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JuleneJulene from Australia wrote on October 28, 2016 on 10:12 pm:
Hi, I was so happy to find others like me. I have always been like this, I do remember my parents trying to force feed me vegetables at a young age and then they gave up and fed me what I liked. I dont eat fruit and the only vegetables I will eat is potatoes and broccoli if put in my mouth with potato and even then I fight not to gag. But I worry as to my health I am 53 now, hard to lose weight and be healthy in regards to fats and sugars, I worry I will die young because of my eating habits. It is so hard in regards to going out and eating at restaurants or friends houses, I will avoid it if possible but I do have good friends who know and will cater for me. I always thought it was just me but finding this site there are thousands. I feel that it is psychological but who knows. I have children and didn't want them to be like me and so when they were that fussy age I read them a story while spoon feeding them fruit and vegetables now they will eat anything and willing to try new things I am so pleased they do not have a fussy eating disorder like me. I even went to a psychologist regarding eating but I don't think they know how hard it is to put food near let alone in your mouth that you simply can't / won't eat. I have a problem with texture, taste, smell, look of food. I so wish their was a simple answer and I would be cured.
Admin Reply by: Bob
If you are worrying about dying young I'm 69 and feeling great.
Bob K
ItIsMyChoiceItIsMyChoice from Twin Cities wrote on October 25, 2016 on 1:57 am:
I have always been a picky eater. I get some grief from people but not too bad. I don't like many veggies, I have a very limited amount of things I like. I like things "plain". Tacos with just meat and cheese for example. Although people say I'm picky (and I probably agree for the most part), there are still a ton of things I will eat...... chicken, beef, turkey, potatoes, pasta, corn, peas, and oatmeal to name a few. I'm not big on adding things, I like to eat one type of food at a time, I prefer to make my own food and I hate buffets for the most part. One big problem for me is it is hard to find something I like that is "healthy" when I'm out and about or traveling. As I'm getting older now (mid 40's) I find it harder to control my weight and my diet probably doesn't help. I'm going to try to put myself on a picky eater diet and exercise plan. Best of luck to all of us picky eaters.
can't tell u namecan't tell u name wrote on October 20, 2016 on 3:44 am:
I'm not putting my name incase someone finds this but I'm not an adult but I'm 15 years old. I can't believe that I'm not alone. it's hard being a teenager having this. everywhere you go food is being served. I am a competive soccer player and pracyice 5times a week. I've almost passed out on the field several times because I have to work out with out eating. I eat no meat. 2fruits corn and that's it. I some junk food but I hate food. my parents want me to go to the doctor but I know what they will say "she will grow out of it" NO I WONT ITS BEEN 14 YEARS. it's so hard being a teenager having this someone help me I can't even go to social events anymore and it's making me depressed someone advice?!?!
Admin Reply by: Bob
You can have a great life. At least now what you have has a name ARFID. I spent almost 55 years before I ever met someone like me. Now I know there are 1000s of people with it all over the world. it's not your fault and it's not your parents fault either. There are some things you can do. Things like ensure and or energy drinks. You probably should get to a doctor and get some test to see if you are deficient in any vitamins or minerals. You should have something you can eat before you play sports so you can be your best. The hard part can be the social side of ARFID especially when you are young. As I always say you are probably gifted in other ways. Bob K
AmyAmy from Tulsa wrote on October 19, 2016 on 1:39 am:
Hi! I am excited to find this webpage. I am 51 and have always been pretty picky. I have a growth disorder and stopped growing around 11. I took shots and am a normal height now, but think maybe my adult taste buds never kicked in because everything else stopped at 11. The foods I like are typical "kid" foods. I live alone and don't enjoy cooking, so it makes it difficult to try new things. I do have a texture problem with certain foods and don't like casserole's and things I can't identify. Thanks for listening and putting this group together.
Daniela ZancanDaniela Zancan from Porto Alegre, Brazil wrote on October 16, 2016 on 12:09 am:
I'm so embarrased about my eating habits that only today, at 31 years old, I decided to look up if my picky eating is actually a disorder. I can't eat most vegetables and any fruit. As most people here texture and smell are the biggest issues. Here in Brazil doctors and psychologists don't recognize picky eating as a disorder. It's been really hard to lose weight, there's no diet plan without fruit and vegetables. Glad to know that studies are being carried about picky eating.
Admin Reply by: Bob
I know that we have some other people from Brazil in our support groups who have state the same thing. Glad you found our website.
KateKate from Manchester wrote on October 14, 2016 on 12:05 pm:
I am now 46 years old & can't remember a time I ate like a 'normal' person. I have always known my eating issues have been my problem so I avoid situations where my eating, or lack of it, could impact on others enjoyment. Normally I manage but holidays are really tricky. I love to travel, experience new cultures & see amazing sights but managing to get enough food inside me to function properly is so difficult. I have gone without food for days because I can't find anything I can tolerate putting near my mouth. I thought if I was hungry enough I would eat but I can't, bursting into tears at the thought of putting Street food in my mouth doesn't make great holiday memories. I dread locals inviting me to their homes, I'd love to go & share their culture but don't want to insult them by refusing to eat any food they offer. After 8 days in Nepal & no food passing my lips I found a stall selling almonds, I never knew a bag of nuts could make me so happy. I don't want attention or special treatment I want help & understanding. GP number 1, who was very overweight, laughed & said he had food issues too. CBT involved me crying in the supermarket because I had to purchase something I wouldn't normally be able to eat & take it to the session, even the thought of putting it near my mouth was enough to set me off. The sessions involved me gagging & crying while the practitioner got frustrated. When I was admitted to hospital for an unrelated issue they wouldn't discharge me until I started eating properly & couldn't understand why this wouldn't happen & told me I was just being silly. I don't want to live the rest of my life with these restrictions, I want to go for a meal & be able to order off the menu and enjoy the food I an given but I can't. Food is something I have to deal with every day reinforcing the difficulties I have. We need appreciate help from those who truly understand so our quality of life & physical health can be improved. My children, in their 20's, have inherited my food issues, without help how can we stop the cycle?
AllysonAllyson from Columbus wrote on October 12, 2016 on 4:40 am:
Hi! I finally decided to look up my habits and I came across this. I'm not alone!

First off- I will say that I have a better variety than most. It's not a problem at home.

But my friends tease me and look at me with their mouths agape because of my pickiness and sensitivities. Textures, smells, even sounds of certain foods can make me physically gag.

When I really noticed how big a problem it was was in august- my husband wanted to take me out to a nice dinner to celebrate our anniversiary. He named a few for me and then I secretly started looking at online menus and panicking. I started to cry thinking about it and then I was embarrassed at the overall anxiety attached.

I texted him Begging him to take me to a BBQ place. Nothing spicey or creamy or new or mashed up together....


I would say that it's interfering with my life a bit. I do have diagnosed anxiety and a discussion of OCD has been made, but the strange thing is I have an autistic son with these issues times 1000. We are alike in many ways. I would like to talk to a professional one day and find out more about it but there's a lot of embarrassment about this so reading these other accounts, I am profusely grateful for.
Admin Reply by: Bob
It seems that many of us are on the autism scale. This disorder can pass through the gene pool. I believe I have a mild case of Asperger syndrome that runs in my family.
LarissaLarissa wrote on October 11, 2016 on 3:40 am:
I'm 24 and have been a picky eater for as long as I can remember. I guess I ate everything when I was a toddler and then I just randomly stopped. I think I started out as a normal child picky eater but it progressed into a real anxiety.

Being a picky eater has really brought me a ton of self-loathing. I had an eating disorder when I was 15/16. When I overcame it, eating started to become a comfort for me. Instead of starving myself, I started to turn to food for comfort. Just like everyone else in the group, I mostly eat carbs and fatty foods. This has caused me to gain so much weight. Which is where more self loathing comes in.

Over the past few years I have definitely improved a lot. But I'm still so picky and struggle with losing weight because I don't eat very healthily. And I turn to food to comfort me a lot.

I long to be able to eat at restaurants without anxiety and to be able to eat healthily and actually enjoy it. I want to get over this more than anything. My boyfriend is West Indian and his family cooks a lot of foods that I gag just thinking about. I'd love to be able to eat with them someday.

If anyone has any advice on ways to work on this, I'd greatly appreciate it! The relief I felt when I found this website was amazing. I'm so glad to know there are others like me.
HelenHelen from Near Coventry UK wrote on October 9, 2016 on 8:08 am:
I feel like there's no help in the UK for this and it's effecting my health because I don't get enough vitamins as I can't eat fruit or vegetable and anything that smells like orange makes me feel sick and gag
StephanieStephanie wrote on October 9, 2016 on 4:34 am:
I honestly thought I was the only one that was a very picky eater. I cried when I found this website. I am almost 25 years old and have been a picky eater for most of my life. My parents tell me that when I was younger, I ate everything. But now I am very limited to what I eat: Cereal, Plain cheese pizza, plain pasta (with butter and cheese in top), breads/bagels, peanut butter, a few different nuts, some fruits and the only time I ever have vegetables is when my mom makes homemade soup (chicken broth with orzo, celery and carrots diced) that is it. I do not eat any meat/seafood. I hate going out to eat, other people's houses and really any social events. I have a fiancé that I have been with for 8 years now and he accepts the way I eat. But it's very hard when we go over to his family's house and I can't eat anything or they make me a small bowl of something I like. I always feel embarrassed and my family always points it out to me. I really want to change more than anything in this world but I cannot bring myself to do it. So far I have been good health wise but now I am gaining a lot more weight and my blood work is getting high in the wrong places. I really wish there was someone who can help me and change me. I would give anything to change. I have been at my job now for almost 3 years and now everyone is starting to notice my eating habits and it really hurts me that they don't understand...and no one understands besides the people on this website. I'm so glad I can write this on a website and not fear to be laughed at or made fun of. Thank you.
MimiMimi from FL wrote on October 8, 2016 on 3:15 am:
I'm not sure I qualify as a picky eater. I have a pretty long list of food I can eat. Here it is [I have it saved in my phone so I can add new things I like as they come along]:

Peanut butter but not peanuts
Cashews, pecans, walnuts, no other kind
Almonds only in Godiva
Dark chocolate 70-72%

Mango juice
Banana orange juice
Tangerines only

Ham, but only 1 thin slice on thick bread
Cheese, but only white or Colby jack, thin

Chicken in a biskit crackers only
Clam chowder
Pepperoni but only thin

Coke or cherry coke, ginger ale, or orange soda
Cold coffee with much cream and sugar

Marie callendars fettuccine with broccoli and chicken only

Liver wurst
Croissants, white soft dinner rolls, bread from bakery-- no sliced bread

Pizza lunchables only with light sauce, not their Pepperoni

Hopefully my list can grow more. I'm proud of adding the pizza lunchables but not their Pepperoni ones. Only the cheese kind.
Admin Reply by: Bob
I always say if you constantly suffer social embarrasment about what you can and can't eat then you are one of us.
Bob K
ShannonShannon from Dallas wrote on October 5, 2016 on 12:50 am:
Hi, I am a picky eater and have been all my life. I am 41 and I eat mostly pastas and breads like with pizza. I do not eat 99.9 percent of vegetables. The only meat I eat is white chicken, and bacon and ham. I feel anxious and sick if I am at a gathering and the table has all these foods that turn my stomach. I am terribly embarrassed to eat with people so I avoid all eating with groups of people. I have maybe one friend who supports me and what I like. other people say negative remarks. My family supports me for the most part. I am pretty healthy but some people say I will get sick and used to tell me I would die. You are not alone. Most of us adapt to foods that are not really healthy and somehow we manage. As long as you are healthy and all. You are not a freak. You are human like everyone else. I try to learn to accept my habits. The way I eat even if not everyone agrees. I would eat healthier if I could like more foods, but I just can't. I am glad I have a group of people that can understand. I have a feeling I would make a truly great friend. We could go out and eat what we like. No criticism. :)
TeresaTeresa from Arlington wrote on October 2, 2016 on 6:30 pm:
I'm 56 and have been a picky eater my whole life, and overweight/obese my whole adult life. I found this site while looking for a weight loss plan for picky eaters. I would love to know why the majority of us like carbs and fats like breads, sweets, fries, pizza, and reject fruits and vegetables. The thing is, you have to reverse this kind of eating in order to lose weight. So, I am usually drawn to a low carb plan because I can still have meat and fats. But the only veggies a picky eater usually likes are potatoes, corn, carrots, which are carbs and restricted. So, how long can a person go on a diet where everything they like is not allowed or restricted? Anyway I was glad to find this site. I agree that this is an hereditary thing, as my dad, brother, and kids are picky to some degree. Thanks for being here.
MichaelMichael from Bixby, OK wrote on September 28, 2016 on 10:51 pm:
Hello all. I came across this site during my recent Google search on how to overcome picking eating. I've learned in a matter of minutes that it is considered an eating disorder in some circles.

My biggest issue that plagues & has plagued me is texture & smell of certain foods, namely vegetables.

I had some blood work done yesterday as part of my yearly physical & I got a phone call today about my cholesterol & triglycerides. It was expected, because I've heard it before from other physicians.

I don't really know what to do, I've added different things to my palate over the years, but after 32 years, vegetables of just about any type appall me. My palate expanded greatly during my time in the military, because I was so hungry during basic training. I've had other instances where I was able to overcome & add other things to my diet, most notably when I started working out routinely or trying to be an example to my children.

It's still a long road ahead, but I'm sure it will get better with time. Hopefully we can figure something out together.
GinaGina from Bridgewater wrote on September 27, 2016 on 5:20 pm:
Hey! I just discovered this blog and I couldn't be any happier that I did. I didn't realize how many people can relate to my problem... I'm 23 years old and I am known to be "the pickiest eater" I have a horrible fear of different textures and tastes near my mouth or nose. I'll eat anything simple... Pizza (only plain or pepperoni) chicken nuggets, pasta, fried foods. I've never attempted to eat a vegetable nor have I had any other fruit besides a banana. It's not that I don't want to try knew things, it's that my brain forces me to not be able to.

I've suffered with OCD since I was a child. Between counting to hoarding to numbers to obsessive thoughts and routines. I currently seeking a fantastic therapist who I sit down with and on occasion will bring a piece of food in to try.

Being a picky eater is definitely one of the hardest things to explain... You always here "oh yeah I'm picky too!" or "you're missing out on so much" or my favorite... "just try it what is the worst that can happen?" To me, id throw up and continue to have a severe panic attack.

I just want everybody to know that you are not alone!!! I would love to share more of my stories and hear what other people have to say. Keep on moving on :)!
RyanRyan from prospect park wrote on September 24, 2016 on 4:41 pm:
This message is for all of you who feel so overwhelmed by the idea of attempting to eat like a normal human being, and want to try things but the irrational sensation of fear holds you back. I am 22 years old and I currently struggle with trying new foods. I basically grew up eating what everyone else on here eats. I recently discovered how awesome pizza was a couple years back and I regret not trying it before. (Seriously, I have an addiction).

I struggled with OCD my entire life, and not that "im a neat freak", the kind where I wash my hands till they're red, count my steps in groups of 4, would tap things certain ways and just so many more. If I didn't do a ritual right I would spend so much time trying to perfect it. The worst part is I was completely aware of how irrational my OCD was and it's just this force that makes you keep going.

After some therapy and being a rational guy I finally have overcome OCD to where I don't even think twice about doing my "things". BUTTT!!!!! I GET THE EXACT FEELING OF IRRATIONAL FEAR WHEN I AM PRESENTED WITH FOOD I AM AFRAID TO TRY.

I have a beautiful girlfriend who truly will eat anything. She loves all food and I'm sitting here in the corner with my pizza and fries. I'm trying so hard to try new foods for her and tonight I'm going to a fancy restaurant and no matter how damn scared I am I'm gonna eat some Braised Beef Short Ribs and mashed potatoes. I never had them and I think if I tell myself I'll like it enough I will. I am mainly trying to eat for her but I need to get this figured out anyway for public events and dinners.

It is true that normal people look at food and go "that looks good" and were like "oh no, that's gonna taste bad". I've even stared at food that looked delicious but didnt try it because of my fear of it tasting bad.

All I want you to know, is if you do want to beat the fear, just push yourself. I beat my OCD and I will beat this fear of trying new foods one baby step at a time.

Just remember it's literally all in our heads. The only reason this food is even tasting bad is because subconsciously, whether we like it or not, our brains like nah bro its gonna taste like shit. So we think it tastes like shit.

Once again I was just sick of seeing the posts of people accepting rather than coping, but remember this post is only meant for the people who want to change. Just do what makes you happy in the long run. My happy is learning how to eat and eat properly especially at these extravagant dinners and to be able to take my gf out who LOVES eating out. Best of wishes to you guys and I will keep you updated on my progress as I enter the ring. Peace out!
Admin Reply by: Bob
Many have attempted to go with it's all in your head and you can beat it if you force yourself. I will be looking forward to how you progress and I would love to here the results no matter what happens. Best of luck to you.
Bob K
PetePete from Havant wrote on September 22, 2016 on 10:32 pm:
I am a picky eater and I am proud. I don't want to eat the kind of foods other people like. I don't want to be cured and I certainly don't want help. I want to be left alone to eat as I please. My youngest son is exactly like me and I see his distress when family members talk about his eating or try to force things upon him. For me, there are two foods that trigger it the most; eggs and cucumber. Cucumber is the worst. The smell of it causes me to gag. I wish people could understand that this is an involuntary action. I cannot control it. The smell of salad is something I literally dread. I hate the fact that food at restaurants is served, by default, with a salad. I have to ask for it without and almost always they serve it anyway. Eating out at an unfamiliar restaurant scares me. Eating abroad, when you cannot communicate your preferences is like torture. I spent a week in China recently and I pretended to be too tired to go for dinner one evening, as I couldn't handle the thought of attending this particular restaurant. I instead ate snacks from the hotel. I'm not the fussiest, but I do have issues. I just wish I wasn't judged. Please leave me alone (people who eat anything). I don't want to be like you. I will never, ever (I'm deadly serious here, never, ever) eat certain things. I don't care if I'm "missing out". I could go my whole life without eating certain foods and be quite happy. If you (yes you, the fussy person) read this and think you should try and change, think about it. Do what you want. Eat what you want. You're not weird, you're a person, a human. Good isn't everything. Enjoy what makes you happy. I love eating, just not eating things that make me want to vomit. I eat what I like and it may be limited in your opinion, but that's what I like and that makes me unique. Rant over. Thanks for creating this website. It's the only place I've found that truly represents the minority.
DavidDavid from Portland, OR wrote on September 20, 2016 on 5:05 am:
At 22 years old I just discovered ARFID / SED today. I have to say it feels nice to be validated and find that there's other adult picky eaters. But at the same time I feel like I have largely come to terms with feeling like "I'm the only one who eats this way." I'm just not sure how I feel.

Regardless, I finally feel comfortable describing in detail my diet to people outside of immediate family / my boyfriend. I mostly eat grains, dairy, and nuts. So basically bread, milk, cheese, yoghurt, and almonds (and some other nuts) are my staples (I'll eat french fries potato chips too, but I'll always go for something cheesy first). No "wet grains" as I call them: pasta and rice. No vegetables, and fruit only if it is ground up and served with a base of something else (Ex, I will eat strawberry ice cream if there aren't chunks of strawberry). I don't eat meat and that can be a source of confusion for a lot of people. I never describe myself as vegetarian. I will always say "I don't eat meat" and almost immediately people will assume I love vegetables. NO! I won't even eat tomato sauce so I have to order pizza without sauce. Not a fan of pizza by the slice places. I can stomach a half a piece of regular cheese pizza if its got less than average sauce and/or extra cheese.

Whenever I meet someone new I will avoid eating with them for as long as possible. There's 2 reasons. 1, eating out in general can be stressful for me if its not a familiar restaurant (i.e. I need to know the menu before walking in the door). I always fear I won't be able to find something to eat. 2, 99% of the time I have to custom order something/leave things off or order off the kids menu. I am very self conscious about my food issues and I don't want the person I'm eating with to judge me. So if I already know the person fairly well, then going out to eat is substantially more tolerable. So obviously this greatly limits social situations as I'm sure you all are aware just how integral food is with social life.

My parents' main strategy to trying to get me to eat more foods growing up was a combination of "you can't leave the table until you try something new" and telling me how everyone else will think I'm really weird for not eating this or that. I could always wait out their forcing me to sit at the table. I could sit there for 3 hours and have to go straight to bed after dinner. To me that was far less unpleasant than a noodle or an apple. My parents finally gave up when I was about 13. I've slowly improved over the years. Probably one of the most adventurous things I'll eat is gorgonzola cheese.

Well that's my vent for the day. Thanks for reading 😉
MoonkweanMoonkwean from Vancouver wrote on September 19, 2016 on 8:00 pm:
I am the spouse of a picky eater. I love all kinds of food. My spouse is a wonderful human being. If I could change his food traits..... hmmm....that would be nice. I accept them and adjust. Eating is such a social event. I wish more people understood.
Admin Reply by: Bob
I don't think anyone would want to be the way we are with food. If you can imagine a world that the only thing people ate was something you can not tolerate and you would have some idea what it is like for us. We would change if we could. Social events are extremely stressful for most of us. I would bet your spouse loves you very much for accepting him the way he is.
Bob K
SarahSarah wrote on September 17, 2016 on 10:46 pm:
I don't think I've ever felt as comforted about my eating disorder than I have coming across this site and realising I'm not alone. My whole life, mainly as a child, I felt so confused and ashamed of myself and my eating habits. I genuinely believed that I was the only one in the world with this problem.
Since birth pretty much I have had these issues. All I ate was potato waffles and toast. I didn't know why, and it really affected me in ways I've only just realised looking back. I hated myself for having this disorder, and wouldn't wish my feelings of utter shame on anyone.
I am now 20 and have been through a hell of a lot but can happily say I have improved greatly. I have a story to tell if anyone would be up for speaking and trading. I would genuinely like to help someone improve in ways that I have because from experience living with this I know first hand that it can be really shitty on your wellbeing.