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KayleighKayleigh from England UK wrote on November 20, 2016 on 7:49 am:
Hello, I am writing with concern for my 7 year old son. Living in the U.K. I don't seem to find much help from anyone. We have been to children's health visitors, dietitians etc but no one seems to be worried like I am. From the weening age he would eat what ever he was given and from about 2 years old things started to change. For the last 5 years he has a VERY limited diet consisting of biscuits for breakfast , a popadom which has to be soft (stale) crisps (potato chips ) but only a selected few varietys a packet of dried fruit flakes and dinner is mashed potato with BBQ sauce ! He will eat McDonald's French fries but they are the only ones. I am at my wits end trying to get him to try or even look at any other food he cries, gags and gets into a state if we even mention for him to try anything new.
He also easy chocolate M&Ms daily but wouldn't even try a new sweet.
I have always worried he was alone in this but have found this site and though I might do find some information or how to help him.
I don't want him becoming left out as a child because he is different.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Dear Kayleigh

You are correct that this might be a life long problem. But at this stage the odds are he will grow out of it. Try to avoid making meal time a war zone at your home. It will only make things worse. Offer new foods often and see what happens. If he is like me there is almost nothing you can do to change him. Plus is he is like me he never wanted to be the way he is and would love to change. You are welcome to join our support groups to talk with others like yourself who have a child in danger. I hope you have a positive outcome.
Bob K
DamienDamien from Connecticut wrote on November 10, 2016 on 9:40 pm:
I'm so glad I found other people just like me. I honestly thought I was the only one that didn't like the taste, smell, or texture of food. I really thought I was abnormal. But turns out I have a whole "family" just like me. And idk about you, but I would consider you guys family even though I don't know any of you. Simply because we are all alike. In many more ways then just 1. I'm 18 not yet a full adult but this has been something I've had to deal with since I was just a toddler. I feel so awkward around people when I eat because I eat the same things over and over on a day to day basis. If anyone is reading this I would like to tell you that everything will be okay in the long run and don't change who you are for anyone. This is you and you should embrace it. Again I'm glad to have found this website and I'm so happy people are sharing their life stories because it makes me feel less like an outcast. Thank you guys, really, I appreciate it.
KristenKristen wrote on November 9, 2016 on 7:05 am:
I know this may seem dramatic, but finding this website and seeing that others struggle with this problem and I'm not just a freak, makes me want to cry. I'm a relatively young adult but this is something I've struggled with my whole life. My family always says I need to "grow up" about my eating habits but now I know this is a real thing and I'm not the only one. It's always been my biggest insecurity; my friends don't understand why I get so quiet when they'll look at my plate and say "you're having pizza AGAIN?" or something like that. I've avoided so many meals and social gatherings just because I was embarrassed by my eating habits. Thank you for this website. I feel less alone.
KurtKurt wrote on November 5, 2016 on 1:17 am:
Wow , I have felt like a freak my entire life because of my selective eating and now at 55 I find all these other people . that have the same issue . It is so wonderful to know I'm not alone anymore and thankfully I have a supportive wife and family .
Damien wDamien w from Southbury wrote on November 3, 2016 on 7:48 am:
I'm so happy to actually see people go through the same thing I do. On a daily basis I struggle with finding food to eat and most of the time I'm starving. I can have food on the house but j will sit there and starve to death if I don't have something I like. New foods make me anxious and honestly the texture, look, and smell of new foods just make me sick to my stomach as over all just make me feel so horrible. I would love to hear from people and maybe hear some advice people have on maybe trying something alittle less plain then what I eat. Because my diet mostly consists of bread/waffles, milk, pizza and cheese. I do like some different types of cheese it has to be sliced. Certain meat I can tolerate but if it even is the slightest bit odd to me I can't eat it. I struggle with weight gain as well, I am underweight and I only seem to lose weight because of not being able to find foods I can actually eat. I just really would love for some one else to just talk about this with. Thank you guys, for being just like me and helping me feel less alone through this
No NameNo Name wrote on November 1, 2016 on 10:41 pm:
My entire life I thought that my eating habits were due to me being a coward. I believed this until today when a supportive friend of mine looked into this for me and found this site. I don't remember the last time I've eaten a fruit or a vegetable in my life. Actually, that's incorrect. I remember when my picky eating problem was beginning to develop around the age of 6 and my mother was worried so she forced me to eat a carrot. Right after it entered my mouth, I ran my 6 year old self to the bathroom and practically threw it up. This prblem has grown to be a constant demon on my shoulder. Whenever I go out to eat I still have to order off of the kid's menu. Even then I still have to edit my order in order not to feel disgusted by it. Having new friends find out about how little food I've ever tried is just plain embarrassing. Along with day to day struggles, I'm scared for how this will affect me in the long-term. I'm still young, yet I constantly worry that my diet consisting of no fruits or vegetables will ruin my body on the outside and inside. I fear that I will die early, hurting my loved ones, yet I haven't made any progress on fixing this. My entire life I've been made fun of while out to dinner with new friends by ordering chicken nuggets, and I'm so happy to have come across this community. I never thought there would be a place like this, let alone the number of people suffering from the same thing. I hope that by acknowledging this and by finally reaching a breaking point I can break out of this oppressive, fear-filled shell. Thank you all for listening and for being such a pleasant community.
JuleneJulene from Australia wrote on October 28, 2016 on 10:12 pm:
Hi, I was so happy to find others like me. I have always been like this, I do remember my parents trying to force feed me vegetables at a young age and then they gave up and fed me what I liked. I dont eat fruit and the only vegetables I will eat is potatoes and broccoli if put in my mouth with potato and even then I fight not to gag. But I worry as to my health I am 53 now, hard to lose weight and be healthy in regards to fats and sugars, I worry I will die young because of my eating habits. It is so hard in regards to going out and eating at restaurants or friends houses, I will avoid it if possible but I do have good friends who know and will cater for me. I always thought it was just me but finding this site there are thousands. I feel that it is psychological but who knows. I have children and didn't want them to be like me and so when they were that fussy age I read them a story while spoon feeding them fruit and vegetables now they will eat anything and willing to try new things I am so pleased they do not have a fussy eating disorder like me. I even went to a psychologist regarding eating but I don't think they know how hard it is to put food near let alone in your mouth that you simply can't / won't eat. I have a problem with texture, taste, smell, look of food. I so wish their was a simple answer and I would be cured.
Admin Reply by: Bob
If you are worrying about dying young I'm 69 and feeling great.
Bob K
ItIsMyChoiceItIsMyChoice from Twin Cities wrote on October 25, 2016 on 1:57 am:
I have always been a picky eater. I get some grief from people but not too bad. I don't like many veggies, I have a very limited amount of things I like. I like things "plain". Tacos with just meat and cheese for example. Although people say I'm picky (and I probably agree for the most part), there are still a ton of things I will eat...... chicken, beef, turkey, potatoes, pasta, corn, peas, and oatmeal to name a few. I'm not big on adding things, I like to eat one type of food at a time, I prefer to make my own food and I hate buffets for the most part. One big problem for me is it is hard to find something I like that is "healthy" when I'm out and about or traveling. As I'm getting older now (mid 40's) I find it harder to control my weight and my diet probably doesn't help. I'm going to try to put myself on a picky eater diet and exercise plan. Best of luck to all of us picky eaters.
can't tell u namecan't tell u name wrote on October 20, 2016 on 3:44 am:
I'm not putting my name incase someone finds this but I'm not an adult but I'm 15 years old. I can't believe that I'm not alone. it's hard being a teenager having this. everywhere you go food is being served. I am a competive soccer player and pracyice 5times a week. I've almost passed out on the field several times because I have to work out with out eating. I eat no meat. 2fruits corn and that's it. I some junk food but I hate food. my parents want me to go to the doctor but I know what they will say "she will grow out of it" NO I WONT ITS BEEN 14 YEARS. it's so hard being a teenager having this someone help me I can't even go to social events anymore and it's making me depressed someone advice?!?!
Admin Reply by: Bob
You can have a great life. At least now what you have has a name ARFID. I spent almost 55 years before I ever met someone like me. Now I know there are 1000s of people with it all over the world. it's not your fault and it's not your parents fault either. There are some things you can do. Things like ensure and or energy drinks. You probably should get to a doctor and get some test to see if you are deficient in any vitamins or minerals. You should have something you can eat before you play sports so you can be your best. The hard part can be the social side of ARFID especially when you are young. As I always say you are probably gifted in other ways. Bob K
AmyAmy from Tulsa wrote on October 19, 2016 on 1:39 am:
Hi! I am excited to find this webpage. I am 51 and have always been pretty picky. I have a growth disorder and stopped growing around 11. I took shots and am a normal height now, but think maybe my adult taste buds never kicked in because everything else stopped at 11. The foods I like are typical "kid" foods. I live alone and don't enjoy cooking, so it makes it difficult to try new things. I do have a texture problem with certain foods and don't like casserole's and things I can't identify. Thanks for listening and putting this group together.
Daniela ZancanDaniela Zancan from Porto Alegre, Brazil wrote on October 16, 2016 on 12:09 am:
I'm so embarrased about my eating habits that only today, at 31 years old, I decided to look up if my picky eating is actually a disorder. I can't eat most vegetables and any fruit. As most people here texture and smell are the biggest issues. Here in Brazil doctors and psychologists don't recognize picky eating as a disorder. It's been really hard to lose weight, there's no diet plan without fruit and vegetables. Glad to know that studies are being carried about picky eating.
Admin Reply by: Bob
I know that we have some other people from Brazil in our support groups who have state the same thing. Glad you found our website.
KateKate from Manchester wrote on October 14, 2016 on 12:05 pm:
I am now 46 years old & can't remember a time I ate like a 'normal' person. I have always known my eating issues have been my problem so I avoid situations where my eating, or lack of it, could impact on others enjoyment. Normally I manage but holidays are really tricky. I love to travel, experience new cultures & see amazing sights but managing to get enough food inside me to function properly is so difficult. I have gone without food for days because I can't find anything I can tolerate putting near my mouth. I thought if I was hungry enough I would eat but I can't, bursting into tears at the thought of putting Street food in my mouth doesn't make great holiday memories. I dread locals inviting me to their homes, I'd love to go & share their culture but don't want to insult them by refusing to eat any food they offer. After 8 days in Nepal & no food passing my lips I found a stall selling almonds, I never knew a bag of nuts could make me so happy. I don't want attention or special treatment I want help & understanding. GP number 1, who was very overweight, laughed & said he had food issues too. CBT involved me crying in the supermarket because I had to purchase something I wouldn't normally be able to eat & take it to the session, even the thought of putting it near my mouth was enough to set me off. The sessions involved me gagging & crying while the practitioner got frustrated. When I was admitted to hospital for an unrelated issue they wouldn't discharge me until I started eating properly & couldn't understand why this wouldn't happen & told me I was just being silly. I don't want to live the rest of my life with these restrictions, I want to go for a meal & be able to order off the menu and enjoy the food I an given but I can't. Food is something I have to deal with every day reinforcing the difficulties I have. We need appreciate help from those who truly understand so our quality of life & physical health can be improved. My children, in their 20's, have inherited my food issues, without help how can we stop the cycle?
AllysonAllyson from Columbus wrote on October 12, 2016 on 4:40 am:
Hi! I finally decided to look up my habits and I came across this. I'm not alone!

First off- I will say that I have a better variety than most. It's not a problem at home.

But my friends tease me and look at me with their mouths agape because of my pickiness and sensitivities. Textures, smells, even sounds of certain foods can make me physically gag.

When I really noticed how big a problem it was was in august- my husband wanted to take me out to a nice dinner to celebrate our anniversiary. He named a few for me and then I secretly started looking at online menus and panicking. I started to cry thinking about it and then I was embarrassed at the overall anxiety attached.

I texted him Begging him to take me to a BBQ place. Nothing spicey or creamy or new or mashed up together....


I would say that it's interfering with my life a bit. I do have diagnosed anxiety and a discussion of OCD has been made, but the strange thing is I have an autistic son with these issues times 1000. We are alike in many ways. I would like to talk to a professional one day and find out more about it but there's a lot of embarrassment about this so reading these other accounts, I am profusely grateful for.
Admin Reply by: Bob
It seems that many of us are on the autism scale. This disorder can pass through the gene pool. I believe I have a mild case of Asperger syndrome that runs in my family.
LarissaLarissa wrote on October 11, 2016 on 3:40 am:
I'm 24 and have been a picky eater for as long as I can remember. I guess I ate everything when I was a toddler and then I just randomly stopped. I think I started out as a normal child picky eater but it progressed into a real anxiety.

Being a picky eater has really brought me a ton of self-loathing. I had an eating disorder when I was 15/16. When I overcame it, eating started to become a comfort for me. Instead of starving myself, I started to turn to food for comfort. Just like everyone else in the group, I mostly eat carbs and fatty foods. This has caused me to gain so much weight. Which is where more self loathing comes in.

Over the past few years I have definitely improved a lot. But I'm still so picky and struggle with losing weight because I don't eat very healthily. And I turn to food to comfort me a lot.

I long to be able to eat at restaurants without anxiety and to be able to eat healthily and actually enjoy it. I want to get over this more than anything. My boyfriend is West Indian and his family cooks a lot of foods that I gag just thinking about. I'd love to be able to eat with them someday.

If anyone has any advice on ways to work on this, I'd greatly appreciate it! The relief I felt when I found this website was amazing. I'm so glad to know there are others like me.
HelenHelen from Near Coventry UK wrote on October 9, 2016 on 8:08 am:
I feel like there's no help in the UK for this and it's effecting my health because I don't get enough vitamins as I can't eat fruit or vegetable and anything that smells like orange makes me feel sick and gag
StephanieStephanie wrote on October 9, 2016 on 4:34 am:
I honestly thought I was the only one that was a very picky eater. I cried when I found this website. I am almost 25 years old and have been a picky eater for most of my life. My parents tell me that when I was younger, I ate everything. But now I am very limited to what I eat: Cereal, Plain cheese pizza, plain pasta (with butter and cheese in top), breads/bagels, peanut butter, a few different nuts, some fruits and the only time I ever have vegetables is when my mom makes homemade soup (chicken broth with orzo, celery and carrots diced) that is it. I do not eat any meat/seafood. I hate going out to eat, other people's houses and really any social events. I have a fiancé that I have been with for 8 years now and he accepts the way I eat. But it's very hard when we go over to his family's house and I can't eat anything or they make me a small bowl of something I like. I always feel embarrassed and my family always points it out to me. I really want to change more than anything in this world but I cannot bring myself to do it. So far I have been good health wise but now I am gaining a lot more weight and my blood work is getting high in the wrong places. I really wish there was someone who can help me and change me. I would give anything to change. I have been at my job now for almost 3 years and now everyone is starting to notice my eating habits and it really hurts me that they don't understand...and no one understands besides the people on this website. I'm so glad I can write this on a website and not fear to be laughed at or made fun of. Thank you.
MimiMimi from FL wrote on October 8, 2016 on 3:15 am:
I'm not sure I qualify as a picky eater. I have a pretty long list of food I can eat. Here it is [I have it saved in my phone so I can add new things I like as they come along]:

Peanut butter but not peanuts
Cashews, pecans, walnuts, no other kind
Almonds only in Godiva
Dark chocolate 70-72%

Mango juice
Banana orange juice
Tangerines only

Ham, but only 1 thin slice on thick bread
Cheese, but only white or Colby jack, thin

Chicken in a biskit crackers only
Clam chowder
Pepperoni but only thin

Coke or cherry coke, ginger ale, or orange soda
Cold coffee with much cream and sugar

Marie callendars fettuccine with broccoli and chicken only

Liver wurst
Croissants, white soft dinner rolls, bread from bakery-- no sliced bread

Pizza lunchables only with light sauce, not their Pepperoni

Hopefully my list can grow more. I'm proud of adding the pizza lunchables but not their Pepperoni ones. Only the cheese kind.
Admin Reply by: Bob
I always say if you constantly suffer social embarrasment about what you can and can't eat then you are one of us.
Bob K
ShannonShannon from Dallas wrote on October 5, 2016 on 12:50 am:
Hi, I am a picky eater and have been all my life. I am 41 and I eat mostly pastas and breads like with pizza. I do not eat 99.9 percent of vegetables. The only meat I eat is white chicken, and bacon and ham. I feel anxious and sick if I am at a gathering and the table has all these foods that turn my stomach. I am terribly embarrassed to eat with people so I avoid all eating with groups of people. I have maybe one friend who supports me and what I like. other people say negative remarks. My family supports me for the most part. I am pretty healthy but some people say I will get sick and used to tell me I would die. You are not alone. Most of us adapt to foods that are not really healthy and somehow we manage. As long as you are healthy and all. You are not a freak. You are human like everyone else. I try to learn to accept my habits. The way I eat even if not everyone agrees. I would eat healthier if I could like more foods, but I just can't. I am glad I have a group of people that can understand. I have a feeling I would make a truly great friend. We could go out and eat what we like. No criticism. :)
TeresaTeresa from Arlington wrote on October 2, 2016 on 6:30 pm:
I'm 56 and have been a picky eater my whole life, and overweight/obese my whole adult life. I found this site while looking for a weight loss plan for picky eaters. I would love to know why the majority of us like carbs and fats like breads, sweets, fries, pizza, and reject fruits and vegetables. The thing is, you have to reverse this kind of eating in order to lose weight. So, I am usually drawn to a low carb plan because I can still have meat and fats. But the only veggies a picky eater usually likes are potatoes, corn, carrots, which are carbs and restricted. So, how long can a person go on a diet where everything they like is not allowed or restricted? Anyway I was glad to find this site. I agree that this is an hereditary thing, as my dad, brother, and kids are picky to some degree. Thanks for being here.
MichaelMichael from Bixby, OK wrote on September 28, 2016 on 10:51 pm:
Hello all. I came across this site during my recent Google search on how to overcome picking eating. I've learned in a matter of minutes that it is considered an eating disorder in some circles.

My biggest issue that plagues & has plagued me is texture & smell of certain foods, namely vegetables.

I had some blood work done yesterday as part of my yearly physical & I got a phone call today about my cholesterol & triglycerides. It was expected, because I've heard it before from other physicians.

I don't really know what to do, I've added different things to my palate over the years, but after 32 years, vegetables of just about any type appall me. My palate expanded greatly during my time in the military, because I was so hungry during basic training. I've had other instances where I was able to overcome & add other things to my diet, most notably when I started working out routinely or trying to be an example to my children.

It's still a long road ahead, but I'm sure it will get better with time. Hopefully we can figure something out together.