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MBMB from Atlanta wrote on April 17, 2020 on 2:18 am:
Hello fellow sufferers! I have a question (and I'll admit to not reading through all the posts to see if this has already been discussed). Are any of you "foodies?" As in "I love food. I will travel somewhere for the food. I think about certain foods all the time. One of my greatest sources of pleasure is food." I used to think I was really unique in that I suffer from ARFID, but as still a foodie. Many of the foods I eat I really love. Obviously, my diet is not as restrictive as many, or this wouldn't be possible. But I saw an article in a magazine (can't recall which one) several years ago titled something like "I'm a picky eater and a foodie!" It described me to a T and I am curious as to how many of us there are.
MBMB from KS wrote on April 15, 2020 on 4:14 am:
I've been a picky eater all of my life. I am still a selective eater at 65. I take these tests online and they guess your age based on what you like. i get age 11. LOL! Seriously though, I have had my bouts with allergies early in life. I had an egg allergy at age 1 and also a peanut allergy (legumes of any kind beans, peas, and peanuts) I cannot eat because I am highly allergic. When I was in 3rd grade the teacher made me eat a Snickers. As I ate it, it smelled horrible and my mouth was burning. So I blame some of my pickiness on allergies. But other things like my dislike of tomatoes is weird because I do like tomato products but not tomatoes. I won't eat salad as I don't like any dressings or lettuce that much. I am not big on Mexican food and forget about Chinese food. Nope. I didn't realize that my pickiness could be a medical disorder (anxiety and or depression) or even possibly related to autism. It has been interesting to read what you all don't like too. I can relate very well. Thanks for having this group out here.
AbbyAbby from Midwest wrote on April 2, 2020 on 12:01 am:
Hi all. I just found this site and I’m amazed, I never knew there was a name for what I’ve experienced, or a group of people suffering the same thing. Family and friends have often made me feel weird and guilty for not liking the same foods as them, and for not wanting to go to certain restaurants. It’s always “my fault” because I’m “just being childish”. So to know that there’s a group of people who know what I go through is so comforting. Thank you for creating this site.
Taylor HendricksTaylor Hendricks from Highlands Ranch wrote on March 9, 2020 on 7:25 pm:
My name is Taylor. I am a 23 year old male who is on the autism spectrum, having Aspergers. Throughout my life I have only been able to eat one food: plain chicken fingers. My diet consists of mostly that and junk food. I also have severe depression and have been struggling with it most of my life. Doctors have said I have a chemical imbalance in my brain which makes it difficult for me to function well in life. I am always depressed and feel like I don’t do anything because I don’t have the energy or strength to. I don’t have a license and stopped going to school and still love with my mother. Every time I choose to do something with my life I always fail and stay stuck in the rut I have dug myself in for years. Recently I have begun taking tiny steps in hopes I can get my life on track this year. I always knew I had to do some ring with my diet in order to effectively make change in my life. However when I try new foods my gag reflex kicks in and makes it near impossible to eat anything new. I looked up eating disorders to try and help me find solutions and I came across an article on The Daily Beast and it made me feel better in knowing that I am not alone with this type of disorder. I really hope to become a part of this community to try and be able to open myself up to new foods because I know that if I continue with my eating habits then it will only get worse for my body in the future. This site has shown me a lot of good resources I will be looking into. Thank you for confirming my fears and letting me know that other people struggle with this too.
AJAJ from Deep South wrote on March 3, 2020 on 1:39 am:
I have been a selective eater all my life. I have learned to cope and places not to go cause of the food they serve. Only a few family members know of my issue. Only one makes a big deal of it just as a butt hole kid tirelessly dogged me in school. Very painful memories! Wanted that dirt bag to be hit by a bus for being so hateful! This is long before bullying was a thing. My relative I just tell her to shut up, if she continues i raise my voice and ask her if she has hearing problems. Basically I shout her down. The smell of some food makes me sick, second is the texture. I still detest going out and having ppl pushing food my way I know I do not eat, saying oh this is so good! And my ALL Time Fav...."you don't know what your missing ", I want to slap the dog $$$$ out of the next person that says that to my face! I have a rule: If it's not on my plate it's not my biz! And with the rise of the "foodies" running around , God help me not to slap anyone.
SarahSarah from Wales, UK wrote on February 10, 2020 on 7:12 pm:
Hey guys!
I am so happy I found this website and forum.
My story:
Since the age of 2 years old I have been unable to eat fruit or vegetables.
I have not been through any trauma, no choking, no being forced to eat foods. It just developed?
I'm 25 years old now and so far have gotten by without! But the older I get and the more I learn about diet and wellbeing the more I know I HAVE to eat them. Until this week I had absolutely no idea it was a type of eating disorder! I just thought I was just plain fussy.
I have ALWAYS tried to eat fruit and vegetables and I have never refused to try something new. But each time the same things happens...i gag, sometimes I puke and then usually I cry out of embarassment.
I am not scared of fruit or veg, If they are on my plate i just simply avoid them or pick them out (or give them to someone else).I just physically cannot eat them.
For me now i would like to eat much more healthily and it sounds crazy...but i LOVE animals and id love to be a vegetarian as i do feel guilt when eating meat!
My boyfriend is a pescatarian and i actually tried this with him for about a month eating meat alternatives such as quorn BUT I got super sick from it because I was no longer getting the vitamins and minerals from meat. I have tried making smoothies but to be honest... I really dont like them! I LOVE the taste and flavour of fruit...mango is my favorite but I cannot physically eat just the tiniest slice of mango without gagging which again SUCKS.
I survive, I make my own foods for example: lasagne with tomato puree but no diced tomatoes, diced onions etc in there. I also take a s**t ton of vitamins.
Eating out at a restaurant can be interesting BUT I do manage - again if there are vegetables on my plate i just pick them out.
Overall though... I HATE BEING LIKE THIS! And I have absolutely no explanation why this has happened in my life? I'm 4 ft 11 so very petite (most likely because i do not eat fruit or vegetables) but ive never been too overweight.
If anyone has experienced the same thing with not being able to eat fruit/veg please get in touch I would love to hear from you or any of you. This forum and website is amazing and im so thankful it exists because it does make you realise that wherever you are in the world, your not alone.
Sending all my love to you fellow picky eaters from the UK!
Admin Reply by: Bob
Glad you found our site and you are not alone. Many others suffer with our disorder and none of us ever asked to be the way we are. Many of us have gotten really good at hiding it from most of the people we come in contact with and we do suffer lots of social embarrassment. But in scheme of things there are so many other disorders a person can have that are way worse than not being able to eat a wide variety of foods.
JessicaJessica from Bogotá wrote on February 7, 2020 on 12:43 am:
Just yesterday, I realized there's a name for what I go through on a daily basis. I am a college student from the states studying abroad in Bogota and I have been struggling with this since leaving my home after high school. For the first two years in college, I stuck to small amounts of "safe" foods, like fruits, rice, plain noodles, chicken tenders, fries, some vegetables if cooked, mac n cheese, grilled cheese, plain potato chips, french bread and chicken noodle soup. Nothing on a bone EVER. I never try new things, I gag when I don't like a food texture or taste (I can't help it), and I have no appetite most of the time unless it is one of my favorite foods. I have been super picky since high school and rarely eat throughout the day. I didn't realize I had a problem though. I just thought it was my taste palette--that there was nothing I could do about it. Then last night my boyfriend and I were talking about my diet. He was concerned that I get sick a lot (pretty much every week since we started dated a year and a half ago) and he brought up that I need to eat more. I googled "picky eater" and Selective Eating Disorder popped up. After two different websites, all of my symptoms matched: texture fears, choking, gagging, allergies to random foods like avocados (and yes I have had terrible allergic reactions to foods when out at restaurants and had to leave to get Benadryl). I honestly would forget to eat because I just didn't feel hungry. I feel terrible every time I eat because I can never find something I like at any restaurant (then again sometimes that is easier if I only like one thing so I don't have to scour the menu forever)... I can never finish a whole plate of food regardless of the amount. I don't know why, I just physically can't take another bite. The woman I live with in Bogota tries to force feed me foods that I don't like and there's a language barrier too, so that's an issue. She is constantly making me eat all of the proteins (chicken because that's all I will eat) on my plate and I feel so nauseous after and gag. I can never swallow new foods, I always have to spit them out. It's really difficult for me to even take a bite sometimes because I know I won't like it and have the horrible taste in my mouth for a while. This is terrible, but I feel like I starve myself just because I cannot find a single thing that I like to eat. Most of the time, I only eat half of my meal. This is most annoying when other people make the food, such as at an outing or party, because I feel guilty for not finishing it. They ALWAYS say something like "you don't like it?" or "You are so skinny, you need to eat it all." Ugh...not sure how to proceed. Just glad that I know what is going on now and it's not just me being annoyingly picky. If it annoys anyone the most, it's me.
BeckyBecky from Greenfield wrote on February 4, 2020 on 2:40 pm:
I just found this while trying to find healthy options to all the foods on meal plans I simply won’t/can’t eat. I am struggling to lose weight and eat healthy. Since I can remember I have issues with food textures and smells. Mashed anything, yogurt, bananas, cooked orange foods (this is getting easier slowly), casseroles freak me out- it’s always felt odd to be this picky. When I was a child my dad had the rule of your plate must be cleaned which meant chocking down foods I can’t stand and sometimes throwing up afterwards. My mom tried to help by eating some for me or keeping off my plate. I am almost 50 years old and my mom still buys me separated plates to help. I do most of the cooking at home So I can be sure all the foods are going to be once I eat. I have say foods I ordered restaurants and never order anything that can have a gravy so they can’t slide to touch my other food. It’s amazing to have a website to see that I’m not the only one like this.
GageGage wrote on February 2, 2020 on 12:39 pm:
Hi. I am someone who was once an extremely picky eater but has now personally overcome this condition and has now added quite a few new foods to my palate. My goal in this post is to help others be able to do the same for themselves.

What I learned in my personal experience with picky eating was that what I deep down hated the most was not actually the food itself, but rather the whole "dinner table" experience that was thrust upon me as a child by my parents.  They are good parents overall, but they unforunately failed when it came to providing me with a stress-free and fun dinner table experience while growing up.  They didn't understand how scared I felt in those moments at the dinner table when there was "unsafe" food served to me, and it was always a lose-lose situation. If I wasn't completely opposed to the new food, they forced me to eat more of it than I was comfortable eating (to the point where I then formed a bad relationship with that particular food that I could've eventually liked eating had I been given the chance to slowly become accustomed to it on my own terms and comfort level). If I was completely opposed to the new food, they'd make negative comments about how small of a bite I took and made me feel like it was my fault that I didn't like the food. I then began giving an "it's alright" response to new foods in an attempt to avoid the two extreme before-mentioned responses, but then after a few times of that, they'd complain "you ALWAYS say that" and then I hated hearing that too, but it was the lesser of the "evils", so I kept going with that response, which eventually affected my ability to stand up for myself, voice my opinions, and etc. because that's how I began to deal with other life issues as well. I also had very little social life for twenty some years because of this condition. It's a cruel thing to go through, and like anything else, people who haven't gone through it for themselves simply don't understand how it feels and the effects that their "just eat it" (and similar) comments have on those people who are going through that.

I grew up thinking that this was my own fault, and was told that it was my own fault, so I could never overcome it because I felt like I was constantly failing at every turn. I had very low self esteem. The moment that I started overcoming my aversion to new foods was the moment that I realized that this condition was not my fault in any way, and realized that it manifested in me due to my parents' causing me to have a terrifying experience at the dinner table every time that I had no "safe" foods served to me and wasn't allowed to become accustomed to new foods at my own pace and comfort level. Since realizing this, I have now slowly added quite a bit of new foods to my palate. Still hardly any vegetables, but that's okay since I want to eat mainly a meat based diet anyway.

So, I then on my own (so there was no external pressures being placed upon me) started trying very very small amounts of new foods along with my "safe" foods. If I was completely opposed to them, I wouldn't try them again. If I was not completely opposed to them, but didn't enjoy them, I ate the small bit that I took and left it at that. Then, nice time, I'd take the same small bit of that same food again and eat it again. I'd repeat that process until I became more comfortable with the texture and taste of the food to where I would slowly take a slightly larger portion of it (again, at my own pace and comfort level) until I eventually began eating it like anyone else who liked it would eat it. Then once I'd "master" one food, I'd do that with the next food and so on. It is easiest to do this when sticking to very similar foods, such as changing from French fries to hashbrowns, or from fries to mashed potatoes. This allows for particular textures to become more palatable, then one can move on to other foods with similar textures, such as from mashed potatoes to applesauce, or from hamburger to pulled pork.

It really comes down to being an intense fear that needs to be identified and alleviated in a slow and safe way, as I have explained.

Hope this helps people who are going through this "hell on Earth".
Admin Reply by: Bob
Thanks so much for your story. If it helps just one person who read our guest book it will be well worth the time you took to share your story with us.
Shalynne OestreichShalynne Oestreich wrote on January 23, 2020 on 6:54 pm:
Hello I’ve been on here once, back again. I have a question what vitamins does everyone take? I can feel that I’m not that healthy and just generally don’t feel “goood” I know I need to eat but yea you all know! So what can help this picky girl feel better!?!
Admin Reply by: Bob
Probably seeing your doctor to get blood tests to see what you may be deficient in. Then you can get some advice on vitamins and possible supplements. For me it's a multiple vitamin for men over 50. One Vitamin B12. It is a really good idea to let your doctors know that you have ARFID to some degree. No need to hide it these days. It's in the medical ref books. Good luck others may chime in.
Sarah BethSarah Beth from New Jersey wrote on January 18, 2020 on 4:25 am:
hi everyone! I feel a little uncomfortable doing this but I'm doing it anyway. I came across this website when doing research about picky eating. I've been a picky eater ever since I was a kid, so much that my pediatrician when I was a toddler told my mom not to worry about it and not to force me and that I'd grow out of it. surely enough, I never grew out of it, and now I'm twenty and still a "picky eater". my dad has tried to justify it for me in the past few years saying that my tastebuds are just overly sensitive, which is possible and which I do believe about myself cause I literally taste and feel EVERYTHING when I eat, but I know it's more than that. some of my friends are used to my patterns, but in the last few months, I've gotten close quickly to a new group of people who weekly order food when we're hanging out or every couple weeks or so we actually go out to eat. this has made me really self-conscious about my eating patterns cause I don't want them to think that I'm weird or crazy or anything but sometimes it's really hard to hide my patterns cause I can't always claim that I'm not hungry when they order food or something, especially if we go out to eat and I've barely eaten anything all day and then I'm with them all night and starving and then suffering in silence. it's so bad that I'm worrying two days ahead of time what I'm going to do when we all go out to eat. but despite all this, after some research and finding this site, it's kinda nice knowing I'm not the only one out there? and it felt kinda nice to get all of that off my chest without having a fear of judgement from it all.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Dear Sarah
It's not you or your parents fault. The advice they got from your doctor was standard advice especially when the medical community didn't know anything about those of us who never grew out of it. We learned to hide our secret like Superman hides his identity. You have injected yourself into a group of friends who will figure you out and along the way you could worry yourself so much you get sick. If you plan to stay with the group you should confess your eating issues to them. Full disclosure and you could throw in that you thought you were the only one and now you know it has a name and there are 1000s of adults with it. The official name is ARFID "Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder". If you disclose it to your new friends and they accept you think how much better and less stressful your life will be. If they reject you find some new friends who will accept you the way you are. I never advise a young child or teenager to disclose it because teenagers can be so cruel. I spent the last 25 years in an environment where all my friends and associates were told and it turns out to be very liberating. If you disclose ARFID you will then find out many of your associates have a friend or relative that might have it. Also include your doctors and get it listed in your medical records. Just imagine being in the hospital and they try to change your eating habits while your dealing with something else. There is no reason you can't have a great life no matter what things you can eat. I have found that many with ARFID are gifted in other ways. My very keen senses gave me some real advantages.
Bob K
BethanyBethany from Wales, UK wrote on January 15, 2020 on 7:53 am:
Hi! I’m Bethany and I’m 21, also vegetarian. I found this website while looking into picky eating. I have always been a picky eater since I was a baby. I cannot stand the appearance, smell and textures of most foods. I will not eat anything wet, and I pretty much burn any food I have to make sure it is dry. I’m limited to “childlike food” like quorn nuggets and chips and it has been a pain my whole life! I hate having to explain myself to people and have them tell me I’m missing out. People have tried pressuring me to try foods because I haven’t tried them before as It means I don’t know if I like it, but if it doesn’t look okay or smells bad I will not touch it and it seems to annoy people that I’m not willing to try new foods.
But It’s nice to read the comments and see that there are many other people out there who have been and are experiencing the same thing. Thank you for creating a website and bringing everyone together.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Sending you an invite to our support group.
RaeRae from Worcestor wrote on December 27, 2019 on 6:22 am:
Hello - my 13 year old child is a very selective eater. She eats cheese, bread, pasta, some types of pasta sauce, cheese pizza (if made a certain way), French fries and mashed potatoes, corn on the cob, rice and most sweets. She eats NO fruit, no vegetables (other than corn on the cob), no meat. My husband and I have never forced her to eat things she doesn’t like because we could tell from a very early age that it wouldn’t work and that it would be detrimental to her well-being. I am however very concerned about her health. I’d like to find someone who could help us address her nutritional issues without shaming her. I’m also interested in finding a practitioner who understands “chaining” since this is the only treatment I’ve read about that I think could help her. Can you make a recommendation for a treatment provider in Massachusetts, preferably in the Worcestor or Boston area?
Admin Reply by: Bob
I can not give you any names. Finding medical experts who have had much success with treating ARFID can be a daunting task. Over the last 17 years I have heard very few stories of total success. It is possible to improve the number of food choices a person can eat. Turning a person with ARFID into a foodie is almost impossible. As your child gets older her social embarrassment will become a major issue. My life was greatly affected by the choices I made because of ARFID. We have two support groups and both of them have parents as part of the groups. We have a Facebook group and a group at group.io. I will send you a direct link to the group.io group and you can find a link to join the facebook group on the main page of our website. www.pickyeatingadults.com I hope you can find what you are looking for. Thanks for posting on our guest book. Bob K
EsmeEsme from Montreal wrote on December 20, 2019 on 4:00 am:
Okay my mind was just blown in the last 10 minutes. I always meant to look into why I’m a picky eater but I only did it today. I’m 23 and have never related to anything so much in my life. Nobody seems to believe I don’t do it on purpose although most of my family and friends are used to my tastes by know. Watching that clip of people walking about warren buffet in your “famous picky eaters” tab hit close to home. He self-describes as liking childlike food because it honest and easier than listing everything he doesn’t like. And the interviewers just ridicule him. I have been a picky eater for as long as I can remember it’s definitely mental because I haaatteee cheese but I like meat pizzas. But I also know I have no control and people don’t understand. I have flushed food down the toilet or hidden it in my clothes in order to not be a burden to other people. Finally today I looked up picky eating and at first it was all about how to fix ur kids until I found the selective eating disorder and it told me the story of my life. Thank you for creating this website.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Glad you found us an you are not alone with it anymore.
RebeccaRebecca wrote on December 17, 2019 on 9:04 pm:
Hello, my 17 yr old son has become a picky eater over the last 11 yrs. I’m very concerned because he is 5’6” and only weighs 90 lbs. We suspect he is on the autism spectrum because of the many symptoms he has shown throughout his life. He is sensitive to taste, texture, smell, someone else’s chewing....to where he won’t even put it by his mouth or has to leave the room. He’s picky about different brand tastes, who made the food, what pans were used, the number of items (he must have exactly 10 chicken nuggets or he will not eat any at all, even if he ate nothing all day. His is malnourished and refuses so much food that it’s only getting worse. Does anyone has similar issues, who do we see to get help?
Admin Reply by: Bob
We have known that part of what makes us picky can be caused by being on the spectrum. I believe I have borderline Asperger syndrome. Sounds like your son is also dealing with OCD which is only making his eating even worse. We have lots of members in our group that seem to have some OCD tendencys. You should probably find help from a professional who works with OCD and eating disorders like ARFID. Glad you found us. Hope this helps in some small way. We will be glad to help you with our opinions in the future. I'm sending you an invite to one of our support groups which also has some members who are parents just like you.
Bob K
KelseyKelsey wrote on December 17, 2019 on 3:15 pm:
Hi! New reader here and glad to have found this place! I’m a 28 year old woman. As a baby and toddler, my mom always told me I had absolutely no trouble with food. I’d eat almost anything and spit out what I didn’t like (very few things, just like all babies do). Then around the age of 3, I went to a babysitter while my parents worked. She ran a daycare through her home that I assume was under government guidelines, so she had to feed us certain foods to follow along a balanced diet. Which meant vegetables, among other foods. Brussel sprouts, cabbage, broccoli, turnip greens, just to name a few. If it was green, it was served. I was forced to eat it, and I can vividly remember being repulsed by the smell of steamed/sautéed vegetables. So I refused to eat them. One night, I was there late because my mom worked until 8pm or so. My mom said she walked in the house to pick me up, and I was sitting at the table in the kitchen, ALONE, and in the DARK. The rest of the family and few kids were in the living room, watching tv. I was told I wasn’t allowed to leave the table until I finished my dinner. I’m sure I had eaten everything but whatever vegetable was served that night. My mom was furious, picked me up, threw the plate in the sink, and told the babysitter I wouldn’t be coming back anymore. I truly believe because of this babysitter, I’m the picky eater I am today. I’ve branched our much more over the years. But there’s still lots of foods I won’t eat or am afraid to even try. My go to foods are: pizza, spaghetti (plain noodles with marinara sauce and cheese, no tomato chunks), grilled cheese, tomato soup (smooth only, no chunks), almost all sweets, chicken tenders, potatoes in any way (but not sweet potatoes), tacos (only soft shells, and meat and cheese), burgers (cheese only unless it’s a McDonald’s burger), hotdogs (only ketchup on it), macaroni and cheese, fish sticks, chili (but only when I make it because I use certain kinds of beans and no tomatoes, just sauce), pancakes, waffles, breads (sourdough or wheat only), cereals (only the sugar ones though. No Raisin Bran for me), some fruits (apples, pineapple, watermelon, strawberries, oranges, grapes), corn, meatballs, peanut butter, and jelly. It seems like a large list, but really isn’t. It’s all foods that are usually only on children’s menus at restaurants. My any restaurant “safe food” is a burger. Because most places have that, and it’s not only on the kids menu. You can forget Chinese or Mexican restaurants, or any other cuisine, except American and Italian. I have horrible anxiety whenever I’m invited out to a meal with someone other than my mom, or my husband. I find ways to casually ask what restaurant it is, so I can look at their menu online ahead of time and find something I will eat. As a child I never wanted to sleep over at a friends house, for fear of what their parents would make for dinner or breakfast. Dating was hard as a teenager. Thankfully my husband understands my “quirk” with eating and is very patient with me. I’m willing to cook different things for him, I just have to hold my nose while cooking it and not have any. As I said, I’ve branched out quite a bit in my life. There was a time where I’d only eat pizza huts pizza. No other pizza. Or only McDonald’s fries. Now I’ll eat any pizza as long as it’s plain cheese. Same with fries. There were other “certain brand” foods I’d eat too. I’m proud that I’ve come out a little with my eating. I want to be better. I want to be able to eat a salad, or eat anything put in front of me. I’m tired of turning into a ball of anxiety whenever someone invites me over for dinner. I’ve literally cried on the way to a restaurant or someone’s house in fear of what’s going to be served for dinner. It’s awful. People think that I’m just being stubborn, or that I was spoiled as a child, and it’s carried into my adulthood. Quite the opposite. My parents were forever trying to get me to try new things. Once a kid, my dad told me he’d give me $5 to try a bite of the pizza at a new restaurant we were in. I said no. He and my mom turned it into a game to see how far I’d go. Finally they said $100. I ate one bite. A few days later, my dad gave me that money. I’m embarrassed by that story. It was a plain piece of cheese pizza, which I LOVED and still do! I’m currently in therapy, and I’m discussing this issue with my therapist, and am hoping to get some guidance on how to break through this. It’s put so many boundaries on my life, and I’m ready to be free of it!
Admin Reply by: Bob
Thanks for placing your story in our guest book. There are many here who if they could eat the number of things you do would think they were cured. But you like the rest of us get stressed out over formal dinners. going to a private home for a meal. Holiday dinners at relatives house etc. So you belong with our group and we are happy you found us. One thing you can do is learn to cope with friends and relatives by matter a factly telling them you have ARFID and it is a real disorder and your working hard to improve what you can and can't eat. In my case all of the above stresses me out even the sounds of clanking dishes in a restaurant or banquet hall. Just gives me the creeps. Welcome. Bob K
TaylorTaylor from South Carolina wrote on December 13, 2019 on 1:28 pm:
Hey everyone my name is Taylor! I am 31yrs old! And i am a VERY PICKY EATER!!! First I would like to start off by saying how extremely happy and excited I am to have found this website for picky eaters like myself! I use to love eating all types of foods until I hit the age of 4 or 5 and then my eating went from eating things like salads and fish and all kinds of vegetables to not eating even half of what I use to eat! It’s so frustrating because I would love to be able to go out to dinner with my husband and be able to eat a salad or fish or anything other than a select few things! And it’s also even more frustrating when the people you thought would understand and be supported are the exact opposite, like my father is always telling me “It’s in your head you can eat it you are just being stubborn and difficult!” My mother is understanding and doesn’t really give me to much hassle. Now my In-Laws are always giving me crap and honestly a lot of what they say is VERY VERY HURTFUL. And if I shed even a teardrop they give me EVEN MORE CRAP. So needless to say that is why I am so extremely HAPPY that I found this website and see that I am NOT ALONE! So I just want to say THANK YOU for making this site!
AmyAmy from Palmer Rapids wrote on December 10, 2019 on 6:28 pm:
Hello! My name is Amy and I'm 21 years old. I found this website from reading about Selective Eating Disorder. I've been an extreme picky eater since I was about 2 years old, my parents say it was almost like an overnight switch in my brain went off and stopped letting me eat normally. My diet is so severely restricted that I only have 4 main foods that I eat daily and then a small group of other sorts of snacks. I haven't eaten any fruits or vegetables since I was a toddler. The foods that I can handle eating are unfortunately quite unhealthy and I am substantially overweight because of it. Not only has my eating deteriorated me physically, causing me to be so overweight and causing me to have severe acne, but it is killing me mentally. I find it so embarrassing and I find myself so physically unpleasant to look at that I have rarely left me house in the 3 1/2 years since I graduated high school. I struggle to find work, and I have never had a social life outside of 1-2 close friends who will visit me occasionally.
My entire life I was just labelled as the stubborn picky eater that wanted attention, or whose parents spoiled her, but I would give anything to be able to eat normally. I do everything I can to hide my eating habits, and whenever I see someone online come out and say they have eating problems similar to mine (for example, in youtube videos) the comments and replies are always filled with such mean, cruel things... it makes me feel so bad about myself. My best friend is the only person who is supportive and understanding, and she is the only person to ever be able to get me to try new foods. My family, on the other hand, has no understanding whatsoever. They say such harsh things to me, calling me an embarrassment and telling me I just want a pity party. I have no access to doctors and psychiatric help (due to not being able to find a job) so I've resorted to online communities to find comfort. I love reading other people's stories and feeling like I'm not some sort of freak, completely alone in the world. Thank you so much for providing this platform for us to vent and share our experiences, I hope everyone here can get the proper help we all need and be able to grow and heal.
Admin Reply by: Bob
We only have just one life to live and the genes we are dealt at conception will never change. Yes you have lots of food issues and I have had them my entire life. Having limited choices in food can cause lots of social embarrassment that can be very troubling at times. But
You never asked to have ARFID and you would love to be able to eat lots of other foods if only you could. Many food choices probably don't even look like food to your brain. It is possible to eat the way you do without changing and achieve a significant weight loss. It's a daily struggle between the calories and the exercise. You are probably gifted in other ways and that is what you need to concentrate on the most. You only have this one life and it can still be really great and meaningful if you do the things you need to do. Sitting at home isolated from friends and family will always make your weight issues worse. Go back to school, start a small business, Join the military, get something going and be the best you can be at whatever that is. I would give your relatives some reference material about ARFID and get them off your back. Take control of your life and be the best you can be. Food should never get in our way of success. Bob K
CallieCallie from Cookeville wrote on December 9, 2019 on 2:52 am:
Hi my name is Callie and I am a 22 year old college senior. I have been a picky eater my entire life, and am just realized that it has a name. I have really enjoyed reading several peoples entry’s on here and realizing I’m not so alone in this. I would love to hear from some of you that have tried to seek help for this. Do you ask a doctor, therapist, nutritionist?
This has been an issue all of this time but I really would like to feel like I was doing something to help myself in this area.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Just sent you an invitation to join our Yahoo support group that we just moved to groups.io. We have some people there that can answer some of your questions or our message archive is just full of information.

Now you never have to be alone with your food issues. Glad you found us

Bob K
DebbieDebbie from Brisbane wrote on December 7, 2019 on 10:15 pm:
Hi I’m from Australia. I’m 61 and have experienced this disorder since I was about 5. I had very infected tonsils and all food tasted absolutely awful and I would vomit. My tonsils weren’t removed for another year. I have since then always had difficulty eating food. I’m just not interested in even trying. It has taken me years to learn to eat a few vegetables and fruit. I don’t eat cheese, anything spicy, pasta, pizza and definitely not onion. I’m a fish and chips girl but not salmon or sushi. I’m so glad I have found this group.
Admin Reply by: Bob
We are so glad you found us.
Welcome
Bob K