or veges. I can drink them once juiced so sometimes I do that. My hubby is very understanding but I am sure it is hard for him. Our social life suffers.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Thanks for your posting to our guest book. There is so much helpful information in so few words. Hypnosis does not work. You can have healthy children. This eating disorder can be passed through the genetic code. You are extremely active and healthy. Thanks for your great message. Bob K
SarahSarah wrote on January 18, 2018 on 2:17 pm:
Hi, my name is Sarah and I hope it's OK to post here. I'm not a picky eater, by my 13 year old son is and he and I are both worried about it. He and I are talking about it, and I want to know how to support him. For years, I would just get mad at him because it felt like he was just being oppositional. Now I realize this is not a choice he's making, but possibly a disorder he's wrestling with. He's not as extreme as some of the struggles I'm reading about others' having. He actually likes to try new things, but he often sits down to eat feeling hungry and then something will put him off and he'll eat a few bites and feel ill or just full. He's very sensitive to smells and textures, but likes spicy things and is attracted to colorful foods. I would love to hear suggestions for how I can support him so he and I can be allied in helping him work this through. Thank you!
Admin Reply by: Bob
Dear Sarah
While some of his symptoms appear to be in line with those of us that have what is being called ARFID other things he is doing do not. You might want to ge a complete check up for him and make sure they do a reflux check. You are welcome here with us and we are happy to hear from you on behalf of your son. He is now getting to the age that our disorder is probably the worst in terms of social embarrassment. Dating Parties and school events are going to include lots of food. Wishing you good luck.
Bob K
AnnaAnna wrote on January 16, 2018 on 10:57 pm:
My name is Anna and reading the stories on this website is so comforting, I feel like I'm the only one in my life that struggles with this. I'm only 18 and I am always told I'll just grow out of it but I don't believe that because I haven't been able to expand my palette at all...ever. I always stick to the basics: cheese pizza, chicken, pasta, bread, more pizza. I am SO selective when it comes to texture and smells. I need everything on my plate to be separated and I never seem to be just "okay" with a food - I either love it and eat it quickly or hate it and reject it. I am fine with going out to eat most of the time because I figure most places are likely to have one thing I like but going over to people's houses for dinner and going out to eat foreign food terrifies me. I also am an athlete and it is so hard to stay healthy with such a restricted diet. I recently have found out about supertasters-those who have more tastebuds-and it can contribute to selective eating so I'm wondering if this could be part of my issue because I fit the exact description of a supertaster. Idk also if the texture problem has to do with sensory also but I'm glad to have found this site and to have read stories very similar to mine!
Admin Reply by: Bob
There is a test for super tasting. Try doing a google and see if you can find it. You could be one.
Bonnie MaynardBonnie Maynard from East Hartford, Ct. wrote on January 16, 2018 on 3:51 am:
Hi folks,
Not much to say except I also am an adult picky eater. I'm 69 Years old and still eat junk. I heard of this group and find I'm just like most of you. I actually was looking for answers as to what supplements I could take to keep my body up and running as I am surprised I'm still as in good health as I am considering what I eat.
If there is another page where I may find information of supplements I would appreciate it.
NicholeNichole from Douglasville wrote on January 12, 2018 on 3:33 pm:
My name is Nichole but I go by Nik, I am 20 years old and have struggled with the texture, look and/or smell of most foods my whole life. Because of my eating habits I always had a fear of going to friends houses or parties in fear of being judged by my friends and their parents, which happened more than it should've. I was ok with not eating and just eating later at home or something So it was mostly judgment that I was scared of. Even my parents thought I was forceing myself to throw up when I ate specific foods as a kid and eventually gave up and let me do my own thing when I was old enough. Then I decided to google my problem about two or three years ago and learned about Selective eating disorder. I fit the description to a T and was happy I wasnt the only one. My mom accepted it more easily then my dad did and that was hard but knowing there are others like me is very comforting. Around that same time I started taking specific vitamins every day to keep my health up since I didnt get good nutrition from what I did eat. (My dad says I'm a carbavore since the things I do eat are mostly carbs, but I don't mind) Then I had blood work done and my doctor said it was perfect and I was so happy to hear that and my thoughts are "if I'm healthy why should people care what I do and dont eat" and I changed a lot but don't get me wrong, I still care about judgment but its not as bad as it was. The vitamins I take are the Life Long Vitality pack from dottera but PLEASE do your own research before taking anything. The only thing I struggle with is protein but its not to bad. Anyways it feels good to get this off my chest and I hope others are comforted knowing they arent alone. Thank you for reading. :)
EmEm wrote on January 10, 2018 on 7:03 am:
i go by em and im 21 years old. i feel a lot of comfort knowing there are a lot of people like me out there. i hate a lot of the textures, smells, and appearances of food. i admit that my safe foods aren't always the best of choices and have lead me to some health concerns. i have adhd so i always wondered if maybe that has something to do with it. the last sleepover i went to, i kept worrying about food and the possibility of explaining that i'm so picky. a past of people who werent willing to understand doesnt help. i sometimes worry that maybe i have selective eating disorder. sometimes trying new things isn't always bad but it takes me so long to even do it because of fear. i'm just not sure how to turn things around at this point because i want to get better with this for the sake of my own health.
Clinton blasdaleClinton blasdale from Leicester wrote on January 3, 2018 on 7:36 pm:
Tired of eating the same things. Chips mash potatoes processed peas beans on toast that's all I can eat everything has to have hp souce on it.. never been able to put any other food in my mouth without gagging I am 41 and so embarrassed about having to explain this all the time..tried some chicken once but it took me 10min to swallow it.. some people have said to me... why don't you try hypnotherapy...but it seems a wast of time to me.. my wife is very supportive about it.. what help is out there for me to try new things
MeganMegan from Charlottesville, VA wrote on January 1, 2018 on 4:11 am:
All of these stories and diet sound almost exactly like mind. I’ve had selective eating since I was a toddler, cannot eat any vegetables except mashed potatoes, and generally fill my meals with carbohydrates and “white and yellow” foods. Over the last seven years, I’ve had some moments when I wake up one day able to eat something new... there’s no way to describe the onset of change, but a plain cheeseburger, scrambled eggs, and brownies suddenly appeared on my brain’s “safe food” list for no apparent reason. I am thankful that I eat better than I did in high school and before that, but I have a long ways to go before I will feel like a normal eater. My New Year’s resolution for 2018 will be to explore every avenue of overcoming this problem: hypnotherapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, and whatever else I come across that may help my health and well-being. Wishing all of you luck in the new year! Hope you’ll find improvement and change too.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Most people who try hypnotherapy have had negative results. Good luck with your new year's resolution.
Bob K
RebeccaRebecca from Vermont wrote on December 28, 2017 on 2:49 pm:
I’ve been a “picky eater” since I was about 2 (I’m 50 now). Finding this web page has brought me a lot of hope, as I thought I was the only person to eat like this for most my life. I look around this site though and discovered I’m doing better than I thought. I have irrational fears about food – it doesn’t look right, or taste okay, or smells weird, but the worst is the texture of most things. There’s not much logic to most of it either. I can’t handle any fruits and vegetables except raw carrots, and then they have to be skinny baby carrots. Mayonnaise and Ketchup gross me out. I have to know exactly what is in everything I eat – casseroles are just plain “no way, not eating it” foods.
Potluck dinners are painful to get through. I’ve learned one or two dishes I like that I do in a crockpot for the potluck, and when I go through the line I grab the smallest plate I can find and eat only my own food and maybe a roll. Then I get up from the table and walk around talking to people so folks don’t notice I’m not eating anything else.
I have discovered that if something is piping hot I can eat it easier than if its cold. I don’t like soup or sandwiches, so Lunch is difficult for me. I eat beef, chicken and some pork. Potatoes are great, rice can be okay, and pasta only with Ragu plain spaghetti sauce. Nothing with chunks in it. I love cheese, crackers, chips, chocolate and Coca-cola. Weight is a problem for me because what I eat are all high calorie foods. I can’t stand leftovers. I end up throwing a lot of food out because I’m afraid of it making me sick or making me gag.
I would love to be able to go to a restaurant and not have to look at the menu first. To be able to sit down at someones house and know I could eat whetever they put in front of me withoyt telling them in advance what I can eat. To not constantly worry what will be available for food no matter where I go. Food stress is my biggest issue every day. To find out through your web page that there are others that know how I feel is such a relief. I thought about more counseling to figure out how to eat different, but just the thought of telling someone who might make me try something new makes me terrified. Thanks for having this place for us to share.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You have lots of company that know just what your life is like and you never chose to have our eating disorder. No reason you can't have a great life.
AlAl wrote on December 22, 2017 on 10:29 pm:
It's Al again.. I told my boyfriend last night about all of this... and he was very accepting and offered his full support. I wasn't surprised, because I know that he loves me, but it was a massive weight off of my shoulder.
I know there isn't a total cure for ARFID, but if I could even incorporate 5 new foods into my diet than I would be over the moon; it would really change my life.
I'm very thankful for this site, that allows people like us to know that they're not alone.
Merry Christmas!
Admin Reply by: Bob
Thanks Al. Now that your boyfriend knows you life will have way less stress in it. Make a new years resolution to learn to 2 foods in the coming year. I know that worked for someone in the past. Harder than it sounds but give it a good shot. Merry Christmas
AlAl wrote on December 21, 2017 on 6:13 am:
I haven't been diagnosed with ARFID, but there is absolutely no doubt in my mind that I have it. For as long as I can remember I have had an issue with food; I can name more food that I DO eat than ones I don't. I'm 19 now and I've noticed more and more how it affects me, especially since I have a boyfriend now. He knows only to an extent that I'm 'picky' about food, but he has no idea exactly how picky I am. I want to get help for it so badly, I don't think I can live like this forever, but I really don't know where to turn. I guess I just feel really overwhelmed. Since ARFID is just more recently been accepted as a true disorder, I guess I'm wary that I'm going to go into a doctors office and they won't take me seriously.
Admin Reply by: Bob
If your doctor does not take you seriously than it might be time for a new doctor. Cure for ARFID is really hard to accomplish. But you can add some items to your diet over time. You would be wise to let your boyfriend in on your little secret. If he can't accept you the way you are then moving on to a new boyfriend may be what you will need to do. While ARFID can cause much distress at times. There are so many other things a person could have that are way worse. No reason why you can't have a happy long life no matter how many things you can eat.
Bob K
VictoriaVictoria from Louisiana wrote on December 20, 2017 on 9:25 am:
I'm 19 and while I haven't been formally diagnosed with ARFID yet, I have been dealing with most of the symptoms of it for as long as I can remember. Which, of course, means my family has been on my case about my diet for as long as I can remember. My mom has only recently come around to realizing how deep the issue goes for me and has pretty much stopped pressing me to try new foods because now she understands how much harder it is for me. As a kid she'd constantly try to get me to eat healthy foods, but it just didn't work out-of course, everyone she would talk to for advice told her to either force me to eat it anyway or not let me eat anything else until I did. Forcing me to eat was not a great option, but not letting me eat the foods I liked until I ate healthy foods was not any better. For one thing, my parents have been divorced since I was about a year old and I saw my dad at least once a week, and he always fed me whatever I wanted anyway. The other issue was that giving me that ultimatum just meant that I refused to eat. She said it really became obvious that it wasn't just me being stubborn a couple of years ago when we took a vacation to the UK: there were several times when we were surrounded by or offered food that I didn't like, so I just went hungry until we found food that I liked (we were in a large tour group and didn't always have the ability to go wherever we wanted). Issues like this where food I liked was unavailable for a period of time, plus my depression, plus the fact that my Vyvanse prescribed for my ADD lowered my appetite means that my weight has been just at the line between healthy and underweight for several years now. I usually avoid going places where there will be food unless I'm certain that one of my safe foods will be there, or at the very least I bring snacks. Whenever I say that I'm a picky eater, people either look at me like I'm a snob or they start lecturing me about my health and trying new things. I get very anxious in social situations regarding food because of this. I hope to get my doctor's opinion on this soon and hopefully get a diagnosis. I don't know that I'll ever get over it, or at least if I'll be working on recovering any time soon, but it would just be so much nicer if I could tell people I have an eating disorder instead of just saying that I'm picky... It seems like people might take it more seriously then.
Admin Reply by: Bob
I'm no doctor but it sure sounds to me like you have ARFID. If most of the foods you can't eat don't really look like food that is one sign of the disorder. There are others.
Bob K
LauraLaura from Anthem wrote on December 19, 2017 on 5:09 pm:
I just turned 50 last month and have been a very picky eater my whole life. My mother says it stems from my father who was picky. My mother tried everything to get me to eat...from forcing to shaming to even bribing me (she offered me $100 to eat steak and I refused). At one point, she took me to a doctor to find out what was wrong. The Dr told her I was healthy and basically told her to let go. I am very thankful for my mom because she always had food she knew I liked and didn't press the issue. But life wasn't easy, I avoided social situations because it seemed society made everything revolve around food. Even nowadays and I can't eat most things served in restaurants. I didn't even date for years because I didn't think any man would understand. It was very difficult. Very demeaning. Twenty years ago, I met my now husband. When we first started dating, he thought I was anorexic because I refused to eat in front of him or go to a restaurant but when he learned about my issue, he didn't care. He loved me first who I was. Over the years, I have become a great cook, mostly because I wanted to avoid restaurants so I made sure my husband was well fed. I have tried alot more foods but still, my taste buds are off and I usually don't like it. It is very frustrating still as the social aspect is ongoing especially in work, most people still do not understand and often ask too many questions which make me uncomfortable. I find it funny actually because society is so accepting of people who are different but they refuse to accept a picky eater. Finding this website is comforting and I am very lucky to find a man who accepts me despite my issue. But I really wish I was normal sometimes. And by the way, I am 50, I look like i'm in my 30s. I take no medications, I am thin, I workput, I hike, I bike...I feel great so being picky does not equal unhealthy.
MeaganMeagan from Bowling Green wrote on December 18, 2017 on 1:51 am:
I am so thankful that I stumbled across this page. It is amazing to know that I am not alone in this. My name is Meagan and I am 22 years old. Everyone around me has for the most part been supportive. My parents did try to force me to eat veggies and whatnot early on, but soon just encouraged me to try a new thing every once in a while, when they realized that I would not eat what they put in front of me. My mom was convinced I was a super taster or something of that nature. Probably because her cousin only ate hotdogs, steak, French fries, and peanut butter sandwiches from childhood through adulthood. Not only my family, but my friends, too, accepted this about me. I wouldn't say that there is a particular event that scarred me or turned me off to any particular foods per say, but according to my parents I ate green beans, carrots, etc. (won't touch those) among other veggies and fruits as a toddler. Out of the blue, I just stopped. My big issue is textures. If I have to chew for too long or if the food is slimy, mushy, stringy, etc. I cannot bring myself to swallow whatever it may be. Me trying new foods is preceded by intense anxiety to the point where I will panic cry and try every possible way to get out of it. On a sweeter note, I will eat ALL KINDS of desserts. I don’t really have a problem with sweets unless they have obvious chunks of fruit in them, but lots of fruit flavors I like. My first thought when attending anything away from home is, "What will I eat there? Should I eat before I go? What can I say to get out of eating whatever is being served?" It’s a constant battle. The weird thing is that I LOVE learning about food, watching food network, cooking with/for my family and I think that is what keeps me sane. Most food smells amazing and I love to learn different food/flavor combinations, BUT I would never eat any of it...I don't really want to most of the time. Seeing what I make being enjoyed by others, rather than tasting it myself is definitely what I prefer. Everyone knows I am picky eater. And thank god for that. Going over to my family's house is never a big deal because a cheese/pepperoni pizza, cheese quesadillas, French fries, grilled cheeses, or crispy chicken nuggets are always prepared along with what everyone else is eating, like it is no different than their meals. I am so appreciative of that. SO, appreciative. I have always known I have been different and a lot of the time I try to embrace it, but I also have days where I feel like a complete outsider with no solution to my issue. One day, I would love to eat whatever is placed in front of me, but it is nice to know that it’s okay if I don’t.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Dear Meagan
Thanks for leaving your post in our guest book. Your post show that some of what we have may be running through our genes as your mother said about her cousin having similar problems.
Have a great holiday meal with your loved ones.
Bob K
TT from Chicago wrote on December 4, 2017 on 11:50 pm:
Im 37 and i have been picky all my life id rather go hungry if theres nothing in the house id eat the odd thing about me is i also have to be in the mood for my safe food or i wont eat that either ill cook for my kids then go munch on chips which i know is such a bad example i love cereal and pizza im 5ft8 and only 120lbs i want to gain weight my goal for 2018 is get over this and stop looking like a teen
CrystalCrystal from New Palestine wrote on December 1, 2017 on 8:15 pm:
I have been a "picky eater" my entire life with a phobia of vomiting on the side. It didn't bother me much as long as I could eat my "safe foods" which was a wide enough range to maintain a healthy weight eating whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted.
A few months ago I got food poisoning for the first time and if I didn't have ARFID before that, I definitely do now. I think about vomiting everytime I think about putting food anywhere close to my mouth. I mistake any feeling in my stomach for nausea, including hunger, which cuases my appetite to vanish while my stomach remains in pain. My "safe foods" that I could eat an abundancy of are now limited to eat until the slightest feeling of fullness or mistaken nausea appears. Because of this I have lost 15 lbs that I cannot gain back, which has left me almost underweight.
I'm at a loss for what to do but I'm hoping with plenty of research and support, I can overcome this and start eating better than I ever have.
NicoleNicole from Little Compton wrote on November 29, 2017 on 1:45 pm:
I need to read about this...my daughter is the pickiest eater I have ever met.
PoppyPoppy from Hereford wrote on November 28, 2017 on 5:27 pm:
I thought I was the only one! Going over to friends house for tea is so frustrating especially when they tell me they're doing something i cant touch for tea, such as shepherds pie. :( It makes me feel so anxious having to announce that im a picky eater. Plus, I suffer from gastro eosophical reflux which doesn't help.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Some people do hide there eating by just saying I suffer from something that limits my eating what you will be having. However I would like to join you for the Tea part of the meeting. No need to tell them what you really have. Lots of people have medical issues that limit what they can eat.
YvetteYvette from Daleville wrote on November 24, 2017 on 5:10 pm:
I wanted to add some information to my previous entry. The foods I can eat for breakfast is cereal but can't get soggy, bagels, biscuits, very crispy bacon, hashbrowns (only from McDonalds), pancakes, waffles, french toast. For lunch or dinner- cheese pizza but can't have pieces of tomatoes or other vegetables in the sauce or a lot of cheese on it, tomato soup (only Campbells), crackers, peanut butter, grilled cheese, french fries but can't be too thick.

Apples I can eat if they are crisp and sweet (not cooked). The only way I have found to be able to eat fruit and vegetables is to juice and make smoothies. But there can't be any pieces in it so I will strain it.

I am so glad to not be alone. I know there are others that can't eat as much as me or eat other things than me.
Thanks for having this website.