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HalimaHalima from Kano, Nigeria wrote on August 12, 2020 on 10:22 pm:
I am 29 and I can eat only 2 times in 2 days because I don't have favourite food . I eat when I'm in the mood to eat my today's favourite food could be my hated food tomorrow and I hate it. I don't know what's wrong with me I look skinny and malnourishedi'm 48kg. I feel blessed to find this website through YouTube documentary.
Kaylyn McElhenneyKaylyn McElhenney from Maryville wrote on August 11, 2020 on 6:40 pm:
I have been an incredibly picky eater for my entire life. Both of my parents were relatively picky as well, and never really pushed me to eat new foods or try new things - if they wouldn't eat it, why would they make me? I'm now 23, and have so much anxiety surrounding food. I've never tried most vegetables. I have never tried any kind of sauce. I hate foods that are watery or soggy. I have never eaten soup. I'm very sensitive to texture, and that puts me off of trying new things. I also have anxiety about how my food is prepared - I want to know exactly what's in it and what it has touched. If I see something I don't like touch food that I am about to eat, I feel physically unable to eat the food. I'm an anxious and high-strung person outside of my eating habits, but my picky eating feels like it's on a completely different level. It frustrates everyone in my life that I refuse to try new things, and I feel guilty because everyone has to cater to my weird eating habits. I would like to branch out and start trying new foods, but I feel like I cannot mentally or physically bring myself to do so. I've lived with my eating habits for my entire life, and I'm accustomed to people reacting strangely to how few things I will eat. But the older I get, the more embarrassed I feel by my pickiness. I wish I could explain to people that I'm not trying to be a brat!
Admin Reply by: Bob
You probably have ARFID Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. It was entered into the Medical Ref DSM in May of 2013. You have the less severe type because you are not malnourished. Does it appear to you that the things you don't want to even try do not resemble food to your brain? You are the way you are. You can expand what you can eat but you will always have a long list of things you will not eat. You might also have a touch of OCD adding to your problems. Many who have ARFID are somewhere on the spectrum scale. I would bet you are gifted in other ways. I will send you a direct invite to our support group which we recently moved to . Bob K
JayJay from CHICAGO wrote on August 9, 2020 on 8:16 pm:
So, I am 36yrs old and I am have SeletiveEatingDisorder! I've been like this since the age of 4yrs old!! I am 7 out of 8 kids and I am the only one that have a very extreme palate.
I DO NOT TOUCH ANYTHING THAT HAVE A mushy texture ! My list of this I do it is about 8 or Less!! My go to is french fries ! Breakfast ,Lunch and dinner!! They have to be done a certain way! In the past year I started eating and trying Chicken breast , it had too look and be cooked a certain way !! I Do not eat vegetables! None!! Nothing absolutely
nothing sea food !!! And the list of things I've never had is very long!! Restaurants, not a problem because usually they have 3 of the items I do it French fries, something bread or something chocolate and I am okay!! OR I JUST ORDER FROM THE KIDS MENU!! It's funny explaining my Selective Eating to ppl they never believe me. I've been with my bf for over 10yrs and he still dont get over how I eat!! Well this is my STORY!!
CassCass from San Diego wrote on July 27, 2020 on 1:51 am:
I grew up as a picky eater and threw high school I started to grow out of it. Trying new foods, etc. As a kid it was only made worse by my single father desperately trying to get me to eat anything new. He took me on a roadtrip trip for 2 weeks when I was probably 8 or 9 and would nto let me eat anything unless it was cold green beans or peas out of the can. This made things much worse of course and I was sick from not eating during the trip I was vomiting up bile. Eventually at that point he let me have saltine crackers. Anyway, my picky eating worsened after that but began to get better once the pressure from him was relieved. Then in high school my mother who lived across the country died and I spiraled out of control of my eating again. I would try to eat the new foods I ad begun eating just a few years prior and I would gag and vomit. It got so bad I couldnt eat anything again but the "kids foods" i had been stuck eating my whole life prior. I am not stuck at 23 with not much change. During college I would try to eat different things in the dining hall so people wouldn't look at me weird, but in times of stress I would find myself in that downward spiral. I have always avoided eating with people and I have become an expert and eating just enough and moving food around on my plate to make me look like I enjoyed the food I was served. I now live with my boyfriend of 1 year and it bothers him immensely. I feel at a loss of what to do or how to get back in control of my eating. I can't afford therapy, and I don't even have insurance. I feel so extremely lost and frustrated.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Your boyfriend should be told that it's very possible you will never change very much if at all. Plus you really never asked to be the way you are. He needs to accept you as you and not constantly try to fix you. You have a real medically recognized disorder that lots of people have. I'm going to send you a direct invite to our new support group and the people there may be able to help you feel better about your issues. No reason you can't have a long happy health life. Therapy for our condition is not very helpful for most. The good news you are not the only one and you are not alone. Probably a day you will remember for many years.
AnastasiaAnastasia from Petersham wrote on July 23, 2020 on 6:19 pm:
So I came across this by looking up what cucumbers taste like because I saw this video that made pizza on a cucumber. I am so relieved to have found this page because I am 21 and have been dealing with this since I was little. Most people would tell me to grow out of it but some friends have understood. I have a really bad texture problem where I don't like mashed foods except for squash and don't eat fruits or veggies unless in a smoothie. I really want to break out of this and eat a salad like most but I have tried salad and never undestood why someone would like it.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You should ask Marla M about her tragic salad story. Sending you an invite to our support group. You are not alone anymore.
PatricePatrice from Sebastopol wrote on July 22, 2020 on 4:11 am:
I am 61 years old and have struggled with food as long as I can remember. In each and every person’s story, I see something I can relate to. If I could change one thing about myself, THIS would be it!

I learned about ARFID just a few months ago from the school Psychologist where I work, and I was so relieved and excited that there was finally actually a name for it, and it was being recognized as something more than just “picky eating.” I have spent a lifetime feeling so alone, isolated, freaky, and ashamed due to this.

I am a very social person, so this is very challenging, as so much of our culture, and every culture it seems, is centered around FOOD. I miss out on so much of the fun that I want to partake in, including travel, because of it. I’ve been judged, cajoled, told to “get over it,” pressured, had people get upset with me, get impatient, and even angry. I am left out of invites because I have turned down so many involving food. I have felt extremely uncomfortable in social situations, avoid most functions that involve food, experience incredible shame, have nearly had a panic attack just looking at a menu when I couldn’t see one thing I could eat… I feel nauseous just at the “thought” of some foods. Strong smells bother me, as do textures. Greens taste like dirt! I couldn’t eat take-out pizza until I was in my 20’s because it made me feel like I was choking.

The funny thing is, I love watching cooking shows, but there isn’t anything that they cook that I would eat. I watch other people eat a large variety of healthy foods, like my daughter and 3 year old granddaughter, and I just can’t fathom how they do it! More than anything, I want to find a way to really expand my food repertoire. I want to eat healthy food and actually be able to enjoy it. I want to feel carefree and adventurous when it comes to food. I would like to date again, but ARFID is a huge impediment to doing that with ease.

I’m glad to know I am not alone. I would appreciate being added to the support group.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Welcome. I'm sending you a direct invite. No reason to stop dating. Just be up front from the very first date. Point out you work very hard to be the best you can be in other areas you control.
Lorrie HarmonLorrie Harmon from Charleston WV wrote on July 21, 2020 on 9:48 pm:
Iam writing this for my sister. She is 52 & a servere diabetic 1. She hid her pproblem for years. Our mother tried for years to get her to eat or try something new it no good. Now here we are she needs to be eating regular meals at set times. She lives on peanut butter & milk whatever we can get her to eat.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Trulicity and Treseba injections can be a big help if she is type II. I'm a terrible eater but those two drugs help me keep my A1C under 7.
You will probably never get her to change her diet very much. But some of the drugs today can work miracles.
EmilyEmily from Chicago wrote on July 20, 2020 on 7:34 pm:
Hey there,

I am 27 years old and I have struggled with restrictive eating since I was three. It's so great to hear from people like me. Unlike a lot of people here, I enjoy a lot of fruits and vegetables. However, my issue has always been getting enough protein. I don't eat meat, can't stand cheese. I eat a lot of pasta pizza (without the cheese) bread, pb&j and garden salads. I won't eat cooked vegetables, though except for corn on the cob. It gives me so much anxiety when making new friends or trying to pick a place to go for a date (pre- Covid). Is there any hope for us? I would love to be part of the new group if you could send me an invite!
Admin Reply by: Bob
Your invitation is on its way. You are not alone and there is no reason you can't have a long happy healthy life.
SadieSadie from Williamsburg, VA wrote on July 19, 2020 on 5:01 am:
Hello all!! I just found this group, and I have to say I am so relieved and grateful to read everyone’s stories. I’ve never met anyone in my life who was struggling with being a picky eater who was over the age 12. I can’t eat any cold foods, which sounds so silly, but it is so very limiting and inconvenient. Veggies and fruits are really difficult to tackle for me. I hate all sauces or dips and basically live off a diet of carbs and meat. I’m worried about my health in the long run, and I just wish I could change and be like the mass population of people who enjoy all kinds of food and don’t have to worry about anything like this. Thanks for making me feel like I’m not alone in this struggle.
HillaryHillary from Greenwich wrote on July 15, 2020 on 6:11 pm:
38 going on 8 - - - I had some traumatic experiences when I was a kid because I wouldn't eat fruits or veggies. My aunt & baby sitter would force feed them to me to the point of gagging. So I've had these issues all my life. I've tried to do a small integration of fruits and veggies here and there - but then found that I had issues with textures. (like the seeds in strawberries, or the pulp of oranges) I cannot do fish (traumatic experience having to kill and gut one at an early age) or seafood as a whole - the smell makes me gag. The smell of tomatoes and the texture of cold lettuce on a warm sandwich... the list goes on. It is definitely preventing me from eating a healthy life, even with bariatric surgery, I am over weight of which I mostly contribute to my pickiness. :(
AllisonAllison from Princeton wrote on July 14, 2020 on 3:22 am:
I am so happy I found this page. My limited palate is causing anxiety and makes it difficult for me to lead a healthy lifestyle. I’m overweight because the bland food I eat lacks nutrition. I’d give anything to like or even tolerate vegetables to or not gag/puke at textures, smells and tastes. I have a daughter who is 2 and a picky eater and I’m fearful she’ll end up like me
AlisonAlison from Brockton wrote on July 11, 2020 on 8:48 am:
Hey guys
I have had a rough time eating ever since I was a child. My mom always said I ate like a bird because I ate just enough to survive. As I get older, (19) I realize that my diet of chicken nuggets, pizza, pasta, hot dogs, and grilled cheese gives me no nutritional value. I want to expand my food palette but I have such a hard time. Sometimes the smell of a food is enough to draw me away forever (ex. Seafood) and other times it’s the texture (ex. Cooked vegetables) I have tried some new foods and having it in my mouth makes me want to gag. I don’t know what to do to help myself but I know I need it
AmberAmber from Christiansburg wrote on July 8, 2020 on 2:00 am:
Hello I'm 23 years old and finally learned that I'm not weird for being a 'picky eater'. My fiance and I argue all the time about my pickiness because he says I eat like a child and he's gotten to the point he won't cook for me and I eat canned foods.
I am not a picky eater per se I like the taste of a lot of foods but I cant stand the texture. One main issue is melted shredded cheese that clumps up. If I bite into a clump of cheese I instantly gag and/or puke. There are so many textures my body instantly gags at and my entire life I've avoided eating at other peoples houses or going to restaurants because if I happen to gag or puke I dont want to seem overreacting or rude.
My fiance and I had a baby and he's terrified our son will be a 'picky eater' like me. And he completely resents me for gagging at foods he cooks or just generally avoiding dinner. I don't want our son to be like me it really is a struggle and I'm glad I found this site of others with the same issue.
Admin Reply by: Bob
There are 1000s of people who suffer as you do. It appears that our disorder ARFID can sometimes travel in our genetic material. If your child has it they will have it no matter what you do. Chances are they won't. Your Fiance needs to find some way to accept you the way you are because you may never become the foodie he wishes you were. ARFID was added to the DMM in May of 2013 and medical professionals are still trying to figure out how they can help us. I will send you a direct invite from our new support group. I would bet you are very gifted in other ways.
DonnaDonna from Saint John wrote on July 7, 2020 on 3:54 pm:
Hello, I am 56 and have had this afflication all my life although my mother says I hate things as a toddler I wouldnt think of eating now. Just looking for the support and compassion of people who understand as most people dont. I have missed out on things my whole life and still feel great anxiety when dealing with social situations. Thanks for creating this.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Sending you an invite to our new support group.
TevinTevin from Chesterfield wrote on June 29, 2020 on 2:32 pm:
My names Tevin, I’m 25 years old and have been struggling with picky eating since 5 years old. I would eat bean, green beans, speghetti, and all but since then now I’ve only eaten fries, burgers with just ketchup and cheese, pizza, pb&j sandwiches. Hotdogs. Mashed potatoes and Mac and cheese.

I’ve never tried Mexican or seafood or even Chinese food. And this problem has effected my social life a lot. Just about a couple months ago before COVID 19 happend i decided to try Baby Back Ribs for the first time at TGI FRIDAYS, and tbh it wasn’t what i expected. It tasted too chewy of a meat for me and i ended up not taking another bite.

I honestly want to change my eating habit and have been researching ways on how to slowly start eating new foods. I’m on the verge of changing my daily habits in general after some Unexpected experiences that happens in my life back then
KimKim from Sydney, Australia wrote on June 1, 2020 on 8:58 pm:
Hi, my names Kim I am 28 years old. I have been a fussy eater since I was about 4 years old.
Over the last 6 years I have really struggled with my eating in the sense that I just want to be done with this fussiness and move on with my life!
I don't eat any veggies, no red meat, hardly any fruits. Pretty much the list is: Breast chicken (schnitzel or grilled), bacon no fat, red apples, pasta with cheese on it, milk and there isn't really too much else.
About 5 years ago I wanted to try hypno but my partners mother bought an "energy balance" for me. After it, I came out feel light and positive and tried 2 new things each day. There was no difference.
About 3 years ago I ended up getting to a hypnotherapist and had 2 sessions. Unfortunately that didn't work. I don't believe the lady specialised in an issue like mine.
Now I am at a point where am trying to find a hypnotherapist that can help me, because to me there are no other options. I like the smell of some foods and I am curious and willing to try them I just do not like the taste of them at all, It is so frustrating on my journey to become more healthy because my main staples in life is carbs. Cheese, bread and pasta.
If it came down to it, there is no doubt at all that I would pay to have my tastebuds removed and replaced with other ones that actually like most foods.
This has been the biggest challenge of my life.
If there is anyone, anywhere that knows how this could possibly be fixed. I beg you to get in contact with me to let me know. Thanks
Admin Reply by: Bob
Hello Kim
Just to let you know over the last 18 years of exchanging notes with other people who share our disorder I have not heard of anyone getting much help long term true help from Hypnosis. There is a person in the UK who's name starts with the letter F who claims to help people in just one or two sessions. His first name would also be the same as a very famous cartoon cat from the 1940s. I just don't want to mention his name on this forum. If you do some google searches you will probably find him. I don't believe he can do what he claims to do but he will take lots of your money if you want to try him. Because most of us are hard wired in our brain finding real effective treatments are very hard to find if it's even possible. I'm 72 and I will go to my final resting place with it. But I have found a way to have a great life even if I do live on a 4 year olds dream diet. Always great to hear from the land down under.
DanniDanni from Sacramento wrote on May 27, 2020 on 6:16 am:
This is kind of long but very needed: I’m so sick and tired of people commenting on my picky eating. I’m 25 years old and have been dealing with this my entire life. I’m just so tired. I’m tired of people pushing and pushing and pushing me. No one listens when I say stop. No one listens when I ask them to leave me alone or to drop it. People don’t realize how much anxiety it gives me. No one seems to care about how it makes me feel. It’s always “just trying to look out for you” or “I just want what’s best for you” no one ever seems to care. I have yelled, screamed and fought for people to listen and no one does. I’m just tired of it. I’m so angry and upset that I’m not being heard. When I tell people that I don’t like it they push me “why?why?” That’s all I hear and when I say I don’t to them it’s not an answer. I’m not even sure why. I just don’t. Pushing me to try food is going to just make it worse and not make me want to try new food. I WILL TRY THEM WHEN I AM READY. why don’t people listen! I’m just so drained and tired and I just want them to stop.
I’m sorry this is so long I just I’m suffocating and I’m tired and just need someone. Anyone. To understand what I’m going through.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Just posted your guest book message to our support group message board. I'm also sending you an invite to join our great group of thousands of people just like you. Hope you can find some comfort with us.
Bob K
NickNick from Waco wrote on May 23, 2020 on 9:13 pm:
Okay so i know there are picky eaters out there but I’m 21years of age right now and i have always felt alone on my level of pickiness. Everything I eat has go be plain, no texture. If you thought it didn’t look plain there was a extremely high chance I couldn’t eat it. It has been miserable seeing everybody eat and me being alone with no plate so embarrassing. If I eat anything with texture or that isn’t plain I will Gag and throw up without fail since i was a kid. Never forced to eat anything for that very reason and if I did try to eat something that i knew I wouldn’t get along with it was always a terrible experience. Never feels good gaging on bad tasting food until you throw up. Never met anybody close to my pickiness
Admin Reply by: Bob
Well there are 1000s and 1000s just as limited in their food selections as you are. The medical diagnosis for our condition is ARFID Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. It was entered into the Medical DSM in October of 2013. So you never asked to be the way you are than say someone who is colored blind. You probably have a slightly better chance of improving your food choices which the color blind person does not have. You really would change if you could. But I just wonder how many people in the world would put lets say a dog turd in their months just to look normal. We tend to not see many things as food. Medical professional are still looking for ways to help us. In spite of our problems there is no reason you can't have a wonderful full life. I have found that being up front with our closest friends can help reduce lots of tension for us. Last tip you are probably gifted in other ways and you should take advantage of those gifts. Sending you an invite to our new support group. Now go out and have a great life.
SunnySunny from Corbett wrote on May 22, 2020 on 5:08 pm:
Hi, I'm actually here for my sister, She'has been having some nutrition problems for the last few years. We're pretty sure this is linked to an auditory processing dysfunction she has, which causes her to have trouble with a lot of tasks like schoolwork, chores, and even constructing meals for herself because processing the steps needed is difficult for her. It also means trying new foods is hard.
We both grew up picky eaters but she never managed to get out of that phase really, though we think it's also because she has a minor texture aversion.
I took a nutrition class not long ago and knowing more about it now I really want to help her get the nutrition she needs.
I've been looking around but I could only find things for little kids. She's almost twenty. This website seems like the best place to get advice, so I figured why not write?
Admin Reply by: Bob
I will be sending you a direct invite to our new support group at and I encourage you to re-post there.
MollyMolly from Sacramento wrote on May 21, 2020 on 2:17 am:
Relieved to have found this group. I’m so avoidant of foods that aren’t in my wheelhouse that I’ll go days without eating. Despite this, I am overweight and really self conscious, and want to find healthier alternatives. I’m so worried it’s a fight that I’ll lose and that I’ll be like this forever. Would love to talk to others about this. :’)