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Jason Draven Ashe SaucierJason Draven Ashe Saucier from Lafayette wrote on June 3, 2019 on 5:07 am:
Wish I could leave a longer message here but I'll do that another day.
I mostly wanted to say that I'm crying tears of joy right now because of the fact that this exists.

I have been suffering from this all my life and never had a name for it and never met anyone exactly like me. I've met other picky eaters that just dont eat a couple of things but nothing ever close to me.

As a kid to teen, I ate tenders, pancakes, waffles, obviously sweets, fries, crackers, and that's about it.

Around puberty, the doc told me I needed to gain weight in order to appropriately hit puberty and introduced me to peanut butter.
I would then eat peanut butter solo with a spoon for months until I started putting it on toast and that's when i would eat bread more often.

It worked and now my palate has grown to burgers, bacon, lettuce, sometimes egg, cheeses, pizza, and most recently, my close friend helped pushed me to try my first noodles last week. I don't like it at all but I tried it!

The social aspect of all this really affected me and still does today.
I never felt more alien than when I told someone I never had a noodle before.
They looked at me like I lost their child or something.

If anyone reads this, you're not alone as long as I'm here and it's okay to have what you have.
Admin Reply by: Bob
So glad you found us. The main purpose of this website started in 2003 was too be a beacon to attract those of us with our disorder thinking we were the only ones. We now no there are lots of people in this world just like us. Now I have tears in my eyes. Thanks for your guest book post.
Bob K
MiaMia wrote on May 28, 2019 on 8:27 pm:
It's been a while since I posted here on this website. I would like to say it is getting better: I can now eat pork, dry edamames and nibble on oranges. I have been going to therapy from October onwards at first every other week, but the therapist said we should have the sessions every week. I would like to share some of my experiences in therapy for anyone who wants to give it a try. So here it is:

She said I can't try new foods because of how much stress I have put on myself and the stress I get from my enviornment. Through that combination of putting such a high expectation for myself and my loved ones enforcing that expectation, I overwhelm myself and get so anxious I just start crying over thinking about it.

The best way she thought to do it was through mental exposure and a step by step process I would have to follow before eating a new food. Mental exposure means I imagined eating one certain food and the step by step process was about the steps I took to literally (not figuratively) eating the food (i.e. picking up the food, getting it towards the mouth, etc.)
She said if I get overwhelmed or if I become anxious just to stop and calm down. If you can't do it again, so what? What's the worst that could happen? You didn't try it, but you can try again when you are less anxious.

I have had success in trying these steps and I think many others can find success doing these too. I have faced a lot of pressure from my family on many other things not even related to eating, so solving the issue I am having with picky eating needs to happen by growing my confidence, learning to lower my expectations, and getting my family to fully support me through this.

It's going to be difficult, but I'll keep you guys posted on how much I'm learning about how to eat other foods to anyone who wants to know.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Thank you so much and please keep those updates coming no matter how good or bad your experience is. We are all routing for you to succeed.
Bob K
BriaBria wrote on May 23, 2019 on 11:12 pm:
Hi, I’m 18 and I truly thought I was the only person that was like this. I’m not sure why I am like this. I hate textures and smells I feel and smell things more than most people and i don’t know why. I grew up in a toxic environment and lost both parents at 8 years old and before that it was a life that no child should go through . I want so badly to try new things but I can’t I try and try but I end up bailing or throwing up right after.
HenriqueHenrique wrote on May 17, 2019 on 1:04 am:
I'm so happy to have found this website! I'm a 30 year old man from Brazil who pretty much only eats chicken, fries and rice. I used to be extremelly skinny, because I would rarely eat anything unless there was something I liked on the table. When I started working I started buying stuff for myself and I got fat from drinking too much soda and only eating unhealthy snacks. I'm off to read everything on this website now. I may come back to share more later.
Admin Reply by: Bob
ИринаИрина from Москва wrote on May 3, 2019 on 9:55 pm:
Мне даже не верится, что я нашла этот сайт. 11 лет я ищу ответы на вопросы. Я из России. Я мама подростка. Мой сын с самого раннено детства не проявлял интерес к еде . Он никогда не хотел пробовать что-то новое, никогда ничего не тащил в рот.
Детское пюре ел 1 ложку. В детском саду ходил голодный. Его меню становитчя хуже и вреднее.
Он в школе не ест ничегт, голодает. С собой носить не хочет. У него комплексы. Он ест только молоко, коктейли, сок без мякоти, печенье определенных марок, сухарики, чипсы, очень редко хлеб с маслом. Из фруктов только яблоко, порезанное на кусочки. Не пробовал овощи, мясо.
Он не ходит в гости, на дни рождения. Он не пошел на выпускной в начальной школе. На выпускном был мастер класс по приготовлению гамбургера.
Он не выносит запахов еды. Текстуры играют огромную роль. Очень тяжело. Я так переживаю за него. Мы скрываем это даже от друзей. Люди не понимают. Смеются даже врачи. Я не вожу еего давно к врачам, тк меня однажды обвинили, что вина толтко моя. Они думают, что я его заставляла есть. Но этого не было. Однажды меня назвали преступницей, что я кормлю сына печеньем. Но он не будет есть больше ничего.
Я думала никто не понимает нас, ни у кого нет такой проблемы.

I can't believe I found this website. 11 years I've been looking for answers. I am from Russia. I'm a teenager's mom. My son from early childhood did not show interest in food . He never wanted to try something new, never dragged anything into his mouth.
Baby puree ate 1 spoon. In kindergarten went hungry. His menu is getting worse and more harmful.
He doesn't eat anything at school, he's starving. To carry does not want. He has complexes. He eats only milk, cocktails, juice without pulp, biscuits certain brands, crackers, chips, very rarely bread and butter. From fruits only Apple, cut on pieces of. Didn't try the vegetables and meat.
He doesn't go to parties, birthdays. He didn't go to prom in elementary school. At the graduation was a master class in cooking hamburger.
He can't stand the smell of food. Textures play a huge role. Very hardly. I'm so worried about him. We hide it even from friends. People don't understand. Even doctors laugh. I don't take her to the doctors for a long time, because I was once accused that my fault toltko. They think I made him eat. But it wasn't. I was once called a criminal for feeding my son cookies. But he won't eat anything else.
I thought nobody understood us, nobody had that problem.

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I can't even believe what I found this site. 11 years I am looking for answers to questions. I'm from Russia. I'm a teenage mom. My son, from his early childhood, showed no interest in food. He never wanted to try something new, never pulled anything into his mouth.
Baby puree ate 1 spoon. In kindergarten went hungry. His menu is getting worse and more harmful.
He doesn't eat anything at school, he starves. Does not want to wear with you. He has complexes. He eats only milk, cocktails, juice without pulp, cookies of certain brands, crackers, chips, very rarely bread and butter. From fruit only apple, cut into pieces. I have not tried vegetables, meat.
He does not go to visit, on birthdays. He did not go to graduation in elementary school. At the prom was a master class on cooking hamburger.
He can not stand the smell of food. Textures play a huge role. Very hard. I'm so worried about him. We hide it even from friends. People don't understand. Even doctors laugh. I do not take it to the doctors for a long time, because once I was accused that my fault was my fault. They think I made him eat. But this was not. Once I was called a criminal that I feed my son cookies. But he will not eat anything else.
I thought no one understood us, no one has such a problem.
I can't believe this website. 11 years I've been looking for answers. I am from Russia. I'm a teenager's mom. Show in food. He never wanted anything else to his mouth.
Baby puree ate 1 spoon. In kindergarten went hungry. His menu is getting worse and more harmful.
He doesn't eat anything at school, he's starving. To carry does not want. He has complexes. He eats only milk, cocktails, juice without pulp, biscuits certain brands, crackers, chips, very rarely bread and butter. From fruits only Apple, cut on pieces of. Didn't try the vegetables and meat.
He doesn't go to parties, birthdays. He didn't go to prom in elementary school. At the graduation was a master class in cooking hamburger.
He can't stand the smell of food. Textures play a huge role. Very hardly. I'm so worried about him. We hide it even from friends. People don't understand. Even doctors laugh. I don't take her to the doctors for a long time, because I was once accused that my fault toltko. They think I made him eat. But it wasn't. I was once called a criminal for feeding my son cookies. But he won't eat anything else.
I thought nobody understood us, nobody had that problem.
Admin Reply by: Bob
We have heard your story from all over the world. Thanks for posting
Bob K
JordynJordyn wrote on April 28, 2019 on 10:13 pm:
I am 21 years old about to be 22 and being a picky eater pretty much defines me to everyone I know. It is honestly embarrassing at times because I feel like I eat like an 8 year old - my family and friends all say that I do - but I can’t help it. New things disgust me. I hate condiments. I do not eat any sauces, dressings, or anything and people think it’s the craziest and most ridiculous thing ever. But I just do not like it. I am really picky with the way things are prepared. It is so hard when I go out to eat with new people like my boyfriends family because all I want to eat is chicken fingers but he says that I need to order “adult” food. My family is accepting of it and I really do try to try new things but I do not even want to. I am content with eating what I do. I like some veggies and some fruits but I am really particular. I am glad to know there are so many other people out there who go through the same struggle because now I do not feel so ridiculous. It honestly sucks to be this way but it is just how I am and I wish more people could understand and accept that.
I think my taste buds are just different from everyone else. I can’t help it.
Susan KenningSusan Kenning from St. Cloud, MN wrote on April 27, 2019 on 10:41 pm:
I have always been picky. My mom always tells the story of a friend’s mom making me eat green beans, and I threw up right at the table. I like most meats, if they are very plain. No veggies, except corn and potatoes. I’ll eat oranges and grapes, and sometimes apples. I hate cheese, fish, most sauces, any kind of casserole... the list goes on and on. It’s really made life a challenge. I don’t know anyone else with this problem, so it’s a relief that there are others!
AzariaAzaria wrote on April 22, 2019 on 1:20 am:
My first and last entry was almost a year and a half ago when I found this community and I realized I wasn’t alone.

I hope my update and journey brings some hope to those who feel belittled or hindered by our limited choice in food. I went to a doctor soon after discovering this site and he laughed at me. My friends say he’s a quack doctor but still, it was really hard... maybe I should get a second opinion???
Anyhow. Recently I tried Hello Fresh (a meal order/delivery site) where I can personally choose and make what I eat each week. It has really helped me. There are things I cannot and will not eat of course, but whatever I make I try one bite at least. They usually have the same items which is nice whether it’s chicken, beef, rice, potatoes fries, etc.. If I despise something in the box I won’t put it in my food. First trying the box I was petrified and ate by the trash and with water. I ate very slowly and by myself. Yet, now I feel more comfortable with some of the foods. I realize making my own food like that makes it easier for me to try. It has helped me to not only begin to venture out if not in public then at least in the privacy of my home but it has also gotten me to see which foods, textures, deter me the most. Whether it’s things that touch together like tacos (I made it but just stared at it afterwards), soft, or soupy textures it’s helped me little bit. Now I just hope I can slowly begin to venture out more, maybe even in public. At least my parents love the “restaurant-quality” food I make now.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Good for you and thanks for the update. We don't get good news very often. You should be proud.
Bob K
AbigailAbigail from Paoli wrote on April 11, 2019 on 4:28 pm:
I don't remember a time when I wasn't picky though my Dad tells me there was. I'm 25, married, and still struggle with this. I am a meat girl with a dislike of all veggies and most fruit. Broccoli is my sworn enemy and cheese is my greatest ally. I live off of the three c's: ships, cheese, and chicken. This has really affected my relationship with my husband since he's so worried about my health. I have tried eating new things but they just don't feel right. I have a hard time getting past the texture of a lot of things. I still wish I could change but I am glad I'm not alone.
Admin Reply by: Bob
I wonder if your husband might have a few foods he doesn't like to eat. How would he react if you insisted he needs to eat those foods. You should be eating enough variety that your health is just fine. I'm the worst of the worst and I will soon be 72 and doing really great. In my mind it's only food and others who take exception with what we can't or won't eat have no place in my life.
BarryBarry from Detroit wrote on April 11, 2019 on 6:25 am:
I have been a picky eater since day one. I'm almost 63 years old now, and not really interested in change at this point. My first and pretty much first hated food is tomatoes in any form. Before I could talk, my mother would try to feed me spaghetti with sauce on it, and I would turn my head, spit it out, scream and turn red, yell, "NOOOO!", and knock it off the shelf of my high chair. One day, she had the noodles without the sauce on them sitting on my high chair and was about to put the sauce on when the phone rang. When she came back, I was busy shoving the plain noodles into my mouth. Soon it became clear I wanted nothing to do with most dairy. I don't like eggs as something to eat alone, regardless of how they are cooked. I despise cheese big time, I never really wanted to drink milk, and haven't had a glass in 30 years plus. I have 3 levels of like , meh, and dislike/hate. The stuff I like, I really like! Corn in almost any form, rice, narrow egg noodles(Long story). Most fish, shrimp, crab, but please, leave the lemon off of it. I don't get it.. Beef, Some Chinese food. Plain everything. A sandwich is bread and meat, or peanut butter, I want no lettuce, or god no, mayo on it. Beef is well done or it goes back to cook until it is. Potatoes, fried, boiled, mashed, are all great, unless something other than salt is on them. Meh is a lot of stuff I don't hate, but I have no idea why anyone would want to eat it. Poultry is number one here. I don't understand it's appeal. This attitude runs in my family, as my grandfather and uncle didn't like it either. I have eaten it, but unless it's fried, I have to force it down. I do eat broccoli, but it's like taking a vitamin, I don't like it at all. I like raw carrots, cooked ones are revolting. Peas are fine, unless they are out of a can. No green, wax, pole of other beans. The hated food list is long. Tuna, Trout, and Salmon are "hell no!". Ranch Dressing is the grossest smelling and tasting thing on earth, with mustard right behind it. Obviously, Italian, most French, Middle Eastern, Greek and other foods are not going to work. I don;t like really spicy food even though I can handle very hot food without much distress. I dislike white meat pork too. Hated fruits are anything in the peach family, grapefruit, any melon other than watermelon. Almonds, walnuts, pistachios, pecans are not going to be eaten. My friends are constantly amused by my eating over the years, and if we go out to lunch or whatever, they know Olive Garden, Mexican, Greek, Japanese, and a lot more will not happen, but I'm fine with Red Lobster, Wendy's McD's, BK, and most other fast food places, and any place that has fried fish other than the "gross 3" above is more than ok.
PoppyPoppy from Middlesbrough wrote on April 10, 2019 on 6:17 pm:
I may only be 22 but being a picky eater has put so much stress on me over the years. I cant remember a time where i wasn't a picky eater. I find social situations tough especially finding somewhere to eat out with my boyfriend as the only take away option i can eat is fish and chips. I also have OCD so both combined are a nightmare, some days i just dont eat because of the anxiety i suffer with revolving around food. I have given some food a try but only one or two in the past has seem to stuck but nothing in the terms of a proper full meal. My diet consists of only, potato foods, Cod, beans and the odd fruit.
MarkMark from Raleigh wrote on April 5, 2019 on 1:32 pm:
"I am glad that I am not the only one,"..... How many times does that phrase end these heartfelt entries? I certainly felt that way when I first found Bob K's site more than 10 years ago! And in many ways just knowing 'I am not the only one' changed my life! A great weight was lifted. I am 64 now, still a picky eater in the classic sense, but now I TELL people of my condition and if they don't like it.... then tough! I found that most folks really don't care, or even understand once you can articulate the condition! Anyway, thanks Bob. Your efforts have had such a positive effect on so many people.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Thank you to all the people that have helped to get the word out. I could not have done it by myself.
Bob K
JulieJulie from Columbia wrote on April 5, 2019 on 2:59 am:
I finally opened up to a few new friends about how I basically eat like an 8-year-old (except my own 8-year-old eats way better than I ever did...) and one of them pointed me to your website. I spent the last 10 minutes wiping tears from my eyes so that I could keep reading everything here. Its funny, because the last thing I said to my new friend is that I don't know anyone who has the same problem as me. And the first sentence I read was "Bet you thought you were alone in the world, didn't you." Can't wait to spend more time on this website.
Admin Reply by: Bob
This website was started so people would find out they are not alone and what they have is real. So glad you found us. Your note put tears in my eyes. thanks Bob K
MorganMorgan from Whiteland wrote on March 30, 2019 on 12:40 am:
Hey there. Im morgan and im 19. My entire diet consists on French fries and chicken. I have a child and its ruining my relationship with her father. My family thinks I need to just "man up" but whenever i try something new, my body rejects it and forces me to puke.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Hello Morgan you might want to watch some of the videos on our video page of the website. That might help you understand what is going on with you. Find out all you can about ARFID. People around you need to understand it's way more than "man up" . I have had something similar to you my entire life and I'm not a spring chicken. The emotional stress of this eating disorder can be very harmful to your health
AprilApril from Tucson wrote on March 26, 2019 on 3:12 pm:
Hi there my name is April and I have been a very picky eater my entire 36 years of life! I hate cooking because the majority of the time I gag. I eat some meat however, I cannot cook it or watch it being cooked. At times I will prepare chicken for my husband in the crock-pot, but I wear nitrile gloves and also use tongs. I will breathe through my mouth not to smell the raw chicken. If I make any meat, not only will I not eat it, I am too grossed out to eat anything. I enjoy the smell of cooked chicken but the taste is not as enjoyable. I can eat hamburgers, some steak if it is cut so there is no fat. If I take one bite and it has gristle, I will not eat the rest of my meal. I love Mexican food because of all the spices and sauces that cover up the taste of most meat. I will eat vegetables but will not eat asparagus, squash, zucchini and others I can’t think of right now. I do not eat eggs or any seafood. When I was a kid my dad would go hunting and butcher the Elk right in front of me. I do not understand how people can kill an animal, butcher it and also eat it. I enjoyed my dad’s cooking as a kid however, I never knew what I was actually eating. Could be beef but more than likely it was Elk meat. I travel regularly for work with my team, and I am the only one that has issues with food. They always want me to pick restaurants because they can never figure out what it is I like and don’t like. I eat pasta’s without meat, I love fruit almost all. I love sweets as in candy, cake and chocolate to name a few. My husband will try anything once and believes I should to. He thinks I am absolutely ridiculous! My kids are picky also. My son, 4 years old will eat more foods that I will not but is still very selective. My daughter the same but she doesn’t like vegetables at all. I wish I could get myself to try new foods because I hate when people ask “What do you eat?” I am humbled to know there are more people like me.
ThomasThomas from Bridgeport wrote on March 24, 2019 on 6:44 pm:
I'm only a teenager but the struggle against eating new foods has crippled my life. My parents are disappointed in me because they think it's a simple "just eat" matter and no one seems to understand that's not the case. Every time a new food touches my tongue I have the uncontrollable urge throw up and cry, and I honestly can't take it anymore.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You should take a look at some of the videos on this webpage. Not all of them work but those that do could help you understand what you appear to have is. You never asked to have problems with food and you would change if only you could. But you have a real disorder that thousands of people all over the world have. Try to educate yourself and your parents. Someone is probably giving them bad advice.
DuffyDuffy wrote on March 23, 2019 on 1:00 am:
I struggled with eating most of my life. Originally, I was like most toddlers who had weird eating habits. I was hospitalized as a baby and that’s when my parents started spoiling me. Because my main problem stemmed from food, they let me eat what I wanted. Now I’m 15 and just stopping. March was the first month I decided to count and make my own goals for normalizing my relationship with food. In March, I’ve only made my own dinner 3 times. Once was only because my parents were at a dinner party I didn’t want to attend for multiple reasons(including food) so I don’t count that. The other two times were when my mom made enchiladas and ham and beans. I’ve never been a fan of any Mexican food. Quesadillas are the only reason I don’t feel weird going to Mexican restaurants with my friends. I discovered I liked them in September of 2018. In March of 2019, I finally tried a quesadilla with more than chicken and cheese. It had onions and green chilies(along with the classic cheese and chicken). Surprisingly, I enjoyed it. Still, I struggle the most with Mexican. We go out to a Mexican restaurant about twice a month. Tacos are the worst for me. I don’t like anything about them. Beef and cheese makes me gag at even the thought. Hamburgers are also a struggle. I only like the patty. Most other picky eaters will at least have a condiment and a bun. Not me. I’m trying to stop, though. Next time we go to this restaurant, I’m going to order the BBQ Bacon burger without lettuce and tomato. Weird, but I’m gonna do it anyway. Vegetables have always been a struggle, as with most. Fruit was a problem, but isn’t anymore. Used to be apples exclusively. Now I’m trying new fruits every week. I snacked on some blueberries earlier. Goals are to be able to go into any restaurant and have one order off the regular menu and not ask for anything off unless it’s normal to ask for. I consider myself progressing but still struggling. I don’t have to worry about feeling weird with other people about eating. But I still get nervous going to parties because I’m unsure of what they will feed me, sometimes don’t touch the side dishes on my plate, and go to restaurants and will get chicken tenders.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You are way ahead of most of us. Keep working and I think you will be fine. Most people have some types of food they don't like. You have a great life ahead of you. Way to go.
Steven P HammersmithSteven P Hammersmith from Carol Stream wrote on March 20, 2019 on 1:53 pm:
I have been picky eater all my life, many of my friends think of me as weird or something wrong with me. My health is excellent for the age of 69. I am glad to find this site this morning. Will share with my family.
AprilApril from Decatur wrote on March 20, 2019 on 5:32 am:
Hi! I’m River and I’m 19! I have been a picky eater ever since I could remember. My mom recently told me that I wouldn’t even eat the vegetable puréed baby food. I hate all vegetables, fruits (bananas are only fruit I like) certain cultural foods (asian specifically), or seafood. My daily meals consist of meats, dairy, and carbs. Thankfully, I have a fast metabolism, so I’m able to stay at a healthy weight. I’ve always avoided going to social events with food, and I get so nervous about eating in public, and I never knew why, until I started researching about picky eaters and I realized why! People think it’s weird that I’m a picky eater, especially since I’ve never actually tried most fruits or vegetables, it’s kind of a thing that I just automatically know I don’t like it. But I have been actually wanting to try new fruits, because I know I like the flavor. It’s just going to be hard to get through the texture. I really am glad I found this site and I know I’m not alone! Thank you :)
SolachSolach from Austin wrote on March 14, 2019 on 4:42 pm:
I’m 33 and I am just finding out that my picky eating has a name and could be classified as an “eating disorder.” My picky eating has cause me to be over weight and I have a lot of health issues. I was planning on doing a weight surgery and as the dates get closer I started doing research about my eating habits and started talking to my therapist about it. I want to be able to fix this and I guess I am just afraid of vomiting after trying new food that it has stopped me from trying and I stuck to what I knew I could eat. Anyways, I look forward to finding out more about this and how I am able to work with it.
Admin Reply by: Bob
It's more than just being afraid of vomiting. ARFID is the condition and many of us are born with it. Very hard to overcome.