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JenJen from Austin wrote on June 20, 2017 on 2:32 pm:
I am 58 and am realizing that I likely have high functioning Asperger's. Also, just learning that there is a medical term now SED- selective eating disorder for my experience. I am trying to be better at self-care and have found that many people, like me, with Hashimoto's autoimmune diseases need to go on an AIP- autoimmune protocol diet to heal and avoid inflammation that destroys health. This is proving to be extremely challenging in that it limits food choices so severely and often my "go to" staples need to be avoided. So I'm looking for support from others on this journey.
DoraDora wrote on June 19, 2017 on 7:34 pm:
Hi! I'm from Brazil and I'm so happy that I found people like me here. Yesterday I decided to write an article about my disorder, but I realized that I never had searched about this little problem that annoys me often.

I'm 25 years old and I don't even know how I started to reject food. And how I started to choose the food I eat, I don't know either. I have panic just to think in accept an invite to eat at someone's house. I like the meetings when each people brings something to eat, so I always bring something I eat. I don't use to like wedding food or something like this.

All my entire life I've been called "hard to pleasure" or heard that "it's my problem". Once I went at a psychologist that told me it was normal. But I know it's not normal. I have a disorder and I want to change. But I can't do it on my own way.

The only meat I eat is chicken breast. I don't eat any other kind of meat at all. So I like a lot of foods that envolve it. And I can't live without potato - but I hate mashed potatoes and I only tolerate when them are cooked. I love a bunch of things that some people may ask "why??", like matcha, sesame, linseed and other grains like these. I like bread, I like pizza (but only the pizza made with chicken, with no cheese), I like maccaroni (with no sauce), I like rice. I'm a big fan of chocolate and craft beer.

During my life as a picky eater I made some concessions. I learned to eat lettuce, arugula, manioc, eggs... But I never choose for these things. I just eat when they are on the table and I'm the invited.

I'm a journalist and I had problems travelling around the country because the restaurant was not always my choice. Now I'm back to college, as a master degree's student, and I never can go eat at the college restaurant with my friends because of the menu they serve.

Just to think about to eat a thing that I don't eat, I also think that I'm going to vomit. Or that I would be very depressed after eat it. And, sure, these things are not only in my mind - they truly happen. It's like to sing out of tune.

My boyfriend understands me nowadays, but It was difficult to him at the beggining of our relationship. My family will never understand - they think that I don't have any willpower. I hate family reunion, I hate Easter, I hate Christmas. I just want to know when this entire thing will going to end.
Admin Reply by: Bob
We have other people from Brazil in our support groups. You are not alone. The disorder you have was placed in medical texts like the DSM-3 in May of 2013 and it was called Avoidance/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. or ARFID for short.
JoeJoe wrote on June 18, 2017 on 1:57 am:
I'm so happy I found this website, I'm 22 and always been a picky eater. Constantly having family plan something "special" for me or having a completely separate dinner from everyone else it always sucked because I just wanted to be normal and be treated like everyone else.

I eat a lot of processed foods, french fries, chicken, pizza. No real fruits or vegetables and I find it hard to incorporate new stuff into my eating routine. I hate going out to dinner and just always getting chicken fingers still. People think it's a joke but it's anxiety and my mind always defaults to the "safe" option in my mind. I don't even consider anything else because trying something new isn't an option. And I hate that.

I think it stems from my high anxiety, I have an awful fear of heights as well and have never ridden a rollercoaster, I don't watch horror movies. So it only seems logical it manifested into my eating habits, even as a kid.

And now I have anxieties and fears that I'll die young, I read the FAQ and some of the entries here and I know it says our bodies get used to what we eat but I just still feel anxious about it. Just me being anxious in every part of my life. Honestly it sucks, I feel like such a boring person.

Won't continue any longer just explaining how this effects me. I feel like I can finally relate with people on this.
Admin Reply by: Bob
I'm as picky as it gets and I just had my 70th birthday. I will probably never learn to eat anything new at this point in my life. I was once like you and would not ride on a roller coaster. But it turns out that was one thing I can and did conquer when I was about 14 years old. Want to ride with out risk. Go to youtube and type in roller coaster and watch what pops up. You can take a virtual ride on most of the coasters in the USA and the rest of the world. Getting use to a coaster should be done small ones first and work your way up. Yes the limited things we eat can make life difficult. But it's not a reason to check out of life. We only live once and we should be and do the best we can no matter what we eat.
JacobJacob from Cullman wrote on June 16, 2017 on 5:21 am:
I am 27 years old. Happily married with a kid on the way. I have been a very picky eater since I was 3 years old. All i eat is spaghetti. Pizza. Fries and macaroni. Those are the 4 main foods. I can tolerate hot dogs

And I can eat most junk food. Such as chips etc. I like all of those.

However I cannot eat any vegetables or meat besides hot dogs. All meat makes me want to throw up and gag. I also do not eat any fruit besides apples.

My parents took me to a therapist when I was younger and all they said was "he is very stubborn".

I am still very healthy and am not overweight however I notice as I get older I am starting to gain more. Also since I have a kid on the way I don't want them to copy me.

My biggest thing is I do not want to die young because I know the things I eat are just about the worst possible things I can eat. Especially since there is zero meat or vegetables.

I do not believe in things like hypnosis etc. and do understand the only way I probably will be able to change is sheer willpower. However that has been an utter failure for 27 years. I am curious to see if others had the same diet as me and if they had any tips.

I've tried incorporating new foods but it doesn't go well. I tried eating salad forever but I can't eat cold food. It's gross to me. Basically anything with a different texture than the 4 main things I eat. I can never get myself to take more than a bite or 2.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You will probably live a long happy life. i just had my 70th birthday and I'm still happy and enjoying life. Change is hard and only a handful of people have ever made it. I'm actually way picker than you. The main thing is to not over eat and watch your calories. You will be fine.
MeganMegan from Redlands wrote on June 11, 2017 on 11:30 pm:
I have dealt with selective eating my whole life. People saying I have "eats like a kid disorder" or I'm "a picky eater and should just get over it already" has always stung really bad. I have tried to try new foods but I somehow vomit every time or gag. I wish I could understand it but I know I may never understand why I can't eat like a "normal" person. Some people have told me "you should be hypnotized or get therapy". It's not that simple. I'm so glad to find others like me. The pure embarrassment of what I can and cannot eat and having to explain myself has caused me to have suicidal thoughts. I would never wish this horrible disorder upon anyone else ever!
Admin Reply by: Bob
I have found that Hypnosis is of little or no value to people like us. Lots of things going on and most of it is out of our control. Think of it this way there really are many other things a person can have to deal with which are way worse than our disorder. You have ARFID a medically recognized eating disorder and you never chose or asked to have it. Find out all you can than own it and move on with a great life. Hiding in the shadows is not the way. Get out and enjoy your life. True friends will not care one bit.
Jaime JoyceJaime Joyce from Little Elm wrote on June 8, 2017 on 2:40 pm:
Hi there! Ever since I can remember I have always had "food issues". Dreading potlucks because I was sure that unless my poor family brought something, or if someone brought KFC, I would have nothing on my plate, and if my food touched I would have to hide my frustration and disgust. Having to research new restaurants menus before making a visit if possible, and being asked by my father while being dragged through the produce section if I liked this food or that. Not even wanting to touch or smell fruits or vegetables and explaining my "aversion" to certain foods. It wasn't until my husband saw an article on picky vs. selective eating and asking me if I thought this described me, it was like the room was suddenly brighter. All those times I had to refuse and explain my eating habits actually had meaning and I wasn't crazy. Luckily I have very supportive family, friends and coworkers. I'm very open with my disorder and use it as a teachable moment. Some have actually felt that it pertains to them, which is amazing. If I can keep another person from experiencing what I experienced growing up, I take that as a win.
JulieJulie wrote on June 4, 2017 on 3:29 pm:
Hello everyone. 50+ years of this condition, along with weight loss and nutritional deficiencies which are important because that is why my family and friends couldn't understand what I was eating, why they could not understand. The DSM-5 was the key for me, and for my family too. Because of this group, I've felt stronger in my answers to questions, I have learned more about this condition, I'm more comfortable discussing it. It does get better. Thank you!
Just try itJust try it wrote on June 4, 2017 on 11:27 am:
Thanks for posting my rant.

Rest of posting is banned from this person.
Admin Reply by: Bob
Dear poster

Some of the people in our support group just might like to have a discussion with you. But you will need to clean up your act. Nothing with this much vulgar language will get posted. You must have some serious mental problems. You are banned
Bob K
KailKail from Miami wrote on June 2, 2017 on 4:10 pm:
Hi guys! I've suffered all my life with SED. I can only eat crunchy foods. With an exception of ice cream( I have to put sprinkles or chocolate chips so i can chew it) I love cheese but it has to be on a cracker. I love chips, fried food, cereal but as soon as it gets soggy no thanks. I don't eat red meat or seafood due to texture. I don't eat vegatables either. :(

Ps I'm 21 Female
Just try itJust try it wrote on June 1, 2017 on 5:06 pm:
Just fxxking try new food you pathetic excuses for functioning adults. If you're over the age of 21 and can't eat a god damn salad or gags if somebody puts onion in your fxxking sandwich then you deserve the daily ridicule. It's food, it won't kill you. Put it in your mouth and eat it. You don't have a "medical condition" - you're just a big, fat, fussy baby.
Admin Reply by: Bob
I'm going to post your terrible rant. When did you get your medical Degree. Seems like you know we are all faking our struggles with food every day. So that others can respond here is the brilliant posters contact email.

So sad you don't have something better to do. Perhaps you should go to the support pages for people who are colored blind next.
RobinRobin from Highland Park wrote on May 29, 2017 on 6:58 pm:
I never realized there was anyone else that was going thru this except me. I was relived to know there was an actual site where I could express how I feel. I felt no one could understand what I've been going thru all my life. The embarrassment is the worse. Feeling I have to tell people I already ate, so I don't have to explain why I won't eat at other peoples homes. It's so hard.
KaitlinKaitlin from LaCrosse wrote on May 22, 2017 on 2:37 am:
I'm so glad to have found this site! It's sort of refreshing knowing it's not just me! It's a very frustrating problem that I've had my whole life and there's no real reason for it that I consciously know of. I know I need to work on it, but I can't force myself to do so. I've been teased and it's quite embarrassing. I agree with so many people on here!!
BrooklynneBrooklynne from Calgary wrote on May 21, 2017 on 5:00 am:
Hi there,

I am so thankful i have found this page. I have been a picky eater since i was born. My mom has always told me she had a hard time feeding me as a baby because there was only some purees i would eat. This has carried with me all my life. I don't eat vegetables fruits seafoods ect. There so many other foods i don't eat with makes it very limited for me to go for dinners with new guys, new friends or for work meetings, it makes me so insecure because i have tried to try new foods on my own but no one understands my struggles. Reading other peoples stories on here makes me feel 10x better and that i am not alone. My diet hasnt affected me much in the past as i have always played sports. Now i am not very active and it's starting to affect me as all i eat is junk food all day every day, If any one has any tips for me to even just incorperate some sort of vegtable into my life it would be appreciated. It's weird as the reasons i dont eat usually are due to fear and texture. I cannot eat grapes ever as i tried them once and the skin and the juices made me puke. I am really hoping to turn this around at some point in my life and am here for anyone to talk to as wel
Admin Reply by: Bob
The only vegetables I eat are baby carrots cold and raw or Celery cold with some salt. The white part of the celery is pretty tasty. I'm at least as picky as you are so you might like my only choices. You never asked or wanted to eat the way you do. It just happens to some of us. No reason why you can't have a great life. It gets easier as you get older. Young people can be very cruel at times.
Bob K
JuneJune wrote on May 19, 2017 on 3:07 pm:
Hi, I stumbled upon your group page when I was googling about picky eaters.

My boyfriend is one, and today his workmate deliberately put tomatoes and onions into the staff meal when my bf had said he didn't like them. My bf got upset, he said he was tired of people trying to feed him things he didn't like, and that he doesn't get what's so wrong about it that others have to 'right' it. I was once guilty of that (somewhat given up now), but like Joyce's husband, I'd give in to the pickiness but do not comprehend it. But his complaint today just tugged at my heart. I had to find out more about this. And my initial search directed me here.

After reading your stories I think I do understand this a little better now. My bf went through similar histories, being force-fed as a child and getting a beating when he didn't eat or when he threw up. Cucumber is one of his kryptonite and he could smell it from a mile away and that would send him running the opposite direction (okay, exagerated, but once he walked away from me because I was snacking on cucumber and the smell put him off) When we went to house parties it was only to close friends who knew and would accomodate his strict diet; if it were someone not too close or new, he would hesitate, or just eat bread.

We do make fun of him and his eating habits, but I never knew it was so serious. There were times when I wonder if our relationship will ever work out in the long run, because we currently make our own meals separately despite living together. But that's not what a family meal looks like to me, or I feel sad that I cannot share food that I love with the person I love.

We've been together for 2.5 years and he is the sweetest person ever. I feel ashamed that I've been hurting him for so long, when I should be the one on his side.

Sorry for the long entry, I just thought I'd tell my side of the story.

I really want to thank you to have made this page. I will still look around for more information, but you have given me an initial insight on how to better support my loved one.
Admin Reply by: Bob
You should assume he will never change. Nothing you can do will change him. If you accept him the way he is and continue to be supportive he will worship the ground you walk on for the rest of your and his life. There are many things in life that are way more important than what you can eat.
Bob K
ChristianChristian from Brazil wrote on May 17, 2017 on 10:10 pm:
Hi, my name is Christian. I literally cried while I read the stories here. I'm Brazilian and we have a culture that revolves heavily on eating. My earliest memories are of being forced to eat and embarassing myself and my fater in front of a family table. I've never been able to eat anything with onions and most meat textures make me gag. I always thought I was a freak but reading the texts here made me feel really happy because I don't feel so weird any more. It's very hard for me to keep an adequate weigh and now I know why. I feel like I can accept now this is just the way I am and try to make the best of it. I'll surely try to overcome my difficulties but hey, I'm already 25yo, I guess I can be happy eating things my way and being happy with it (if I like the food I can eat lots of it). Thanks you VERY MUCH for sharing your stories. You all made me feel like a normal person again. (Also if you want to be penpals or share stories my email is I'd really like it)
Admin Reply by: Bob
Welcome Christian we have others from Brazil in our support groups. Perhaps one of them will reach out to you. Welcome you are not the only one.
VictoriaVictoria from Birmingham wrote on May 11, 2017 on 5:36 pm:
Hi I'm Victoria, I'm 20 years old and I've been a picky eater since I was about 5. My diet consists of chicken nuggets and chips, white bread and basically any junk food. I've had the urge to start eating 'normally' for years but I'm so afraid to even put the food in my mouth. I know it won't kill me but i can't physically make myself eat it. I'm Embarrassed by my eating habits being unable to go for meals with family and friends and it's really taking a roll on my relationships. I've bought ready meals before with the intention of eating them but I simply can't do it.i don't want to continue my life like this but I don't know how to overcome it.
LeanneLeanne from Aberdeen wrote on May 10, 2017 on 10:18 pm:
Hi I'm leanne I have been a fussy eater as long as I can remember I suffer from anxiety especially with feeling ill. I want to try new foods I love cooking and the smell of food but I just have a fear of trying food. I have tried visiting my doctor and basically the problem just got ignored. I want to loose weight but it's hard when all you eat is chips and cheese, cheese sandwiches,garlic bread etc which is all carbs! Any suggestions would be great I'm only 21 and don't want to get health problems due to my diet.
DanDan from Detroit wrote on May 10, 2017 on 1:47 am:
Hey everyone I'm Dan, and I would definitely consider myself a "picky" eater. Although I too hate the word picky. I'm 20 and all my life have been very selective about the foods I eat. Appearance and smell are the biggest factors for me, but I've always had people belittle be for not trying food because of this. The thing i can never explain to people is just how bad of an experience eating something I hate is, no one understands.
My diet mostly consists of Pepperoni pizza, some fruits (apples, oranges, raspberries, bananas) Simple cooked meats (Steak/Beef, pork/Ribs Chicken) And bread. No sauces, gravy, or dressings. I might get sick from looking at ranch, if I smell it I'm done for. Even like ketchup I've had it before and liked it but I can't bring myself to eat it again. The only exceptions is BBQ and Italian.
I am fortunate in the sense that I like just enough variety that I get most the nutrients I need, but have always been under wight. Everything I eat is pretty bland. Sauces are my biggest downfall. My safe food is pizza. only can eat pepperoni on it. When I was a kid though I would only eat cheese even though I already knew I liked pepperoni pizza better. Sometimes even if I know I like something it just freaks me out too much to eat it. As I've gotten better over the years I would still say I have a child's type diet. As a kid, everyone I knew, knew I was like this and while they liked to make some rude comments they would typically help me find something I liked , except for one person that forced me to eat food I desperately hated, I was either crying or just refused which usually came with a beating. As an Adult now I'm not really embarrassed, I can easily tell someone to off if they have a problem with the foods I like.
SamiSami from Waterford wrote on May 8, 2017 on 12:55 am:
Hey everyone. I have been a life time picky eater. I don't eat any fruits or vegetables. I have a carb loaded diet. This doesn't help when I want to loose weight. I just want to be able to eat a salad and try new things that look so good but I'm to afraid to try them. I know the worst that can happen is that I won't like it and I'll spit it out, but I don't know. It would help a lot in my exercising to also eat rigt
MeganMegan from Durban, South Africa wrote on May 6, 2017 on 10:27 am:
Hi. My name is Megan, 20, and I have struggled with my selective eating disorder my whole life. In the last few years it has started to effect my health. I'm struggling bcause no one understands and I feel very alone in this. I don't know what to do anymore.