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KelseyKelsey from Lansing wrote on January 1, 2017 on 7:32 pm:
I am 21, I have had SED all my life. Last year I tried the hypnotherapy it worked for a few days but I had a relapse. Such a comforting feeling reading everyone's posts. I want more then anything to change completely.
SamSam from Whittier wrote on December 30, 2016 on 9:55 pm:
Hello, I'm 17 years old and I've been a "picky eater" all my life. I've had two defining experiences in my life where I have had anxiety attacks from people or even myself trying to force feed me something. I would say of picky eating adults I eat a pretty wide variety, about 30 things give or take, all of them bland and plain. Types of crackers (goldfish mostly), chips, french fries, chicken nuggets, fried chicken (dark meat only), pancakes, toast with butter, french toast (only from restaurants), grilled cheese (only american cheese and white bread), cheese pizza (only from certain places, never frozen), pretzels, and other basic plain foods. I also hate chocolate, which has been a big source of outburst and frustration with other people. I always feel guilty about my limited diet as I feel like everyone has to work around me, and often times I'll try to be as quiet as I can about the fact that I'm not eating because I don't like anything where we are when I'm with a group. Everyone tries to cater to me, and they offer a million things to me, and I feel extremely guilty after the hundredth "no" I've said and when people get frustrated with me. If I go on an overnight school trip anywhere, I have to bring an extra suitcase full of my foods, and everyone thinks I'm crazy. I am an officer in two positions in my area's FFA program, and I feel that I can't be a role model to other students because I bring junk food to eat instead of being polite and eating what is offered to me. I wish more than anything that I could eat like normal people, and that I could stop feeling like such a thorn in everyone's side. I don't know where to get help, or how to even start, if I should go to my doctor or contact a therapist without my doctor, or if I need to see a therapist that specializes in eating disorders, or what. I feel like I'm not alone after reading everyone's posts, and it's very comforting.
MimiMimi from Toronto wrote on December 30, 2016 on 2:01 pm:
Hello. Like a couple of other people here, I'm not really considered an adult (15), but hey, might as well talk about this somewhere. I've been a picky eater for my entire life, and it's been a source of anxiety for a long time. I come from a Filipino background, so my family's diet is far more diverse than mine. Specifically, the fruits and vegetables I eat are pretty limited. I still can't eat a non-plain burger, because there's so much stuff that just makes my mouth feel gross. It doesn't help much that my family makes fun of me for it either. I always feel like if my picky eating was centered around fruits and vegetables, I wouldn't be pestered about it. I'm tired of people telling me that I act like a three year old just because I don't eat the same food they do, not because it's untrue, but because I already know.
RosieRosie from Arlington wrote on December 29, 2016 on 11:26 pm:
Hi. I'm a little young to be doing this (15) but I don't have another place to turn. I'm terrified of going out to eat because I know that all I'm going to order is french fries and occasionally grilled cheese if they have it. I dream to eat "normally" and to sit down at a table and just eat a healthy meal. I want to have a nice body and to be strong because I am a cheerleader, but its so hard when the only protein you eat is peanut butter. I want to eventually go on a date and be able to eat at a nice fancy restaurant and not be worried out of my mind. I want to eat with my family on Thanksgiving. I want to have a family one day and have meals at the table with them. I envy people who eat "normally". Is there any way I could be like them? I know this is supposed to be accepting, but I really can't. I want to stop making excuses for not going out with my friends or not eating lunch. Please, just help.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Join one of our support groups. We may be able to help you feel better about yourself.
AnnaAnna wrote on December 24, 2016 on 2:36 am:
Hello! I know I am still young (I'm 15) but a couple of months ago my friends sent me a link to an article about selective eating disorder and for the the first time I wasn't alone
I can't remember a time when I wasn't a picky eater. Ever since I outgrew the kids menu, going out to eat has caused me great anxiety. Even dinner at my house has and can be a nightmare filled with my anxiety. The hardest part about this is that I have always been told that I will out grow "it" that my pickiness is a phase. My own family treats it as if it's my choice. This has a huge mental effect on me. I feel ashamed and embarrassed and it's hard that they refuse to understand the one thing that affects me the most in life.
For instance my family chose to go out to dinner for Christmas Eve at this Chinese restaurant, (and they know I won't eat a thing off the menu) After complaining about it I got yelled at followed by a lecture about how I'm choosing to limit myself and how if I would only just eat the new foods my life would be better.
I can't even recall the amount of times I've gone to bed crying after dinner or have gone to bed hungry because of this picky eating and the way my family treats it. I'm worried my mental state won't get better.
My question would be, what's the best way to educate your family and how do you handle family dynamics regarding picky eating???
Admin Reply by: Bob
First off you probably do have a real eating disorder in the medical books called ARFID. It is real and you never chose to have it. At this point in your life change is going to be very difficult if not impossible. You need to know that you have lots of company all over the world. Some very famous people have it and have managed to have great and fruitful lives. Currently your problems are all the social ills that accompany your disorder and in your case convincing your family you have an eating disorder. Teenage years as a picky eater can be very stressful. I have heard your current story over and over. You might try to get one or both of your parents to check out our website. Especially the videos. Good luck and now go out and have a great life.
RichardRichard from Omaha wrote on December 23, 2016 on 8:28 am:
Hi. Im not the picky eater, my boyfriend is. He's about 210 lbs and is 32. Cheese pizza, breads, grilled cheese, chips, fries and certain chicken nuggets and sausage is all he eats. Im Vietnamese and like to cook. This makes it very difficult for a relationship to have a tight bond when we cant sit down and eat dinner together. I eat a reataurants..alone and make up excuses for dinner parties. I lie to my parents every holiday that he's sick or doing something else. Im not sure if its embarassing for him but it sure is for me. I have broken up with him multiple times for other reasons and this reason has alway lingered in the back of my head too. This is an eating disorder, fact. He doesnt want to be like this and always calls himself crazy. I want to live a life with him, but I wonder how long he'll be alive for.
Admin Reply by: Bob
He will probably live a long life and getting him to ever change is nearly impossible. If you chose to be with him you should assume he will allways be the same way regarding food. Yes it is very embarrassing for him and he would love to change if only he could. One thing that would help him would be to find a way to explain to people about his eating disorder which is called ARFID Avoiadant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder
Bob K
HeidiHeidi from Rockwall wrote on December 22, 2016 on 4:34 pm:
Hello! I'm a 29 year old, 88 pound mother of three. I hate most food. I hate the process of eating, it makes me feel like I'm going to gag. I have to force feed myself, I'll tell myself "three more bites, don't think about it just get it over with." I add heavy whipping cream to the milk that I force myself to chug to try to keep weight on my body. It is embarrassing that people constantly comment on how skinny I am, I hate it. There are some foods that I like, ramen and packaged Chinese noodles (but only if I add seasoned rice vinegar), and a small handful of others, but mostly only things found in restaurants- which is unpractical because I can't eat out every meal. I wish that someone would invent a drink that had every thing a body needs to be healthy, that I could drink for my meals and not have to worry about force feeding myself so that my body doesn't starve. It's hard.
DonnaDonna from Pittsboro wrote on December 22, 2016 on 4:45 am:
Hi! I am 54 and I am, and always have been, definitely, for sure, an Adult Picky Eater. My family, friends & strangers have been on my case about my eating habits since childhood. The first thing that I remember Hating was milk. Still do! I had to hold my nose when made to drink it. gag! There are foods that I would like to eat but they are just plain (no pun intended) gross. The food I eat must be bland. No spicy foods, bb sauce, most meats, the list goes on. I guess I'm a junk food junkie. If I didn't eat junk (especially before bed), I would fly away as I weigh 100 lbs. Foods I consider healthy are things such as banana peanut butter sandwiches, cheese pizza, vanilla ice cream...It's embarrassing when eating out with others. They think I'm picky but, as we all know, that is not the case. I can't eat anything without covering the taste with applesauce! It's like my condiment. I even started carrying small cont. in my purse! You should see the look in everyone's eyes! Expensive restaurants are the worst. Too bad they haven't started an Adult Picky Eater chain. Let's do it! Thanks for this support group and thanks for sharing your stories!
Admin Reply by: Bob
We once talked about starting a chain that serves nothing but Grilled Cheese and little else. Chain name would be the "No Pickle" Nothing ruins a grilled cheese more than that ugly green pickle.
LindseyLindsey from Chittenango wrote on December 15, 2016 on 4:23 am:
I am 18 years old and I am a picky eater. I've been that way since as long as I can remember. My parents thought I would grow out of it but I didn't. I'm extremely embarrassed when I go out to eat with anyone, and I try to avoid it sometimes to be honest. Everyone in my household's diet is so diverse. They eat veggies, fruits, and culturally different like Chinese, or Sushi. They make fun of me about my pickiness and I feel ashamed. I eat pizza, tacos with only (sour cream, beef, chicken, cheese, and olives), chicken tenders, french fries, grilled cheese. Very limited fruits and veggies. I hate eating anything with a slimy texture, or something that has chunks in it. I can't stand the taste or smell of fish. I wish I could overcome this, but I simply cannot do that. I don't understand why I am like this. Raisins are the enemies, and bananas are a no go for me. I will eat frozen raspberries, and apples. That's about it. I will eat only baby carrots not cooked or boiled. My parents used to make dinner, and put veggies on my plate. I couldn't have dessert if I didn't finish all my veggies. I ended up trying them, and spitting them out in my room. I would throw them out in my trash or stuff them somewhere not in sight. My diet mainly consists of mainly carbs and junk food. I am at my limit. I have gained so much weight at college. No one telling me what to eat, so I and I have no self-control. When I eat my foods that I only eat, I eat it too fast, and I still don't feel full, so then I eat more. It's an endless cycle.
MaddieMaddie wrote on December 14, 2016 on 4:27 am:
Hi, I'm Maddie. I'm 18 and I've been picky ever since I could remember. My mom says that when I was about 3 I would start telling her that I don't like certain foods, starting with bananas. She thought I was just being a difficult toddler and tried to force feed me a banana. I remember, I threw up everywhere. I hate being a picky eater because the foods I do like aren't very healthy. I only eat corn and peas for vegetables and applesauce and dried apricots for fruits. I tried salad the other day for the first time in years and I gagged so much I almost threw up. I don't know what my problem is but I'm glad to see that there are other people similar to me. Thank you for this group. I will continue to share my experiences with you all and I hope that I can find help to have a healthier lifestyle.
ToriTori from Lyman wrote on December 13, 2016 on 8:06 am:
Picky eater, that's an understatement; I'm 20 almost 21 years old and I can not eat more that a handful of things. Just try it, they say; you may like it, they say: guess what, I won't.

Hello my name is Tori and I can only eat plain cheese pizza with no sauce, chicken tenders (from Arby's, Zaxby's, Bojangles, and Popeye) pop corn, homemade grilled cheeses (with American Velveeta cheese and nature's own white bread.) peanut butter sandwiches, crunchy crinkle cut french fries (with Larry's seasoning salt) and sour cream and onion Lays potato chips, and my most recent addition Popeyes fried shrimp.

From a very young age I did not like most food, I lived on bread and French fries. My mother, Bless her soul, was the only one who listened to me. Though she still made me try things she never made me sit at a table all night until I ate something or anything like that. My dad was less… supportive, and forced me to eat things I did not and could not like or eat. Not only could I only eat a few things, I could only eat them MY way. Therefore there was a very limited number of places I could eat.

One year I was in the very very small Christian private school (where my mother was working so I got to go with a discount, or whatever) there was about 10 kids in 1-3 grade. I was in 3rd, I brought my lunch everyday (bread, peanut butter, chips, and I got chocolate milk at school) now my peanut butter sandwich had to be made “fresh” so I made them at lunch so, I would eat like 3 of them. So one week we have this sub, and we are at lunch on like the 3rd day she is there. She looks at me gets up and yells at me “I'M TIRED OF WATCHING YOU EAT PEANUT BUTTER SANDWICH EVERY DAY. GROW UP AND EAT REAL FOOD.” And then she sits back down like nothing happened.

Time after time, I sit and smile and say I'm not hungry when my stomach is growling, because I don't like what is there. Time after time, I feel like crap because my boyfriend wants to go out and eat a nice dinner, but I can only eat ‘kid food’. Time and time again I sit and cry in my room wishing someone would understand what is wrong with me and not give me that sideways look. Time after time I get food shoved in my face and hear in that high pitch “just try it, you could like it”. Time after time I have to leave the kitchen because the smell of ‘normal food’ makes me sick. And time after time I go to bed hungry because there's nothing to eat, nothing for Me to eat.
EmilioEmilio from San Francisco wrote on December 12, 2016 on 3:07 am:
I am 13, and have been a picky eater all my life. Even now, my parents still don't believe that most foods taste bad to me, they think that I am just making it all up. I eat mainly starchy foods: pizza, pasta (plain, of course). I think that since I am younger than most people on this site, introducing new foods is easier for me, at least while I'm young.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Yes I believe the younger a person is. The better the chance for significant change in the number of things you can add to your diet.
KimKim wrote on December 10, 2016 on 9:20 pm:
I'm 18 years old, and I've always thought I'm just picky, and didn't like some foods. But as I've gotten to know knew people and experience new things I've come to learn that my eating habits are a bigger issue than i lead on.
I eat like a second grader. Fried foods, pasta, watermelon. It's a horrible diet.
My boyfriend has to strategically look for restaurants that have foods I eat because he can eat anything and I really feel like it's holding me back. The foods I don't like, aren't because I have tried them and decided I don't like them, it's truly because I'm afraid to try new things. Food can look appealing to me, but even the thought of chewing it scares me. I'm terrified of texture, smell, and in some cases appearances. I don't know why, and I wish I could change, but nothing has helped.
I'm fairly certain in the past year, I've tried 1 new food, and it quiet possibly was a variation of another food I already like, so I wouldn't say "new."
LauraLaura from Paignton wrote on December 8, 2016 on 8:50 pm:
Hi. I'm 24 years old and am at breaking point because of my fussy eating. I have gained weight because my diet consists of alot of carbs and junk food. I dont know what to do anymore, I feel so depressed all the time, I'm always so embarrassed to eat out as I don't want to answer questions people always ask me about my diet. I have been like this all my life and just want to be healthy and be able to go to a restaurant with my boyfriend or friends and family without feeling embarrassed. Does anybody have any advice?
AmeliaAmelia from Lousiville wrote on December 7, 2016 on 9:15 pm:
I am 25 years old, and have been a picky eater for my entire life. Finding this website, and learning about ARFID has given me some hope! I honestly thought I was the only one like me out there. (Especially since none of my family or friends had the same problem as I. I always felt very alone, and embarrassed.

The last time I ate "meat" I was 7 years old, and even then, it only consisted of McDonalds Chicken nuggets, and fish sticks. I have been a picky eater ever since. Some say due to the fact that my mom fed me baby food for too long, is why I am a picky eater. But as I became more picky about what I was willing to eat, I was forced to try things, like a bite of steak, and I would end up gagging, not being able to swallow, and crying. It became a very traumatic experience to try anything I wasn't already eating.

My diet mainly consists of bread, pasta with marinara, pizza with no cheese, lots of carbs, fries, chips, other junk food, milk, and some fruits. As I have gotten older, very few new things have been introduced to my diet, and they were things that were similar to what I was already eating.

I am no longer worried about what people think of me, although it is embarrassing, and I get a lot of questions about the no cheese on pizza thing. But that's just the way I like it, and it is terrifying to try something different. As an adult, I am now more worried about my health, and setting a good example for my future children. I don't want them to suffer like I have.

I could go on and on about my experiences, but I feel confident that most of you here understand how I feel, and the things I struggle with. I don't know what to do from here. Everyone always told me I would "grow out of it" but that doesn't seem to be the case. What kind of groups can I join, and get support from others like me? I will say it is very comforting knowing I am not the only one out there. :)
anonymousanonymous wrote on December 5, 2016 on 12:08 am:
I am 20 years old, and I have been a picky eater all my life. I eat fruit, plain pasta, pasta with cheese, and an assorted mix of junk food. I hate eating this way and always have. I feel gross and know that I do not have enough energy because of the way I eat. I found out about ARFID and this website about a year and a half ago just before moving to college as the result of a desperate google search, but this is my first time posting here. Because of my research on ARFID and reading through this website I found a way to introduce three new foods into my diet, but two of them were very similar to things I already eat, and one took a lot of convincing myself. I struggle to try new things and when I attempt to try new things I often find myself staring at what I want to try and never putting it in my mouth.
Like many of you, the way I eat causes me a lot of stress socially. I don't mind not eating, but I hate the way people react and point it out and talk about it. I want to travel and I really want to study abroad in France this summer. In the program I want to go with you have to stay with a host family and eat two meals a day with them. I do not want to miss out on this opportunity but I'm afraid of offending my host family and starving. I have thought that maybe once I'm there and all I have to eat is that food maybe I will start eating, but I also know that has never worked for me in the past. If anyone has any suggestions about how to work on this or any French cuisine to practice with it would be greatly appreciated. (Also any tips on looking like you're eating when you aren't.)
Admin Reply by: Bob
You should join one of our support groups to get your questions answered. I once put myself in a position that I thought would force me to eat. Well that was a nightmare as you might imagine. Just cause you have to try the new food it does not help in any way and gagging becomes a way of live.
EdnaEdna wrote on November 30, 2016 on 2:39 pm:
I am 19 years old, and I struggle immensely with eating. I've been an extremely picky eater my whole life (as far as I can remember)- I can list the foods I eat on my fingers. I don't know the last time I ate a full meal 3 times a day. I usually skip meals and snack during the day or eat 1 meal at a random time. Many times throughout my life, I don't eat because I'm often in places that I don't like any of the food-not a single thing (in school, camp, friends houses, weddings, fancy dinners etc..) I don't like any gourmet food, or anything that is not "a regular simple" food. I don't like any vegetables, I only like 3 fruits-apples, purple grapes, and clementine. I don't like a single spread or dip - when I eat a bagel or bread, I only eat it plain. I'm terrified of fish, and most meat, I don't like eggs either. I don't eat any foods that contain any ingredients in it that I don't like (besides for very few exceptions) I only like 2 kinds of soup, and I'll eat pasta if it's just cheese and sauce (and only if it's homemade from my house) otherwise I usually don't like it.) I like pizza, but I don't eat it often, and I like chicken nuggets and French fries- that's basically all I eat... And I love a big variety of snacks and candies and chocolates and ice cream. I won't eat anything that was touched by a vegetable, fish, or any sort of spread that I don't like-even if it was removed from the food, cuz it still has the taste of it on it. I am extremely stubborn and absolutely refuse to try or eat anything that I don't like. Bottom line, I barely eat, sometimes not even purposely, but just cuz there's no food available that I like. Everyone bothers me about this, but I'm not going to change. I'm not looking for a way to like new foods, I'm just trying to find out what is the best option for me to eat, from the few foods that I like. I'm also pretty skinny, and lately I've lost a lot more weight, everyone is getting nervous about me and says I'm so small and I look unhealthy. To be honest I'm nervous for myself too, because my (non)eating habits are getting worse, and I barely eat every day, or if I do eat, then it's something not healthy, and very little of it. I need some advice/support. And no, I am not willing to go to an eating disorder program, cuz any doctor or program will make me eat things that I don't like, and I absolutely refuse to-I'd rather starve than eat something that I don't like.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Looks like you have two problems. Being picky does not lead to loosing weight to the point it becomes dangerous. You need to address the weight issue and find a way to eat more of what you can eat.
Bob K
benben from Edmonton wrote on November 29, 2016 on 5:55 am:
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years now . she is such a picky eater n im a cook love food and it drives me up the wall i dont know what to do about it. HELP PLEASE
Admin Reply by: Bob
Your girlfriend is not being spoiled or childish. She probably has our eating disorder that none of us have ever chose to have. If you love her you should probably learn more about our disorder. There is no quick fix and she will probably always have trouble eating a wide variety of foods.
Bob K
GeoffreyGeoffrey from France wrote on November 28, 2016 on 8:51 pm:
Hello !
I'm 22 and I've been a picky eater since I was 3. At least that's what I've been told, I don't know what made me change my eating habits at 3.
I eat mostly potato, pasta, meat, haricots and rice.
I can't eat any of this with any sauce or seasoning.
I have always been afraid of eating around people and I turn down as many events as possible where I may have to eat.
I thought I was the only one in the world for a long time because this is an unknown issue in France. I don't know why but someday last year I decided to do a bit of research in english and I ended up on some websites and found out I wasn't the only one.

I've done some research again today and I ended up on your website. In a way, I am glad that I'm not the only one (even if I wished nobody suffered from this) but I am looking for a way to "cure" this and I can't find anything. I didn't read every story posted on this guestbook but I've found nothing encouraging.

I've read that hypnosis could cure this but I don't think anyone know about this in France so I don't want to lose money for nothing. Last time I checked, I ended up on the website of someone who said he was specialized in hypnosis for adult picky eaters and that he could cure it in 1 or 2 sessions of 200$ each. I am skeptikal and I don't have that much money so I am looking for testimonies of people who have managed to change and to eat normally.

Has anyone been "cured" from picky eating ? Would you recommend trying hypnosis ?
Admin Reply by: Bob
Reports from others who have tried Hypnosis have been poor results with little if any progress. About the only thing it can help is putting you in a better frame of mind to try new things. But from their it does not help. I wish it was that simple.
Bob K
SOnyaSOnya from Dallas wrote on November 24, 2016 on 9:56 pm:
Wow! People like me! I never knew, being picked on my whole life I just assumed I was the only one. I'm 48 and of course get told I'm going to die soonish... I've had check ups and test run and they all come out alright. I've taken a multivitamin for years with a lot of antioxidants in it. I do not eat fruits or vegetables (except bananas and potatoes/corn on the cob) I also hate mixed up foods, new american dishes anything foreign. What bothers me the most is the bullying I get at work or in social situations. I workout 3-4 times a week, and am not overweight. I order off the kids menu most of the time too, or cut my meal in half and take it home (I get flack for that too). In my childhood I was raised by a vegetarian who beat me and forced food down my throat at dinner time. I think that is where most of my food issues come from, but now reading all your comments I'm not so sure. I too hate smells and textures. Anything green coming from the ground I just picture a cow chewing grass.... I just can't do it. Well up until this week. I''ve been reading Tony Robbins and I got inspired to just try things. So far I'm trying things that I am okay with the smell and textures. Nuts, dried fruits....its going well. Nothing making me gag but I'm not finding any of it just out of this world delish :) I'm going to keep trying. My mother in law just passed at 60 from starving herself (we only saw her eat cheese crackers, goldfish most days) Her organs finally just stopped working. So thats prompted me to at least try. I'm so glad to have found this site. I believe if you get tested, take your vitamins and do the best you can (protein intake) it will all be fine. But I'm trying for myself, I too would love to just eat at a freakin restaurant without all the attention.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You really do have lots of company and the disorder is called ARFID Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder in the medical books since May of 2013. You are doing fine.
Bob K