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BeccaBecca from Buffalo wrote on January 11, 2017 on 1:15 am:
I'm 17 and I would say my pickyness isn't as severe as others on her but it is still SO frustrating. It's hard to go out with my friends and enjoy it because I won't eat 70% of the food they do and they are constantly bothering me about it. No one understands what it's like to not like a ton of foods and feel sick with the smells. I can't eat anything with spices in it or anything spicy, no pasta (the look and smell make me sick), no foreign food, and meat is starting to make me sick too. It's embarrassing going to restaurants and ordering chicken fingers everywhere. Extremely frustrating.
Taylor PeecksenTaylor Peecksen from Des Moines wrote on January 10, 2017 on 7:10 pm:
I just decided to Google how in the world at 21 years old I could still be such a picky eater. I had no idea I had a disorder. Honestly, I started crying I was so happy that there are others like me. I want to do my best not to be ashamed of this anymore. Thank you for making this support group. This is honestly wonderful.
Admin Reply by: Bob
I just wish there was an easy fix for those who want it. It does help to know you are not the only one.
ShailynShailyn from Hillsille wrote on January 5, 2017 on 4:56 am:
Hello. it is the new year and I made one of my resolutions to eat better eat less and so on. My diet consists of... McDonalds, French fries, chicken nuggets(only banquet brand Tyson taste like cardboard), spaghetti( hamburger meat only, no peppers onions ect) meatloaf(MY FAVE, no onions or peppers), pizza(only pepperoni) hamburger (PLAIN only ketchup) mash potatoes (instant) I don't really eat fruit maybe an apple(with caramel) no veggies. the onion and pepper thing is really a texture thing because i eat onion rings and put onion powder or flakes in the family makes fun ive never been to the doctor over my habits. I'm used to being forced to try something and i don't like that idea. I'm told to "spit it out" if i don't like it but i think that is gross... i just want to see if anyone has any ideas to help me eat better even if i don't try anything new
JadeJade from England wrote on January 3, 2017 on 9:08 pm:
Hi my name is Jade and I'm 23 years old, I have been suffering from SED ever since I can remember but only recently found that there is others like me. Throughout my life I have always had issues with new food it got so bad my parents would try all they could to help but it was impossible it resulted into them feeding me what I liked just to make sure I was eating something, I've grown up avoiding social situations involving food and any conversations that arose I would leave the room to ensure no one would ask me any questions that would trigger a conversation around my eating habits. I have always felt so embarrassed and ashamed of myself for this. after years of breaking down to doctors for some help I went to therapy this was not the correct answer they didn't even know what was wrong and kept relating this back to anxiety which I knew wasn't the case, I eventually got hypnotherapy whilst this is a physiological solution it was felt like the last resort i just wanted to feel normal and even if that meant being brainwashed! I haven't done as well as I thought I would immediately going to but it's all about hard work. I still need help on my next steps I don't know what to try first in order to restore my taste buds after being told they are currently at the age of an 8 year olds, has anyone else been through this that can help me make these next steps? This is deteriating both my health and my relationship and I have put others through this which isn't fair and I just want to change please if ther is anything anyone can advise all help will be appreciated another issue is I can't cook because I have never need to this makes things a lot harder!
Admin Reply by: Bob
We have heard from lots of people that report Hypnotherapy was of little real benefit. It might help you try new things. It is kind of sad that we all feel like we are social lepers.
HollisHollis from Myrtle Beach wrote on January 2, 2017 on 7:01 pm:
Hi, I'm 18 years old and I have been struggling with food issues all my life. Even when I was a baby I was picky, my mother would get in trouble with doctors because they thought she wasn't feeding me enough when in reality I just hated the texture or taste of baby foods. I have been to multiple therapists and doctors throughout my life to fix my problems with food but they have all said the same thing... 'I will grow out of it' well I'm legally an adult now and I have not 'grown out of it'. My diet consists of pizza, spaghetti (only if i make it), french fries and peanut butter, popcorn and some dairy products. Luckily my family, friends and boyfriend have been very supportive of me, but I still feel like a hassle when we go out to eat or have meals together. I'm one to forget about my own personal heath and I forget to eat or don't want to eat under stress and now since I'm in college, with stress around every corner, my health has been degrading and this is concerning me and my loved ones greatly. But after trying so many times to get help with little or no results, I have no idea where to turn. Please can you help me?
Admin Reply by: Bob
You are not alone and you have a real disorder that is really difficult to treat. As you already know it can make your life very stressful trying to deal with the opinions of other people who think you need to be fixed. For many years the general medical advice has been don't worry the child will eventually grow out of it. Most do some don't. One thing that has not been considered is those who don't go into adulthood with a secret to hid from all but the best friends. You have ARFID Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder which was added to the DSM in May of 2013. My best advice is hope to improve but you must learn to not let it rule your life and make you stressed out all the time. People you come in contact with everyday should know about your condition and then they will stop stressing you and you can then enjoy life. There are many things a person can have which is way worse than what we have. Try to start the conversation about how you found out your problems with food is a newly discovered eating disorder and let the conversation go on from there. I wish you the best and now go out and have a great life. No reason why you can't have a long healthy life.
Christine MurphyChristine Murphy from Maitland NSW Australia wrote on January 2, 2017 on 8:53 am:
I am 66 years old and have been a picky eater all my life, longer than I can remember. I don't have a history of childhood illness (except for asthma which was never severe and started at age 5 long after the eating thing) I am obese as everything I eat is high fat or high carb. I really need to lose weight because of some serious health concerns but how do I do it when everything I eat is fattening. I am so glad to find there is a name for me, I have been reduced to tears by dietitians who won't believe that it is not that I don't want to eat vegies but that I can't. Anything with a strong taste is abhorrent to me . I am so interested in the stories on this website as they are the closest thing to a description of me that I have ever seen
KelseyKelsey from Lansing wrote on January 1, 2017 on 7:32 pm:
I am 21, I have had SED all my life. Last year I tried the hypnotherapy it worked for a few days but I had a relapse. Such a comforting feeling reading everyone's posts. I want more then anything to change completely.
SamSam from Whittier wrote on December 30, 2016 on 9:55 pm:
Hello, I'm 17 years old and I've been a "picky eater" all my life. I've had two defining experiences in my life where I have had anxiety attacks from people or even myself trying to force feed me something. I would say of picky eating adults I eat a pretty wide variety, about 30 things give or take, all of them bland and plain. Types of crackers (goldfish mostly), chips, french fries, chicken nuggets, fried chicken (dark meat only), pancakes, toast with butter, french toast (only from restaurants), grilled cheese (only american cheese and white bread), cheese pizza (only from certain places, never frozen), pretzels, and other basic plain foods. I also hate chocolate, which has been a big source of outburst and frustration with other people. I always feel guilty about my limited diet as I feel like everyone has to work around me, and often times I'll try to be as quiet as I can about the fact that I'm not eating because I don't like anything where we are when I'm with a group. Everyone tries to cater to me, and they offer a million things to me, and I feel extremely guilty after the hundredth "no" I've said and when people get frustrated with me. If I go on an overnight school trip anywhere, I have to bring an extra suitcase full of my foods, and everyone thinks I'm crazy. I am an officer in two positions in my area's FFA program, and I feel that I can't be a role model to other students because I bring junk food to eat instead of being polite and eating what is offered to me. I wish more than anything that I could eat like normal people, and that I could stop feeling like such a thorn in everyone's side. I don't know where to get help, or how to even start, if I should go to my doctor or contact a therapist without my doctor, or if I need to see a therapist that specializes in eating disorders, or what. I feel like I'm not alone after reading everyone's posts, and it's very comforting.
MimiMimi from Toronto wrote on December 30, 2016 on 2:01 pm:
Hello. Like a couple of other people here, I'm not really considered an adult (15), but hey, might as well talk about this somewhere. I've been a picky eater for my entire life, and it's been a source of anxiety for a long time. I come from a Filipino background, so my family's diet is far more diverse than mine. Specifically, the fruits and vegetables I eat are pretty limited. I still can't eat a non-plain burger, because there's so much stuff that just makes my mouth feel gross. It doesn't help much that my family makes fun of me for it either. I always feel like if my picky eating was centered around fruits and vegetables, I wouldn't be pestered about it. I'm tired of people telling me that I act like a three year old just because I don't eat the same food they do, not because it's untrue, but because I already know.
RosieRosie from Arlington wrote on December 29, 2016 on 11:26 pm:
Hi. I'm a little young to be doing this (15) but I don't have another place to turn. I'm terrified of going out to eat because I know that all I'm going to order is french fries and occasionally grilled cheese if they have it. I dream to eat "normally" and to sit down at a table and just eat a healthy meal. I want to have a nice body and to be strong because I am a cheerleader, but its so hard when the only protein you eat is peanut butter. I want to eventually go on a date and be able to eat at a nice fancy restaurant and not be worried out of my mind. I want to eat with my family on Thanksgiving. I want to have a family one day and have meals at the table with them. I envy people who eat "normally". Is there any way I could be like them? I know this is supposed to be accepting, but I really can't. I want to stop making excuses for not going out with my friends or not eating lunch. Please, just help.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Join one of our support groups. We may be able to help you feel better about yourself.
AnnaAnna wrote on December 24, 2016 on 2:36 am:
Hello! I know I am still young (I'm 15) but a couple of months ago my friends sent me a link to an article about selective eating disorder and for the the first time I wasn't alone
I can't remember a time when I wasn't a picky eater. Ever since I outgrew the kids menu, going out to eat has caused me great anxiety. Even dinner at my house has and can be a nightmare filled with my anxiety. The hardest part about this is that I have always been told that I will out grow "it" that my pickiness is a phase. My own family treats it as if it's my choice. This has a huge mental effect on me. I feel ashamed and embarrassed and it's hard that they refuse to understand the one thing that affects me the most in life.
For instance my family chose to go out to dinner for Christmas Eve at this Chinese restaurant, (and they know I won't eat a thing off the menu) After complaining about it I got yelled at followed by a lecture about how I'm choosing to limit myself and how if I would only just eat the new foods my life would be better.
I can't even recall the amount of times I've gone to bed crying after dinner or have gone to bed hungry because of this picky eating and the way my family treats it. I'm worried my mental state won't get better.
My question would be, what's the best way to educate your family and how do you handle family dynamics regarding picky eating???
Admin Reply by: Bob
First off you probably do have a real eating disorder in the medical books called ARFID. It is real and you never chose to have it. At this point in your life change is going to be very difficult if not impossible. You need to know that you have lots of company all over the world. Some very famous people have it and have managed to have great and fruitful lives. Currently your problems are all the social ills that accompany your disorder and in your case convincing your family you have an eating disorder. Teenage years as a picky eater can be very stressful. I have heard your current story over and over. You might try to get one or both of your parents to check out our website. Especially the videos. Good luck and now go out and have a great life.
RichardRichard from Omaha wrote on December 23, 2016 on 8:28 am:
Hi. Im not the picky eater, my boyfriend is. He's about 210 lbs and is 32. Cheese pizza, breads, grilled cheese, chips, fries and certain chicken nuggets and sausage is all he eats. Im Vietnamese and like to cook. This makes it very difficult for a relationship to have a tight bond when we cant sit down and eat dinner together. I eat a reataurants..alone and make up excuses for dinner parties. I lie to my parents every holiday that he's sick or doing something else. Im not sure if its embarassing for him but it sure is for me. I have broken up with him multiple times for other reasons and this reason has alway lingered in the back of my head too. This is an eating disorder, fact. He doesnt want to be like this and always calls himself crazy. I want to live a life with him, but I wonder how long he'll be alive for.
Admin Reply by: Bob
He will probably live a long life and getting him to ever change is nearly impossible. If you chose to be with him you should assume he will allways be the same way regarding food. Yes it is very embarrassing for him and he would love to change if only he could. One thing that would help him would be to find a way to explain to people about his eating disorder which is called ARFID Avoiadant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder
Bob K
HeidiHeidi from Rockwall wrote on December 22, 2016 on 4:34 pm:
Hello! I'm a 29 year old, 88 pound mother of three. I hate most food. I hate the process of eating, it makes me feel like I'm going to gag. I have to force feed myself, I'll tell myself "three more bites, don't think about it just get it over with." I add heavy whipping cream to the milk that I force myself to chug to try to keep weight on my body. It is embarrassing that people constantly comment on how skinny I am, I hate it. There are some foods that I like, ramen and packaged Chinese noodles (but only if I add seasoned rice vinegar), and a small handful of others, but mostly only things found in restaurants- which is unpractical because I can't eat out every meal. I wish that someone would invent a drink that had every thing a body needs to be healthy, that I could drink for my meals and not have to worry about force feeding myself so that my body doesn't starve. It's hard.
DonnaDonna from Pittsboro wrote on December 22, 2016 on 4:45 am:
Hi! I am 54 and I am, and always have been, definitely, for sure, an Adult Picky Eater. My family, friends & strangers have been on my case about my eating habits since childhood. The first thing that I remember Hating was milk. Still do! I had to hold my nose when made to drink it. gag! There are foods that I would like to eat but they are just plain (no pun intended) gross. The food I eat must be bland. No spicy foods, bb sauce, most meats, the list goes on. I guess I'm a junk food junkie. If I didn't eat junk (especially before bed), I would fly away as I weigh 100 lbs. Foods I consider healthy are things such as banana peanut butter sandwiches, cheese pizza, vanilla ice cream...It's embarrassing when eating out with others. They think I'm picky but, as we all know, that is not the case. I can't eat anything without covering the taste with applesauce! It's like my condiment. I even started carrying small cont. in my purse! You should see the look in everyone's eyes! Expensive restaurants are the worst. Too bad they haven't started an Adult Picky Eater chain. Let's do it! Thanks for this support group and thanks for sharing your stories!
Admin Reply by: Bob
We once talked about starting a chain that serves nothing but Grilled Cheese and little else. Chain name would be the "No Pickle" Nothing ruins a grilled cheese more than that ugly green pickle.
LindseyLindsey from Chittenango wrote on December 15, 2016 on 4:23 am:
I am 18 years old and I am a picky eater. I've been that way since as long as I can remember. My parents thought I would grow out of it but I didn't. I'm extremely embarrassed when I go out to eat with anyone, and I try to avoid it sometimes to be honest. Everyone in my household's diet is so diverse. They eat veggies, fruits, and culturally different like Chinese, or Sushi. They make fun of me about my pickiness and I feel ashamed. I eat pizza, tacos with only (sour cream, beef, chicken, cheese, and olives), chicken tenders, french fries, grilled cheese. Very limited fruits and veggies. I hate eating anything with a slimy texture, or something that has chunks in it. I can't stand the taste or smell of fish. I wish I could overcome this, but I simply cannot do that. I don't understand why I am like this. Raisins are the enemies, and bananas are a no go for me. I will eat frozen raspberries, and apples. That's about it. I will eat only baby carrots not cooked or boiled. My parents used to make dinner, and put veggies on my plate. I couldn't have dessert if I didn't finish all my veggies. I ended up trying them, and spitting them out in my room. I would throw them out in my trash or stuff them somewhere not in sight. My diet mainly consists of mainly carbs and junk food. I am at my limit. I have gained so much weight at college. No one telling me what to eat, so I and I have no self-control. When I eat my foods that I only eat, I eat it too fast, and I still don't feel full, so then I eat more. It's an endless cycle.
MaddieMaddie wrote on December 14, 2016 on 4:27 am:
Hi, I'm Maddie. I'm 18 and I've been picky ever since I could remember. My mom says that when I was about 3 I would start telling her that I don't like certain foods, starting with bananas. She thought I was just being a difficult toddler and tried to force feed me a banana. I remember, I threw up everywhere. I hate being a picky eater because the foods I do like aren't very healthy. I only eat corn and peas for vegetables and applesauce and dried apricots for fruits. I tried salad the other day for the first time in years and I gagged so much I almost threw up. I don't know what my problem is but I'm glad to see that there are other people similar to me. Thank you for this group. I will continue to share my experiences with you all and I hope that I can find help to have a healthier lifestyle.
ToriTori from Lyman wrote on December 13, 2016 on 8:06 am:
Picky eater, that's an understatement; I'm 20 almost 21 years old and I can not eat more that a handful of things. Just try it, they say; you may like it, they say: guess what, I won't.

Hello my name is Tori and I can only eat plain cheese pizza with no sauce, chicken tenders (from Arby's, Zaxby's, Bojangles, and Popeye) pop corn, homemade grilled cheeses (with American Velveeta cheese and nature's own white bread.) peanut butter sandwiches, crunchy crinkle cut french fries (with Larry's seasoning salt) and sour cream and onion Lays potato chips, and my most recent addition Popeyes fried shrimp.

From a very young age I did not like most food, I lived on bread and French fries. My mother, Bless her soul, was the only one who listened to me. Though she still made me try things she never made me sit at a table all night until I ate something or anything like that. My dad was less… supportive, and forced me to eat things I did not and could not like or eat. Not only could I only eat a few things, I could only eat them MY way. Therefore there was a very limited number of places I could eat.

One year I was in the very very small Christian private school (where my mother was working so I got to go with a discount, or whatever) there was about 10 kids in 1-3 grade. I was in 3rd, I brought my lunch everyday (bread, peanut butter, chips, and I got chocolate milk at school) now my peanut butter sandwich had to be made “fresh” so I made them at lunch so, I would eat like 3 of them. So one week we have this sub, and we are at lunch on like the 3rd day she is there. She looks at me gets up and yells at me “I'M TIRED OF WATCHING YOU EAT PEANUT BUTTER SANDWICH EVERY DAY. GROW UP AND EAT REAL FOOD.” And then she sits back down like nothing happened.

Time after time, I sit and smile and say I'm not hungry when my stomach is growling, because I don't like what is there. Time after time, I feel like crap because my boyfriend wants to go out and eat a nice dinner, but I can only eat ‘kid food’. Time and time again I sit and cry in my room wishing someone would understand what is wrong with me and not give me that sideways look. Time after time I get food shoved in my face and hear in that high pitch “just try it, you could like it”. Time after time I have to leave the kitchen because the smell of ‘normal food’ makes me sick. And time after time I go to bed hungry because there's nothing to eat, nothing for Me to eat.
EmilioEmilio from San Francisco wrote on December 12, 2016 on 3:07 am:
I am 13, and have been a picky eater all my life. Even now, my parents still don't believe that most foods taste bad to me, they think that I am just making it all up. I eat mainly starchy foods: pizza, pasta (plain, of course). I think that since I am younger than most people on this site, introducing new foods is easier for me, at least while I'm young.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Yes I believe the younger a person is. The better the chance for significant change in the number of things you can add to your diet.
KimKim wrote on December 10, 2016 on 9:20 pm:
I'm 18 years old, and I've always thought I'm just picky, and didn't like some foods. But as I've gotten to know knew people and experience new things I've come to learn that my eating habits are a bigger issue than i lead on.
I eat like a second grader. Fried foods, pasta, watermelon. It's a horrible diet.
My boyfriend has to strategically look for restaurants that have foods I eat because he can eat anything and I really feel like it's holding me back. The foods I don't like, aren't because I have tried them and decided I don't like them, it's truly because I'm afraid to try new things. Food can look appealing to me, but even the thought of chewing it scares me. I'm terrified of texture, smell, and in some cases appearances. I don't know why, and I wish I could change, but nothing has helped.
I'm fairly certain in the past year, I've tried 1 new food, and it quiet possibly was a variation of another food I already like, so I wouldn't say "new."
LauraLaura from Paignton wrote on December 8, 2016 on 8:50 pm:
Hi. I'm 24 years old and am at breaking point because of my fussy eating. I have gained weight because my diet consists of alot of carbs and junk food. I dont know what to do anymore, I feel so depressed all the time, I'm always so embarrassed to eat out as I don't want to answer questions people always ask me about my diet. I have been like this all my life and just want to be healthy and be able to go to a restaurant with my boyfriend or friends and family without feeling embarrassed. Does anybody have any advice?